WTF Wednesday 8.22

kns1988 · August 2018

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kns1988 · August 2018

2 WTFs Today:

1. System outage at work. We spent $300,000 on a product that frequently has outages, and it makes my team look bad. We got swindled.

2. Who decided that maternity pants don't need pockets?!?

leighbrek · August 2018

I need maternity dress pants soooo badly, but think I can find any for a reasonable price? Argh. I am NOT spending $60 or more on a pair of pants I'm going to wear for 4 months or less - that's ridiculous.
I've tried to find pants on Facebook groups, at Motherhood, at Thyme, at thrift stores.. But nope. If they're not $60+ they're totally the wrong size.
FML.

kaf1788 · August 2018

@kns1988 Totally agree on the pockets! A lot of mine have the fake, sewn together pockets and I always forget and awkwardly try to shove things into them.
@leighbrek Have you tried Poshmark? I've had really good luck finding super cheap maternity clothes on there. Like I haven't bought anything >$15.

My WTF is that my husband asked me TODAY if I can reschedule my A/S scan that is TOMORROW. He messed up and scheduled a 24-hour work trip to New York. I expressed my displeasure and he did try to ask if he could just call into the meetings but was told it was a bad idea. His company is about to go through a massive reorg and the person he's meeting with is a potential new boss. Also nobody at his job knows I'm pregnant yet (he's hoping for a promotion in the reorg and was afraid that he wouldn't get it if people knew his plans to take paternity leave), so he can't use it as an excuse. I've made peace with the fact that he won't be there, but I'm not inconveniencing myself for his mistake.

JeeGooDowster · August 2018

leighbrek said:

I need maternity dress pants soooo badly, but think I can find any for a reasonable price? Argh. I am NOT spending $60 or more on a pair of pants I'm going to wear for 4 months or less - that's ridiculous.
I've tried to find pants on Facebook groups, at Motherhood, at Thyme, at thrift stores.. But nope. If they're not $60+ they're totally the wrong size.
FML.

@leighbrek , try ASOS Maternity i just went shopping there

ersh1010 · August 2018

@kaf1788 that stinks your husband can't be with you. I had to go alone to my a/s because my husband started a brand new job 3 days prior. I would definitely be miffed at him if it was a controllable scheduling error.

bradleysmommy28 · August 2018

@kaf1788 I feel your frustrations. As much as my DH is opinionated and super involved in things, he HATES OB appointments. He has been to 1 and it was my first appointment so he could meet my new doctor. I'm pretty sure he only went to 1 or 2 during my first pregnancy and he only went to my RE appointments if I was being put under or he had to be there to provide samples. Something about "girly" appointments he just doesn't like! I even scheduled all my regular OB appointments on Mondays because those are his days off but he's conveniently been working OT on Mondays for the past 2 months!

Jackiemxoxo · August 2018

@kns1988- totally agree about the pockets, same with maternity shorts.

@kaf1788- sorry your dh can't go with you. We ran into scheduling conflicts too and I ended up going to mine alone. Luckily everything went better than I expected so hoping all the best to you.

My WTF is that DD1 started kindergarten 2 weeks ago and now i get a letter sent home saying that they are moving her to a different class due to increased attendance. Ugh, do they not know the anxiety of having to have a first day of school all over again?! Also, I love her teacher now so im pretty miffed about the whole situation.

ladystout08 · August 2018

Everything. Just, everything. DH is possibly delayed coming home from his military training(which is beyond stupid and annoying b/c he wants supposed to be there to begin with). DS's dojang re-did the class schedule and now I have to leave early at least once a week to take him to a 5pm class. Work, we started building a server a year ago and it's sat until now and they want it working by the end of THIS MONTH even though it's absolute garbage and the developers are so lost up their own asses they have no idea how to fix it. I was so stressed yesterday that my BP jumped up to 138/83 which it normally chills around 110/78 so I got lectured by my OB and if I can't keep it down I'll have to go PT at work or go on bed rest. Mercury is out of retrograde now so I need stuff to calm down.

leighbrek · August 2018

@kaf1788 @JeeGooDowster
Thanks for the suggestions! I'll check them out.

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt · August 2018

Totally agree about the maternity pants need pockets. Why can't they have them??

Apparently the hospital I will give birth at no longer gives cakes after the baby is born. It is a very delicious cake and DH and I still talk about it and were very excited to get another one. haha. A friend who recently gave birth there told me they don't give them anymore (or at least not to the STM). WTF?

kns1988 · August 2018

Oh hell, the pregnancy back pain has started. I don't know how I'm going to take care of my kid tonight. I just want to lay on ice.

libertymomrn · August 2018

Jackiemxoxo said:

@kns1988- totally agree about the pockets, same with maternity shorts.

@kaf1788- sorry your dh can't go with you. We ran into scheduling conflicts too and I ended up going to mine alone. Luckily everything went better than I expected so hoping all the best to you.

My WTF is that DD1 started kindergarten 2 weeks ago and now i get a letter sent home saying that they are moving her to a different class due to increased attendance. Ugh, do they not know the anxiety of having to have a first day of school all over again?! Also, I love her teacher now so im pretty miffed about the whole situation.

So if they have had more kids move in, put them where there is room; don’t make your k D change! I would call the school and request she stay with the same teacher she already started with.

kaf1788 · August 2018

I unfortunately must add to my husband gripes. He worked from home today and then left for the airport around 2. I got home about 10 minutes ago and obviously had to pee. There is an empty roll of toilet paper in the bathroom, which was apparently our last roll in the entire house. My sister and niece are coming over in about 30 minutes. There is a CVS directly next to my work, so if he had just told me we were out it would be super easy to pick up. Now I have to run out againband don't have time to do any babyproofing for my toddler niece.

kianarain · August 2018

Welp, just found out my counterpart who I share 50/50 duties with on our biggest acct. makes significantly more than I do. I have my year review in October and BEST BELIEVE I'll be bringing this up. Ugh, this is why you don't talk about salary w/coworkers. But also, leverage?

mrsmang · August 2018

@kianarain ugh that’s the worst! I’m always scared to talk about salary with coworkers because I’m convinced I’m the lowest paid in the group (no idea if it’s true, but it’s possible). By chance is your counterpart a man? With the income disparities that are so common I feel like that almost makes it worse, although it obviously sucks and isn’t fair. either way.

kianarain · August 2018

@mrsmang oof, luckily she isn't or I would be steaming even more than I am. She does have significantly more experience in one of her duties than I have in mine, but zero in this exact position (I have 2ish, not a ton but more than none). We bill the same so bring in the exact same amount of money, and if anything I log more billable hours and have been with the company/on the account longer.

Ugh now I'm also just thinking is the pregnancy going to play a role in them denying me the same amount as her? (Little do they know, she's opened up to me about how her and her husband are TTC right now.)

ladystout08 · August 2018

@kianarain that’s exactly why you should talk salaries! I don’t understand why it’s so taboo to discuss salary ranges in our society. I was raised that it’s tacky to talk about how much you make but it’s so important in knowing your worth and negotiating salaries is huge in many industries.

kianarain · August 2018

@ladystout08 totally agree! Especially when you work in the same role as someone, it's not fair to have one person make almost 30% more (!!!!) than the other. I think the company was in a better place when they hired her, so I'm glad we did talk. Clearly if they can afford that for her salary, they can bite the bullet on mine too.

pttomato · August 2018

More of an eye roll than a wtf, my sister is annoying about always correcting me if I or DD say anything about a baby in my belly that the baby is in my uterus. Because they don’t use baby-talk words like belly, only anatomically correct terms.

al_vy · August 2018

1. My brother in law told me that, if I plan on vaccinating the babies, that they won't be allowed to visit with my nieces & nephews. Some long winded rambling about how they'll be "unclean" and somehow taint his kids. Let it be known that my step son is vaccinated and my BIL permits him to play with his kids because I wasn't the one who chose to get him vaccinated. Sometimes I just want to kick his teeth in, I swear.

2. My step son has been fully potty trained for about 6 months now.... yet his mom continues to send him back to us in diapers and insist he needs them (the child has only had 2 accidents in that whole 6 month time span). I wouldn't be surprised if she just has leftover diapers and doesn't want to waste them, because that's the type of person she is.

3. I told someone earlier today that I'm pregnant with twins, and she looked horrified at me and said, "how are you going to fit two babies out of your belly button?! Isn't it going to hurt?" .... this woman is 35 years old and was completely serious.

kaf1788 · August 2018

@al_vy wowwww that is a whole lotta crazy going on. I commend you for your patience

mtengl · August 2018

@al_vy It would have taken everything I had to not say that his children are a risk not yours. To each their own but when they make it an issue it would take all I had not to say something rude back.

My WTF is it is my first year at my job and I have had to make a lot of corrections from a previous employee and I am also doing the work of two job titles so I am working 10-12 hour days just to keep up with the workload before the semester starts and everything is due Friday. All that is fine, work is work and I know it will level out. BUT my husband has gone all “I never see you” on me, which just adds to my stress. He got upset because I worked late on Monday and isn’t being understanding at all. I am exhausted and am only working and not doing anything outside of work and being home. I just wish he would let it slide and be supportive and not add to the stress.

kns1988 · August 2018

@al_vy, wow, I wouldn't want my kids around his unvaccinated ones. What a crackpot.

julesf817 · August 2018

pttomato said:

More of an eye roll than a wtf, my sister is annoying about always correcting me if I or DD say anything about a baby in my belly that the baby is in my uterus. Because they don’t use baby-talk words like belly, only anatomically correct terms.

My eyes just rolled right out of my head. Let me guess. They use the word vulva too.*

*and yeah I know vulva is technically the correct term since the vagina is inside but I don’t care. I will never say “girls have a vulva.” We still call my kid’s penis his dinky. He knows it’s a penis that’s all that matters.

kns1988 · August 2018

julesf817 sometimes we use the correct term, and sometimes we say "winky"

VallieS86 · August 2018

So on top of being pregnant and just having inventory (I'm an inventory auditor) so work was stressful, my husband got into a car accident the other day and we found out yesterday his car is totaled (he and the other driver are ok). Now we have to get a new car (We so were not wanting to add another car payment on when we're going to have to pay more in daycare). My stress level is so high about the money situation, and I'm hardly eating (I am still dealing with nausea and this has just made me want to eat even less) my husband feels horrible about putting us in this situation and I keep telling him stuff happens it'll be fine but all I want to do is curl up in a ball and cry and sleep.

kaf1788 · August 2018

@VallieS86 ugh I'm so sorry you guys have to deal with all that. Dealing with the financial impact of a new baby is TOUGH and it sucks when additional curveballs get thrown in. Sending hugs and good vibes your way!

VallieS86 · August 2018

@kaf1788 thanks! Yeah I don't know who's more stressed out. Me or my husband. It doesn't help that I froze my credit last year because he told me to and now I don't remember my pins to unfreeze it.... nor remember where I might have written it down.

saltedcaramel518 · August 2018

pttomato said:

More of an eye roll than a wtf, my sister is annoying about always correcting me if I or DD say anything about a baby in my belly that the baby is in my uterus. Because they don’t use baby-talk words like belly, only anatomically correct terms.

I listened to a podcast episode about talking to your kids about sex. I found it really insightful, but at one point they said, "If you're pregnant, you should tell your kids that the baby is in your womb, not your belly, so they don't think that you'll poop the baby out."

I'm not against using anatomically correct terms, but i'm not going around telling kids about my uterus or womb.

ladystout08 · August 2018

saltedcaramel518 said:

pttomato said:

More of an eye roll than a wtf, my sister is annoying about always correcting me if I or DD say anything about a baby in my belly that the baby is in my uterus. Because they don’t use baby-talk words like belly, only anatomically correct terms.

I listened to a podcast episode about talking to your kids about sex. I found it really insightful, but at one point they said, "If you're pregnant, you should tell your kids that the baby is in your womb, not your belly, so they don't think that you'll poop the baby out."

I'm not against using anatomically correct terms, but i'm not going around telling kids about my uterus or womb.

DS knows there's a baby in my belly and she'll come out either my vagina or they'll cut her out of my belly if they need to. I didn't think twice about it and his BFF's dad was like "So he told Olivia that your baby is coming out of your vagina, we haven't gone that far yet." I was like, "oh well, my bad."

kianarain · August 2018

@ladystout08 I mean, what's the alternative? Pooping it out? If not out of the vagina, how are they saying the baby comes out?

pttomato · August 2018

julesf817 said:

pttomato said:

My eyes just rolled right out of my head. Let me guess. They use the word vulva too.*

*and yeah I know vulva is technically the correct term since the vagina is inside but I don’t care. I will never say “girls have a vulva.” We still call my kid’s penis his dinky. He knows it’s a penis that’s all that matters.

They use vagina. I actually do say vulva or labia, but DD still calls it her pee pee anyway. I don’t correct her her when she says it though. It seems annoyingly pedantic to correct a just turned 2-year old for saying there’s a baby in mama’s belly.

pttomato · August 2018

saltedcaramel518 said:

I'm not against using anatomically correct terms, but i'm not going around telling kids about my uterus or womb.

I think it would be weird to go around talking about my uterus to adults even, lol.

ladystout08 · August 2018

kianarain said:

@ladystout08 I mean, what's the alternative? Pooping it out? If not out of the vagina, how are they saying the baby comes out?

No idea. I mean I guess you could vaguely say "she'll have the baby" but idk.

kianarain · August 2018

@ladystout08 true! It's funny to hear what kids talk about. When my little sister was 6 or 7 she came home talking about how her friend's dad "eats special candy for his back pain"

that was a hilarious conversation

sfgiantsgamerbabe · August 2018

@VallieS86 I’m so sorry about your DH’s accident and stress. Insurance won’t help with getting a new car?

I know it’s Thursday but my wtf is DS kept waking up crying throughout the night. DH finally went and slept beside him but he would still wake up crying. DH ended up coming back to bed after a while but DS woke up at 5am crying again. I went into his room and he went back to sleep pretty easily. DH and I are tired but DS is full of energy.

bradleysmommy28 · August 2018

We've always used penis/vagina (except from age 2 to almost 4 he swore it was called a Virginia) and when he says something about his penis, my 9 yr old nephew tries to tell him it's a bad word. Also, my mom hates when he uses the correct term - she uses "wormy". I understand everyone is different but I also hate when people make the correct terms out to be "bad words". And FWIW, I will never walk around saying the baby is in my womb or uterus. That just sounds so weird to me. And we made things a bit easier and just told DS that the baby will get cut out of my tummy like he did (he's seen pics from when he was born so we explained that one to him) but it least we didn't have to have the "it comes out of your vagina" talk just yet

kns1988 · August 2018

@bradleysmommy28, ew, I would take just about anything over "wormy." That's cringe-worthy.

saltedcaramel518 · August 2018

This conversation reminds me of when we got to the reproductive chapter in my 7th grade science book. Please note that I went to a small private Christian school. That week, our regular science teacher was [conveniently] out, so a math teacher (who had been a kindergarten teacher until that year) was filling in for him.

She started out the lessons by telling us that we weren’t going to use the words penis and vagina, but instead would refer to them as the “v-word” and the “p-word.”

molosmiles · August 2018

I use the term privates, it works for boys or girls and teaches them they are private and for themselves.

Funny story...when I was pregnant with DD2 my DD1 was 7 and we were talking one day and she says, "I can't wait for the baby to come but it's too bad it comes out of your asshole" I died inside. I said, "first of all you don't say that word, and second that is not where the baby comes from," she then said, "oh, your pagina then". I still laugh at that conversation.

My mom has done daycare my whole life and when kids ask where babies come from my mom always said its magic. LOL. It's especially hard when it isn't your kid. I always tell other people's kids, if they ask me, there are a couple different ways and leave it at that. They don't usually ask more questions if they do, I'll say one way is to take the baby from of your belly. It seems to satisy the questions.

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