Weekly Randoms (8/20-8/27)

okayestmom12 · August 2018

hannahbananas11 · August 2018

Dammit, I forgot to take my prenatal this morning. Thanks for reminding me, @okayestmom12! LOL
I guess this kid will have to subsist off of Starbucks and Doritos this morning. Oh well.

I hope y'all had a good weekend! I meandered the aisles of Target for a few hours yesterday and spent $80 on fun things that I don't need, and forgot to buy a shower curtain liner, which was the purpose for my trip to Target in the first place.

kayjay44 · August 2018

Drive buys that can’t figure out how to do ticker change threads

i don’t want to get out of bed.

okayestmom12 · August 2018

kayjay44 said:

Drive buys that can’t figure out how to do ticker change threads

At first glance, I thought their screen name was “analrun”.

BourbonBiscuits · August 2018

okayestmom12 said:

kayjay44 said:

Drive buys that can’t figure out how to do ticker change threads

At first glance, I thought their screen name was “analrun”.

Stuck in the box, but same, tbh. Also wtf is up with asking us to tell you to NOT do what your doctor says?? If your doctor says you need progesterone shots you should probably do the progesterone shots.

hannahbananas11 · August 2018

BourbonBiscuits said:

okayestmom12 said:

kayjay44 said:

Drive buys that can’t figure out how to do ticker change threads

At first glance, I thought their screen name was “analrun”.

Stuck in the box, but same, tbh. Also wtf is up with asking us to tell you to NOT do what your doctor says?? If your doctor says you need progesterone shots you should probably do the progesterone shots.

lifeofboggs · August 2018

For posts like that I wish there was an eye role emoji on here!

megpants209 · August 2018

@kayjay44 All I could think was “that’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works!”

hannahbananas11 · August 2018

@lifeofboggs Yes to the eye roll emoji. Facebook also needs an eye roll reaction option. Are there no snarky developers out there?!

madreofdragons · August 2018

Ha, I said something before I saw this.

Highlight of my weekend was making glow in the dark slime with DD. We were recording her in the dark playing with it and she ripped a world record length fart. Still giggling about it this morning.

bww_0331 · August 2018

kayjay44 said:

Drive buys that can’t figure out how to do ticker change threads

i don’t want to get out of bed.

The message boards can be a lot to navigate for people unfamiliar to them. She was trying to participate and start to form connections. All of the acronyms, board etiquette, etc take time to learn. Everyone has to start posting somewhere to become part of the community. She did so in an organized thread but didn’t understand based on due date she would have an assigned date. I guess I don’t see why that would be frustrating or make her a drive by at this point.

etnyah · August 2018

Current mood. So sick of this shit.

hannahbananas11 · August 2018

@grebretso I feel for y'all. We had forest fires in N. Georgia last year, and the smoke drifted down to Atlanta and was terrible for a few days, especially for H who has asthma. I can't imagine dealing with the amount that y'all are getting, and for so many days now. Yuck.

etnyah · August 2018

Thanks @hannahbananas11. This is going to happen every year from now on. Might as well get used to it, thanks, global warming!

I was hoping to go to the beach today, H has Mondays off work so that’s usually our day to do stuff together. Instead we’ll probably binge Netflix. I’m not feeling my best today so that’s fine, but summer is almost over and we won’t get many if any more chances to go to the beach. Ugh.

madreofdragons · August 2018

The news says I shouldn’t vacuum until the smoke clears.

hannahbananas11 · August 2018

@grebretso

I'm sorry that your day isn't turning out to be as planned!
This forest fire business is really depressing. From people losing homes and others losing lives, to the articles I've read about how climate change is making them worse and more common, it's just all a big pile of shit.

kayjay44 · August 2018

@bww_0331 - It's all laid out in the READ FIRST thread. It's not frustrating, just annoying. I was new here 5 years ago (this is my second SN) - I lurked for at least two months before I started posting. At least. I've been verbally assaulted by some of these people more than once for politely pointing them in the right direction and then all the WKing, so it's beyond annoying. Which is why I've largely given up and I'm just annoyed. The Bump has always been this way - longer than I've been around for sure. There are plenty of other sites that allow for drive by posts and random shit/no structure - these boards don't develop the community and support we develop here which is why I keep coming back. Some of my best friends today are from my first BMB. Just my two cents.

cas060 · August 2018

I called in sick today.. headache neckache thing going on all weekend.. i got up for an hour when i was getting ready for work then went back to bed til 1230. I put ear plugs in because the bird was being too loud...

bww_0331 · August 2018

I can understand a sense of annoyance in the one off threads and I absolutely don’t think it’s alright for anyone to respond back with verbal assaults or to get unnecessarily rude. But I also think it’s unreasonable to expect everyone to wait and lurk until they have a full understanding of all acronyms, specific threads, etc. I am incredibly grateful for my first BMB as well and I agree that it takes diligence to build those bonds and friendships. Making remarks about a simple, honest mistake doesn’t encourage a positive community though. I don’t see how bringing up the fact that someone didn’t understand a ticker change is creating a welcoming environment for someone who is trying to join and be an active member.

kayjay44 · August 2018

To each their own - I've literally received death threats sadly for politely suggesting someone listen to their doctor previously. I'm not sure when you joined, but the TB is a very different place today than it was 4 years ago. Many of us who are long timers may be more jaded. If it's not a positive environment to call someone out for not posting correctly in a thread, then it's no more appropriate to call someone out about complaining about it - it's definitely not adding anything to the conversation either.

lifeofboggs · August 2018

@cass06_07 hopefully you feel better soon!

my two year old is refusing his nap again today....mommy needs you to take your nap dude so Mom can nap

lifeofboggs · August 2018

Also fwiw this bump group is much more civil to drive byes and random AW posts then my last one. I haven’t seen any of the ladies on here get mean or nasty with a random!

bww_0331 · August 2018

@kayjay44 I appreciate your response. I’m not trying to cause an issue or stir the pot but I felt uncomfortable that attention had to be brought to a new poster who was clearly trying to fit into the group rules and threads but made a simple mistake. She was joining the community and I would hate for someone who “did all the right things” to feel unwelcomed because of that. Calling it out in a randoms thread did just that, in my opinion. I don’t intend for the conversation about this to go on and on but I wanted to speak out. Thank you for being civil, I’m sorry about your past experiences.

@lifeofboggs

my experience with my first BMB was a little different. “Drive by” posts got the reminder for the “read first” or directed to a thread (as many on here have done as well!) and then it was done. If they are interested in continuing on the board then they start to figure out the board organization.

I have to disagree in that I have seen a few mean/ nasty comments on the AW/drive by posts here. The fact that multiple posters have egged each other on to see who can come up with the best response/snark after someone has redirected OP doesn’t really exude a supportive community. I was under the impression that’s why most of us joined TB- for a community that gives support.

lifeofboggs · August 2018

Joking about worms or for the gender question that it might be a dragon is just funny and not mean if people are that sensitive and don’t have a sense of humor maybe they should stay off the internet......js

bww_0331 · August 2018

@lifeofboggs those aren’t posts that I’m referring to. FWIW- I thought the worm thread was quite funny.

ohsunnydays · August 2018

Okay people.... I just had my 16 week appt. Holy bedside manner. So far, the bedside manner of 2 of the doctors in my practice. ... I don't expect sunshine and rainbows and for them to be my BFF, but to be in my room for a grand total of 3 minutes and to run out and not look me in the eye? And to tell me that I scheduled my appointment too early? (umm... I didn't do the scheduling. reception gave me dates to choose from...).

Should I be concerned about bedside manner? Idk, maybe I'm feeling sensitive about my hooha and childbirth. Or will I not care when i get to childbirth? I just don't feel... listened to? Or that they even give two rips. There are 4 doctors in the practice, and I only feel like 1 is listening to me as the patient and actually might care (I have yet to meet 1 more doc).

BourbonBiscuits · August 2018

@ohsunnydays FWIW I hadn’t even met two of the three doctors who were with me in the hospital when DS was born. I’d never met any of the doctors who checked me in recovery. I had a long and complicated induction, but I couldn’t tell you a single thing about the other doctors (except that the one who delivered DS looked dead up like Laverne Cox lol). I think you get there and it all just happens so fast that the nurses are the ones who actually matter. That being said, my anesthesiologist was a gigantic dick and I’ll never forget that.

so I didn’t really give you any advice lol, except that you really never know who you’ll see when you deliver so don’t hold out hope you’ll see the doctor you like. So if bedside manner really matters to you (and it would for me if this was my first - I didn’t feel confident at all and needed a ton of reassurance that I could actually give birth) then I’d think about switching. Now that I’ve done it once though it matters to me less. Does that help at all?

kayjay44 · August 2018

If it bothers you it’s worth switching or shopping around. This is the reason I prefer our in hospital midwives over OBs.

bww_0331 · August 2018

@ohsunnydays it never hurts to check somewhere else out if you are concerned. My ladybug practice had 6 OBs and whoever was on call delivered. After all of my appointments my “least favorite” doctor happened to be on call. He was amazing during delivery and I felt really comfortable with him in that setting even though I wasn’t a fan in appointments. I hope as your appointments go on you feel more support

ohsunnydays · August 2018

@BourbonBiscuits yes, thanks, that does help. I'm sure it'll all be a blur, I think I just tend to plan when I am nervous or unsure about something. I remember hearing that the nurses are the ones really " in charge" and the doctor won't be there as much during labor.
@kayjay44 I was considering shopping around, but I would hate to go to another practice, and it's just a "doctor thing" and they (most) all are like that. But, it is good to think about, you're right. Thought maybe it might be something I'll have to get over.
I think it might be a little hard for me to wrap my head around this because I am a teacher for K-5 kiddos, and I have to be "on" and acting in a way what's best for them even when I feel like shit, am worried about other stuff, etc. Blows my mind that people can act like they don't give two rips in their jobs. And then, makes me mostly glad I work with children and not adults, even when the kids drive me nuts.

BourbonBiscuits · August 2018

@ohsunnydays I feel the exact same way - I work in a middle school lol. I don’t get to show the kids when they’re being annoying (like all the time)

ohsunnydays · August 2018

@bww_0331 Thanks for that perspective. You're right, this part of their job isn't everything,and I'd rather have someone extremely skilled and knowledgable during L&D than chatty and warm during routine appointments.

Maybe I should be glad that they can just whip in and out of my room . If they were spending a lot of time, that would mean there could be something wrong (knock on wood).

ohsunnydays · August 2018

@BourbonBiscuits there is a special place in the afterlife for middle school staff. What an awkward age level.

Edit: does that even make sense? Hope you know it means I bow down to y'all lol. It takes special people

allthingsgo · August 2018

@ohsunnydays I think bedside manner and how you feel you are being treated by your dr is important, especially in such an unknown situation like a first time pregnancy and birth.

I love my OB and had switched from a prior OB with not so great bedside manner to her and it was night and day. She really made me feel like she truly cares and really spends on one one focused time with me in our appointments. I actually look forward to seeing her so often again haha.

It really helped ease my worries for during my pregnancy and birth to have someone I felt I could completely trust and actually really liked and felt cared for by. Yes the nurses were there for the longest amount of time but knowing she was around and would be in checking on me and then helping me deliver was reassuring.

She is a DO vs just MD which is something you may want to look into. Typically they are trained to have more personal and caring bedside manner.

disneybaby84 · August 2018

@ohsunnydays my doc is great, love him to death, so do all the other patients. He answered all my questions at appointments and will do so again. He was also great about writing a script for me post partum. Funny thing, my labor was 33 hours, I had all the doctors in his practice in my room, except him, because he was off that day.

BourbonBiscuits · August 2018

Well y’all, we finally got rid of the bottle at bedtime tonight. DS is 18 months old and our pediatrician (a close family friend) has been scolding us since his 12 month appointment for still putting him down with a bottle. At today’s appointment we asked how we can get him ready to be a big brother and he smiled and said we could start by getting rid of that bottle. Last time we tried to get rid of it, DS screamed for 3 hours, puked in the corner of his crib and we gave in. Tonight he yelled for 20 minutes and passed out. Feeling tentatively like this is a victory?

kayjay44 · August 2018

@BourbonBiscuits with DD, she was off the bottle by 18 mo. DS still gets bottles and I have no intention of quitting any time soon

megpants209 · August 2018

@ohsunnydays although I’m a FTM I’m part of a group practice and have had varying opinions of the bedside manner of my practitioners. That said, and this is huge for me, I’ve been with this practice for 17 years and have ALL THE FAITH in their abilities so I am confident that on delivery day, no matter who I have, they will be great. I’m not sure how long you’ve been with your practice but I think considering your overall opinion and confidence in them as a whole is worth significant consideration.

cas060 · August 2018

Dont hate... but blueberry pie in the kitchen is calling my name. Making myself wait til after dinner as im feeling low on stomach space.

kayjay44 · August 2018

It even smells like smoke inside my house now

I can’t escape the smoke.

madreofdragons · August 2018

Yeah this shit sucks. DD can’t understand why the sun is neon orange.

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