Wednesday BF - It's potty training mania over here. DS has been in big boy pants since just after breakfast. He's been doing great with no accidents, but also hasn't used his potty since 11:30-12:00ish? It's 3:10 as I type this, and I make sure he drinks plenty of water throughout the day. He always has his water bottle close by, so I KNOW he has to go. I've had him sit down and try a couple of times, and he sits there for 10-15 minutes and nothing happens. I brought out the potty pops for motivation, thinking that might help, but it backfired, and then a tantrum ensued because he just wanted a sucker without actually using the potty. Ugh. This is rough, you guys. I've peed like 347 times since he's gone last, and I get that I'm pregnant and all, but I KNOW THIS KID HAS TO GO, WHY IS IT SO HARD?
ETA: I meant Thursday BF. I don't even know what day it is, y'all.
Apparently the MFM I saw recommend that I have a psychiatric evaluation (WTF? I already see a psychiatrist and I'm not having any problems!) and have a visit from a social worker (Double WTF?! Even my OB was baffled by that one.)
There's literally no reason for any of this. OB suggested that maybe the social worker thing was "left over on the word processor" from the last patient (yeah, okay).
I'm beyond pissed right now.
And on top of that, I have to abstain from sex from now on (cervical length is great with no history of pre-term labor) and do kick counts after every meal starting today (23 weeks tomorrow) so he can have me go to the hospital if I don't have the recommended amount of movements.
Keep in mind I've had no issues whatsoever. But "baby is at the point of viability and every day I stay pregnant is important!" My twins were born at 38 + 4 by scheduled C-section with no sign whatsoever that they were going anywhere, so it's not like I have a history to be concerned about.
I feel like both of those are ridiculous for this point in my pregnancy. My OB is ridiculously cautious, but this is getting stupid.
@MojieJo how bizarre! I apologize because you've likely said before, but why do you need to go to MFM if everything is going well/no issues so far?
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My Thursday BF is that my appt for my glucose test was an hour ago. They have you drink the drink half an hour ahead of time, and then in theory draw your blood at the end. Well, dr is running behind for one, so I’m in here starving since I didn’t get my afternoon snack (I try not to complain when an OB is running behind), but it took 3 tries to get my blood drawn, and they had to do my hand, because I apparently have tiny veins in my arms, so now my arms and my hand hurt.
I'm seeing him because I'm advanced maternal age (36 in October) and had pre-eclampsia at the very tail end of my last pregnancy (last couple of days). This pregnancy had been completely free from issues, it's just a precautionary thing.
@MojieJo ahh gotcha. That's so weird. I'd be all sorts of upset/weirded out by all that also. Wth dude.
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@mojiejo that all sounds ridiculous. i’ve never heard of anyone else ama that has to go through the ringer like that. is it your ob or mfm who is having you abstain and also do kick counts? that all sounds so overly cautious.
@highsteaks It's my OB who's putting the ridiculous restrictions on me. He's beyond cautious about everything for some reason.
It's really sapping the enjoyment out of my pregnancy. And it's a damn shame because I didn't go back to my old OB from my last pregnancy because I hated the way I was treated there. I really thought this time would be a better experience.
@MojieJo I think you mentioned this before, but is it too late to switch doctors? That would stress me out sooooo bad. I'm really sorry he's putting you through this. I can't believe about the psychiatrist and social worker thing. I would be seriously offended.
@MojieJo What in the world? Your OB’s restrictions and the kick counts, fine, but what in the AF with the MFM? Did you ask why they were recommending those things? You have a right to know.
@offtoneverland I've basically run through the options of OB's who will take IVF patients around here, so it looks like I'm stuck.
My OB is nice and super friendly, but he's just so ridiculously cautious about everything.
As for switching MFM's, this is the only option for my OB. He only works with this particular guy (I'm not even sure if there are others in the area since I didn't see one with my pregnancy with my twins).
@MouseMama817 I see him on Monday and I fully intend to ask. I'm seething right now and not looking forward to getting through the weekend before I can confront him about it.
I only found out about it today from my OB when he told me what the MFM had written in his report from my visit almost a month ago.
@MojieJo This made my blood boil for you just reading about it. What a frustrating situation to be in. I'm really confused about the social worker bit?
@lachnessmomster So am I! I was completely floored when my OB mentioned it and asked what it was about.
I have zero idea WTF that's about. I'm sitting here wracking my brain trying to figure out what on Earth would have made him suggest that and I'm coming up completely empty.
@MojieJo: that sucks. And it's insulting. I am in a situation very similar to you, and I've have none of this! In a country where healthcare is free, they sometimes tend to go overboard, and yet no. I'm not even considered high risk. Hope you can clarify the situation without letting the hormones go wild (although man is it satisfying sometimes when people are acting like idiots).
@EvilRaccoon I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who thinks it's insulting. My husband thinks it's ridiculous and unwarranted, but doesn't think I should be insulted by it, just angry.
I'm dreading trying to deal with this without completely losing my temper on them. I'm not good with confrontation and normally I'd let something like this go even though I shouldn't, but this has gotten me so pissed off that I'm afraid I'm going to do a 180 from my normal personality and go nuclear. The hormones are definitely not helping.
@MojieJo: well it is insulting: it's like they are pretending you are not taking enough care of your mental health, which you are, and the social worker, well, here, when they do that, it's because they fear for your children's well being and your capacity to take care of your futur LO.
Sorry to throw oil on the flames, I know you must remain calm not to give them any ground, but...I'm alone in my office getting mad in your place...!!
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ETA: I meant Thursday BF. I don't even know what day it is, y'all.
Apparently the MFM I saw recommend that I have a psychiatric evaluation (WTF? I already see a psychiatrist and I'm not having any problems!) and have a visit from a social worker (Double WTF?! Even my OB was baffled by that one.)
There's literally no reason for any of this. OB suggested that maybe the social worker thing was "left over on the word processor" from the last patient (yeah, okay).
I'm beyond pissed right now.
And on top of that, I have to abstain from sex from now on (cervical length is great with no history of pre-term labor) and do kick counts after every meal starting today (23 weeks tomorrow) so he can have me go to the hospital if I don't have the recommended amount of movements.
Keep in mind I've had no issues whatsoever. But "baby is at the point of viability and every day I stay pregnant is important!" My twins were born at 38 + 4 by scheduled C-section with no sign whatsoever that they were going anywhere, so it's not like I have a history to be concerned about.
I feel like both of those are ridiculous for this point in my pregnancy. My OB is ridiculously cautious, but this is getting stupid.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
--------------------------------
LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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My Thursday BF is that my appt for my glucose test was an hour ago. They have you drink the drink half an hour ahead of time, and then in theory draw your blood at the end. Well, dr is running behind for one, so I’m in here starving since I didn’t get my afternoon snack (I try not to complain when an OB is running behind), but it took 3 tries to get my blood drawn, and they had to do my hand, because I apparently have tiny veins in my arms, so now my arms and my hand hurt.
I'm seeing him because I'm advanced maternal age (36 in October) and had pre-eclampsia at the very tail end of my last pregnancy (last couple of days). This pregnancy had been completely free from issues, it's just a precautionary thing.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
--------------------------------
LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
--------------------------------
Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
-------------------------------
It's really sapping the enjoyment out of my pregnancy. And it's a damn shame because I didn't go back to my old OB from my last pregnancy because I hated the way I was treated there. I really thought this time would be a better experience.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
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TTC #2: 6/2017
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My OB is nice and super friendly, but he's just so ridiculously cautious about everything.
As for switching MFM's, this is the only option for my OB. He only works with this particular guy (I'm not even sure if there are others in the area since I didn't see one with my pregnancy with my twins).
@MouseMama817 I see him on Monday and I fully intend to ask. I'm seething right now and not looking forward to getting through the weekend before I can confront him about it.
I only found out about it today from my OB when he told me what the MFM had written in his report from my visit almost a month ago.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
@MojieJo So crazy! Sorry you have to deal that
@runningyogimama Ugh!!! I hate that! You are expected to be early or on time and they’re always late.
I have zero idea WTF that's about. I'm sitting here wracking my brain trying to figure out what on Earth would have made him suggest that and I'm coming up completely empty.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
I'm dreading trying to deal with this without completely losing my temper on them. I'm not good with confrontation and normally I'd let something like this go even though I shouldn't, but this has gotten me so pissed off that I'm afraid I'm going to do a 180 from my normal personality and go nuclear. The hormones are definitely not helping.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Sorry to throw oil on the flames, I know you must remain calm not to give them any ground, but...I'm alone in my office getting mad in your place...!!
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d