I have a question. Will the constipation and gas go away along with the nausea as the first trimester ends? (Assuming that the nausea does go away when the first trimester ends.) Or will they likely stick around? My blump is so huge people keep saying I already look pregnant. I don’t understand how there will ever be space in there for a growing uterus.
In my opinion it gets worse. By the time 3rd tri rolls around everything is all squished. The farts stay the same, but are just harder to push out. You May remember @kayjay44 mentioning the Squaty Potty for pregnancy. There’s a reason for that, lol.
Oh yeah, it doesn’t get much better. And then you get the hemorrhoids. My husband used to laugh that I was practicing giving birth every time I took a third trimester shit. He ... wasn’t wrong.
Let’s just say my vagina is fine after two kids - my asshole, not so much.
Wait what? From constipation or something else? What did I get myself into here?!
Yep - do your self a favor and stock up on colace and liquid glycerin suppositories now. I guess it somewhat prepares you for the ring of Fire for birth....
Do any of you Cloth Diaper? I never did with my other 2 but I'm really thinking about it this time around. I like the idea of saving money in the long run and throwing less disposables in a landfill. I just don't even know where to start! DH said he's on board to give it a try.
@Erinm278 - we did with our first until potty training. We stopped with our son at about 11 months. It’s a huge time commitment unless you use a service (which cancels out cost savings). I’d be happy to answer any questions!
@kayjay44 I'm probably going to hit you up on that. I know it can be a time commitment but my day care is cool with it and I really want to find a way to make it work.
@Erinm278 I CD with DD and still do. I agree with @kayjay44 that it’s a time commitment, but once it becomes a habit, it’s hardly noticeable. Just another “load” of laundry to do. I will be glad when she potty trains, but we’ve saved so much money and never had to make late night diaper runs.
@catwoman8731 - it was easy with one. Two was tough. It doesnt work for us anymore because we both work 60 hours on an easy week (70-80 sometimes on busy weeks) and we can barely get regular clothing laundry done. Needless to say, we won’t be doing it for #3
@Erinm278 we do cloth and have since birth, we don’t use disposables so I don’t know any different but I was twice a week and stuff diapers while watching TV. It’s about an hours worth of work a week. I have wetbags that I send to daycare every day of the week and they send dirty diapers back. I also cloth wipe, disposables gave my daughter rashes and if you are already doing diaper laundry it’s easy. You can ask me anything! We have about every brand of diaper out there
1. I haven’t been on an airplane since March of 2001 so I am not a traveling guru We did do a 16 hour road trip when Lou was 8 weeks old and it was okay, just frequent stops for feeds. We get out and about a lot locally when babies are little though.
2. Pregnancy gas is forever
3. No CD here, just personal preference. Late night diaper runs should never be a thing, I’ve never understood that. We’ve always had so many of the dang things that we switch sizes before we run out.
Late night diaper runs should never be a thing, I’ve never understood that. We’ve always had so many of the dang things that we switch sizes before we run out.
Seriously. This is what Costco is for. I donate whatever is leftover when they go up a size to a local shelter for women and children. $40/mo for a Costco box is worth my sanity.
Yes for Costco diapers and wipes!! Also- I the constipation and gas is miserable, but not as bad as when I didn’t poop for almost 7 days after my csection
+1 for Kirkland diapers. Amazon Essentials for wipes, over here. The packages are huge and it takes us forever to go through a box. Love the quality, too!
Whats the deal with picking up older kids. I have a 45# 3yo, Im pretty sure I should limit picking her up. Especially because it doesnt feel good lately, but how the F am I supposed to live life.. carry around a freaking stool?
Whats the deal with picking up older kids. I have a 45# 3yo, Im pretty sure I should limit picking her up. Especially because it doesnt feel good lately, but how the F am I supposed to live life.. carry around a freaking stool?
I do not know why I got so mad typing that!
As long as you weren’t given a restriction and are lifting with your legs, it should be fine
Whats the deal with picking up older kids. I have a 45# 3yo, Im pretty sure I should limit picking her up. Especially because it doesnt feel good lately, but how the F am I supposed to live life.. carry around a freaking stool?
I do not know why I got so mad typing that!
Girrrl I feel ya on the 45lb 3yo. My girl is an anvil.
@kayjay44 so far im on restrictions/ high risk for the first tri due to multiple losses. With my healthy pregnancy I think the limit was 25 pounds. I'll be following up with ob on monday, but I'm a big believer in not doing something if it feels wrong while pregnant. Or maybe I'm just lazy and tired... @madreofdragons I swear she eats like a teenager some days! But extremely proportionate. I wanted her rear facing until 4, she exceeded the height limit before 2.5 years!
Whats the deal with picking up older kids. I have a 45# 3yo, Im pretty sure I should limit picking her up. Especially because it doesnt feel good lately, but how the F am I supposed to live life.. carry around a freaking stool?
I do not know why I got so mad typing that!
Girrrl I feel ya on the 45lb 3yo. My girl is an anvil.
Same. I’ve got a giant, 48 lb, 3 year old DS. I tell everyone who goes to pick him up “bend at the knees!”
STMs who work FT outside of their home: do you have any tricks or tips for keeping up with housework?
Housework does not come naturally to me and I'm a bit nervous about what that'll look like once I go back to work post-mat leave.
I only work part-time, but my advice is to find the space in your budget for a cleaning person. You won't be sorry. (Even better if you find someone who will fold laundry!)
@becks_726 housework was the main source of my pp anxiety. Once I came to terms with the fact that I had to choose between a tidy house and a happy mom/baby/memories, I was a lot happier. Not to say my house is a terrible mess, it’s just not what it was before. Sometimes that means going to bed with dishes still in the sink or toys still on the floor. Compared to the anxiety I was experiencing, it was a small trade-off.
I know moms on my previous BMB swore by their cleaning services. If you can afford it, that would definitely be well worth it, IMO. But we just couldn’t swing it, unfortunately.
@kayjay44 that is very true about being harder with a second. I hadn’t thought of that. We are trying to get DD potty trained before February, but time will certainly still be less plentiful. We hope to continue, but thanks for the reminder that it just may not be worth the time/effort for the minimal savings (particularly in reference to my comment above about PPA...)
@catwoman8731 thanks for your advice. I'm not super picky about cleanliness but I think that's what gets me in trouble. I'll be sure to make sure I'm not making my self anxious over it though.
@McKBaby that's definitely something I'll do of I need to. I live well outside of town though so I'm worried it'll be prohibitively expensive...
@becks_726 I don’t know how helpful your husband is, but my experience is that they will expect you to do all the housework, laundry, cooking, baby stuff, and also stay up all night with the LO, while working 40+ hours a week at your regular job. Do yourself a favor and get a cleaning service, at least until LO is sleeping through the night.
@conchispita I'm hopeful that won't be the case. He's really stepped up these last few weeks and let me sleep and lie around while I feel shitty. But he'll be starting a new job right around when I give birth so I know there will be a ton of adjusting to be done and things could change.
@becks_726 housework was the main source of my pp anxiety. Once I came to terms with the fact that I had to choose between a tidy ghouse and a happy mom/baby/memories, I was a lot happier. Not to say my house is a terrible mess, it’s just not what it was before. Sometimes that means going to bed with dishes still in the sink or toys still on the floor. Compared to the anxiety I was experiencing, it was a small trade-off.
I know moms on my previous BMB swore by their cleaning services. If you can afford it, that would definitely be well worth it, IMO. But we just couldn’t swing it, unfortunately.
@becks_726 Ditto the bold. I try to do a little every night once the girls go to bed, focusing on one room a night. Usually on Saturday morning I try to get as much done as possible while they play or watch tv. Keeping up with laundry and dishes is a must. Getting behind gets so overwhelming so I try to do that every day. I used to be SO particular about cleaning and laundry but I’ve had to just let it go. You’ll find a rhythm and prioritize what’s most important. Someday my house will be quiet and spotless and I’ll miss it, so I try to just enjoy it and my time with the girls while I have it.
@LuLiLaEv I’m sorry, I can’t recall how old your kid(s) are, but something that has helped us a lot recently is asking DD to clean up her toys before bed. She turned two in May and has been a great helper lately. I didn’t realize it was as simple as asking, but for her at least that’s all it took. We help, but she does too, so it goes quicker. Also, thanks for validating my thoughts - as I was typing, I was feeling like the sloppiest person admitting I had to choose between emotional sanity and a tidy house. I’m glad I’m not the only one
We do laundry nightly and pick up after he kids go to bed. DH still isn’t ok with some mess even though I’ve come to terms with this is just where we are in our lives for right now. I’d rather spend time with my kids than clean - making memories is more important and making memories is messy business.
So recently I resolved that my house will not be clean until my youngest is 3. It has reduced a lot of stress. With two kids, I could spend the entire day on my feet doing things, and the house would still be a mess. It was heartbreaking for me. Hire a cleaning service. It isn’t worth losing your sanity over.
STMs who work FT outside of their home: do you have any tricks or tips for keeping up with housework?
Housework does not come naturally to me and I'm a bit nervous about what that'll look like once I go back to work post-mat leave.
I work inside the home and outside the home and my house looks like a bomb went off everyday. The kids clean up their toys but the laundry pulls up, the dishes sometimes don’t get done, and i truly can’t remember the last time I dusted.
I have started hiring a cleaning service once every other month or so just to make myself pick shit up. But if you come over the next day, it’s a disaster again. I’ve learned to embrace it. I almost have my husband there too. Lol
Re: Ask a STM week of July 2nd
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
2. Pregnancy gas is forever
3. No CD here, just personal preference. Late night diaper runs should never be a thing, I’ve never understood that. We’ve always had so many of the dang things that we switch sizes before we run out.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Also- I the constipation and gas is miserable, but not as bad as when I didn’t poop for almost 7 days after my csection
I do not know why I got so mad typing that!
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
@madreofdragons I swear she eats like a teenager some days! But extremely proportionate. I wanted her rear facing until 4, she exceeded the height limit before 2.5 years!
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
Housework does not come naturally to me
DS - 7.5
DD #1 - 6
~ mmc 7.11.2018 @ 9w ~
DD#2 - born 12.24.19
I know moms on my previous BMB swore by their cleaning services. If you can afford it, that would definitely be well worth it, IMO. But we just couldn’t swing it, unfortunately.
@McKBaby that's definitely something I'll do of I need to. I live well outside of town though so I'm worried it'll be prohibitively expensive...
I try to do a little every night once the girls go to bed, focusing on one room a night. Usually on Saturday morning I try to get as much done as possible while they play or watch tv. Keeping up with laundry and dishes is a must. Getting behind gets so overwhelming so I try to do that every day.
I used to be SO particular about cleaning and laundry but I’ve had to just let it go. You’ll find a rhythm and prioritize what’s most important. Someday my house will be quiet and spotless and I’ll miss it, so I try to just enjoy it and my time with the girls while I have it.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I have started hiring a cleaning service once every other month or so just to make myself pick shit up. But if you come over the next day, it’s a disaster again. I’ve learned to embrace it. I almost have my husband there too. Lol