Random Poll: NIPT? Sneak Peek? Anatomy Scan? Team Green?

Boobopgirl · June 2018

We find out at the anatomy scan. I like being able to call my bump by name and I think it helps the kiddos bond better with the baby beforehand. Also, I need time to crochet, craft, and sew all the little things. I'll be about 19 weeks when we go in and find out just before my birthday.

Selina1313 · June 2018

July 7th I'll be 16+3 and an paying for an elective ultrasound for gender determination. I did it with my DS and it was so cool. This time it will be the first time that my boyfriend and ds will be with me at an ultrasound for this baby. I think my son is going to think it's the coolest thing ever, and maybe it will start to sink in with my bf that I'm actually pregnant and not just getting fat lol

mara005 · June 2018

We will be Team Green for the 3rd time, but after 2 boys I'm betting it's also a boy.

ab_canada · June 2018

Pretty amazing to see how many of us are waiting until the anatomy scan. I honestly thought there were only a few of us

scaredunprepared · June 2018

@ab_canada I thought I would be in the minority, but guess not!

tumbleweed-1 · June 2018

I voted team green in our pinned poll a while back. I think we are team anatomy scan now though. We both agree that the extra time to focus only on boy or girl names might be helpful. We are all over the place with the names.
We don’t even know what last name we want to use! We aren’t married, but even if we were, we’ve been on the fence about if I’d take his last name or he’d take mine, or we’d keep our own. Or if we’d take his but go back to the original/more phonetic spelling (spelling changed a few generations ago).
Is it cool to comment without voting yet? Or is that what voting ss is for?

katy0990 · June 2018

@tumbleweed-1 I would consider that as, but whatever you feel comfortable with. I don’t think anyone will shame you!

CecilB93 · June 2018

@tumbleweed I know of a lot of people who have different last names even if they're married. Typically any daughters get her name and sons get his name. But I also know someone who didn't take her husbands last name, but their daughter has his last name. It's really whatever you want! Maybe see which one sounds better with baby's name? Lol

echo-charlietango · June 2018

^ Also some states have rules about baby’s last name matching a parent (but I don’t have further details because they don’t apply to our matching last names). I think I found that article here on TB actually

katy0990 · June 2018

@echo-charlietango There is a state by state list on the baby names board that lists all of the requirements.

Selina1313 · June 2018

@tumbleweed-1 we're not married either. With our first son, we chose to give my bf last name because I didn't care either way. I briefly thought about giving this baby my last name but for our family I think I want the kids to share the same last name. I get bummed about not having the same last name because people always get confused at appointments that I don't have the same last name as DS. Some day we will either get married or if we decide to just not, I may just change my last name to his anyways.... Who knows lol
I think it's whatever works best for you and your family

hbmama21 · June 2018

I kept my maiden name. I may change it at some point, but it doesn’t bother me enough that we have different last names. Both LOs will have my spouse’s last name.

LLynde5 · June 2018

So I never took my husband’s last name but our DD has it ....and kinda ironically I used it as part of my bump name!!

echo-charlietango · June 2018

I took my husband's name as soon as possible! My maiden name (Rodriguez) doesn't garner a lot of employment call-backs -despite having a degree- besides, his name is shorter. It's also kind of unique, and it's fun having a name that isn't shared with thousands of fine folks in Mexico & Spain.

LLynde5 · June 2018

@echo-charlietango that cracks me up! I did the complete opposite. My last name is a super common Italian name but I am so attached.

artemis618 · June 2018

I took my husband’s last name for the little bit of alphabet jumpage it offered. I grew up at the end with a “Y” last name

. But also l’m pretty traditional.

katy0990 · June 2018

I couldn’t take DH’s name quick enough! My maiden name is a jumble of silent consonants that no one pronounces correctly. DH’s is a very common easy to pronounce name, which makes things way easier, especially as an elementary school teacher.

ETA: I also went from an L to a B.

PensiveCrayon · June 2018

@artemis618 SAME! I went from S to an H. I did move my maiden name to my middle name.

echo-charlietango · June 2018

+1 Alphabet jump! R to C

hkom · June 2018

I'm still need to take H's name (we got married in October and I'm a procrastinator). I love all three of my existing names, but I also love H's lovely French surname, so I'm going to keep my three existing names and add his on the end, so I'll have four. My maiden name will become a second middle name. The kids will just take H's name.

kadeephd · June 2018

It was important to me to keep my maiden name and I always figured my husband and I would fight about which last name to use for each child. However, when we talked about it after I got pregnant he felt strongly about using his last name and I found I didn't particularly care. This kid is definitely taking his name and I assume all our kids will. I think we'll give them my last name as a middle name, but I'm not totally sold on that either.

artemis618 · June 2018

@PensiveCrayon @hkom I also moved my maiden name to my (2nd) middle name. All the kids in DH’s family have two middle names, so I just figured I’d fit in better with four names like them

. I plan on giving this kid my maiden name as a second middle name too.

AdorkablePixie · June 2018

@PensiveCrayon @hkom artemis618 I'm on the maiden name as a second middle name boat as well! I didn't want to completely lose my maiden name.

AGK2015 · June 2018

I hyphenated (in retrospect, wish I'd have just stuck with one or the other because name punctuation is blech), but all our kids will have my husband's last name. I used to think it would bother me not passing along my birth surname (there's no one else to do it, so that surname will die with my sister and I), but both my daughters will be named after incredible women in my family, which I actually kind of like better. It's not just a marker of where/who she's from, it's something she can strive to be, if that makes sense.

tumbleweed-1 · June 2018

I’m loving all this last name talk. It is very interesting to hear. I’m interested in my SO’s last name, but not as spelled currently. Mostly I like it because my initials would be a convenient up & down squiggle with his last name and my first.

I’ve suggested using my last name for some of our kids and his last name for others. He isn’t sure about the idea, but doesn’t hate it. It would depend if we each keep our own names should we get married.

I grew up with so many last names in my family (one sibling and I having our birth fathers last name, another sibling with her dads-my step dads- last name, and one sibling sharing my moms maiden name with her. Until my mom & step dad married). Having different last names doesn’t really bother me- been there done that! Lol

texas_t · June 2018

I was lazy and didn't get my last name changed until 2 months before DS was born (We'd been married for 3 years.) My maiden name is easy and common and DH is Filipino with a long and different last name. I wanted the same last name as my son, which was going to have DSs last name, so I hightailed it to the SS office and got mine changed. My son's middle name is my maiden name, which happens to be a Filipino tradition, so I was cool with that!

asun123 · June 2018

Add me to the 'Still Haven't Changed My Last Name Club'. Hopefully I'll find some time before December to change it. Take 1-2 days off work to go to the Social Security Office and the DMV, no thank you. Haha.

lexidawg · June 2018

Like @texas_t, I have only just started changing my last name to my husbands last name since I want my last name to be the same as our child. I've only made it to the DMV so far. I also took my maiden name as my middle name since I didn't have one.

tunnel · June 2018

I had the sequential screen last time around and it showed a heighten risk of Trisomy 13, which generally is not compatible with life. Fortunately, the free-cell DNA test revealed no Trisomy 13. But that week wait was excruciating, worrying about the health of our child and knowing that our options were dwindling by the week because I was 20 weeks at that point. This time around, I wasn't messing around with that shit and went straight for the NIPT.

trucksntutus · June 2018

Also waiting for my anatomy scan to find out what we're having!!!

ab_canada · June 2018

@tunnel
Wow, I am sorry you had to go through that. And happy that it worked out.

AdorkablePixie · June 2018

@tunnel I don't blame you girl. I would have done the same. I am so glad everything worked out and the baby was and is fine!

AdorkablePixie · June 2018

RE: Last name change - I changed my last name about a week after we got back from our honeymoon. It took me forever to have my license changed over though. Hate going to the DMV.

katy0990 · June 2018

@tunnel I am sorry you had to go through all that, but glad it all turned out fine. I had a similar experience with DS. He showed several soft markers at the 20 week a/s and I also had polyhydramnios, which is often indicative of a chromosomal abnormality. We ended up doing the materniTy blood test the day before Thanksgiving and had to sit a week for results. It was terrifying. Even after the results, I still never felt like I could relax until we saw him and he was healthy.

whaat · June 2018

Re: name change. I didn’t change my name and never will because I can’t think of a reason why it is necessary.

also team green.

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