Weekly Randoms (w/o 6/18)

KristoKekerooni · June 2018

@MaineMama - It's a Hulu show!

madreofdragons · June 2018

I’m watching an older Parts Unknown from France right now. All the cheese I can’t eat is pissing me off at the moment.

disneybaby84 · June 2018

@KristoKekerooni I watch Handmaid’s tale every week. Can’t wait to watch tonight!

mainemama_ · June 2018

@KristoKekerooni definitely going to have to check it out!

corgicreator · June 2018

Fellow hmt here! Soo good

disneybaby84 · June 2018

love pregnant sex! Glad to be back to it!

cmjenkies · June 2018

Can I just stay home and nap today? Going to work sounds so very unpleasant.

PensiveCrayon · June 2018

**dirty lurker from December**

@KristoKekerooni Girrrrrrl. You know I watched it. It was rough from start to finish. Ugh. Can we have a glimmer of hope next week?

kayjay44 · June 2018

cmjenkies said:

Can I just stay home and nap today? Going to work sounds so very unpleasant.

Fuck yes. I need to be getting up to get ready (in Seattle, so it’s only 5:20 am) - but my bed is so cozy and the AC feels so good. And the RLP when I try to hoist myself upright is telling me I shouldn’t get up

KristoKekerooni · June 2018

@PensiveCrayon RIGHT?! Especially because, like

Spoiler

Serena was just starting to grow on me a bit. But all that? Irredeemable.
I'd like to think that maybe she can escape from here, but... it's HMT. So we know that ain't happening.

notthecheat · June 2018

Someone talk me down please.

So I've been trying to find a new OBGYN. The first place I try doesn't accept my insurance. Second place I'm on hold forever and then they say I need to get a doctor I already have, like my PCP, to order blood work so they can have proof of pregnant before they even see me. WTF?? I have never heard of this.

I'm sure this is hormones getting the best of me, but. 1. I feel really hurt and angry that I have to jump through even more hoops just to get this damn initial appointment. I shouldn't have to fucking prove myself to get prenatal care that I'll be paying for anyway. Speaking of which. 2. I'm having a mild panic attack about the blood work because the last time I got blood work done, I had to pay for the entire thing out of pocket which is already making me super angry because wtf am I paying premiums out the ass for if I'm paying for everything myself anyway. I literally just finished paying that bill, it was really hard to scrape up all that money. If they didn't cover that, I highly doubtful insurance will cover some "proof of pregnancy" bullshit.

I'm feeling really lost and alone and betrayed and anxious right now.

allthingsgo · June 2018

@notthecheat that is ridiculous they won’t see you until you have proof of pregnancy blood work. I mean isn’t that what they are for?? I’m sorry you are having such a hard time finding a good OB. I’d keep looking based on what you said I don’t feel like those are good signs in regards to the care you’ll receive. Sometimes it takes a bit of time but when you find the right one it just clicks. That is how it was for me. Maybe ask some friends or go on a local mom’s group board on FB and ask for recommendations?

In regards to paying out of pocket for blood work, I thought all prenatal care was 100% covered now as long as you go in network? You may want to call your insurance company and ask about that. My insurance is crap but does cover prenatal care 100%.

Again sorry things are going so crappy. Hopefully they get better soon so you can relax and enjoy being pregnant.

shellperry · June 2018

Um I’m all in for the HM thread love it!!

notthecheat · June 2018

@allthingsgo thank you ❤️ I have been going to a birth center but my first pregnancy ended up a c-section and the midwives there don't deliver VBACs. I want to know and be comfortable with the person (s) delivering, so that would mean finding a different provider to get to know through prenatal appointments. The birth center recommended the first place that doesn't take my Insurance. My sister recommended the second place.

My previous blood work was done for infertility. Which I know is notorious for not not being covered. But it was denied again even when the midwife recoded it. I'm just super anxious that this won't be covered either because I don't even have a legit diagnosis or "good reason" for it. I mean, proof of pregnancy sounds ridiculous to me, why should I expect insurance to take it seriously. I don't think it counts as prenatal because it wasn't ordered during a prenatal appointment.

Should I just see the birth center for my initial appointment? Then they can order the test so it's from a legit prenatal appointment, and I can transfer after that?

This whole thing is making my head hurt. I'm so frustrated. Getting health care should not be this difficult.

kayjay44 · June 2018

@notthecheat you’re being totally reasonable. I would probably see the MWs and transfer from there.

I was shocked they didn’t even confirm my pregnancy at my first MW appointment - I guess they were like “it’s your third time, you clearly know you’re pregnant.”

notthecheat · June 2018

I mean, obviously the midwives don't do c-sections either at the birth center. So with DD I did all my prenatal care at the birth center and ended up being delivered by an OB I met that day. Which I'm not gonna lie was very nerve-wracking but I was happy with the job he did, so..... Would it be better to just do that again??

I dont know anymore.

lauriebream · June 2018

@notthecheat I’m so sorry you’re going through this, as if pregnancy isn’t stressful enough! I think I would just go to the MW for the first appt and get it transferred if you can. I hope that works and you don’t have to keep stressing over this.

allthingsgo · June 2018

@notthecheat I agree with that you should just stay with the midwives for care and then continue to look for someone that will do a vbac.

You could always call your insurance after receiving the order but before getting blood work done to see what, if any, cost there will be.

Dealing with insurance is the biggest PITA so I feel for you, truly.

PensiveCrayon · June 2018

@KristoKekerooni I know, right?

I'm so tired of going back and forth on whether Serena Joy is okay or not. Like, last week's Serena Joy? With the picture diagram of the schedule and her chance out of Gilead? And the week before when Waterford beat her? Totally on board. So sympathetic. But now she's totally irredeemable. Also, do we think Nick is dead? I don't think so. But then I was reading a review that speculated that the whole scenario was a setup based on what June told Waterford. But then why would they have just left her out there??? Gahhhhhh!

ruby696 · June 2018

@notthecheat I stayed with my midwife for the entirety of my pregnancy with DD even though I'd had a c-section 18 months before she was born. That made the VBAC a little more high risk (in case i hadn't fully healed). That didn't matter to my midwife. When I went into labor, she met me at the hospital. I did have a successful VBAC, but if I'd needed a repeat c-section, I was where I needed to be. Maybe you could do something like that?

KristoKekerooni · June 2018

@PensiveCrayon ,

Yes, exactly! When she was beat and the belittles? Ugh. And all the pity you have for her from going from an educated, strong woman to all this.. but then holding June down? Nope. I think the most telling part of that entire scene was that June was yelling "stop" and talking to SERENA, not Mr. Waterford. Because it's expected from him. He's a manipulative ass. But Serena? She and June have this weird halfway bond thing... so I can imagine how utterly betrayed she felt.
Oh, I was thinking that about Nick too! Because I have had the feeling all along that Mr. Waterford couldn't care less about the baby. Having a handmaid is more for control. And having a baby is more so he fits in and a leader. So I wouldn't be surprised if he set all this up... even if he left June to die. But more likely, because he's way more of an ass than that, I expect him to act like she was trying to escape or something. That way she can be punished-bad. I'm just hoping that Aunt Lydia steps in some point... you can tell she's not a fan of the Waterfords already, especially after June's confession to her about him hitting Serena.

etnyah · June 2018

Wow @notthecheat reading your initial post made me so mad. What the hell is wrong with them? Don’t really have any advice for you (looks like you’re getting some good advice already), just wanted to show my support. Gross behavior from someone who is supposed to help. How about you POAS, show up at their office and wave the stick in their faces?

madreofdragons · June 2018

@notthecheat my insurance and clinic was like that with DD. It was a lot of hoop jumping. Glad I have Kaiser now and everything is with them. I was thinking what @ruby696 said.

We had a crazy loud thunderstorm at 6 this morning. We stayed up late for the little one we had last night. We are zombie and mini zombie today.

notthecheat · June 2018

I scheduled my initial appointment with the Birth Center. July 9. No blood work needed for that. My sister told me they had her get it too before the first appointment, though they didn't refuse to schedule her until then. And her L&D nurse friend had it done also at another practice. So it made me feel a *little* better about it. Like it actually is a "thing."

Still not sure if/where I will transfer after the first appointment. Going to talk to the midwife there at the appointment and see what they say.

Thank you everyone. ❤️

conchispita · June 2018

@cmjenkies I ended up leaving early and have been in bed since. I don’t know how you guys do it, I suck at being pregnant. Let the first tri over already.

*edited to correct autocorrect

conchispita · June 2018

On another note, DD threw up in my bed, o my spot, on my pillow last night. I’m still not over it.

Omie_Wise · June 2018

@notthecheat I am switching OB offices for this pregnancy and when I called to set up the first appointment they tried to schedule me for a “proof of conception” appointment. I was super thrown and pushed back so she said, “well I guess you could wait until the 8 week US” I was like, “No, that’s exactly what I want”. I’m pregnant, I don’t need to prove that to anyone. So weird.

madreofdragons · June 2018

Found out there’s a decent chance that we’d only have to pay $20 for Harmony testing. I am horribly inpatient and would totally love to find out the sex super early. Find out if I’m keeping or trading all these vacuum sealed dresses.

kayjay44 · June 2018

We'll see how much longer I last here - I already got my first warning.

madreofdragons · June 2018

kayjay44 said:

We'll see how much longer I last here - I already got my first warning.

For what?!

D14 was before all the huge changes and was called mean nonstop but I still talk to a group of 15 or so daily. I’m not going to last if you get in trouble for letting people be ignorant and rude.

kayjay44 · June 2018

I was in June 14 so I saw the mass exodus - Because I suggested TB isn't the place for someone who thinks they can be offensive and not be called out on it. I review contracts for a living - I reviewed the TOU before sending it. But I guess they still believe it's a TOU violation. IDK.

kayjay44 · June 2018

But naming calling (which she did) appears to be totally ok. Cool.

conchispita · June 2018

@kayjay44 seriously? Here I am thinking there hasn’t been any real drama yet.

notthecheat · June 2018

@Omie_Wise I don't get it. Like are there so many women faking or incorrectly thinking they are pregnant that this is an issue?? I was just speechless when I was told to get bloodwork because I was so taken aback and I was trying so hard to figure it out

Edited: gif fail

etnyah · June 2018

@kayjay44 Ugh. Have you considered that maybe if you were more in tune with your body, you wouldn't get any warnings?

madreofdragons · June 2018

grebretso said:

@kayjay44 Ugh. Have you considered that maybe if you were more in tune with your body, you wouldn't get any warnings?

I was going to ask if anyone had tried having sex.

kayjay44 · June 2018

grebretso said:

@kayjay44 Ugh. Have you considered that maybe if you were more in tune with your body, you wouldn't get any warnings?

Must be the problem....

I’m going to go home and get in tune with my body - i.e. take my pants and bra off and eat potato chips in bed.

notthecheat · June 2018

Just finding the drama!! Why oh why do I always miss the good stuff before it gets censored

madreofdragons · June 2018

Have any of you other bumpers gotten to meet any of your imaginary friends? I’ve been lucky to meet 4 from D14. I swear I know these people better than my IRL friends.

kayjay44 · June 2018

@notthecheat - I’m mean for calling a girl out for implying that people who don’t get KU don’t know their bodies well enough.

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