TTC July 2015-November 2015
BFP November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Re: One and done?
I think we're one and done. DS is 19 months today, and our decision mainly has to do with our age. I was 35 when I had him (DH was 37), and I know people do it... but we feel we're too old to go through that newborn stage again. DS was rough, and it was not fun. I know it comes with the territory, but maybe being younger would have helped?! The lack of sleep in your mid-30's is tough, ha. Not sure... but it was definitely a change for what we were used to (granted we didn't meet until I was 29, and got married when I was 33). I was always (and still am) indifferent, but DH is definitely a no.
I don't think it's selfish at all and I also couldn't imagine NOT having DS! However, I still don't feel like myself... and it's mainly because Some people (my mom especially) keep saying he needs a friend. Well, he has 4 cousins - the youngest being 3.5 years older than him. We are with 2 of them a lot, and he'll grow up with them. I kind of think that's who he'll be close with. IDK... I go back and forth. Sometimes I think I could do it again, and the next minute - I don't think I could. That is probably selfish as many people have more than 1 kid, but then I think about it and wonder if maybe I was only meant to have 1. And that's OK.
I also think of the money we'll save and can move (in the next year) to a house we can truly live in forever - and spoil DS to pieces.
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016