FFFC: 6/8

emmaaa · June 2018

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DLpanda08 · June 2018

I got lectured about my weight by my midwife at my appointment yesterday and I’m mad at her because now I feel guilty enjoying my birthday cake today. Birthday cake should never come with a side of guilt.

skilouise · June 2018

Not having been pregnant before, I've always been mildly skeptical of the concept of "pregnancy brain," but oh my god. Last night I put my car in park before it had stopped all the way. I had my foot on the break and was only going maybe 2 mph as I inched towards a gas pump, but still... yikes.

kaf1788 · June 2018

I feel awful even saying this out loud (well, typing it) but sometimes I worry that my baby won't be as cute as my sister's 10 month old daughrer or my family won't love him/her as much (trust me I already know this is completely ridiculous). My sister is my best friend but growing up she was always the pretty/skinny/smart one and now she has a perfect beautiful angel baby that sleeps 10 hours every night. I really really don't want to project my own insecurities onto an innocent baby but it seems to already be starting.

Duckie678 · June 2018

Pregnancy brain is real. I put juice away in the oven, and I wore my scrub bottoms inside out all day long the other day. I also couldn't figure out why I couldn't start my truck with the key to the other car.

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

@kaf1788 I can guarantee you will see your child as more beautiful. Like you're going to be biased. I wonder sometimes if I think my children are more beautiful than some of their cousins simply because I am their mother or if it's really true. Either way my kids are gorgeous. You'll feel the same way. Even if they are equally attractive as their cousins.

kns1988 · June 2018

DS is 13 months old, and I seriously considered changing his name within the past few months. DH talked me out of it. I guess I don't mind sharing the name here. We named him Jason, but we always, always call him Jay. I actually wanted to name him Jay, but I didn't because I thought it sounded too much like a nickname. Now the only person that calls him by his real name is his pediatrician.

pttomato · June 2018

I don’t think DD is particularly beautiful or brilliant. I think she’s fairly average. I’m worried about becoming overly critical like my parents and I wish I thought she was the greatest kid ever.

Jackiemxoxo · June 2018

Pregnancy brain is so real. I accidentally put my maiden name on DD2's invest529 plan. I didn't realize it until a few days later and now I have to send them our marriage license. We have been married 9 years.

DD1 said to me, "Mommy, are you eating candy? I can smell it." I told her that it was candy for pregnant people. I was eating sour patch kids.

tosh24 · June 2018

I am really sad that I'm not going to be that cute pregnant lady with a belly. With my other two kids I was a healthy weight and felt super cute. Six years of infertility, 3 miscarriages, PTSD, and a ton of IUI/IVF meds have left me overweight and pretty grossed out by the way I look. I dug out my maternity pants from the basement and tried them on - they don't even fit. I am heavier now than 9 months pregnant with both my kids. I'm going to look like a whale come January. Four girls in my office went out on mat leave recently and they were all twigs with bellies. I'm going to be the beach ball with arms and legs

DLpanda08 · June 2018

@pttomato There is nothing wrong with being objective when it comes to your children. Just because you don’t think DD is the cutest and smarted kid alive doesn’t mean you don’t see the positive traits she does have.

@tosh24 I’m feeling the same way. That post recently about showing off our bump/bloat didn’t help either.

katethemom · June 2018

@tosh24 I know how you feel. I felt cute with my first pregnancy, too. But I didn't manage to lose any weight after DS was born. Now I'm 15 pounds heavier than I was at 9 months pregnant. I'm honestly dreading the bigger stage of pregnancy. I just hope I can get to a somewhat healthier weight again after this baby arrives.

mamadaisy13141619 · June 2018

Echoing previous comments on pregnancy brain! So far this pregnancy I have already nearly left my car running while I went in the store and when I was going to scramble some eggs I broke an egg into the trash can instead of the bowl. I told my husband I need to be supervised.

jgil85 · June 2018

I totally blamed losing my credit card and driver's license on pregnancy brain but really I was just being careless and now I can't find them.

leighbrek · June 2018

Pregnancy brain deserves its own thread. I asked my employee for some information, and she sent me a pile of stuff. I insisted that the information I wanted was not in anything she sent me, so she took coloured marker and literally circled all the data I wanted on the very first page. Also forgot to feed my dog, who will literally lead me to his food bowl at dinnertime. I don't know. Lack of sleep?

wkuandrea · June 2018

I'm really emotional today about the death of Anthony Bourdain. I'm also nearing the date of loss from my last pregnancy, so getting nervous. Also, I find myself irrationally angry with those skinny women that are "belly only" pregnancies. If I gain 5lbs you can see it, so...
Luckily my husband loves me.

ladystout08 · June 2018

@wkuandrea it hit me hard this morning too. I cried when I read the news.

galactickates · June 2018

Me too... I'm pretty sad. I knew he had struggled with personal demons but even so I didn't see it coming. What a huge loss.

galactickates · June 2018

wkuandrea said:

I'm really emotional today about the death of Anthony Bourdain. I'm also nearing the date of loss from my last pregnancy, so getting nervous. Also, I find myself irrationally angry with those skinny women that are "belly only" pregnancies. If I gain 5lbs you can see it, so...
Luckily my husband loves me.

I feel the same way. I also absolutely hate the bloat thread. I get so irritated everytime it gets bumped. Let that stupid thread die already.

AliKay20 · June 2018

galactickates said:

wkuandrea said:

I'm really emotional today about the death of Anthony Bourdain. I'm also nearing the date of loss from my last pregnancy, so getting nervous. Also, I find myself irrationally angry with those skinny women that are "belly only" pregnancies. If I gain 5lbs you can see it, so...
Luckily my husband loves me.

I feel the same way. I also absolutely hate the bloat thread. I get so irritated everytime it gets bumped. Let that stupid thread die already.

Guilty as the last person commenting on that thread but agree that it should disappear. That bump vs bloat topic always comes up despite science and I couldn’t help myself!

Also, w Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain all in one week...it does take a toll on my mind.

galactickates · June 2018

@AliKay20 - doesn't even matter... you won't be the last. That's going to be the thread that never dies.

ladystout08 · June 2018

Everything is hitting me today. I keep crying about everything. Like the economy, how much hate (and good) there is in the world, are we really doing the baby thing again. Lord I wish I could have a glass of wine.

LCRbelle · June 2018

@tosh24 I totally feel you! With my last pregnancy all I had ever known was loss and I was afraid to do anything that even remotely resembled exercise! By the end I was a whale. But it was so worth it in the end to have a healthy little boy!

AliKay20 · June 2018

@galactickates true that. Ugh. If we can mute threads we don’t want to see, that would make things a lot easier for all of us!

mrsmang · June 2018

I swear every time a thread is started that is one off for no reason I get so annoyed and then I get annoyed every time it gets new comments. I also feel sorta bad but not that I totally judge the people who start them. I tend to be very organized and a big rule follower so I just can’t understand not reading and following the norms of posting.

galactickates · June 2018

@Mrsmang agreed × 10. I'm trying to be more relaxed like "it's ok, you don't own the Jan bmb, chill out" but that lasts about 5 seconds before my OCD side of my brain bitch slaps my relaxed side.

sareej521 · June 2018

I just took 3 cheap tests this afternoon, i can't stop... Stupid lack of symptoms compared to my other pregnancies!

pttomato · June 2018

I hate the obsession over how women look even when ther’re pregnant. Even as a thin person who only really gained in my belly, I still had people frequently telling stuff like, well I gained less than 20 pounds when I was pregnant, I didn’t even look pregnant until my third trimester, I never got as big as you are, etc. Why is it better to not look pregnant when you are, or have a small belly or small baby? Also why do people feel the need to comment at all.

peachy104 · June 2018

I think I stare out my office window more than I get work done in the day....

emmaaa · June 2018

pttomato said:

I hate the obsession over how women look even when ther’re pregnant. Even as a thin person who only really gained in my belly, I still had people frequently telling stuff like, well I gained less than 20 pounds when I was pregnant, I didn’t even look pregnant until my third trimester, I never got as big as you are, etc. Why is it better to not look pregnant when you are, or have a small belly or small baby? Also why do people feel the need to comment at all.

This. I was smaller when I was pregnant with DD and didn't gain any weight and had people asking me if the baby was okay and if she was healthy and growing like she should because they though I was small. FTR, I always measure only a week behind.

emmaaa · June 2018

emmaaa said:

pttomato said:

I hate the obsession over how women look even when ther’re pregnant. Even as a thin person who only really gained in my belly, I still had people frequently telling stuff like, well I gained less than 20 pounds when I was pregnant, I didn’t even look pregnant until my third trimester, I never got as big as you are, etc. Why is it better to not look pregnant when you are, or have a small belly or small baby? Also why do people feel the need to comment at all.

This. I was smaller when I was pregnant with DD and didn't gain any weight and had people asking me if the baby was okay and if she was healthy and growing like she should because they though I was small. FTR, I always measure only a week behind.

And sorry to quote myself, but this goes into people commenting on anyone's size, ever. Including children. Unless you are a medical professional who said person is seeing for their professional opinion, keep your damn mouth shut. I had people ask me why DD was so small if she was breastfed and that I wasn't feeding her enough and needed to supplement with formula. Nothing against formula, but she didn't need it. She grows on her own curve and is petite. So again, keep your damn mouth shut,

galactickates · June 2018

@emmaaa - I just don't understand that. Never in my wildest thoughts would I ever dream of commenting on anyone's size, little or not. That's such a bizarre thing to do, also vvv rude

pttomato · June 2018

And my mom and sister were always super judgy because I wore clothes that didn’t try to hide my belly. Because how could you want people to see how fat you are?

sweetyjenj · June 2018

@Jackiemxoxo sour patch kids...candy for pregnant people...BRILLIANT!!!! If only I could use this trick on DH

@Kaf1788 when I was pregnant with DD I was afraid I wouldn't think she was pretty. I didn't want to have an ugly baby. Now, while i can appreciate other super cute/pretty babies, I totally think my girl is adorable and I often say to DH, "she's just so cute!" "look at her being cute" etc. Who knows if other people think she's cute, but we do

sparkymcgeee · June 2018

I'm bigger than I would like and I lose weight when I'm pregnant. I had people constantly concerned that my babies were unhealthy because of that. I didn't plan on losing weight while pregnant. I didn't go on a special diet and try to lose weight. But they always thought I was doing something wrong because of it. My doctor wasn't concerned because the baby was fine but the comments for real are annoying. Even my mom who is very sweet and doing it out of real concern was like, "you are getting so thin. What's going on here?" I get it but I can't help it. Really.

ladystout08 · June 2018

I forgot how my husband becomes over protective when I'm pregnant and I already want to stab him. We went out for dinner the other night to Macaroni Grill and all I wanted was a giant ball of mozzarella and he's like "You're not supposed to have soft cheeses" to which I retort "Basically all cheese in the U.S. is pasteurized anyway so it's fine" but he gave me that look so I didn't get the damn cheese.

Or, at the gym on the treadmill and he's like "What's your heart rate? Your coach said to keep it below 145!"

Like, I know he means well and he's extra cautious because of our history but mannnnnnnnnnnnn.

pttomato · June 2018

I judge myself for finding being a SAHM really hard. I only have one toddler and I struggle to keep up the house so it’s not a complete disaster. Mostly it’s just so boring and lonely. I should probably get my act together and try to get a job but I’ve been out for so long and now I’m pregnant trying to find anything seems pointless and I’m not sure where to start.

AliKay20 · June 2018

All I’m looking forward to is peacing out in 6-7 months for my mat leave. I basically got additional responsibilities today following my promotion and all I keep saying to myself is, “it’s okay. Only for 6 more months and none of this will be your problem.”

I ignore the fact that I could very well be stuck in this situation after I come back from mat leave since it’s not that important to me right now. #minordetails

SIX MONTHS!!! Woohoo. More like six months and some but I will happily round down in this scenario.

kgg2241 · June 2018

@AliKay20 Same here. I know maternity leave won't be a vacation, but man I am really looking forward to the time off. Setting that out of office automatic response is going to feel sooooo good.

galactickates · June 2018

I agree about mat leave. I can't wait to be off work!!! Sorry but i'm sick of sitting in a grey walled cube. I completely welcome the break

julesf817 · June 2018

pttomato said:

I judge myself for finding being a SAHM really hard. I only have one toddler and I struggle to keep up the house so it’s not a complete disaster. Mostly it’s just so boring and lonely. I should probably get my act together and try to get a job but I’ve been out for so long and now I’m pregnant trying to find anything seems pointless and I’m not sure where to start.

The toddler stage as a SAHM was BY FAR the hardest. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s exhausting and lonely and sucks a lot of the time. It gets easier when they get older. My son just turned four, and he still has his moments, but generally things are so much easier. And it’s also less lonely when you are just with them because they start acting like actual people who can sort of carry on conversations and stuff.

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