I much prefer full underwear. No skimpy little bikini briefs or thongs anymore. Those days were over once I had kids. I only want the granny panties now.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I much prefer full underwear. No skimpy little bikini briefs of thongs anymore. Those days were over once I had kids. I only want the granny panties now.
I’m totally the opposite. I hate wearing regular underwear, except to bed. I only wear thongs. Otherwise I feel like they always show through my clothes.
If u hate halo, try the Breyers Delights.. they’re way better.
When people say they enjoy breastfeeding and call it a “breastfeeding journey” I’m like no. Actually had someone on my fb newsfeed who posted a RIP to her “breastfeeding journey” like the kid refused the boob at like 18 mo and she had the start and end dates, etc. Yes bf is good for your baby and “free” but wow, overboard much?
If u hate halo, try the Breyers Delights.. they’re way better.
When people say they enjoy breastfeeding and call it a “breastfeeding journey” I’m like no. Actually had someone on my fb newsfeed who posted a RIP to her “breastfeeding journey” like the kid refused the boob at like 18 mo and she had the start and end dates, etc. Yes bf is good for your baby and “free” but wow, overboard much?
I was really emotional when my daughter quit breastfeeding. She was 15 months and only nursing once a day (before bed). She had RSV and couldn't breathe good so she didn't want to nurse. Sure, I could've pumped to keep my supply but it was probably the easiest way for her to wean like that. And even though it happened effortlessly, I was still sad it was over because I did enjoy breastfeeding once I got through the first few months.
I didn't post about it on FB though but I can see some people wanting to
I like breastfeeding and will probably be sad when I finish weaning DD. I enjoy nursing her as a toddler a lot more than nursing her as an infant though.
I think it’s crazy when parents won’t spend time away from their kids.
My coworker didn’t spend a single night away from her daughter until she was 5. I saw someone online the other day say they just spent their first night away from their son--he’s 13!
I miss my son when I’m away from him, but I think it’s healthy and good (especially for a marriage!) to have some kid-free days.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@saltedcaramel518 He's 13?! That blows my mind! I've spent 5 nights away from DS in his first year. 2 were to go to a hotel with DH and 3 were for work.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
I much prefer full underwear. No skimpy little bikini briefs of thongs anymore. Those days were over once I had kids. I only want the granny panties now.
I’m totally the opposite. I hate wearing regular underwear, except to bed. I only wear thongs. Otherwise I feel like they always show through my clothes.
I don't wear underwear at all. Hate them.
*unless it's shark week or I have a medical reason I'm bleeding and need to wear them*
I'm totally not on the underwire bandwagon. Bralettes all the way for me. I haven't worn an underwire bra for more than an hour in the last three years. I'm sure that'll change once I start BF, but for now, free the tatas!
I really enjoyed breastfeeding my kids. It's my favorite part of having a baby. I don't think there is anything wrong with enjoying it and being sad if you are no longer able to do it. I BF'ed my daughter until a week or two shy of 18 months. DS was 11 months and it made me sad. I dried up and couldn't do it anymore.
Utah state legislature agrees with you. My daughter is 7 and she goes about half a block to a playground in our complex to play. She broke her arm there. She knew she needed to come home and she told us what happened. Did she get hurt? Yes. Would she have gotten hurt had I been there. Yes. I think she learned a more valuable lesson about how to navigate a problem by herself than if I had been there and rushed to her aid and didn't give her time to think about what to do. So I'm glad I live in a state where something like this is not going to land me in jail.
I went on my first date with my husband when my daughter was a month old. I remember googling "first date after baby" (I was a little nervous and googled practically everything). I sooo wished I hadn't because I found a bunch of stories about people who just "don't feel ready to leave the baby yet" and "wouldn't enjoy a date night anyway" and their babies were 6+ months old. That's DATES we're talking about, leaving the baby for literally a couple hours. They must have been SAHMs or lived in countries with much better leave than the U.S., because most moms that I know would not be able to go that long without being separated due to work obligations. Even so, it made my emotional postpartum self feel guilty about a little lunch date and even guiltier about having to return to work at 12 weeks.
I know I mentioned this in the maternity leave thread, but especially for women who will be returning to work, I think it is very helpful to have the experience of being away from baby for short periods of time. Of course there is anxiety that goes with that but it helps to reinforce the idea that things will be okay when you're away.
Me (28) & DH (35) Met 4/2010+Married 8/2014 TTC #1 August 2016. BFP 10/2016= DD Born 6.23.17
NTNP April 2018. BFP 5/2018 EDD 1.29.19 *Team Green*
Just to comment on the bra debate, I definitely prefer underwire, but I also like to wear sports bras as long as they're well-made with sufficient padding.
I am firmly on team leave the kids sometimes. I need adult time. I need a break. When my son was two I went on a trip to my friend’s wedding in Canada for five days by myself. I had my OWN room and went hiking and exploring. It was the best thing ever.
DH and I went to a wedding when DD was 1 month old and my mom and MIL kept her a few hours here and there before I went back to work. I think it was good for me to be able to have some me time and get used to it before going back to work. Someone told me I was weird because I didn't cry when I dropped DD off at the sitter's the first day back. I mean, I wasn't sad...I was excited to go to work and I knew she was in good hands. I think she slept over the first time around 6 months
@PolarBear517 Isn’t it insane how our culture can make us feel guilty when we otherwise wouldn’t?
On my first day back at work after maternity leave, everyone asked me, “Are you okay? Did you cry? Wasn’t it hard to leave?” And, honestly, my son was borderline colicky, and it was a bit of a relief to have a break from the all day screaming. It was nice to think about something other than “when did he eat last...” Though, yes, I was happy to get home to him.
p.s. I’m not discounting anyone’s experience that had trouble leaving their child. Just sharing my personal experience.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Confession: I've never left DD overnight and she is 21 months. We are planning our first overnight away from her in the next month. Until now she didn't reliably STTN, and I felt bad making someone else deal with that. Plus my family (who typically watch her) wouldn't go to her at night because they are super pro-extinction CIO, and my ILs still don't really understand what foods have dairy in them which made me more hesitant. Whenever I leave her during the day, I never feel any desire to go back though, so I'm pretty sure I need way more time away.
I’m on team underwire and team thong! Although right now I think I need to find some new bras for pregnancy. My current ones seem uncomfortable now.
My UO... I find the sound of cicadas in the summertime to be relaxing and therapeutic. They’re the ugliest bugs ever, but I like the buzzing sound they make.
@emmaaa SAME. I was a 42H BEFORE getting pregnant. Scared to get a new measurement now. Luckily my current bras are minimizers and have a lot of "give". But yes, underwire all the way. It's not even a matter of preference for me. Same as @sparkymcgeee I'd look like one of those women in National Geographic if I didn't wear a supportive bra!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
My UO... I really really don't understand the "I'll just wait until I meet my baby and see what he/she looks like" approach to naming a kid. Not because I judge people who don't pick out a name early but because newborn babies barely look like people to me. Like I've never seen a newborn and thought "oh that's definitely a Sarah". They all just look like babies!
My UO... I really really don't understand the "I'll just wait until I meet my baby and see what he/she looks like" approach to naming a kid. Not because I judge people who don't pick out a name early but because newborn babies barely look like people to me. Like I've never seen a newborn and thought "oh that's definitely a Sarah". They all just look like babies!
I used to feel 100% the same way until Dd2 was born and I couldn't call her the name we picked out. She was just... the other name that we had considered and then dropped off the list. So we changed it a few hours after she was born (hadn't done the paperwork yet thankfully), and it suits her perfectly.
We had two names that we couldn't decide between. We decided while I was in labor that if she was less than 7 lbs, she would be L. If she was more than 7 lbs, she would be N. She was 6 lbs 11 oz, so L it was
I don't "enjoy" underwire but I NEED it in order to keep my boobs in the right vicinity. Everything else just smushes my boobs in a very unflattering way.
Everyone in the world tried to make me and dh feel guilty for going out to a nice dinner to celebrate our anniversary while ds was in the NICU. I just couldn't handle being there another night and I needed so desperately to have a glass of wine and not hear monitors constantly beeping.
DH and I are counting down to our trip to Vegas next June sans kids!
Everyone in the world tried to make me and dh feel guilty for going out to a nice dinner to celebrate our anniversary while ds was in the NICU. I just couldn't handle being there another night and I needed so desperately to have a glass of wine and not hear monitors constantly beeping.
DH and I are counting down to our trip to Vegas next June sans kids!
Wait, what?! I can’t believe they’d want you guys to feel guilty about this as if you all did not feel guilty enough for having your DS in the NICU. As a fellow NICU mom, I would have said the opposite and encouraged you to go enjoy a nice dinner. I don’t get their thought process on this one at all!
I have a similar story about my daughter and her name. Her name is Elizabeth and I've always loved the name Betty. I just think it's cute. When she popped out she just wasn't a Betty. She wasn't this rough and tumble looking girl. She was dainty and feminine. So the beauty of the name Elizabeth is that we could pick a different nickname and so she's Eliza. It fits her so much more than Betty. My mom had the same experience with my sister. Her name is Andrea and my mom always envisioned a little girl named Andi. But my sister so far from tomboy it's laughable. So she's always been Ann or Annie. My mom said she never seemed like an Andi after she met her.
I don't "enjoy" underwire but I NEED it in order to keep my boobs in the right vicinity. Everything else just smushes my boobs in a very unflattering way.
Same. By the end of the day my underwire always finds a way to stab me. Even with brand new bras. It’s a small price to pay for not poking an eye out though. If I ever find a sports bra that doesn’t dig into my shoulders and make the girls look saggy AF I would be so freaking happy.
married 7.11.09
Me: 31 DH: 36
DD (14) and DS (11) adopted from US Foster care December 2016 BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
It's not just about looks, but believe it or not, babies do have little mini personalities when they're born. With DD, we only had one girl name picked out and luckily, it fit her perfectly. I had a stubborn labour and little girl came out feisty and oh so mad. Her name is a strong, regal, name and it fits her perfectly. DS, on the other hand, was a quick labour and he came into this world as cool as a cucumber. He was quiet and calm. DH and I had a list of 3 boy names and it was obvious that only one of them fit his little looks and personality.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
When DD was born I didn’t think the name we picked fit her, but it was the only name we could agree on so we used it. I’m used to her being that name now but It still doesn’t seem like the right name for her. DH thinks I’m crazy and her name is great though.
Re: UO Thursday - 6/7
Which I never knew was an UO until more recently in my O16 group lol
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Edit to fix gif that wasn't working
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
Love me some coconut bliss, low-fat regular ice cream or homemade banana nice cream though
When people say they enjoy breastfeeding and call it a “breastfeeding journey” I’m like
I didn't post about it on FB though but I can see some people wanting to
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
My coworker didn’t spend a single night away from her daughter until she was 5. I saw someone online the other day say they just spent their first night away from their son--he’s 13!
I miss my son when I’m away from him, but I think it’s healthy and good (especially for a marriage!) to have some kid-free days.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
*unless it's shark week or I have a medical reason I'm bleeding and need to wear them*
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Utah state legislature agrees with you. My daughter is 7 and she goes about half a block to a playground in our complex to play. She broke her arm there. She knew she needed to come home and she told us what happened. Did she get hurt? Yes. Would she have gotten hurt had I been there. Yes. I think she learned a more valuable lesson about how to navigate a problem by herself than if I had been there and rushed to her aid and didn't give her time to think about what to do. So I'm glad I live in a state where something like this is not going to land me in jail.
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/29/well/family/utah-passes-free-range-parenting-law.html
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
@saltedcarmel518
I went on my first date with my husband when my daughter was a month old. I remember googling "first date after baby" (I was a little nervous and googled practically everything). I sooo wished I hadn't because I found a bunch of stories about people who just "don't feel ready to leave the baby yet" and "wouldn't enjoy a date night anyway" and their babies were 6+ months old. That's DATES we're talking about, leaving the baby for literally a couple hours. They must have been SAHMs or lived in countries with much better leave than the U.S., because most moms that I know would not be able to go that long without being separated due to work obligations. Even so, it made my emotional postpartum self feel guilty about a little lunch date and even guiltier about having to return to work at 12 weeks.
I know I mentioned this in the maternity leave thread, but especially for women who will be returning to work, I think it is very helpful to have the experience of being away from baby for short periods of time. Of course there is anxiety that goes with that but it helps to reinforce the idea that things will be okay when you're away.
Met 4/2010+Married 8/2014
TTC #1 August 2016. BFP 10/2016= DD Born 6.23.17
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
On my first day back at work after maternity leave, everyone asked me, “Are you okay? Did you cry? Wasn’t it hard to leave?” And, honestly, my son was borderline colicky, and it was a bit of a relief to have a break from the all day screaming. It was nice to think about something other than “when did he eat last...” Though, yes, I was happy to get home to him.
p.s. I’m not discounting anyone’s experience that had trouble leaving their child. Just sharing my personal experience.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I also enjoy breastfeeding. But...I’m working on weaning my 2 1/2 year old. It’s time.
My UO... I’m ready for fall. This summer heat is for the birds.
My UO... I find the sound of cicadas in the summertime to be relaxing and therapeutic. They’re the ugliest bugs ever, but I like the buzzing sound they make.
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
DH and I are counting down to our trip to Vegas next June sans kids!
My mom had the same experience with my sister. Her name is Andrea and my mom always envisioned a little girl named Andi. But my sister so far from tomboy it's laughable. So she's always been Ann or Annie. My mom said she never seemed like an Andi after she met her.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019