Small amount of red wine occasionally...

knottie2167908c06f06abf · May 2018

I am almost 28 weeks pregnant and I am really craving a small glass red wine. As we know there are so many mixed reviews in this. I have researched it to death really. Anyone had bits of wine with past pregnancies and have perfect babies!!?

CecilB93 · May 2018

(Ignore this box, stupid phone...)

I want to start by saying everyone is different, every pregnancy is different. What is fine for one person doesn't automatically mean it will be fine for you, too.

That being said, yes. When I had DS I enjoyed one glass every now and again. Maybe 2/month tops, more likely just 1/month though. Never more than one glass a night though. Since you're well past your first trimester, all the important things have developed. In my personal opinion, one small glass won't be an issue. Again, my personal opinion.

wildtot · May 2018

I’m part of the “why risk it” team. You’ve made it this far and almost to the finish line! Baby is still developing and growing so why risk it. Again just because it was fine with a few people it may not be the same result for others. We also don’t know your medical/pregnancy history to tell you it’s ok. Your doctor may say otherwise so check with them first before you rely on internet stranger’s advice who know nothing about you. Every doctor may also have a different opinion.

nackie · May 2018

I had a glass with dinner once a week or so with my now 2 year old and he’s brilliant and perfectly healthy. My doctors were also perfectly ok with that level of alcohol.
I think most research says an occasional glass doesn’t cause any harm. But if it’s going to cause you more stress than enjoyment, I wouldn’t bother.

izza2 · May 2018

I urge you to do your own research on this (and other pregnancy "no-no's").

Research does show that the occasional glass of wine/alcohol doesn't cause harm during pregnancy. But if you're going to stress about it afterward and worry you may have caused an issue with LO, it's not worth that stress.
And occasional from what I've seen means up to 2 (I believe) glasses a week. And those are portioned glasses, not "fill her up" glasses.

meggyme · May 2018

I chose not to drink during pregnancy, not necessarily because I thought an occasional glass would hurt but because I didn’t want the responsibility of keeping track of how much or when my last glass was. I’m especially easy to talk into more wine, especially after being sober for awhile. It was easier to say no to all than no after the first glass.

paytonpedro · May 2018

knottie2167908c06f06abf said:

I am almost 28 weeks pregnant and I am really craving a small glass red wine. As we know there are so many mixed reviews in this. I have researched it to death really. Anyone had bits of wine with past pregnancies and have perfect babies!!?

No amount of alcohol is safe in pregnancy.

Wishilivedinflorida · May 2018

paytonpedro said:

knottie2167908c06f06abf said:

I am almost 28 weeks pregnant and I am really craving a small glass red wine. As we know there are so many mixed reviews in this. I have researched it to death really. Anyone had bits of wine with past pregnancies and have perfect babies!!?

No amount of alcohol is safe in pregnancy.

Actually, no amount of alcohol has “been proven” safe. Heavy amounts can lead to FAS but small amounts of alcohol have been consumed by many pregnant women without untoward effects. Unfortunately, since a formal trial is unethical, we will never have an answer to how much alcohol is considered safe.

MLS6212 · May 2018

The technical terminology is Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Meaning not all cases are as severe as what we typically think of as FAS associated with heavy drinking. Please refer to this article: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fetal-alcohol-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20352901

This post sounds like you're trying to justify drinking. If you're going to do it, don't try to find anecdotal evidence to justify your decision. Some women will tell you that they were able to drink x amount during their pregnancies and their babies were fine. Some women might admit that they drank x amount and their children had/have issues. As for my anecdotal evidence I can attest that I abstained from alcohol during both of my pregnancies. My older son is 26 months old and speaks in clear, coherent, full sentences; can count to 16; knows all of his shapes and colors; and has great motor skills. I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my younger son so the jury's still out on him, but other than food poisoning causing early contractions that had to be stopped at 32 weeks I've had a healthy pregnancy thus far. But was it the abstaining from alcohol that contributed to my older son's progress and my healthy second pregnancy? It's hard to tell. But I do know that by abstaining from alcohol for my entire pregnancies I had a 0% chance of my sons having a FASD. The risk wasn't worth it to me.

wishiwaspreggo · July 2018

I know this thread is from May, but @MLS6212 holy sanctimommy, Batman!

Congratulations on your gifted son. It must be so hard to keep up with him. Tell us more about how perfect your kids are thanks to your clean and excellent, complication-free pregnancy.

For anyone else reading this, an anecdote for you to enjoy. My mom gave me a pregnancy book from the 60's because it was the first with full-color fetal photography and was high tech at the time. I read the advice section by an OBGYN and he recommended a cocktail and a cigarette in the evening to help you relax and de-stress. Big shocker, babies survived and somehow thrived despite that terrible advice.

Also, my friend - an MD who interned with an OBGYN - told me that a glass of wine once in a while in third trimester will have zero impact on your baby's health. I had a 2 ounce glass on occasion after 30 weeks. Pregnant women are human beings, too, and I felt like complete shit at that point. The flavor of the wine reminded me that I'd return to my previous state and wouldn't feel like a bloated whale zombie for the rest of my life.

harpseal135 · July 2018

MLS6212 said:

The technical terminology is Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Meaning not all cases are as severe as what we typically think of as FAS associated with heavy drinking. Please refer to this article: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fetal-alcohol-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20352901

This post sounds like you're trying to justify drinking. If you're going to do it, don't try to find anecdotal evidence to justify your decision. Some women will tell you that they were able to drink x amount during their pregnancies and their babies were fine. Some women might admit that they drank x amount and their children had/have issues. As for my anecdotal evidence I can attest that I abstained from alcohol during both of my pregnancies. My older son is 26 months old and speaks in clear, coherent, full sentences; can count to 16; knows all of his shapes and colors; and has great motor skills. I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my younger son so the jury's still out on him, but other than food poisoning causing early contractions that had to be stopped at 32 weeks I've had a healthy pregnancy thus far. But was it the abstaining from alcohol that contributed to my older son's progress and my healthy second pregnancy? It's hard to tell. But I do know that by abstaining from alcohol for my entire pregnancies I had a 0% chance of my sons having a FASD. The risk wasn't worth it to me.

Despite this being older post: congrats! You just insulted every mom who "did not drink" and "did everything right" during their pregnancy and has a child with a defect, learning disability, cognitive issues. You must feel so proud!

SpongeWorthy · July 2018

MLS6212 said:

The technical terminology is Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Meaning not all cases are as severe as what we typically think of as FAS associated with heavy drinking. Please refer to this article: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fetal-alcohol-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20352901

This post sounds like you're trying to justify drinking. If you're going to do it, don't try to find anecdotal evidence to justify your decision. Some women will tell you that they were able to drink x amount during their pregnancies and their babies were fine. Some women might admit that they drank x amount and their children had/have issues. As for my anecdotal evidence I can attest that I abstained from alcohol during both of my pregnancies. My older son is 26 months old and speaks in clear, coherent, full sentences; can count to 16; knows all of his shapes and colors; and has great motor skills. I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my younger son so the jury's still out on him, but other than food poisoning causing early contractions that had to be stopped at 32 weeks I've had a healthy pregnancy thus far. But was it the abstaining from alcohol that contributed to my older son's progress and my healthy second pregnancy? It's hard to tell. But I do know that by abstaining from alcohol for my entire pregnancies I had a 0% chance of my sons having a FASD. The risk wasn't worth it to me.

Based on my anecdotal evidence, NOT drinking during pregnancy leads to a baby with a 7 month hospital stay and 11 surgeries before the age of 1. So drink up, cupcake!

rklinge0 · July 2018

Thank you @SpongeWorthy for pointing this out. I did everything right in my pregnancy with dd, stopped drinking from the moment we started trying, took my vitamins, and exercised. And I know my road is different but she was born with a genetic anomaly ( developmental delayed) and a chd (vsd and ppo) with ohs before 7 months.

aliciac2008 · July 2018

MLS6212 said:

The technical terminology is Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Meaning not all cases are as severe as what we typically think of as FAS associated with heavy drinking. Please refer to this article: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fetal-alcohol-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20352901

This post sounds like you're trying to justify drinking. If you're going to do it, don't try to find anecdotal evidence to justify your decision. Some women will tell you that they were able to drink x amount during their pregnancies and their babies were fine. Some women might admit that they drank x amount and their children had/have issues. As for my anecdotal evidence I can attest that I abstained from alcohol during both of my pregnancies. My older son is 26 months old and speaks in clear, coherent, full sentences; can count to 16; knows all of his shapes and colors; and has great motor skills. I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my younger son so the jury's still out on him, but other than food poisoning causing early contractions that had to be stopped at 32 weeks I've had a healthy pregnancy thus far. But was it the abstaining from alcohol that contributed to my older son's progress and my healthy second pregnancy? It's hard to tell. But I do know that by abstaining from alcohol for my entire pregnancies I had a 0% chance of my sons having a FASD. The risk wasn't worth it to me.

(Lurking for the TTGP board)

Well, my toddler is now 3 years old. She has been reading short words since she was 30 months. Knew her alphabet at 24 months. Could count to 20 at 18 months and knew all her colors and shapes before then. I'm a piano teacher, and she can find several notes on the piano and she's only 3 years old.

Guess what? I had one beer once a week during my 3rd trimester.

I'm not saying you can drink and have a completely safe pregnancy, but you cannot base you child's success on your decision to not drink.

SpongeWorthy · July 2018

@rklinge0 My guy has CHD as well. Three of those hospital months were recovering from OHS. So nice to meet another special needs Mom here

But yeah. Just because you “do everything right” doesn’t mean you won’t end up with the short end of the stick. Can you give them the best chance to succeed? Sure. But most birth defects and developmental delays are no fault of the parent.

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