Halfway way through day 1 of potty training. Lots of pee accidents and some intentional lol We got luck with a poop in potty because i was watching his face turning red. We sit him every 30 mins but he either pees before or after and won’t tell us even if we ask him. So much bribing going on to keep him seated.
We are stuck in the house because it has been pouring and there has been a tropical storm brewing. We also just found out that we sold our house and I balled my eyes out. I can’t really pin point what made me cry. I am just really sad even though this is what we wanted. We for sure didn’t want to pay two mortgages. These hormones suck A**
Just back from Ikea with a cranky DH who just wanted to be in bed all day. I'd rather get all the projects and errands done today and relax/do fun activities tomorrow and Monday. I plan on spending the afternoon organizing the baby's room and cleaning and I'm actually excited about it!
Slept in this morning until 8:30a, went downstairs to breakfast all ready..and now I'm sitting in bed by myself with my laptop and my baby blanket project to do what I want for the next hour or so. It's a good day!
My FIL and SIL are in town this weekend. All day yesterday DH was telling 4yo DD that we'd be going to a baseball game this afternoon, but last night he realized that he got the times mixed up and the game starts at 7p! That's usually when we're reading and snuggling the kids for bed. So DH and DD made "a deal" that if DD and DS nap today, then we'll go to the baseball game early tonight and stay a couple of innings at least. My FIL and DH just left to grab some things at the store, and since the kids hadn't napped yet, they took them with them hoping they'll nap in the car (FIL will sit with them in the car). So now I'm just home with my SIL, but she's doing her own thing and so am I.
They just came home, actually, and no naps happened. Oh well! I'm sure it will still be fun. We're gonna sit on the lawn and hopefully no foul balls knock anyone over.
Went to an aunts birthday party and DS spent the entire time melting down over EVERYTHING. Thank god DH was there to walk him around and take him outside because I would have lost it. He’s in rare form today, can you say early bed time?
Well we also decided to get the Tdap and now DH has a stomach ache. I only have a dull arm and hopefully that's it. Got some storage I need to get set up!
We heard the car we ordered won't be ready until the first week of August...so we might get a different color at this point and possibly pick it up tonight. It's just a hassle to go two more months without a second car especially with my mom arriving on June 28th. Part of me wants to wait but part of me also doesn't want to be managing DH and I's schedule with one car - lots of doc appointments coming up. Decisions!
@wildtot sounds normal for potty training. DS didn’t get it in the potty once on day 1. Day 2, he went to daycare and didnt have a single accident until he was home with me. It gets frustrating before you have success!
Little bummed today because I do not have plans for the holiday weekend. I used to have friends to hang out with, what happened to my life?! I have also been up since 3am because the baby wouldn’t stop moving. I dozed a little bit at one point but she moved again and I woke from a deep sleep.
@flockofmoosen3 sounds like a lovely day! @kissableviv I hope you get the car situation figured out. I have been on the one car schedule before and it sucks! Do you take DH to work or can he get there without the car, or does he take the car and leave you at home? When we have one car I take DH so DS and I can have the car, but I have a friend whose DH left her stranded at home with her two youngest (who missed like, 4 weeks of preschool) when they were carless for awhile and I would have been going stir crazy!
I got an interview scheduled for next week for the library job (where SIL is the director). Its honestly the best of both worlds, I work (and its at a library!) but the hours are pretty convenient (friday 1-6 and sat 9-2, I'm guessing) so DH can cover DS for the friday hours and no preschool is needed. They also all know I am pregnant and would need a couple weeks (but in this case only 2 days each week) to recover and I could probably start up again relatively soon after birth since its short hours.
Potty training is exhausting! Just 30 more mins till bedtime and I’m just gonna let him sleep as usual. I’ll deal with night training another time after baby. This kid holds in his pee until after he’s sat on his potty. We tried to do plain undies for most of the day. I don’t think DH has ever hand washed this much in his life (hand washing the peed undies so we don’t run out and avoid the washing machine).
@SmashJam we have a scooter:) but it's been "chilly" this winter so he has taken the car more often, on top of it he needs the car at work to move equipment for filming at times so in those cases I have to leave him the car. SomwtiSom I take him and drive back. But it feels kind of a waste on days when I end up not going anywhere. It's really not that terrible but at this point I want to get the car seat installed and the car organized. And when both my mom and stepdad arrive, we will need a second vehicle...we can always rent one but at this point I'd rather close the deal. That's exciting about the job interview! Sounds like a great arrangement for you! @wildtot sounds exhausting indeed I hope you see progress!
@chaser61 can totally relate with not having any plans these holidays. Although recently I’ve wanted to do something but then if plans are actually made i end up hoping i never agreed to them lol.
@kissableviv if the only think keeping you from getting your car is the color I’d totally just pick a different color. Especially if it’s available ASAP.
@SmashJam that sounds awesome! I’d love to work in a library!
@acunamatada ugh. Days like those are so frustrating. I hope tomorrow is better!
Hormonal rant. Manchild spent 3 hours on the couch while I organized the crap out of the room because he was feeling sick after the tdap. We didn't make it to the dealership because our guy had left already so now guess what, he (DH) is doing projects and it's 830pm. Bedroom is a mess because he is measuring the curtains, he wants to go to Target to get stuff, he comes and ask what else we wanna do. How about making all this shit happen at 5pm instead? I get he wasn't feeling well but I did a bunch of stuff and now I'm pooped and I don't want to have to provide guidance or input on anything. 34w preggo ladies don't usually get a burst of energy this late so I'm ready to have a late dinner and call it a night!
@hillbillywife it was the color. They really make a few of this model in general so they are hard to come by and usually have to be ordered. We were fine with it but we were promised a completely different timeline. We like the option they have in stock at the dealership so unless it has a bunch of useless expensive crap we don't want on it we will probably purchase it tomorrow !
Well, I had my very first full on pregnant lady meltdown in the middle of a theme park yesterday. First let me say, it was HOT. 90 degrees, sun was intense, and it was super crowded of course. So while my son was napping in his stroller I went to get water and some snacks knowing he’d wake up hungry. As I’m standing in line, I literally had not moved for 10 minutes. The service at this place was truly atrocious, I don’t think the staff had any idea what they were doing - maybe because they just opened for the season and no one is trained? Well anyway, I was seriously dehydrated and in need of water, standing in the beating sun, when suddenly out of nowhere it started to pour and then my husband texts that our son woke up and is throwing a fit. so I decided to abandon the line. I get back and quickly realize the kid needs food. we had an early lunch and of course all he would eat was apple sauce. So my husband goes back to get the food and water. My son tries going over to a nearby table and taking some other kids French fries, obviously I had to stop him, and he had a full on tantrum. I had woken up with a headache that day that never really went away, and it was pounding as I tried to control his tantrum in the middle of a crowded theme park. Also my back and entire body were just sore and aching and the dehydration wasn’t helping, but I had to hold him because he was so upset. Between the weight of a 25 pound child pushing on my lungs and uterus, and of course th baby in there, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. He wouldn’t go in his stroller, and we had stuff all over the table. I started trying to put all our stuff away so I could go find my husband and get help because I had started to feel panicked. I kept dropping things and having to bend over while holding him and I was becoming really desperate. I just remember this one woman standing there watching me with this weird possibly sympethetic smile on her face but she never offered to help, like when I dropped the bag of wipes she just watched me struggle to pick it up. Anyway I got everything loaded and had to push the stroller while carrying my screaming son through the crowded park and navigate around a parade that was going on to get to where my husband was, and by the time I got there I thought I was going to pass out. He had my water and I gave him my son and grabbed the water and literally drank the whole thing in like a minute. And just stood under a tree and cried. And the kid was still crying so I took him back, because of course all he wants is his mom, and I ran for the first store I could find, and literally just sat down on the floor in the middle of the store under the air conditioning vent until we were both able to calm down. Things got better after that as we cooled off and hydrated and ate our snack, and thankfully no one made us leave until we were ready. It was not my proudest pregnancy moment, or parenting monent in general.
In the end my son had a blast in the water park, I think it was just too hot for both of us yesterday. Today is cooler but storming right now. We have breakfast with Elmo at 9, will do a few more rides and then head over to a family birthday party.
ETA we went to bed at 8, which is why I’m up at 530am lol. That’s what happens when you share a hotel room with a one year old.
@zande2016 oh man I would consider thinking of the air condiditioned store as a good place to eat the snack a parenting win in my book! AND you didn't scream at anyone or throw anything. I hate it when people watch me struggle with shit. I had someone talk shit about where my stroller was placed once, all folded up and put there by a waiter, not me. As I was struggling to open it and then get teh door open and wrangle my then almost 1 year old, everyone in the restaurant was staring at me, no one offered to help. I almost lost my shit and yelled at everyone, lol. And I feel your pain about the sharing a hotel room with a 1 year old! Hopefully breakfast with Elmo is wonderful!
I think I had contractions last night while laying on my right side. I thought it was just me having to poo but the feeling came and went, then stopped completely when I flopped to my left side.It happened several different times in the night. It was super weird. Also, you'd think if it was having to poo I'd have to have gone and I never actually had to get up. Before we went to bed I was having BH so intense I could feel them in my neck muscles. I had a decent amount of water last night so I don't know what was causing it, although Bernie was super active all day, to the point where it hurt, so maybe that was it. Ah, the beginning of the late third tri conundrum: Do I have to poop, or is it contractions? lol.
@SmashJam I had a contraction conundrum last night too. We did a lot of walking and it it was really hot and I never drink enough water. I had contractions for like 6 hours. OB told me last week to have no more than 5 in an hour or you should call in. I probably should have called but I figured I’m probably dehydrated and I’m trying to push washer today. I had lots of pressure this morning in my back doe as I was trying to get comfortable and thought the same thing “is this another contraction or do I have to poop?”
@zande2016 vacations with little kids are so hard! I’m glad you were able to recover from your desperation. I totally understand those feelings of helplessness. I also hate it when I’m visibly struggling and people are staring at me and not offering to help. What is with that? I hope today is worlds better!
@zande2016 I am sorry to hear you had such a rough day. I hate it when people just watch but don’t offer help. Although I’d probably breakdown crying if they did help. I hope today is better and you have a great time st breakfast!
@kissableviv ugh i am not s fan of late night projects or rush of energy. My H goes through that too. Last night he was asking me what furniture i would like him to make because he has to buy a saw of some sort soon. Ok he doesn’t have to, he wants too because apparently everything else we have to do is not enough or interesting for him.
@SmashJam hope you feel better today! I get super cramps and with contractions when baby is super active. I was told it was uterine irritation.
Well it’s my weekend to sleep in but couldn’t yesterday because DS woke up from his cough attack and DH can’t hear him (per usual). Today everyone is still asleep and I can’t seem to go back to sleep. I know DS peed through his pull ups and I really want H to deal with it since it’s his morning.
@zande2016 1 is such a rough age when dealing with things like that. We took a trip to universal studios when my daughter turned 1 and it was like one nonstop meltdown.
I haven't been able to post or read much lately. My 2 year old had strep last week. She is better now, but still on medication. The exhaustion from being anemic is no joke either. I just feel like there is so much that needs my attention before the baby gets here, but it's so hard to summon the energy!
+1 for a super active baby. Once again, it's either I'm concerned he isn't moving or he is crazy. I think maybe all the sugar I had yesterday made him hyper. Lol.
@zande2016 sorry about the meltdown, for me heat makes everything worse so if you add that to all three stuff that was going on I can totally understand where you're coming from. Hope breakfast is nice!
@wildtot it's frustrating, like , hello, you had all day! I hope DH deals with the pee so you can relax even while not sleeping.
@cseley321 oh no! Hope the little is better now. I feel like no matter how much I do there's always more. Hopefully we're ready at least for the basics!
We're off to a baby shower soon. They are having breakfast tacos so I'm pretty excited!
I think we might give up on potty training. He doesn’t seem ready. He won’t say when he needs to pee/poo or if he has already done it. Idk guys, i know it’s not suppose to be easy but when do you determine they are just not ready?
@wildtot I don't know how to tell if a kid isn't ready but from experience i know I didn't start until I was sure DS would be able to tell me that he needed to go, that seemed key to me, and I started right before 2.5. That being said I know people who trained their kids at 18 months, but I think if your kid just doesn't seem ready, don't push it! I had so.much.stress. about potty training and there were days during our time where I went back to diapers because he would just pee on the floor or pee in his pants and i was losing my damn mind, lol.
@SmashJam yeah i think i might just wait or start a slow transition if possible. He’s got some speech delay therapy starting soon so maybe his communication will improve and he’ll be able to tell us.
We have been non stop this month, with a party every weekend, something going on majority of the week days, and our home mid renovation. The last of our parties ended yesterday and I told myself today I was gonna get up and try to put the house back together a little. Here I am day of and I don't want to get off my couch lol the struggle is real when it all finally catches up!
@wildtot How old is your son? You may have mentioned it but I didn't read every post just that you weren't sure he was ready because he wouldnt tell you. My experience with my son was this. I started potty training as soon as he turned 2. We went to the store and I let him choose a special potty and underwear and made a really big deal about it. I also went to the dollar tree and got a lot of little toys as incentive (or bribes) and m&m's. Day 1 we tried pull ups and found them not to be effective at all, I realized pretty quick into it that they were no different than diapers except that they helped in learning how to pull up and down, which underwear do the same thing. We threw those out pretty quick into the first Day and let him go naked from the waist down. I downloaded a potty training app and set a timer for every 30 minutes and made him sit and try to go. I never let him sit longer than 5 minutes, and if he didn't go then we would try again 15 minutes later vs 30. This is when I gave him my phone and let him play on the potty training app. If he went then we would make a huge deal about it, and reward with some m&m's for pee and a dollar tree toy for poop. My son was completely trained in 3 days using this method with very few accidents. And after 1 week of this we were in public in underwear with no worries. Through my trial and error I will say this: - potty training is super messy. Your going to be cleaning your floors a lot! - Be consistent and for your own sanity be patient! Remember that your kids aren't only learning how to use the bathroom like the rest of us but they're also learning how to associate the feeling of needing to go with what they're doing as well as communicate that to us. My son was afraid to use his potty in the actual bathroom so we moved it into the living room and set a towel underneath, whatever works right? - I found the naked method to work well simply because my son had nowhere to "put it" when he needed to go and his only option was the floor or the potty. He soon realized after a couple of day 1 accidents that the floor just didn't seem right. So as soon as he transitioned into the underwear and had an accident he realized those were very different than a diaper and he didn't like how it felt. When we went out I made sure he went before we left the house, and then I would watch for signs and ask often while we were doing what we needed to. Sometimes signs are how you can tell, because my son is 6 now and still will wait until the last second if he can when I've been able to tell he had to go. - We made my son look in the potty after every time he went so he knew what he was doing, and he still wouldn't tell us "I need to go." - My biggest challenge was getting him to realize he could stop playing to go potty. The app helped a ton with this because the bear in the app is mid playing and stops to go potty. Like I said before my son is now 6 and still doesn't want to stop just to go to the bathroom and I can't tell you when his last accident was because it's been so long. It's just what kids do, so you have to watch like a hawk while they're learning.
This is just what worked for me. Of course this may not work for everyone, and I do truly believe kids can regress if they're trained too early but I also think at the right age they can grasp the concept as well.
Eta the rest because TB erased half my original post. Ugh
@wildtot my son didn’t potty train till he was like 3.5. It was SOO easy. We’re in the middle of potty training my DD. She just turned three. It hasn’t been super easy but we’re also working with constipation and a miralax prescription so I wasn’t planning on it being just as easy. I think I remember your DS being around 2. I don’t think you have to rush him if he doesn’t seem into it. Keeping the dialog open is good. I also like those Huggies pull up diapers so he COULD try to go potty if it’s brought up or if he asks too but he’s still in a diaper so it has lots of absorbency.
@kbernal2021 he’s 25 months and we have had his potty for a while and occasionally he’ll sit but won’t do anything or stay long. He doesn’t mind the undies or pull ups but he just won’t communicate his needs.
@wildtot I saw you say he has some speech delay that he is doing therapy for and this could also hinder his communication for those needs. Ultimately you as his mom know his needs better than anyone and if you truly don't feel like he is ready then I would say wait. I know several women who have also potty trained so they didn't "have two in diapers" After a new baby came and as soon as the older child saw the baby in diapers and getting changed they regressed and refused to potty at all like they had already been trained to do. If your in no rush then there's really no harm in waiting anyway, and when he's ready it may save you a lot of time because it will be much easier. Just hang in there
@wildtot I am in camp wait until they're ready, like telling you when they need to go before it happens. It is good to continue to show them what to do and encourage them to pay attention to body cues before then, though. I went super slow with DD, who was ready a couple of months after she turned 2. She only got an hour or so of undies time a day for about a week once we started really trying to potty train. Regardless of what happened she got praise, but we never bribed or used apps/tablet to entertain. I don't plan to try for real with DS until maybe this fall/winter when he may be more aware of his need to go. i just want a painless process for us all!
We started potty training DS around 27 or 28 months. I almost quit because he would never tell me he had to go until he was peeing in his pants. I thought he wasn’t ready either but daycare was having success so we stuck with it. I think him seeing the older kids go helped. We started on a Sunday and he didn’t go on the potty for me until Thursday. I have heard of some kids getting potty trained in one weekend but for us it was a slow change from a habit of going in a diaper for their entire life. I found an article about why daycares have success. It basically said that the teachers didn’t get upset. They cleaned the child up and tried again later. Anyway, if you don’t think he is ready, take a break and try again later. Just want to reassure you it is frustrating.
@wildtot I agree with the others, communication was key for us. My kid didn't show signs of being ready at all. On day 1, she didn't use the toilet once, just peed and pooped in her underwear. but on day 2 of the 3 day method, she went a few times in the toilet (I sat her on it every 30 mins). By day 4 she wasn't having accidents, but wouldn't tell me when she needed to go. It took like a month until she would TELL me she had to go.
I think your child understanding you is very key, like if he can follow basic commands (if he wants to). I will be honest, I kind of wish I had waited until she was more verbal because having to run to the bathroom every hour or so sucked
Yeah I think not getting mad about accidents is important. My anti-model for potty training was our friend and his wife and their first child. They did it before she was ready, tried the 3-day method multiple times, and even forced her to sit on the potty for really long periods of time until she went (and then gave her an M&M as reward). The poor girl, even after she turned 4 or 4.5yo still held her pee alllll day to avoid the bathroom and was holding her poop for a week at a time until it came out in her sleep. She even peed on OUR floor twice in one night during a playdate because she had been holding it all day. So... that's what I tell ppl to avoid doing. You think parents would see the issues with making potty a huge issue (and thus traumatic) at home, but clearly not everyone can see that until it's too late. At least they are not pushing their younger child the same way and letting him be ready, so they learned a hard lesson.
Thanks ladies for all the advice and comforting stories. So far we have tried to only use the pull ups for naps and bedtime but undies during the day but no real luck with pee yet. We put the timer to every 20 mins because that seems to be his trend but he seems to pee right when it rings or right after sitting. We have tried to distract with toys, stickers, and the occasional snack. It would be nice to not have two in diapers but I do worry about regression afterwards. I thought he was ready because he would follow us to the restroom and offer toilet paper and would flush and say bye. He would even tell us when he peed in his bed overnight. I told DH that maybe he should show DS how to sit at pee since i don’t have the same parts. He has only seen DH pee standing. I think we’ll keep trying today and tomorrow but not stress too much. We bought him more undies of his favorite characters and he was super happy about them. I keep hearing 3 is much easier to train. So we’ll see, not fully set on quitting but it’s definitely exhausting.
@SmashJam I attempted when DD was like 2.5 and it just wasn’t working. We did it again when she was 3.5 after we got home from vacation and she had no problem.
Having a relaxing weekend at home and it’s so nice. Grateful to sit in the air conditioning! We took maternity photos today finally. DS wasn’t too interested but they turned out cute regardless. Anyone else lagging on their nursery? Our furniture won’t be here until the end of August, ugh! But it’s our fault for ordering so late
@elizabethrn87 yeah it was kind of hell for a few months, and is pretty wonderful now (during the day). He all of a sudden started wetting the bed at night again so we are back to pull ups, even during naps. Like he just doesn't want to get up. But I agree if I had waited closer to 3, or at 3, he would have been way smoother. I know all kiddos are different but with #2, I won't push it as quick!
@wildtot 25mo is still young too, I tried around 2 and I don’t think DS was ready.. Is going naked an option for you? I trained DS at 2.5 and he would have accident after accident unless he was naked. I brought him potty whenever I went and then some, and he got 1 skittle for sitting and a few if he actually went. Took a little over the 3 days until I could trust him in pants, then a few weeks later I introduced underwear. The tightness from the underwear was too confusing for him, I think. I wouldn’t stress about overnight or nap time just yet either, DS is almost 3 and I just cut out the nap time diaper a few weeks ago. Also, communication is important but it doesn’t have to be verbal- DS has a speech delay too and didn’t learn to verbalize “potty” for a while, but once he understood that he needed to get my attention, he’d point to the potty or his penis. So for him, the communication was backwards. I think it’s good to involve DH- but I will say I hope he isn’t set on peeing standing up for your sake! DS refused to sit to pee or poop for the longest time and would do BOTH standing up like daddy.. So gross.
@zande2016 I hate that helpless overwhelmed feeling, I hope your day turned around!
@kissableviv I hope your car works out! So annoying that they’re changing the timeline on you!
Annouing contraction problems here too. BH, contraction, movement, poop? I can’t even tell what’s going on down there anymore. At this rate I won’t know I’m in labor until my water breaks like last time.. Hopefully not for a few more weeks and hopefully not at all if LO is still footling breech
@SmashJam I may be late to the party here, but I just gotta say how awesome it is that you can work at a library! That sounds like the best job ever. Congrats, it sounds like the schedule and job will really work well for you and your family.
@wildtot I think you could go either way, keep up with the potty and it will eventually get easier, or wait until after the new baby is born. It sounds like your LO was giving signs of being ready to potty train, and it may just take some time. My DD is 25 months as well, and I was planning on potty training her around this same time. We changed our mind though, because I read that major life changes like a new baby and moving can cause regressions. Well we are moving to Michigan for the summer, having the new baby, and then coming back to Nova Scotia. So I figured it would be a lot easier to just wait until we’re settled back home later this year.
I’ve been reading the L&D stories from other birth months non-stop. I can’t help it. I’m addicted. I feel like these last 5-6 weeks are going to move very slowly, and reading the birth stories probably won’t help. But I’m getting anxious over here! I was induced on my DD last time around and labor lasted 6 hours. This time I don’t plan on being induced (so far), and I’m nervous thinking about how different the experience may be and how much longer natural labor will last. Reading positive stories seems to make me feel a little better though, knowing that other women were so strong and capable even after extraordinarily long labors.
@acunamatada we did naked for a bit but most of our house is carpet which makes it hard to do all the wet spots. It’s been way too hot for full naked outside plus he likes to sit on our rocks and dirt. I talked to DH again about the logic of standing up vs sitting and sounds like he’s on board to doing it a few times.
Re: Weekend Randoms 5/26-5/27
We are stuck in the house because it has been pouring and there has been a tropical storm brewing. We also just found out that we sold our house and I balled my eyes out. I can’t really pin point what made me cry. I am just really sad even though this is what we wanted. We for sure didn’t want to pay two mortgages. These hormones suck A**
My FIL and SIL are in town this weekend. All day yesterday DH was telling 4yo DD that we'd be going to a baseball game this afternoon, but last night he realized that he got the times mixed up and the game starts at 7p! That's usually when we're reading and snuggling the kids for bed. So DH and DD made "a deal" that if DD and DS nap today, then we'll go to the baseball game early tonight and stay a couple of innings at least. My FIL and DH just left to grab some things at the store, and since the kids hadn't napped yet, they took them with them hoping they'll nap in the car (FIL will sit with them in the car). So now I'm just home with my SIL, but she's doing her own thing and so am I.
They just came home, actually, and no naps happened. Oh well! I'm sure it will still be fun. We're gonna sit on the lawn and hopefully no foul balls knock anyone over.
@flockofmoosen3 sounds like a weekend well spent so far!
Well we also decided to get the Tdap and now DH has a stomach ache. I only have a dull arm and hopefully that's it. Got some storage I need to get set up!
We heard the car we ordered won't be ready until the first week of August...so we might get a different color at this point and possibly pick it up tonight. It's just a hassle to go two more months without a second car especially with my mom arriving on June 28th. Part of me wants to wait but part of me also doesn't want to be managing DH and I's schedule with one car - lots of doc appointments coming up. Decisions!
Little bummed today because I do not have plans for the holiday weekend. I used to have friends to hang out with, what happened to my life?! I have also been up since 3am because the baby wouldn’t stop moving. I dozed a little bit at one point but she moved again and I woke from a deep sleep.
I got an interview scheduled for next week for the library job (where SIL is the director). Its honestly the best of both worlds, I work (and its at a library!) but the hours are pretty convenient (friday 1-6 and sat 9-2, I'm guessing) so DH can cover DS for the friday hours and no preschool is needed. They also all know I am pregnant and would need a couple weeks (but in this case only 2 days each week) to recover and I could probably start up again relatively soon after birth since its short hours.
That's exciting about the job interview! Sounds like a great arrangement for you!
@wildtot sounds exhausting indeed I hope you see progress!
@SmashJam that sounds awesome! I’d love to work in a library!
@acunamatada ugh. Days like those are so frustrating. I hope tomorrow is better!
@hillbillywife it was the color. They really make a few of this model in general so they are hard to come by and usually have to be ordered. We were fine with it but we were promised a completely different timeline. We like the option they have in stock at the dealership so unless it has a bunch of useless expensive crap we don't want on it we will probably purchase it tomorrow !
In the end my son had a blast in the water park, I think it was just too hot for both of us yesterday. Today is cooler but storming right now. We have breakfast with Elmo at 9, will do a few more rides and then head over to a family birthday party.
ETA we went to bed at 8, which is why I’m up at 530am lol. That’s what happens when you share a hotel room with a one year old.
I think I had contractions last night while laying on my right side. I thought it was just me having to poo but the feeling came and went, then stopped completely when I flopped to my left side.It happened several different times in the night. It was super weird. Also, you'd think if it was having to poo I'd have to have gone and I never actually had to get up. Before we went to bed I was having BH so intense I could feel them in my neck muscles. I had a decent amount of water last night so I don't know what was causing it, although Bernie was super active all day, to the point where it hurt, so maybe that was it. Ah, the beginning of the late third tri conundrum: Do I have to poop, or is it contractions? lol.
@zande2016 vacations with little kids are so hard! I’m glad you were able to recover from your desperation. I totally understand those feelings of helplessness. I also hate it when I’m visibly struggling and people are staring at me and not offering to help. What is with that? I hope today is worlds better!
@kissableviv ugh i am not s fan of late night projects or rush of energy. My H goes through that too. Last night he was asking me what furniture i would like him to make because he has to buy a saw of some sort soon. Ok he doesn’t have to, he wants too because apparently everything else we have to do is not enough or interesting for him.
@SmashJam hope you feel better today! I get super cramps and with contractions when baby is super active. I was told it was uterine irritation.
I haven't been able to post or read much lately. My 2 year old had strep last week. She is better now, but still on medication. The exhaustion from being anemic is no joke either. I just feel like there is so much that needs my attention before the baby gets here, but it's so hard to summon the energy!
@zande2016 sorry about the meltdown, for me heat makes everything worse so if you add that to all three stuff that was going on I can totally understand where you're coming from. Hope breakfast is nice!
@wildtot it's frustrating, like , hello, you had all day! I hope DH deals with the pee so you can relax even while not sleeping.
@cseley321 oh no! Hope the little is better now. I feel like no matter how much I do there's always more. Hopefully we're ready at least for the basics!
We're off to a baby shower soon. They are having breakfast tacos so I'm pretty excited!
@wildtot How old is your son? You may have mentioned it but I didn't read every post just that you weren't sure he was ready because he wouldnt tell you. My experience with my son was this. I started potty training as soon as he turned 2. We went to the store and I let him choose a special potty and underwear and made a really big deal about it. I also went to the dollar tree and got a lot of little toys as incentive (or bribes) and m&m's. Day 1 we tried pull ups and found them not to be effective at all, I realized pretty quick into it that they were no different than diapers except that they helped in learning how to pull up and down, which underwear do the same thing. We threw those out pretty quick into the first Day and let him go naked from the waist down. I downloaded a potty training app and set a timer for every 30 minutes and made him sit and try to go. I never let him sit longer than 5 minutes, and if he didn't go then we would try again 15 minutes later vs 30. This is when I gave him my phone and let him play on the potty training app. If he went then we would make a huge deal about it, and reward with some m&m's for pee and a dollar tree toy for poop.
My son was completely trained in 3 days using this method with very few accidents. And after 1 week of this we were in public in underwear with no worries.
Through my trial and error I will say this:
- potty training is super messy. Your going to be cleaning your floors a lot!
- Be consistent and for your own sanity be patient! Remember that your kids aren't only learning how to use the bathroom like the rest of us but they're also learning how to associate the feeling of needing to go with what they're doing as well as communicate that to us. My son was afraid to use his potty in the actual bathroom so we moved it into the living room and set a towel underneath, whatever works right?
- I found the naked method to work well simply because my son had nowhere to "put it" when he needed to go and his only option was the floor or the potty. He soon realized after a couple of day 1 accidents that the floor just didn't seem right. So as soon as he transitioned into the underwear and had an accident he realized those were very different than a diaper and he didn't like how it felt. When we went out I made sure he went before we left the house, and then I would watch for signs and ask often while we were doing what we needed to. Sometimes signs are how you can tell, because my son is 6 now and still will wait until the last second if he can when I've been able to tell he had to go.
- We made my son look in the potty after every time he went so he knew what he was doing, and he still wouldn't tell us "I need to go."
- My biggest challenge was getting him to realize he could stop playing to go potty. The app helped a ton with this because the bear in the app is mid playing and stops to go potty. Like I said before my son is now 6 and still doesn't want to stop just to go to the bathroom and I can't tell you when his last accident was because it's been so long. It's just what kids do, so you have to watch like a hawk while they're learning.
This is just what worked for me. Of course this may not work for everyone, and I do truly believe kids can regress if they're trained too early but I also think at the right age they can grasp the concept as well.
Eta the rest because TB erased half my original post. Ugh
I don't plan to try for real with DS until maybe this fall/winter when he may be more aware of his need to go. i just want a painless process for us all!
I think your child understanding you is very key, like if he can follow basic commands (if he wants to). I will be honest, I kind of wish I had waited until she was more verbal because having to run to the bathroom every hour or so sucked
My anti-model for potty training was our friend and his wife and their first child. They did it before she was ready, tried the 3-day method multiple times, and even forced her to sit on the potty for really long periods of time until she went (and then gave her an M&M as reward). The poor girl, even after she turned 4 or 4.5yo still held her pee alllll day to avoid the bathroom and was holding her poop for a week at a time until it came out in her sleep. She even peed on OUR floor twice in one night during a playdate because she had been holding it all day.
So... that's what I tell ppl to avoid doing. You think parents would see the issues with making potty a huge issue (and thus traumatic) at home, but clearly not everyone can see that until it's too late.
At least they are not pushing their younger child the same way and letting him be ready, so they learned a hard lesson.
I wouldn’t stress about overnight or nap time just yet either, DS is almost 3 and I just cut out the nap time diaper a few weeks ago. Also, communication is important but it doesn’t have to be verbal- DS has a speech delay too and didn’t learn to verbalize “potty” for a while, but once he understood that he needed to get my attention, he’d point to the potty or his penis. So for him, the communication was backwards.
I think it’s good to involve DH- but I will say I hope he isn’t set on peeing standing up for your sake! DS refused to sit to pee or poop for the longest time and would do BOTH standing up like daddy.. So gross.
@zande2016 I hate that helpless overwhelmed feeling, I hope your day turned around!
@kissableviv I hope your car works out! So annoying that they’re changing the timeline on you!
Annouing contraction problems here too. BH, contraction, movement, poop? I can’t even tell what’s going on down there anymore. At this rate I won’t know I’m in labor until my water breaks like last time.. Hopefully not for a few more weeks and hopefully not at all if LO is still footling breech
@wildtot I think you could go either way, keep up with the potty and it will eventually get easier, or wait until after the new baby is born. It sounds like your LO was giving signs of being ready to potty train, and it may just take some time. My DD is 25 months as well, and I was planning on potty training her around this same time. We changed our mind though, because I read that major life changes like a new baby and moving can cause regressions. Well we are moving to Michigan for the summer, having the new baby, and then coming back to Nova Scotia. So I figured it would be a lot easier to just wait until we’re settled back home later this year.