People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
Re: IF Benched/IVF Limbo w/o 5/14
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Since I introduced myself on the last thread (unexplained IF, cyst/hyperstimulation problems while attempting IUI), I will answer the new questions.
Appointments: Going tomorrow for a Day 9 ultrasound. I was allowed to take Clomid this month, but was told it was pointless because it was too late (too big of a follicle on Day 4 from all the cysts). I am hoping the doctor will be wrong!
Worries? I am wondering how my husband and I are going to get through six months with limited intimacy due to Zika concerns. We waited five years until we got married (yeah, a long time) but now six months feels unbearable. We can use protection, but I am going to be one anxious and paranoid person in case protection breaks during the quarantine period. We are going to do frozen soldiers, but I am worried it is pointless since it is much less effective.
Questions: Anyone have good stories of an RE doctor being wrong and things turning out better than the doctor predicted?
GTKY: IF hasn’t affected much between my husband and me, except for the fact that we are sad not being able to start a family together. We used to brainstorm baby names when we were excited about TTCing, but we have given that up. I deal with it by avoiding triggers and distracting myself with my job as a lawyer or other activities. This past mother’s day, I skipped church just to avoid mothers and treat myself to something fun. I am also planning a trip to New Zealand for November. If I can’t have a baby, then I figure I should enjoy my freedom.
@suzycupcake your answers?
Also RE wrong story. A couple of cycles ago, I was told I would need to take estrace because my lining needed thickened up. I didn't take it and the next u/s, I was told, "Your lining is so beautiful! Nice and thick!" /eye roll I know my own body dammeT! I was like can we please focus on what my body isn't already doing on its own and fix that?!
Diagnosis: pcos
If new to this thread, Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here?
Any upcoming appointments?: I need to go check tsh soon. I've been blowing it off.
What fears/worries/anxieties are rolling around in your head?: I've been feeling insecure lately that my husband will leave me since I might not be able to have a natural child. It's stupid, I know. Mostly, there is anxiety that our 3 cycle break to try on our own won't work and then I'll have to decide whether I went to start iui again or move onto ivf. It's a really tough choice.
Any questions?: No
GTKY: How has IF effected your relationship and what do you gies do to deal with it? We've always been super close but I think this journey, in a way, is bringing us even closer together. We have reached out to our church recently to get some counseling or just to have others come along side of us so we don't feel so alone in it as a couple. We came to this church a couple of years ago when we bought our house. There are a lot of foster/adoption families there and I knew right away that God brought us there for a reason. I've always wanted to adopt anyways and not because of infertility, but I feel like I've been given a kick in that direction lately. My husband and I have been discussing it often to do while we go through treatment.
For us, we try our best to communicate. It used to be that we added a bunch of humor, but now, communication is becoming more important than anything.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Interesting story on the doc!
No worries, we all have unreasonable fears. But if you two grew closer as a result of this, I imagine that fear will never materialize.
Church has been a good source of inspiration for us. Our priest and his wife adopted due to PCOS, and she picked up on my infertility after Clomid caused me to have sharp spasms in my stomach one day during services. She shared her advice on when she thought the right time to adopt was (she pursued both in parallel, but back then adoption was a whole lot cheaper and easier than it is today). She is cute - she even brought me some special blessed ointment to address infertility so I have been saving that for when I undergo my next big treatment cycle. She is one of the few who understands what this is like for me.
Haven’t been to New Zealand but can’t wait to go explore Mordor and Hobbiton!
If new to this thread, Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here?
Any upcoming appointments?: Meeting with the Clinics social this morning. After that next app till 6/6
What fears/worries/anxieties are rolling around in your head?: I think I was Nervous about today’s appointment idk why?!? I pretty Much didn’t sleep last night at all! I’ve got giant bags under my eyes this morning. The main clinic isn’t about 25-30 min drive with no traffic and we have to be there at 8 am
Any questions?:
GTKY: How has IF effected your relationship and what do you gies do to deal with it?
Ehhh it depends on the day ... some days we are super supportive and other days we bicker about the dumbest things.
Any upcoming appointments?: today I have a SHG and possible bloodwork.
What fears/worries/anxieties are rolling around in your head?: not really. I just kind of want to find an answer as to why I lost my last pregnancy. Hoping to find some answers. I know my SHG will be clear as they always are. Hopefully I get to have bloodwork today. They are running everything through insurance first before they draw so I might have to gonna I later.
GTKY: How has IF effected your relationship and what do you gies do to deal with it? Luckily it really hasn’t negatively. I’ve always been thankful that even though we keep failing and having obstacles every step of the way it hasn’t negatively affected our marriage.
If new to this thread, Why are you benched/in IVF limbo right now and how would you like to be supported here? Failed April FET, so today started my estrogen for my ERA cycle.
Any upcoming appointments?: May 29th - lining & progesterone check
What fears/worries/anxieties are rolling around in your head?: Well my boss announced yesterday that she's 6 months pregnant. I'm super happy for her, but I struggle how I can be so elated for her, but so sad at the same time. It sucks, for a long time I've thought as work as my "safe place". So I struggle how to mentally cope between that and our couples church group with all the babies and one having a baby next month. It's a constant reminder...so lots of times I just want to hide at home.
GTKY: How has IF effected your relationship and what do you guys do to deal with it? It's actually made us stronger and a lot closer. My husband has been super supportive and it's made up be very open with our feelings. I'm usually the time that keeps everything inside, but it's forced me to be vocal for once.
@scully127 Sending hugs! That must be tough going thru the Zika quarantine on top of everything else. I am really glad you brought that up though. Our friends are getting married in Cabo in July, part of me was wanting to say the heck with it and risk just going, but I can't put my treatments on hold for 6 months...so thank you for saving me for being reckless!
@ndz2018 I hope today's meeting goes well and it ends up being very good for you both!!
@J1006 FX they find some answers for you!! My RE mentioned doing extra bloodwork as well, so I think I'm going to push for that soon as well. I wish they did it all from the get-go!
@suzycupcake I understand your fears. I use to think the same thing, but remember, you're i this together! Speaking of church...my small group started reading a book called "The Good and Beautiful God". I listen to it on the way to work and it's been very helpful. I was shocked when they started talking about child loss and infertility in it...I thought it was just another random study - read. Of course, since then...I can't stop listening. Not sure if something you'd be interested in
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Well I’m sitting here waiting and possibly won’t get my SHG done this month. Apparently a new policy was formed at my clinic last week that you have to take a pregnancy test the morning of and no one told me. So hopefully since they just had my HCG at zero on Friday that I will still be able to do it today. I’m going to be super bummed if I have to wait until next month to do this.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
@ndz2018 Geese, sorry you had to do all of that this morning after not getting any sleep. I hope the appointment went well this morning and that you'll get a nap or something soon.
@J1006 That's ridiculous if they make you wait until next cycle especially because you just had a test on Friday. What happened at your appointment? I assume you are out now?
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
@suzycupcake very true. She did say I’m putting a lot of pressure on her since we only have one frozen. I honestly don’t mind if this doesn’t work. I’m at a point where I just want it to be successful or fail so we can move on to adoption. It’s all the little set backs that are just frustrating at this point.
@ndz2018 You're so right!! Having a break this last time made me forget about the IF craziness a little and get back to thinking about myself and focus on my husband. Plus we've gotten so much random stuff just at home done lately that had been put off b/c minds were always in baby mode.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN