Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: May 2018 Birth Announcements
On 2/26, 28w1d, at 12:01 am, my water broke in a glorious fashion. We rushed to the hospital where they did some work on stopping some small contractions I was having, put me on antibiotics, and gave me steroid injections for baby's lungs. We were told the first 72 hours were our biggest hurdle and our goal was to make it to 34 weeks with baby inside. Once we passed the 72 hours, I was told to get comfy because they expected me to go the full 6 weeks and would be staying in the hospital that entire time. Apparently, baby girl had other plans.
On 3/9 at around 12:30 pm, I started to feel some pains and cramping. We eventually called my nurse in who hooked me up to monitors and confirmed I was having contractions and they were already 5 minutes apart. They did an iv line of fluids in hopes I was just dehydrated, but it did nothing and I was already 1.5 cm dilated. Since baby was breech, my ob on call said we would be doing a c section within 45 minutes so to get everything ready as fast as we could.
The c section went very well and we were so glad we remained team green and got to hear my ob yell "it's a girl" from behind the curtain. I was in disbelief as I thought from day one it was a boy, but oh man, is our little girl beautiful and perfect!
She was born weighing in at at 3 lbs 1 oz, 15.3 inches long and not breathing (which was expected). The nicu team worked on her right away and got her from the color blue to a soft pink within minutes. Once she was stable, they wheeled her over to me to say hello and whisked her to the nicu.
She is doing really great and I am in pain, but working through it. She will be in the nicu for up to 10 weeks at this point and hopefully in a few days we are able to hold her. Name is still undetermined.
Definitely not how we pictured her arrival, but we will make it through and survive this bump in the road.
William Shakespeare — 'Though she be but little, she is fierce!'
Six weeks later I started having contractions at 26w5d so went to L&D. I was 1cm but contractions finally stopped. A few days later at 27w1d I started contracting again. Went to the OB and was dilated 2cm and he could feel the contractions so sent me to L&D. Things slowed down so they let me shower...huge mistake. Contractions came back and I was 4cm dilated. I cried and cried cause I wanted to make it to term but it didn't look good. I was shipped off to St.Louis because our hospital wasn't able to handle babies her gestation. I was there 5 days....didn't have anymore contractions even with them making me walk around and didn't dilate anymore. They sent me home on activity as tolerated. My doctor wasn't thrilled but luckily my dad and husband had already put me on bed rest lol. At 31 weeks I went to L&D again but I didn't dilate anymore and they got contractions to stop. So by now I'm seen weekly and checked when I feel I need to be. At 34 weeks I was 5cm but not contracting. 2 days later on March 15th I was contracting so went to my OB and I was 6cm. He didn't wanna try to stop them this time with as many times and as long as I had been dilated but he wasn't gonna do anything to make me have her faster. Well I got to 8cm and was given my epidural. They broke my water and we waited. March 16th they decided to help me dilated the rest of the way and at 3:15am out came my big 34 weeker....6lbs9oz and 18.5in. I was able to hold her. She cried a lot but had trouble breathing so she was taken to the nursery. Few hours later they told us she was breathing harder and would be sent off to a better hospital. At 3 days old she was in an open crib and at 5 days old she was breathing on her own. Now we are just working on breastfeeding. It's not easy....she doesn't latch every time and when she does latch it's usually not for long. She is only a week old so it's gonna take time since she was early. The older kids wanna meet her but they can't because of cold and flu season is still going. She got to meet the Easter Bunny today.
Rylee 2.18.09
Kaitlyn 12.20.09 (36 week preemie)
Ziva 8.12.13 (31 week preemie)
Losses: 2.3.17 - 4.19.17 - 7.25.17
I went in to l&d the night before at 39+1 with contractions 3-5 mins apart and 4cm dilated, but was sent home after 3 hours. Contractions lasted through the night and into the am. My kids were hungry and I was in need of milk so we loaded up to go to the shopette. while at the store my labor started, within minutes contractions were on top of eachother. I made it home and immediately called my friend down the street while screaming. She and her husband came so she could sit with my kids (my husband was still deployed) and he could take me in, but by then I couldn’t move and my body started pushing. My friend managed to keep calm and help me deliver my baby while her husband called for an ambulance, my 8 year old and 2 year old watching. Emergency crews showed up a few mins after she had been born and helped to cut the cord and take us to hospital.
Babygirl is perfect, I had some complications and am completely traumatized! I wanted a natural birth this time and definitely got it.
Congrats to all the other May mamas!! Eagerly awaiting more birth stories and announcements! ❤️
Oh, also, he’s a boy! His gender was a surprise for us. Maverick James, weighing 7lbs7oz at 39w4d.
Positive thoughts and prayers to all your mama’s still waiting for your little ones arrival! Trust your instincts
So this bundle of joy came into our life May 16th! I was due May 7th so i was 9 days over my due date and scheduled an induction that day. I planned to go with no pain meds and I ended up succeeding at that!! Lucille came out after 13 hours at the hospital, only 5 hours of actual active labor after doctor broke my water and 30ish minutes of pushing. Her shoulder got a little stuck and her cord was wrapped once around the neck (her heart rate dropped a little at every contraction/push) so I used oxygen between every push. My doctor and the nurses were great! She came out 10 (Yes 10!!!) pounds and 8.8 ounces and 21 inches long. I can’t believe I did it and made such a cutie! Came out with some second degree tears and my body was so sore but I’m feeling a lot better already.
Good luck and congrats to everyone!
Early Sat morning (3am-ish), I was awaken with discomfort, but was able to fall back asleep for a little bit. By 6:30-7, I was waking my husband and he called the Dr. office. We were told to wait a bit for closer contractions, which started around 9am. We left for the hospital, checked in to the triage area, was told to walk around for an hour and if I progressed to 3cm then I would be staying, which happened. I was checked into our delivery room, decided on the epidural, which helped me sleep on/off for couple hours. I decided to have my water broke, which happened around 5pm. At 7-7:30 pm I started having the feeling of needing to push, which I told my nurse, she checked me and said yep, you are fully dilated.
This part was hard, there were moments that I felt I wasn't going to be able to do this. But my husband and nurse were there for support and after about 2 hours our little girl was here at 9:16pm! So in love with this little girl! ♡