When does the overwhelming feeling of love set in?

Re: When does the overwhelming feeling of love set in?

• lickastick member

  May 2018

  Lurking but I thought you should get an answer. I did not immediately fall in love, I had a very long and difficult labor and recovery and that really made it hard for me to bond with LO. I just wanted to sleep, heal and recover for the entire first year of his life. I also found out I’m not afan of the newborn phase. I really started liking ds more after he was 6 months, and a lot more after he started walking/talking. I really do much better with a more independent child, I loved it when at 4-6 months I could set him down and walk away for 5-10min. Sure I felt bad that I didn’t “fall in love right away” and i got my dh to take ds at every chance I could get but I think what you are feeling is pretty normal. It can also be a sign of ppd, I’d say I probably had some ppd for the whole first year of my lo’s life, not enough to impact my ability to function, but enough to keep me from fully enjoying ds. You might bring it up with your obgyn if it is concerning to you. Hang in there, it does get easier from here, but definitely get help if you need it. Good luck! 
  

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