Anyone else have a "the moment it hit you that you're going to be a parent"?
I'm 23 weeks pregnant, home alone for the next 3 months due to Hubbys deployment, and just had a huge "oh crap, I'm a mom" moment while sitting at the dining room table organizing the bills- all the while feeling the baby happily kicking away.
so it's been a slow process for me. this is my 4th pregnancy with all the rest being losses at various weeks of gestation... the latest being 19w last year .... so now that i'm at 23 weeks and almost to viability i've had some days where it hits me suddenly that we will very likely be able to take her home this time, and i think that really started at 22w.. but as each week goes by it happens more and more often.... and i end up feeling very unprepared LOL
Me: 36 years old DH: 42 years old
Married: 05.2012 TW:
TTC #1 Since April 2016 HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube) spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL! Cerclage placed on 03/02 Cerclage removal 08/02
@harleyquinn0621 yay for making it to viability! Such a huge milestone
So this is our 2nd so I don't really get that "I'm going to be a mom moment" but actually just this morning it dawned on me how soon our little guy is going to be here. I actually think I got just as many butterflies in my stomach as the first time
Like @harleyquinn0621 I’ve been pregnant several times. So I was super cautious about excitement this time. I’m not entirely sure I’ve had that moment yet.
Im 25 weejs now first time and young mom and mine hit me during this week. It was while i was putting lotion on my bump and suddenly i saw this movement like my bump twitch and i was just like im legit got this baby growing in me and soon im going to be a mama. Like it just felt so much real for me.
Finding out we were going to have a little boy was a big moment for me. This is a science baby and getting pregnant was not an easy feat so I still have moments of disbelief.
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
Now that I can feel him doing somersaults and bouncing on my bladder, it's becoming a bit more "real" for me. We've also started rearranging furniture to make room for baby stuff and that's getting exciting.
There have been a few moments when I've had a small wave of excitement and anxiety letting it sink in that I'm starting a new journey - not only is a baby on the way, but the years and years that he'll be in my everyday life. It's such a mix of emotions. Holidays and some of my favorite places have a new meaning - I can't wait to share them with him and watch his reactions discovering stuff for the first time. And then the fears of the dangers he'll face - from baby proofing to prevent accidents to illnesses I can't prevent; making sure he's prepared for the world, but not pushing my anxieties/bad experiences on him. It can be overwhelming sometimes.
I don't think it will fully hit me until he's in my arms. I think part of me is still scared something could go wrong and he won't make it into my arms ... which I try not to think about.
STM but it really hit when we started calling her ‘our daughter’ instead of ‘the baby’ And naming her helped. But yeah, still in disbelief here! In fact I was up until the moment they put DS on my chest for my 1st pregnancy lol!
Yeah I’m not sure it’s fully hit me yet either. Sometimes it’s real, but others I’m just like what’s the big deal? Of course, I’ve just started feeling her move more so maybe as that picks up it will really hit me.
STM and to be honest, though I feel him all the time and we’re doing all this prep work, the amount of pain and discomfort I’m in everyday, I’m still not completely in belief I think until he pops out lol
STM and to be honest, though I feel him all the time and we’re doing all this prep work, the amount of pain and discomfort I’m in everyday, I’m still not completely in belief I think until he pops out lol
STM here too, and I feel the same. It still really hasn't git me that I'm going to have TWO now!
My first didn’t hit me until I was nursing him for the first time in the birth center bed. It was surreal, but if I could’ve pictured that moment during labor, it might’ve been helpful. This one hasn’t hit me yet because we haven’t done any house prep for her—haven’t washed anything, haven’t moved DS to a big kid room (he’s still in the nursery and crib), haven’t gotten the newborn stuff out. I’m guessing it’ll be the same as the first, but might get a little more exciting as we actually start to prepare for her arrival.
Re: The Moment It Hit You
TW:
HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF
spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio
September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube)
spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL!
Cerclage placed on 03/02 Cerclage removal 08/02
So this is our 2nd so I don't really get that "I'm going to be a mom moment" but actually just this morning it dawned on me how soon our little guy is going to be here. I actually think I got just as many butterflies in my stomach as the first time
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
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There have been a few moments when I've had a small wave of excitement and anxiety letting it sink in that I'm starting a new journey - not only is a baby on the way, but the years and years that he'll be in my everyday life. It's such a mix of emotions. Holidays and some of my favorite places have a new meaning - I can't wait to share them with him and watch his reactions discovering stuff for the first time. And then the fears of the dangers he'll face - from baby proofing to prevent accidents to illnesses I can't prevent; making sure he's prepared for the world, but not pushing my anxieties/bad experiences on him. It can be overwhelming sometimes.
I don't think it will fully hit me until he's in my arms. I think part of me is still scared something could go wrong and he won't make it into my arms ... which I try not to think about.
And naming her helped. But yeah, still in disbelief here! In fact I was up until the moment they put DS on my chest for my 1st pregnancy lol!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015