TTCAL w/o 4/16

CraftyG · April 2018

@dpjennifer I would say that there are definitely scary moments and you do jump a lot because it’s so silent that you’re on the edge of your seat the entire time. I didn’t leave thinking oh my god that was so scary I left saying that was amazing I bawled my eyes out.
Spoiler in box regarding kids in the movie

A child is taken and the parents talk about their loss and Emily Blunt is pregnant and has a baby in the movie

dpjennifer · April 2018

CraftyG Actually... I HATE spoilers... but I'm such a wimp for scary movies that I Wikipedia'd the movie and know pretty much what happens! So I think I could make it through it and enjoy it.

dpjennifer · April 2018

Ugh... as you guys probably know, I'm a competitive roller skater (less so in past couple years while desperately TTCAL, but still out there). So these 2 skaters I know that got married a year and a half ago just posted their baby announcement on FB and it was both of their sets of skates with a crocheted set of skate booties and it was adorable and I'm so upset and just want to cry. At work.
No joke... I've unfollowed SO many people on FB because of baby drama that my prediction is that in another year or so my husband's psycho aunt's "we're all going to be microchipped in 2017" posts will make up 10% of my feed.

eleven_ · April 2018

@dpjennifer I’m so sorry. It’s all so unfair. Your husband psycho aunt thing made me laugh. What is it with “the olds” and their crazy FB posts? I have hid a lot of people who are recently pregnant on FB and now all I see is a bunch of “1 post = 1 prayer” posts from my aunts/uncles.

dpjennifer · April 2018

eleven_ Oh my, I don't know what's with some of the 'olds' but it drives me batty! Those "I bet I can't get one likes" are awful too. These naive people don't realize that they're usually liking/posting/sharing a stolen pic that a page is just using to mine for likes so that they can come back later to spam us all. Urgh! Super frustrating.

cassafrass15 · April 2018

Playing catch-up again. If one more client asks me to review a public affairs statement that has absolutely no legal implications I’m going to hurl myself into oncoming traffic!

@dpjennifer I did manage enough tact to tell my idiot niece that she would be getting the less expensive, but just as functional, stroller. It’s also a little hideous, which brings me a small amount of joy. I bought that book for my Kindle and I already like it. And I’ve seen that meditation video before and it’s EVERYTHING. Also, sorry about your friends’ cute baby announcement. I’m with you and @eleven_ I’m that I’ve unfollowed all of my friends except my mom and the rest of the elderlies. My mother-in-law posts some particularly bizarre stuff, and is especially insane about political posts. As a result, I’m barely on FB anymore. Probably a good thing if what this books says is true!

@sparklingdiamond I am so sorry for your loss.

AFM, shameful admission: *TW* my cousin and his new wife (who he met in person for the first time when he traveled to the Philippines to marry her) announced their pregnancy about a month ago. Doing the math, because I’m BSC, they literally got pregnant the first time they DTD. Then, last night my other cousin tells me that the new wife had to have a D&C. And, you guys, I know it’s sick, but I was almost glad to have someone else in the family who has experienced a lost pregnancy. Because I will feel slightly less alone at the huge family gathering this summer. And I won’t be the only cousin out of 30+ who doesn’t have kids yet. *End TW* I know, I know. I’m going straight to hell.

galactickates · April 2018

@cassafrass15 - we aren't perfect people. When you go through a loss there really are no words to describe what it's like unless you've been there. I've thought things and said many things out of pain. You have us to share those moments with because at the very least I can say I've been there before. I'm not saying I'm proud of it, but there is comfort in knowing you're not alone. That doesn't mean you're wishing that pain on someone. I get it.

My LT is a hug and I understand what you're saying

cassafrass15 · April 2018

@galactickates Thanks. Appreciate you making me feel like less of a monster. Still not proud of myself, but oh well.

dpjennifer · April 2018

@cassafrass15 We will have a great time partying in hell then! I sometimes take comfort in others who have had rocks in their journeys (i.e. 1 early MC or whatnot. Never those who have a stillbirth etc.), especially those overly excited individuals who have said 'Just relax!' Or something similarly inane to me. Also, glad you are enjoying the book!!!

prpl11butterfly · April 2018

@cassafrass15 your not alone. Those feeling are totally understandable. I've had to check myself for some thoughts that were not quite so pleasant about others announcements.

galactickates · April 2018

I feel so exhausted. I lost it during a bachelorette party today and three people who are mom's just wouldn't let up. They kept telling me too relax (cringe) that it would happen for me when the time is right :puke: and, I need to think positive.

I spent a good 4 hours sobbing and being cornered. I couldn't leave because we were in a limo. Everyone was drunk. I left after I had a couple glasses of water. My eyes are throbbing. My heart is beating out of my chest. I'm so happy I'm home. I just want to snuggle with my dogs and pretend this never happened

ETA Also did I mention they said I'm not going to get pregnant until I think positive. Word for word

zamoraspin · April 2018

@galactickates I’m so sorry, that sounds truly terrible. It really galls me that people think it’s cool to say those things. No one would tell someone who broke their leg (or had any other medical issue) to “relax” yet that’s the most common response to women with fertility issues.

dpjennifer · April 2018

galactickates That's absolutely awful! Were they still cornering and pressuring you while you were sobbing!?!? God... people are such a-holes! I hope their next babies take 12 months to conceive, just to end up being MCs, JUST so that they know what it feels like. Then you can tell THEM to relax! Grrrr... I'm so infuriated on your behalf and so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you've been able to emotionally recover some from that traumatic event and that you had a much more relaxing day today!

prpl11butterfly · April 2018

Oh, @galactickates that's sh&%&%. I'm sorry you had to go through that instead of just being able to unwind and have a good time. People just need to learn to not say stuff like that. Those who don't struggle TTC or experience loss never get what it's like. They should not comment on what they have no knowledge of.

galactickates · April 2018

Thank you @zamora_spin @dpjennifer @prpl11butterfly and the ladies who pm'ed me. You have no idea what it means to me to have you guys for support and that you get it. No amount of positive attitude is going to get me ku or prevent it either. I've been building a patio all day with H which has been 100 times more fun then yesterday was. Which I can't even believe I'm saying but at least it was a distraction from everything that was said yesterday. Of course after I left I thought of a million responses or things I should have done but it's obviously too late.

Last night when I got home my fit bit said I did great on the exercise, it said I had burned almost 3500 calories lol so I looked and it was because my heart rate had been so elevated for so long because of the conversation it made me think about the article zamora posted about stress levels and loss.

Ugh... I hope everyone had better weekends then me. I really don't know what I would do with you all. Thank you for the love and support ladies.

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