I can only echo what is being said above about 'fake' FB profiles for the sake of joining the group. Yes, there are catfish 'tests', but I am not on board with any of it. I have seen too many instances of things happening such as the fake donations, nasty PM's and much more. My last name is not super common and I'm almost positive I am maybe 1 in 10 in the country with my first and last name combo, possibly even less than that. Even though my FB is locked down, you google my full name and you will find my workplace in an instant. Too many red flags on that one.
I don’t understand why this has to be a big argument, especially when a lot of you already chose to make a Facebook group prior to this. How well do you ever know anyone on the Internet? You can take precautions, as we will, but nothing is ever guaranteed. If you don’t want to join one, don’t. No one is begging you to. It’s only for whoever wants to.
Obviously more people want to be in a Facebook group than were invited to the more exclusive one. This was inevitable. BMBs pretty much always move to Facebook.
No I get that and I'm not arguing, I'm just pointing out some red flags for those who may be otherwise oblivious. When people are talking about making up profiles and having multiple profiles and stuff it gets kinda freaky and some people are hella trusting and may not even see why that could be a red flag. We all knew a FB move was coming I'm just not ready to join a big open group at this point. I may eventually and hope the doors will still be open I'm just not there yet.
@calimom2524 enough of us have BTDT, so I think we’ll manage. This has been discussed every time a Facebook group has been brought up. It’s been covered.
It wasn't me but the one who sent the PM is a regular here. I'm not calling anyone out but they're welcome to come forward if they want to. Like I said, I'd just be wary of who is let in where.
:shrug: Like I said, it wasn't me. Suspect or not, it's not my place to call people out. And there's nothing to quote for proof, it wasn't posted on a thread.
When I log into TB, it gives me yellow notifications on the threads I read, letting me know there are more replies. And when I click on it, it takes me right back to where I left off. Not to mention I can see the threads with ease. You can’t do that with FB. I have to scroll through all the comments until I get to where I left off.
::shrug::
And I agree with the fake profiles. If you aren’t comfortable yet with people knowing who you are, don’t join. More people seem to be uncomfortable with regulars joining under a false profile.
you can always go through your privacy settings and set it to "Friends Only", something I always recommend folks do regardless.
this right here. My facebook is locked down.. so yes you can see my name and profile picture... but that's it
Me: 36 years old DH: 42 years old
Married: 05.2012 TW:
TTC #1 Since April 2016 HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube) spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL! Cerclage placed on 03/02 Cerclage removal 08/02
It isn’t so much about my FB profile needing to be locked down. It’s about getting closer with ladies and letting them know more about me. Giving them more details about my life.
Thats why I would be hesitate. I want to be more open and share. But not with just anyone.
So sometimes for my job I have so some FB investigations. If i know you name I can find out more than you think. Just because your profile is "locked" doesn't mean your friends and family members pages are. They could tag you and post stuff about you. Just putting that out there. Be careful.
If your settings are strict you can't see my friends. Yeah, if you know my name you could sleuth and deduce who my family is. If the have the same name. But you can do that with anyone's names and vital statistics. It's pretty hard to stay completely anonymous in the world.
So sometimes for my job I have so some FB investigations. If i know you name I can find out more than you think. Just because your profile is "locked" doesn't mean your friends and family members pages are. They could tag you and post stuff about you. Just putting that out there. Be careful.
This.
If you put someone’s name in the search, you can opt to search for them by photo. Which means any photos you are tagged in by someone else that aren’t private show up.
It isn’t hard to put pieces together and find out what you want to find out about someone.
ETA if you’ve talked badly about friends/family here, someone who is cat fishing or just end up being crazy can send them screenshots of your Bump posts. That’s too close for comfort
I haven't been around much lately (long story short one of the girls on my team at work left and so I get to do both my job and hers until we hire someone else, yay), but as much as I like you guys I'm also not ready to jump over to a super open group yet. My previous BMB also had a reasonable "regular posters only" structure, but we didn't start it until about a month before we were due so by then we had weeded a lot of people out and were able to be more selective...and even so there has been some drama over there. Including a donations scam.
My profile is locked down, and attached to a secondary email address for added security, but you'd still see my name and pictures of me and my family on there. I'm not really ready yet personally, but i hope that those of you who have made the switch will still hop on here from time to time.
Also I agree that FB is WAY more annoying to get through thread comments on than TB is. But it is generally an easier mobile platform so it kind of evens out. I'm in two previous bump related groups (my last BMB and some ladies I made friends with in TTGP) and it's hard to keep up with just those two, so before I jump into another one I want to make sure it's with people I really want to take the time to know better.
I'm really torn. I like the support I've found here, especially with those who are also high risk. And the normalization of hearing how things are going for others helps ease my neurotic anxiety about the pregnancy. But I'm not sure I really feel ready to give such personal access to my life as Facebook might provide. I might have to think about it for a few days and see how dead it gets in here.
This isn’t a now or never thing as far as I’m concerned. The idea is not to abandon the board, especially now that the app seems to be back to its normal crappy self instead of the extra glitchy mess of late. If people aren’t comfortable right now, I understand completely. You don’t have to decide now. Normally I wouldn’t consider it myself this early. It was the frustration with the pop-up ads that drove me to it.
I got the email invite but when I click it says, "The page you requested cannot be displayed right now. It may be temporarily unavailable, the link you clicked on may be broken or expired, or you may not have permission to view this page." Anyone else run into this? It's been a couple hours now.
I got the email invite but when I click it says, "The page you requested cannot be displayed right now. It may be temporarily unavailable, the link you clicked on may be broken or expired, or you may not have permission to view this page." Anyone else run into this? It's been a couple hours now.
I got the email invite but when I click it says, "The page you requested cannot be displayed right now. It may be temporarily unavailable, the link you clicked on may be broken or expired, or you may not have permission to view this page." Anyone else run into this? It's been a couple hours now.
I just got it and am getting the same thing
If you go to your FB page, you can now search the page and have it come up.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
I got the email invite but when I click it says, "The page you requested cannot be displayed right now. It may be temporarily unavailable, the link you clicked on may be broken or expired, or you may not have permission to view this page." Anyone else run into this? It's been a couple hours now.
Re: Facebook Group
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
Obviously more people want to be in a Facebook group than were invited to the more exclusive one. This was inevitable. BMBs pretty much always move to Facebook.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
covered.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
When I log into TB, it gives me yellow notifications on the threads I read, letting me know there are more replies. And when I click on it, it takes me right back to where I left off. Not to mention I can see the threads with ease. You can’t do that with FB. I have to scroll through all the comments until I get to where I left off.
::shrug::
And I agree with the fake profiles. If you aren’t comfortable yet with people knowing who you are, don’t join. More people seem to be uncomfortable with regulars joining under a false profile.
TW:
HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF
spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio
September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube)
spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL!
Cerclage placed on 03/02
Thats why I would be hesitate. I want to be more open and share. But not with just anyone.
If you put someone’s name in the search, you can opt to search for them by photo. Which means any photos you are tagged in by someone else that aren’t private show up.
It isn’t hard to put pieces together and find out what you want to find out about someone.
ETA if you’ve talked badly about friends/family here, someone who is cat fishing or just end up being crazy can send them screenshots of your Bump posts. That’s too close for comfort
My profile is locked down, and attached to a secondary email address for added security, but you'd still see my name and pictures of me and my family on there. I'm not really ready yet personally, but i hope that those of you who have made the switch will still hop on here from time to time.
Also I agree that FB is WAY more annoying to get through thread comments on than TB is. But it is generally an easier mobile platform so it kind of evens out. I'm in two previous bump related groups (my last BMB and some ladies I made friends with in TTGP) and it's hard to keep up with just those two, so before I jump into another one I want to make sure it's with people I really want to take the time to know better.
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019
and I guess that shows how in and out I have been that I didn’t realize there are 2 fb groups? Eh
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019