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lalala2004lalala2004 member
in August 2018 Moms
Alright, ladies. You probably know I wasn't a fan of starting a FB group early on, but we're all halfway through our pregnancies at this point, and with mobile bumping getting more and more difficult. it will probably be easier to communicate through Facebook at this point.

I hope to still keep this board somewhat active just in case anyone doesn't have a Facebook, at least until the babies are born.

No real guidelines about who will be in the group, I'll let in anyone we recognize from here. If you're a lurker who has one posted one or twice... we don't really know you, but if you've made an effort here, I don't want to exclude anyone. Waiting to hear back on who else will mod the group, but it won't just be me. 

I have made the group secret, so you'll have to be added. If you want to be added, send me your Facebook e-mail in PM! Don't post it in the thread! But let me know if you PMed me here so I don't accidentally miss it. 

No stringent rules in the group. Just be respectful of privacy and no name-calling. That should be good enough. We may spell that out a little more to avoid issues. 
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  • jmcooke25jmcooke25 member
    PM sent
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  • mapleandbaconmapleandbacon member
    PMing you 
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  • hoodwink89hoodwink89 member
    Pm sent
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  • mrs_drc_rnmrs_drc_rn member
    I’ll be PMing you!
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  • lalala2004lalala2004 member
    Invites sent. I'm not sure if they will come in a Facebook notification or e-mail.
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  • princesslocknessprincesslockness member
    PM sent.


    Formerly known as Kate08young
    August '18 Siggy April Showers:






    Me: 28 H: 24
    Married: 7/22/14
    Baby L: 8/4/2015  August 2015 Moms
    Baby E: 11/18/2016   December 2016 Moms
    TTC #3 08/2017  BFP 11/27/2017. 
    Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well. 


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  • 7425cait7425cait member
    I really appreciate the invite, but a Facebook group is not my thing. I hope all you ladies enjoy the format and still keep in touch here once in a while.  :)
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  • kc0711kc0711 member
    PM sent I think? I’ve never sent one before!
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  • mapleandbaconmapleandbacon member
    I think there are two groups, if you're in the first one but want to keep up with a bigger majority please feel free to come over! I think some of ya'll left who I'd like to keep up with too! No ill will to the smaller group :)
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  • mapleandbaconmapleandbacon member
    ^I say that bc I'm not that active on tb because I'm always on mobile and it's such a pain that I don't end up posting here much.  I plan to check in still but it's so much easier to fb for me!
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  • lalala2004lalala2004 member
    Yes, anyone who wants to join this group can as long as we recognize them.

    @laurad75 I feel similar about Facebook groups. Easy to miss things. Unfortunately once they happen, those who much prefer Facebook tend to stick there, but I’ll certainly try and keep this place somewhat active, too.
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  • harleyquinn0621harleyquinn0621 member
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    September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube)
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  • laurad75laurad75 member
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    History and blog link in spoiler
    2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 
    2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
    moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
    Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP!  baby boy born 8/22/18

    May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
    Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
    May 2020 FET; BFN
    July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
    Oct 2020 BFP! 

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  • pghctwifepghctwife member
    @lalala2004 just replied to you and I’ll find you!! 

    ThanK GOD Finally lollll




    11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
    05/2017 cp
    08/03/17 no hb 8w

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  • KonaCoffeeBeanKonaCoffeeBean member
    PM sent. I think. I hate using TB on my phone.
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  • ecwkecwk member
    dirtanddiamonds said:
    You guys are really okay with just letting anyone you recognize in a FB group? 

    Bigger doesn’t always mean better. Especially when there’s a Bree/Lee on the loose and a couple catfishy bumpies around. 
    I think what was meant is that anyone regular who is recognisable not just a name that has posted once or twice. Isn’t that how all BMB FB groups start? 

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  • dirtanddiamondsdirtanddiamonds member
    Idk. I just don’t agree with someone being a “regular” automatically makes them someone I want to know more personally. 



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  • ecwkecwk member
    dirtanddiamonds said:
    Idk. I just don’t agree with someone being a “regular” automatically makes them someone I want to know more personally. 



    Not really sure how else to avoid that issue. No matter how a group is formed there is likely to be someone there that you probably could do without 

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  • princesslocknessprincesslockness member
    dirtanddiamonds said:
    Idk. I just don’t agree with someone being a “regular” automatically makes them someone I want to know more personally. 



    IDK why, but this is seriously rubbing me the wrong way. I don't want to know some people here better, but they participate and might have some valuable information to share with the group later.  Hence why most groups are open, until some drama happens. Then they get locked down. 

    You do realize that we all go together by being due in the same 30 window, and not because we all liked the same type of ice cream, right? 


    Formerly known as Kate08young
    August '18 Siggy April Showers:






    Me: 28 H: 24
    Married: 7/22/14
    Baby L: 8/4/2015  August 2015 Moms
    Baby E: 11/18/2016   December 2016 Moms
    TTC #3 08/2017  BFP 11/27/2017. 
    Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well. 


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  • livinthesunnylifelivinthesunnylife member
    princesslockness said:
    dirtanddiamonds said:
    Idk. I just don’t agree with someone being a “regular” automatically makes them someone I want to know more personally. 



    IDK why, but this is seriously rubbing me the wrong way. I don't want to know some people here better, but they participate and might have some valuable information to share with the group later.  Hence why most groups are open, until some drama happens. Then they get locked down. 

    You do realize that we all go together by being due in the same 30 window, and not because we all liked the same type of ice cream, right? 
    It's her opinion.  Whether you agree with it or not, all she did was state her opinion. 

    A lot of people share very private things on facebook (like full real name for one) so having a fear of having that shared with just anyone seems pretty normal. 

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  • msmonalisavitomsmonalisavito member
    I’m not super active here as I’d like to be but I’m not comfortable with a FB Group now.  So I’ll be sitting out.  Hopefully some will still come here and if not, lots of luck.  


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  • pghctwifepghctwife member
    Meh. I’m in a ton of fb groups where I don’t know many ppl - I get to know them in the group. Yes they can see my name (which can also be changed if you prefer - first middle seems common). My fb is pretty locked down otherwise. ill friend ppl in the group when it becomes comfortable to do so. My other bump groups formed the same way. A few ppl who turned out to be a bit bsc got the boot, and those who didn’t participate eventually were deleted too. Easier to control lurkers. 

    If ppl aren’t comfortable with it that is totally fine, but I don’t know. It’s not something that feels like a giant risk to me.




    11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
    05/2017 cp
    08/03/17 no hb 8w

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  • princesslocknessprincesslockness member
    @livinthesunnylife Where did I say she was wrong? I was also stating my opinion that her statements bothered me. 

    I happen to have several facebook pages. One for groups that I'm fairly private about, one for family sharing stuff, and another 'public face' one. So sharing things can be an issue, but there are also lots of ways to get around sharing things you don't want to with that group. 



    Formerly known as Kate08young
    August '18 Siggy April Showers:






    Me: 28 H: 24
    Married: 7/22/14
    Baby L: 8/4/2015  August 2015 Moms
    Baby E: 11/18/2016   December 2016 Moms
    TTC #3 08/2017  BFP 11/27/2017. 
    Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well. 


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  • lalala2004lalala2004 member
    dirtanddiamonds said:
    You guys are really okay with just letting anyone you recognize in a FB group? 

    Bigger doesn’t always mean better. Especially when there’s a Bree/Lee on the loose and a couple catfishy bumpies around. 
    That's how most of the BMBs do their Facebook groups as far as I know. At the very least, that's how my first BMB did it. There is pretty much always some sort of drama, but you never know where it's going to originate. You just have to have some guidelines in place to try to mitigate that. There are ways to check for catfish, too. 
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  • proudparent2bproudparent2b member
    It feels so early to move over, but since so much of the group already did... I sent you a message via FB messenger since we’re already in the May 2016 group together and figured that would be an easier way to find/add me.
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  • mapleandbaconmapleandbacon member
    No, bigger doesn't mean better, but the group isn't big, and the active members here wouldn't make a "big" group.  "Big" by each person's own opinion.  But it's inclusive.  People that don't fit in or cause issues are usually asked to leave/removed/leave themselves.  I think all of the regulars have been pretty respectful so I don't see much of an issue with the regulars moving over.  Bump mobile sucks big time for me and I'm much more active on FB so I'll probably be over there mostly.  Im already sad about some of the girls having left and that I won't be able to keep in touch, but I like the idea of being able to share a little more/connect on a personal level in a fb group.  My profile is on lockdown so I'm in control of what I share!
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  • mapleandbaconmapleandbacon member
    @proudparent2b I feel like it was early too, but once the boards quieted down I realized I probably wouldn't participate as much on here and would wind up losing connections completely.
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  • neeraja_kneeraja_k member
    PM sent!

    If you're not comfortable with a FB group, that's fine. It's okay to be leery, especially these days. For me, I don't think there's much risk. I'm a member of a lot of different Facebook groups and have yet to have a weirdo stalk me. 

    If you want to participate but are uncomfortable with others seeing your details, there are two options: you can always go through your privacy settings and set it to "Friends Only", something I always recommend folks do regardless. Or you can always just make a "fake" Facebook account for the group if you wish that leaves out the personal details, or provides made up details for your alternate persona. :)

    I'll probably participate on both, but the forum style organization keeps my OCD appeased, and it's too bad that doesn't carry over to FB very well. 
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  • mapleandbaconmapleandbacon member
    edited April 2018
    When my last group migrated to FB there were a few people that had to join fb since they didn't have it. We did some catfishing tests and never ended up with a catfish.  Of anyone is concerned about their privacy their setting should be on minimum anyway.  I don't do anything on the internet that I'd need a persona for...
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  • lalala2004lalala2004 member
    livinthesunnylife said:
    neeraja_k said:
    PM sent!

    Or you can always just make a "fake" Facebook account for the group if you wish that leaves out the personal details, or provides made up details for your alternate persona. :)

    ^ That just seems like an invitation to catfish.  I wouldn't welcome being in a close knit group that discusses personal things with someone using a persona.

    edited: typo
    I've known people that do that because they've dealt with stalkers or just don't want to have a Facebook, yet don't want to lose touch with the group. There are ways to weed out catfish regardless of what kind of Facebook account they have. A LOT of people don't use their real name on Facebook for a lot of reasons.
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  • homequiltingmamahomequiltingmama member
    @lalala2004 pm sent, I think. The app gliched somewhere in there so I'm not 100% sure that it worked, though it looked ok on my end when I finished...
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  • nugs41nugs41 member
    I don’t usually have much to comment on tbh, but have gotten so much out of the product spotlights and STMs input on posts, so I’d hate to lose out on that. Will send a pm and give this fb thing a try...
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