@mytrueloves if I was worried I was going to fall asleep I’d either have H check on me, walk around while nursing, or set an alarm on my phone. Generally speaking the alarm would wake the baby up too but boobs would put her right back to sleep.
Don’t know how useful this is, but one of the videos I watched on breastfeeding suggested that a football hold was easier for large chested women to see that baby’s nose was clear for breathing. I don’t know if this would translate to also being generally less likely to suffocate baby with boobage.
@knottieamusements I think that would depend on where you were nursing. The concern is more once baby unlatched from the breast that they could fall in between cushions or pillows.
Can we talk about how not to fall asleep while feeding the baby? Cause my biggest fear rn is that I'm going to suffocate the baby with my giant boobs.
If you think you’ll fall asleep, bed is safer than a chair, but remove blankets or pillows. You could also sit on the floor bc the less comfy it is, the less likely you’ll fall asleep. Also, play on your phone (browse online or play games), watch TV, set an alarm to go off every so often, have someone wake up with you, snack on something, drink cold water, make yourself uncomfortable, move rooms, change baby’s diaper first to help you wake up a little. Some of these may work for you and some may not, but there’s lot things to try.
Can we talk about how not to fall asleep while feeding the baby? Cause my biggest fear rn is that I'm going to suffocate the baby with my giant boobs.
If you think you’ll fall asleep, bed is safer than a chair, but remove blankets or pillows. You could also sit on the floor bc the less comfy it is, the less likely you’ll fall asleep. Also, play on your phone (browse online or play games), watch TV, set an alarm to go off every so often, have someone wake up with you, snack on something, drink cold water, make yourself uncomfortable, move rooms, change baby’s diaper first to help you wake up a little. Some of these may work for you and some may not, but there’s lot things to try.
Good grief. I did not say to fall asleep and bed share.
I said it was safer to feed in bed than a chair (I never before said it wasn’t, so how is that a different tune?) I didn’t say you should intentionally bedshare. Even the AAP recommends to feed in bed if your tired, but recommendeds against bedsharing. Two different things. Feeding in bed does not equal bed sharing. Quit looking for stuff to intentionally pick at. And Kelly mom is not research based information for bed sharing.
I am soooo late to this game and don’t even know who or what I am cheering for anymore but this thread is great. +1 for team wing it. I’d love to have baby in its own room in own crib ASAP but am also aware that the chances of me ending up with a unicorn are slim. I was a terrible sleeper and my parents bedshared with me... For the record, I still hate to sleep alone!
Nowhere do they say to bedshare (allow your infant to sleep in your bed). They acknowledge that parents are tired and may fall asleep while feeding. Again, it’s not advocating bed sharing, and in fact say, “if you do fall asleep, as soon as you wake up to move baby to his or her own bed (cited below).” Accidentally falling asleep while feeding is not the same as (intentionally) bed-sharing.
JFC I meant follow their rules on how to make bed sharing as safe as possible. Also, though many moms choose to bedshare as a first choice and do so safely, that would never be my choice because IMO it sucks and isn’t restful. However, sometimes it is a really good idea because you’re too tired to deal with baby’s fussy bullshit and you just need some sleep so you can be a functional, responsible parent. From your post, it seems like you get that. For the love of God, stop being so judgy about other moms choices.
and you’re right, it doesn’t say “safe bedsharing rules”, I paraphrased. It says “general safety guidelines for bed sharing” and then lists a bunch of information that’s really, really good to know if you’re going to lie down in bed nursing a baby with the intention (or likelihood) of falling asleep there.
Seriously, I was just answering a question about ideas for staying awake while feeding. Nowhere have I been judgy to other moms. I’ve stated my practices and my opinions and provided research. I never judged another mom or said she was wrong. I fact, several times I stated that any mom can make their own decision, and I don’t have a problem with that. I feel like your blowing this out of proportion because we aren’t seeing this the same way. Let it go.
I was going to say something to @jemmerjams about how we take our dogs collars off at night since the jingle is obnoxious and will wake a toddler (DD slept through it when she was a newborn)
..but then i got sidetracked by everything else going on in this thread. I feel like I’m watching a game of pong.
@BabyRobbinsAdventure We has a naked dog for months when DS was little and did most of his sleeping in a rock n play in the living room. The jingle is so loud!
Apparently I’m weird. I can tell when the groomers put my dog’s collar back on tighter than I prefer because the jingle is too quiet. I actually want to be woken up by it, because otherwise I don’t hear him get up and he’ll start barking.
But- I also don’t have a sleeping kid yet. This is going to be a whole new adventure in pet ownership.
@mytrueloves I tend to read a book on my kindle or phone or scroll through Facebook while I nurse in the middle of the night. I also think the bed is the safest place to fall asleep with the blankets cleared. I nursed on my side when I was exhausted, with the baby inside so they wouldn’t fall off the bed.
https://www.etsy.com/market/embroidered_dog_collar - you can embroider your dogs name and your phone number on the collar itself so you dont need a tag, and the rabies tag generally (check your state and local requirements) doesn't NEED to be on your collar, as long as you have access to proof of a rabies vaccine readily available in your home if need be. Poof! Tags eliminated!
@kiwi2628 My aunt has collars like that. Somehow two of her dogs managed to get the rings for their tags stuck together when they were playing and then freaked out. Luckily she was home to help but was afraid what would have happened if she wasn’t. I’d probably go that route if we had more than one dog.
I found with my first two that our own dogs noises (including barking) wouldn't ever wake them up, even as they got a bit older. But if my parent's were over with their dogs and those dogs made a peep it would instantly wake them up! I think it's definitely what they are used to....although I'm sure it also varies child to child!
We take off my pups collar when we are in the house. Especially when we leave her alone. Our vet told us that some dogs can strangle themselves by accident.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
At one point my dog had like 4 tags: his name and our number, rabies, state of mi license, city license. I keep forgetting to renew the city license and that one just fell off.
I dont think our dogs even get registered through the town... (theyre my mom's dogs but I live with her) they dont have collars because one chews it off and when they come for walks they do better in harnesses because they like to pull and the collar chokes them.. So no jingling dogs in my house lol they just bark at absolutely EVERYTHING which will be a problem when baby bear is born...
Oh gosh, if my dogs didn't have collars with tags, I would get shamed so hard on the Nextdoor app for not chipping and collaring my dog (both are chipped) and it would be all my fault I lost them and I'm a terrible person, etc...
For people looking for some entertaining threads, check out your local Nextdoor app. My god, the threads about throwing your dogs poop in someone's trashcan pops up once a month, and the dog owner shaming if your dog gets loose...solid gold.
@jemmerjams - Unfortunately my local Nextdoor rants tend to be about local politics.
It is bad enough that my neighborhood has a private mailing list that one guy chooses to use on a regular basis to bitch about random stuff; it is even worse to have to listen to politics for local towns that I don’t even live in. (St. Louis County is a patchwork of 80+ towns that all run together into one big city, so Nextdoor thinks that I care about that town over there.)
1st Kid slept next to bed/couch in bassinet for 2-3ish months. After that went to crib full time. I did co-sleep for 3-4ish weeks at around 3 months due to both she and I needing a humidifier in the room and we only had 1. After multiple 2 am parties I put an end to that and she went back to her room lol. Never had a problem and she has always slept like a dream kid. She's 3.5 now and I don't hear a peep from her at night ever. Will do the same with this kid.
Re: Sleeping Options (also known as 'let's talk about sleep, baby')
https://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/cosleeping/
I said it was safer to feed in bed than a chair (I never before said it wasn’t, so how is that a different tune?) I didn’t say you should intentionally bedshare. Even the AAP recommends to feed in bed if your tired, but recommendeds against bedsharing. Two different things. Feeding in bed does not equal bed sharing. Quit looking for stuff to intentionally pick at. And Kelly mom is not research based information for bed sharing.
I am soooo late to this game and don’t even know who or what I am cheering for anymore but this thread is great. +1 for team wing it. I’d love to have baby in its own room in own crib ASAP but am also aware that the chances of me ending up with a unicorn are slim. I was a terrible sleeper and my parents bedshared with me... For the record, I still hate to sleep alone!
Also AAP: But if you're tired follow these bedsharing practices to keep baby safe while you feed baby...while bedsharing...wait.
https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/american-academy-of-pediatrics-announces-new-safe-sleep-recommendations-to-protect-against-sids.aspx
and you’re right, it doesn’t say “safe bedsharing rules”, I paraphrased. It says “general safety guidelines for bed sharing” and then lists a bunch of information that’s really, really good to know if you’re going to lie down in bed nursing a baby with the intention (or likelihood) of falling asleep there.
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..but then i got sidetracked by everything else going on in this thread. I feel like I’m watching a game of pong.
But- I also don’t have a sleeping kid yet. This is going to be a whole new adventure in pet ownership.
I'm not even trying for “professional” anymore...just give me the long and warm socks, some leggings, and an oversized sweater for work appropriate.
https://www.etsy.com/market/embroidered_dog_collar - you can embroider your dogs name and your phone number on the collar itself so you dont need a tag, and the rabies tag generally (check your state and local requirements) doesn't NEED to be on your collar, as long as you have access to proof of a rabies vaccine readily available in your home if need be. Poof! Tags eliminated!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
For people looking for some entertaining threads, check out your local Nextdoor app. My god, the threads about throwing your dogs poop in someone's trashcan pops up once a month, and the dog owner shaming if your dog gets loose...solid gold.
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1