I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant. I live with my boyfriends mom who smokes excessively. There's also a roach problem. I'm currently sleeping on the floor due to my air mattress popping. The room I am in can barely be enough room for us and a newborn. Not to mention we don't even have anything for him and I'm due next month. Luckily my mom is very supportive in all of this and has done alot for my son. But the list could go on and on as to why I don't want to be in this house trying to raise my son. I want to move to my mom's just until we move into our own place but it feels like it's never going to happen (I forgot to mention my boyfriend is a procrastinator and hasn't done anything he has said he was going to do) and I don't want anyone thinking I'm taking my son away from his father I just want what's best for him and living in these conditions is not what I want for myself nor him.
Do y’all not work? What is the reason you’re putting up with that situation? Especially if your mom’s is a safer place? I’m assuming bf’s mom smokes inside? I’ve got so many questions.
I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant. I live with my boyfriends mom who smokes excessively. There's also a roach problem. I'm currently sleeping on the floor due to my air mattress popping. The room I am in can barely be enough room for us and a newborn. Not to mention we don't even have anything for him and I'm due next month. Luckily my mom is very supportive in all of this and has done alot for my son. But the list could go on and on as to why I don't want to be in this house trying to raise my son. I want to move to my mom's just until we move into our own place but it feels like it's never going to happen (I forgot to mention my boyfriend is a procrastinator and hasn't done anything he has said he was going to do) and I don't want anyone thinking I'm taking my son away from his father I just want what's best for him and living in these conditions is not what I want for myself nor him.
And if not, please just move in with your mother. You're about to be a mother and need to start putting your child first. Who cares what others think. You will literally be questioned on your parenting decisions for years to come by some in your life. May as well start now.
And I haven't responded because I don't get an notification saying people commented.... but anyway if I do leave I don't know how to go about it to tell him I want us to live with my mom
And I haven't responded because I don't get an notification saying people commented.... but anyway if I do leave I don't know how to go about it to tell him I want us to live with my mom
You say “this living situation is toxic to our child and to our relationship. I want to move.”
You can't be afraid to stand up for your child. You are your child's biggest advocate. He can't even communicate yet, your job is to protect him and speak for him.
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I have talked to him about it and it turns out we both agree I should be at my mom's. I feel way better now knowing my son is going to be in a better home. And also idk if I'm just a softy or I'm reading wrong but I came on here for advice from other pregnant women and I feel like some of you are just rude and put things a little differently. I'm a first time mother and I'm new to alot of things so you don't have to bash me and make me feel dumb or for asking something.
It is wrong that people are harping on you. As a first time mom also I understand how hard it may be to stand up to not just your boyfriend but his mother also. Do what's best for you guys and in the end you will feel better and so will your boyfriend! Good luck!
It is wrong that people are harping on you. As a first time mom also I understand how hard it may be to stand up to not just your boyfriend but his mother also. Do what's best for you guys and in the end you will feel better and so will your boyfriend! Good luck!
I feel like this may be op with another login... If not, then here goes. How dare us strangers care more about her and her baby's health than she does. How dare we "harp" on her to get herself and child into a way better living situation that is easily done at this time. Ugh, we're all such bullies.
It is wrong that people are harping on you. As a first time mom also I understand how hard it may be to stand up to not just your boyfriend but his mother also. Do what's best for you guys and in the end you will feel better and so will your boyfriend! Good luck!
****Stuck in box... send help**** There are plenty of FTM things that are reasonable to ask. Questions about birth, advice on breastfeeding, questions about baby gear, etc. These are things that FTMs would not have any experience with and therefore need help on. I feel like the safety/living situation for your child is not something that is a FTM thing. If you feel like the situation is dangerous for you and your child, step up and do what is right. According to her own response, her boyfriend agreed, but she didn't know because she hadn't even talked to him about it. When it comes to your child, you have to do what is safest and not worry about hurting other people's feelings.
Your boyfriend's mom's house is a health hazard for your baby and will increase the risks of SIDS because of the smoking...get out now and save your baby...no room to be selfish here.
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And if not, please just move in with your mother. You're about to be a mother and need to start putting your child first. Who cares what others think. You will literally be questioned on your parenting decisions for years to come by some in your life. May as well start now.
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If not, then here goes. How dare us strangers care more about her and her baby's health than she does. How dare we "harp" on her to get herself and child into a way better living situation that is easily done at this time.
Ugh, we're all such bullies.