People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
Re: Grief Support w/o 4/2
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), who you lost, when you had the loss(es), diagnosis / conditions / circumstances surrounding the loss, etc. My brother committed suicide a little over a year ago, this week is my due date from my miscarriage, also, this week was 5 years since my dad's brother died.
But, on a happier note, my brother's kids visited today. It was great to see them,and hey are moving closer, so I will be able to see them more. But, it is so hard to say goodbye, the older two cry (5 & 6). And the baby (2) asked me to bring her Daddy next time we visit.
Stuck in spoiler box....
My brother died in the mountains in an orchard, he said he was going someplace pretty. It was somewhere we had gone every year of our lives. So it is a bittersweet place. I didn't go there this past year, but I want to go myself this summer. As for Easter, there was hope in it. I mentioned issues with not having a church last week, and I think we found one, we are going this week. We had a family friend come yesterday for dinner. He has little family and is a Vietnam vet, he shared yesterday he saw 3 friends die on Easter. Not that that helped, but I guess it did in a way because my thoughts were for him and how he still feels the pain after all these years. And by to self brag, but it made me feel good that we did invite him, because otherwise he may have been alone on Easter, which is a really hard day for him.
This week, it's my miscarriage. It was complete tonight.
Relief? Physically, I feel a million times better. That was some of the most excruciating, unmedicated pain, of my entire life. I prayed the entire time for God to let me miscarry before the D&C scheduled for tomorrow. I wanted to see him/her. When I finally passed him, I had a gut feeling it was a boy. We named him and buried him in the yard.
Easter was hard because we were going to announce to my husband's family with my son wearing a shirt we ordered. I packed before we found out, so I was getting my son dressed on Easter and found the shirt and lost it.
TTC#2: 2/2018; BFP: 2/26/18; MC 4/4/18.
TTC#2: 4/2018; BFP: 5/12/18; EDD: 1/19/19 (boy)
2 fur babies: Oakley Marley (11.5) & Ava Lynn (2)
@holly321 I'm sorry you're struggling this week. MC is so cruel in the way we think we're fine one week and then it all comes crashing down again without warning. I'm glad you were able to give your friend a family to spend Easter with, that was a nice gesture and I'm sure he really appreciated it.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
((((( @oaklandava ))))) How are you feeling?
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), who you lost, when you had the loss(es), diagnosis / conditions / circumstances surrounding the loss, etc.
I cannot even get myself to talk about my best friend right now. It's gonna be just my Daddy right now. It's 12:25 am. 3:15 pm CST today will be 4 months.
(a) I didn't even remember it was Easter and then my Mom mentioned that it would be her first Easter without Dad. I was never really a holiday person so I mostly felt really awful for her that day. I cannot imagine ever losing my husband so it was just....about her...instead of me. I spent a lot of time with her on the phone that day.
(b) Pic in spoiler. I found one of a father and daughter fishing. My Daddy was an avid fisherman. My first time fishing was with him. He taught me how to worm my own hook and everything awhile later, but the first time, he taught me with a kernel of corn. My first nickname was red because I had wild red hair. The first fish I caught was a bluegill. After that, my nickname was blue until one day it was sue bucket but that's another story. While I was crying tonight, I wished that I could fish with him one more time. I wonder if that's why water has always calmed me--because it reminds me of fishing with him. It was always so peaceful and taught me a lot of patience.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@suzycupcake, *hugs*. My family and I have a lot of discussions over the last year of our different perspectives of grief, how certain things are harder for SIL, my mom, etc. Like my brother's birthday, to me it was almost a happy day to remember him, but hard for her. it can be hard to remember stuff like that especially with my our own grief. Although Easter itself was not a big deal to you, I am certain it is still hard emotionally to feel your mom having such a hard time, I am certain she is thankful that you kept in touch throughout the day.
AFM, my pathology from my molar pregnancy showed high concern for choriocarcinoma, but was uncertain. My HCG levels rose after a few weeks, which is another sign the molar pregnancy was malignant. One doctor said they could never confirm if you was or wasn't (you need multiple rises, but with the bad pathology, we were waiting to start chemo.) But, have esaid, it is acting like cancer, it looks like cancer, we are treating it like cancer, so, essentially it is cancer. My other oncologist (other than my first visit) also referred to it as cancer.
TTC#2: 2/2018; BFP: 2/26/18; MC 4/4/18.
TTC#2: 4/2018; BFP: 5/12/18; EDD: 1/19/19 (boy)
2 fur babies: Oakley Marley (11.5) & Ava Lynn (2)
TTC#2: 2/2018; BFP: 2/26/18; MC 4/4/18.
TTC#2: 4/2018; BFP: 5/12/18; EDD: 1/19/19 (boy)
2 fur babies: Oakley Marley (11.5) & Ava Lynn (2)