MoonOverGoldsboro - so with you on HATING pads. I feel like I'm sitting in my own filth, nasty.
@burlapandlace - same with having a waterproof cover on the mattress already > dogs and now toddler
with DD1 my water didn't break until I was at the hospital and I was already 10 cm- it was a big pop, so it doesn't always happen early. Honestly, looking back, I think that is why I had no idea I had progressed as far as I did.
@2589 Good idea for changing tables! My diaper bag has a cute changing mat...but I keep it in a gallon ziploc because I don't want the germy thing touching anything else. Its annoying to get out and put away each time while holding baby. Puppy pads would be easier.
I didn't notice any smell when my waterS (lol...why DO they say that?) broke. Funny story, my friend thought her water broke, called her husband and headed to the hospital. Turns out she had just peed her pants. Not that uncommon, from what I hear. BUT her huaband, in his excitement, posted on FB that her water broke and baby was on his way. So he later had to explain it was a false alarm and everyone found out about her accident. She wasn't pleased
My first Dr told me that something like 85% of women who came in to labor and delivery thinking their water had broken were wrong and it was something else.
I imagine that once my water breaks, I won't care about changing clothes to avoid public humiliation. You usually go in to labor before your water breaks, so at that point I wouldn't GAF and would just want someone to drive me to the hospital so I don't deliver in a grocery store or something!
I also am very glad that we went with a mattress cover that is spill/stain proof. We weren't thinking "water breaking" when we bought it, but were more concerned with "wine spilling" or "lube explosion", but it definitely covers that base, too.
Does anyone know about insurance? I thought preventative care was supposed to be covered per the ACA, which I believe is still in place, and I thought prenatal visits were considered preventative care. If that is the case does that mean that the insurance company has to cover them 100% and not apply it to your deductible? All of my prenatal visits we're covered 100%, we didn't see any bills and the EOB said we owed nothing, on our insurance last year. I am just now getting all of my bills for my prenatal appointments on our new insurance and almost nothing is covered and it's all going towards the deductible.
I know it really doesn't matter because if I pay it now that is less that I will have to pay for the delivery because the delivery will definitely go over my deductible. I'm just curious and I kind of want to call them but I want to know my isht before I try to rip them a new one.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke - Is it prenatal doctors visits that you're getting bills for, or the ultrasounds, blood work, etc? I'm on a high deductible plan, and while I don't get bills on just the visit, anything else they do I get billed for and it's applied to deductible.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
My waters didn't break with either of my kids (both inductions for pre-e). With my first, the doctor tried to break my water and it didn't break. He said he'd be back to try again. That was at 9 pm and he didn't return until 6:30 am. It broke that time. With DS2 the waters were broken by the doctor when I was at a 10. DS2 literally came one push later. I sort of wish I could have pushed to see if he could have been delivered en caul. But that wasn't the case.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@krashke My insurance plan covers all of my prenatal care at 100%. Because I pay nothing out of pocket, none of this goes to my deductible. I did visit urgent care twice this year and have a $25 co-pay for urgent care visits and the $50 I paid for my co-pays did go toward my deductible and out of pocket maximum which we will have to pay once I deliver.
@mytinc It's been everything but so far it has only been on the EOB. I haven't actually gotten a bill from the provider with what I owe so maybe I just wait it out until I see a bill. Maybe they are trying to sort it out too.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I always wait until I see the actual bill before paying @krashke - sometimes it's all worked out between the doctor's office and insurance and you never get a bill.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@krashke My OB office has what they call a global maternity fee. It includes a certain number of visits (no u/s) and the delivery fee. Half of the fee is paid at the 4 month mark, the rest at the 7 month mark. Since I had already shelled out half to MFM, I ended up not having to pay the second half to my OB's office, since they know that I have already met my deductible. Nothing from my OB actually gets submitted to insurance until after the birth of the baby. After the baby is born, I will receive a check for anything I have paid over my deductible.
@katelynrae86@May14th2011 this is why I waited so long to go to the hospital! I didn't want to be the person that got there and they're like "no sorry it's just urine"
@starla Omg .... that's a thing!? That never really occurred to me
Pooping in utero? Yes. Different hospitals have different protocols for dealing with it. It wasn’t the sole reason for DD’s NICU stint, but it was part of the reason the team was brought in and set up camp in my birthing suite. YMMV.
@profmcgonagall I had a mole biopsy done when pregnant with DD and had to put neosporin on it which my ob okayed. I'm pretty sure as long as you're just using it topically and not over an active bleed you should be fine, but if you're concerned it wouldn't hurt to call your ob and check.
@profmcgonagall I've used polysporin. Depends on wound - mine have mostly been hang nails because I'm just not that smart lmao {my H says it's because I'm hungry lol}
@profmcgonagall I had a cyst removed while pregnant with DD and need to keep the area draining, so was told to use Aquaphor, which I have used interchangeably with neosporin in the past. But like @momac1919 said, you can always check with your OBs office to confirm it is safe.
@profmcgonagall I'm low key allergic to mosquitos and when I get bit, they can get pretty nasty. My OB cleared me to continue to use neosporin whenever that happens. Should be noted that mosquitos are everywhere in AZ apparently and I currently have 3 welts/scabs on my arm
AFM, I just (finally) signed up for our hospital tour on April 22nd and our baby care class on Monday! But my question is about the importance of the breastfeeding class. I really want to take one because I feel so lost about that whole concept, but my hospital only offers them once a month on Saturday afternoons. I now work on Saturdays at least for April; May is up in the air. Should I register for the May class and hope I have that Saturday off or is it not worth the stress and just hope that my own research and trial and error will be enough? The class is not free, but it's only $30 which feels reasonable.
ETA- I just realized I posted this on last week's question thread. Sorry gang! It's still March in my mind!!
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 don't worry- it's April and I probably could write 2017 as the year still. As for the BFing class, I never took one so I don't know how helpful the prenatal class would be, but I would think that having a class after you have given birth would be much more helpful. People struggle with so many different aspects of BFing and you just won't know where your struggles are until LO is born. Plus PP BFing groups are a nice way to force yourself out of the house once a week and get to know other local moms.
@Amphibious22 I took one, but I felt that it was very high level (stuff I already knew from others) and definitely didn't prepare me for when DS wouldn't latch at the hospital. People recommend certain books like The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding - - would you have time to skim through a book instead? If not, you can always read kellymom.com, which is the best resource for breastfeeding online (and a lot less militant than LLL). This time around, I definitely plan to take advantage of local BFing classes like @jsl82 mentioned, because I think that will be more helpful.
@Amphibious22 I'm not taking a specific breastfeeding class before baby but one of our weeks for our birthing class focused on breastfeeding. I would say it was helpful but it's hard to really benefit from it before you can trial and error. They suggested attending a Le Lache League meeting before baby is born, to also watch mom's breastfeeding if you don't have a close family member or friend that you can do that with.
We also watched this video which I found really informative:
I would also look into if your hospital offers breastfeeding support for after baby is born. Ours offers a "breastfeeding cafe" where they set up a conference room near the birth center for moms and babies to come in and have free access to a lactation consultant. They will even weigh your baby before you feed them and after so you can get a better idea of how much they are eating.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@Amphibious22 +1 for kellymom.com and speaking with a LC shortly after birth I took two levels of BF classes at my hospital prior to giving birth. They were free, but I would have paid $30 to attend, given what I got out of them. I will say though that while I did learn a lot, that was also counterproductive at times because I would jump to the worst conclusions when having trouble, rather than approaching things from a calm, logical place.
@jsl82@marcus7676 thanks for the advice. I'll definitely look into a PP group since I also need to branch out and meet new people here anyways. And @marcus7676 I'll definitely look into that book! @krashke thanks for the video!! I'll be checking that out. And idk if my hospital has that, but it's something to ask during the tour for sure. @kfren I didn't even think about the counterproductive aspect of a prenatal class.
I think I'll pass on registering for it for now. It sounds like there are/should be enough resources pp for me to be successful.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 I tend to over analyze things, so if you are that way at all, I would advise skipping classes. They're mostly helpful, but... If you can have a Lactation Consultant come visit you in the hospital, do it. They can show you how to get a good latch (provided baby cooperates,) different ways to hold the baby, and answer any questions you might have about pumping. It also doesn't hurt to bring your pump to the hospital to show them, if you have questions about how to use it. This may be TMI, but I have larger than average nips and would not have known that the flanges that came with my pump were waaaaayyyy too small had the LC not pointed that out. She had some in her office that were the right size, so I left the hospital with exactly what I needed.
Amphibious22 - jumping on the bandwagon here...with my 1st I took the BF class at the hospital and while I thought it was helpful at the time, looking back I don't think there was a huge benefit to it. We watched a video from the 80s and went over different ways to hold the baby (easily found on google/youtube/kellymom/etc). I don't think it really touched on the reality of BF struggles, troubleshooting, what to expect. I second everyone who said that meeting with a LC prior and classes after would be more beneficial. That is what I'm doing this time around. There is a LC at my OB office so i'll see her for one of my checkups instead of the doc to talk about things then visit her 2 weeks after baby is born (and as needed) and she has weekly "gatherings" in the office lobby with snacks.
As for mosquitoes...I too have a skito allergy and my bites get horrible. When I was little my doc told my mom to give me vitamin b12 supplements in the summer and they wouldn't bite me...IT WORKS!! I still take it in the summer if I know I'm going to be outside a lot. Of course check with your OB- but girl, take some vit b12
@kfren good point! I just got my email from aeroflow with which pumps I can get. Still need to make that decision since my insurance covers like 5 brands apparently. I almost wish it didn't give me so many choices. I'll be heading back to the pump thread for sure!
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@kmurdock925 B12 for mosquitoes- I think you just changed my life! My in laws live in the middle of no where and my neighbors all sit outside and drink on weekends in the summer... i usually end up looking like I have chicken pox- I cannot wait to try this.
On the LC point - - some insurances cover visits by LCs. However, these insurances also only have approved providers. I learned the hard way with DS after forking out $250 each visit out of pocket. This time around, I have an approved list of LCs (for my insurance) and I plan on calling them in late May to see how quickly I can get on their calendar after the baby is born. I'm also planning on calling from the hospital after I have the baby to set something up given some of the waiting times I ran into. I'm trying to be proactive given my issues last time. I encourage everyone to find a list of LC's that are insurance approved in their area!
jsl82 it will change your life! If I don't take it I will be the one who ends up with 30-50 bites but if I do take it zilch. I don't know how this isn't publicized more. As a kid mine would be the size of golfballs and miserable.
@kmurdock925 - Remind me of this trick come mosquito season! I have horrible welts/reactions to mosquitos as well.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@kmurdock925 I'm so curious to test this with DH. He is also a mosquito magnet and slightly allergic, and I recently convinced him to start taking B12 vitamins since he's vegetarian and really needs to. We shall see what this summer has in store!
Re: Questions?? w/o 3/26
MoonOverGoldsboro - so with you on HATING pads. I feel like I'm sitting in my own filth, nasty.
@burlapandlace - same with having a waterproof cover on the mattress already > dogs and now toddler
with DD1 my water didn't break until I was at the hospital and I was already 10 cm- it was a big pop, so it doesn't always happen early. Honestly, looking back, I think that is why I had no idea I had progressed as far as I did.
I didn't notice any smell when my waterS (lol...why DO they say that?) broke. Funny story, my friend thought her water broke, called her husband and headed to the hospital. Turns out she had just peed her pants. Not that uncommon, from what I hear. BUT her huaband, in his excitement, posted on FB that her water broke and baby was on his way. So he later had to explain it was a false alarm and everyone found out about her accident. She wasn't pleased
@katelynrae86 note to husband, no social media until baby is out!
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
By 37 weeks, I'm carrying the diaper bag around - extra bottoms, giant pad and if any paperwork ..
I also am very glad that we went with a mattress cover that is spill/stain proof. We weren't thinking "water breaking" when we bought it, but were more concerned with "wine spilling" or "lube explosion", but it definitely covers that base, too.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
I know it really doesn't matter because if I pay it now that is less that I will have to pay for the delivery because the delivery will definitely go over my deductible. I'm just curious and I kind of want to call them but I want to know my isht before I try to rip them a new one.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
AFM, I just (finally) signed up for our hospital tour on April 22nd and our baby care class on Monday! But my question is about the importance of the breastfeeding class. I really want to take one because I feel so lost about that whole concept, but my hospital only offers them once a month on Saturday afternoons. I now work on Saturdays at least for April; May is up in the air. Should I register for the May class and hope I have that Saturday off or is it not worth the stress and just hope that my own research and trial and error will be enough? The class is not free, but it's only $30 which feels reasonable.
ETA- I just realized I posted this on last week's question thread. Sorry gang! It's still March in my mind!!
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
We also watched this video which I found really informative:
I would also look into if your hospital offers breastfeeding support for after baby is born. Ours offers a "breastfeeding cafe" where they set up a conference room near the birth center for moms and babies to come in and have free access to a lactation consultant. They will even weigh your baby before you feed them and after so you can get a better idea of how much they are eating.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I took two levels of BF classes at my hospital prior to giving birth. They were free, but I would have paid $30 to attend, given what I got out of them. I will say though that while I did learn a lot, that was also counterproductive at times because I would jump to the worst conclusions when having trouble, rather than approaching things from a calm, logical place.
@krashke thanks for the video!! I'll be checking that out. And idk if my hospital has that, but it's something to ask during the tour for sure.
@kfren I didn't even think about the counterproductive aspect of a prenatal class.
I think I'll pass on registering for it for now. It sounds like there are/should be enough resources pp for me to be successful.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
If you can have a Lactation Consultant come visit you in the hospital, do it. They can show you how to get a good latch (provided baby cooperates,) different ways to hold the baby, and answer any questions you might have about pumping.
It also doesn't hurt to bring your pump to the hospital to show them, if you have questions about how to use it. This may be TMI, but I have larger than average nips and would not have known that the flanges that came with my pump were waaaaayyyy too small had the LC not pointed that out. She had some in her office that were the right size, so I left the hospital with exactly what I needed.
Amphibious22 - jumping on the bandwagon here...with my 1st I took the BF class at the hospital and while I thought it was helpful at the time, looking back I don't think there was a huge benefit to it. We watched a video from the 80s and went over different ways to hold the baby (easily found on google/youtube/kellymom/etc). I don't think it really touched on the reality of BF struggles, troubleshooting, what to expect. I second everyone who said that meeting with a LC prior and classes after would be more beneficial. That is what I'm doing this time around. There is a LC at my OB office so i'll see her for one of my checkups instead of the doc to talk about things then visit her 2 weeks after baby is born (and as needed) and she has weekly "gatherings" in the office lobby with snacks.
As for mosquitoes...I too have a skito allergy and my bites get horrible. When I was little my doc told my mom to give me vitamin b12 supplements in the summer and they wouldn't bite me...IT WORKS!! I still take it in the summer if I know I'm going to be outside a lot. Of course check with your OB- but girl, take some vit b12
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
Amphibious22 - yes!
marcus7676 - oh no!! That is highly disappointing! I don't know what they logic is behind it working but it has always worked wonders for me.
doxiemoxie212 - sounds like a great test subject, ha
@mytinc - absolutely!