@austenista I don't even think I looked at my incision for a week or so. I had dh examine it for any issues lol. not that I'm squeamish... but if I saw it, I'd probably walk around like a statue, scared to move or bend.
all this talk about checking clothes after a csection. I'm really curious how i'll feel this time around. I had a lumbar headache from the spinal last time, didn't go away till a week after delivery. so I felt so crumby the whole stay, I didn't even think of clothes. I really hope to feel better this time and be up and interested in clothes by like day 2 maybe.
oh! and add change/coins and bills to your hospital bag lists! I've seen vending machines that take cards. and yes, there's cafeterias there for DH. but late at night.. when the café is closed and if you don't have a fancy vending machine.. that change will come in handy.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Every time I see a conversation about hospital bags I just want to yell CHAPSTICK!!! I went to the hospital via ambulance with literally nothing (not even pants) last time, and my chapstick was the only thing I really, truly wanted. Hospitals really are dry AF.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Did any of you deliver during summer in a location like the south or east coast where places tend to blaaaast AC? I've heard a lot about maternity floors being super effing hot to keep the babies warm? But I'm curious if that will be the case in a place like NYC where every building ever is so AC happy that it's like 30 degrees in July inside. When we toured our hospital in December it was admittedly hot as balls, but they're also heater happy in the winter here. I'm basically curious if anyone has been in L&D and been cold AF or if it really is just always hot year round for the babies.
I delivered at the end of September in Boston and don't remember being hot or cold. I typically run cold, but postpartum hormones are no joke. I think I had my husband put socks on me at one point, but otherwise, I just was under the thin blanket in a gown.
Hospital bag wise: I'm figuring I'll probably wear a maxi dress on the way home {light, flowy, etc} but in hospital it'll prob be chilly {June = a/c} Do you ladies suggest a yoga pant, sweat pants, etc? Anything specific to avoid or look for? I typically wear my pants low, but I want to think in case c-section happens I don't want to irritate that.
doxiemoxie212 - I delivered in July in Ohio where it is crazy humid and AC is typically pumping anywhere inside and I don't remember being particularly cold or not, and I'm ALWAYS cold- like someone said- hormones are raging...and you'll mostly be holding your baby which puts off a bunch of body heat as well. I will say that my delivery room was HOT AF. At one point I said something about it, the nurses ripped open the snaps along my shoulders to cool me off, checked the thermostat and said oh shit because it was set to like 76 or something cray so they turned it way down after that.
I haven't started packing yet but have started the mental list, soon to go on paper. I'm mainly making mental note of any moisturizers, toiletries etc that I may want to take so if I start to run low on my day to day bottles I can leave just enough to take to the hospital and toss it and just replace my daily bottles a hair sooner than waiting for them to be bone dry.
My hospital had me change into a gown when they checked me in triage and I stayed in that until I went to my PP room. I got to the hospital around 630/7 am delivered at 830am so once I got settled in my room I showered and put on my own pj pants and loose shirt.
@MissKittyDanger I was most comfortable in a pair of regular sweatpants that I had cut off into capris. I felt the material was thick enough (vs yoga pants or leggings) to cover up the huge diaper pad butt sagginess that was going on
Oooh, @2589, the diaper pad butt!! I kept checking myself in the mirror after my son was born to see if my booty sag was obvious. I am worried about wearing maxi dresses in the days after birth for this reason...I feel like the material on most of mine are pretty thin, and my lump-butt is going to be really obvious!
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
@2589 Lol! That's why I was thinking somewhat yoga pants. When I wore pads as a teenager, I felt it hid the diaper look :P That's also partly why I was thinking maxi dress - look good without effort. If MIL and sFIL are there, sFIL will likely want to take a photo of the momentous occasion. Plus with my luck, humidity will be stupid levels the day we go home
@MissKittyDanger the pads they give you in the hospital are much bulkier than any of the pads I had as a teenager or for at home use post partum! But I definitely recommend using them despite how huge they are for at least the first few days. Like take extra home in your bag when you leave.
@MissKittyDanger I second @2589! I bought a box of the Always extra heavy overnight pads to use thinking they would be comfier/better, but I actually preferred the hospital pads and I kept stashing them away and asking for more.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@MissKittyDanger I don't think a small pack would hurt to pick up. Honestly though, I used the hospital ones, and then I was lucky that I only needed the "normal" ones from then on out.
Eta: it should say wouldn’t not would. Ugh.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@sunshineandwhiskey Fair enough. I live pretty close to stores, so I may hold off on buying until I know what I need. Might be good excuse to try and get out
@doxiemoxie212 while I appreciate that comparison I also kind of hate it. I can stand even just a panty liner. I am going to hate those diapers but I imagine it will be sort of a love-hate relationship.
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Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I used everything from the hospital pads, to the overnight pads, to the heavy flow, to regular, to pantiliners. I've already ordered everything (aside from the hospital pads, obvi) to have on hand.
+1 to the giant pads are awesome sentiment. They look wild, but feel fine and are nice to stick the ice packs in. My SIL was visiting our house a few months post partum and asked for a panty liner. I jokingly brought her one of those hospital pads (and I think scared her...haha).
I had planned to stay in my own comfy clothes to labor and possibly deliver, to feel more like myself. But they had me change into a gown, giant pad, mesh undies when I arrived because I was already leaking fluid. In hindsight, I'm so glad I did...with all the fluid/blood/etc (I don't even know...or want to think about) I'm glad I was nowhere near my own clothes.
And the shower I took the next morning was the BEST shower of my life. Then I put on yoga pants and a soft robe (easy to nurse in) and felt like a whole new person.
Don’t aim for yoga pants. Or leggings. Chances are you will still be swollen, even after a vaginal birth, in multiple places. You are already going to be uncomfortable and sleep deprived. Why go for the sausage look?
MoonOverGoldsboro - funny you say that. I wore a maxi dress do dd1's first pedi visit at a week old. was still in giant pads and I remember walking through the hospital to get to the Pedi's office...it was a late appointment so super quiet and echo-ie and I asked dh if you could hear the pad squishing around while I was walking. Pretty sure it was totally obvious that I had it on. oh well...I guess having a brand new newborn with me anyone who has any knowledge would know anyway.
@MoonOverGoldsboro I'm bringing a maxi dress for going home. I figured my butt is gonna be in the car, so I'd be safe I'm hoping more flowy than fitted also
@kmurdock925 That made me LOL...I swear I can imagine the squish sound. When I was out of hospital pads I used the Always Overnights, and I felt like they made a squeaky/crinkly sound that drove me nuts, even though it was probably mostly in my head. The whole experience reminded me why I'm not a pad person!
@MissKittyDanger I do have a couple with fuller skirts that I think would be fine. A lot of mine just tend to be fitted around the butt, so I usually wear thongs with them...def not gonna work after birth.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Best pants are going to be pajama pants or similar. C-section incision, if you have one, is going to be right above your pubic hair. If you've got any hair there they'll trim you right before they take you to surgery. Loose pants that can come up on the tum without applying pressure are going to feel best. I brought a variety of things and those won out. This time I'm going to bring pajama pants and a maxi dress. Also, I loved those pads, ain't nothing going anywhere you don't want it to in those things. I too hate panty liners.
Yes to chapstick, comfy socks with grippys, lotion, your own shampoo/conditioner etc. Bring snacks. I also brought my bathrobe (think soft cotton not fluffy) and wore it over my hospital gown because I got chilly and it made me feel more human.
Does anyone think it's necessary to put an absorbent sheet or pad down in their bed soon? That way you can protect your mattress if your water breaks in bed. If so, any recs on an option?
@stephcat421 I would! No suggestions, but my water broke in bed with my first. I rolled over, right after getting into bed and splash! All over my bed, all on the mattress. I don't know how common it is, but even if nothing else, put a towel under the sheet lol.
@May14th2011 omg you just described my worry! I know it's probably a rare occasion but given the absorption of a mattress and unlikely opportunity to clean it properly before sleeping in it again I'd rather take precaution!
@stephcat421 also, I don't remember if this has been mentioned, but when your water breaks, it never stops flowing. It's not a big gush and then over. Mine was a big gush and then kept going in a smaller amount. So keep a few pads on hand for that.
Since we we are a bedsharing family/already have a kiddo, we have waterproof mattress protectors on all of the mattresses in the house. I like that it prevents diaper leaks or throw up from actually getting on the mattresses. Plus I feel it keeps the mattresses cleaner from like body sweat and such. And they are washable and get washed every time I do my sheets. And I have comfort knowing that if my water breaks in bed again, I won’t be ruining my mattress
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all this talk about checking clothes after a csection. I'm really curious how i'll feel this time around. I had a lumbar headache from the spinal last time, didn't go away till a week after delivery. so I felt so crumby the whole stay, I didn't even think of clothes. I really hope to feel better this time and be up and interested in clothes by like day 2 maybe.
oh! and add change/coins and bills to your hospital bag lists! I've seen vending machines that take cards. and yes, there's cafeterias there for DH. but late at night.. when the café is closed and if you don't have a fancy vending machine.. that change will come in handy.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
I'm figuring I'll probably wear a maxi dress on the way home {light, flowy, etc} but in hospital it'll prob be chilly {June = a/c}
Do you ladies suggest a yoga pant, sweat pants, etc? Anything specific to avoid or look for? I typically wear my pants low, but I want to think in case c-section happens I don't want to irritate that.
doxiemoxie212 - I delivered in July in Ohio where it is crazy humid and AC is typically pumping anywhere inside and I don't remember being particularly cold or not, and I'm ALWAYS cold- like someone said- hormones are raging...and you'll mostly be holding your baby which puts off a bunch of body heat as well. I will say that my delivery room was HOT AF. At one point I said something about it, the nurses ripped open the snaps along my shoulders to cool me off, checked the thermostat and said oh shit because it was set to like 76 or something cray so they turned it way down after that.
I haven't started packing yet but have started the mental list, soon to go on paper. I'm mainly making mental note of any moisturizers, toiletries etc that I may want to take so if I start to run low on my day to day bottles I can leave just enough to take to the hospital and toss it and just replace my daily bottles a hair sooner than waiting for them to be bone dry.
My hospital had me change into a gown when they checked me in triage and I stayed in that until I went to my PP room. I got to the hospital around 630/7 am delivered at 830am so once I got settled in my room I showered and put on my own pj pants and loose shirt.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
@sunshineandwhiskey I've heard of people doing that lol I probably will. Would the overnights be good to buy in case anyways? {like a small pack}
Eta: it should say wouldn’t not would. Ugh.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I had planned to stay in my own comfy clothes to labor and possibly deliver, to feel more like myself. But they had me change into a gown, giant pad, mesh undies when I arrived because I was already leaking fluid. In hindsight, I'm so glad I did...with all the fluid/blood/etc (I don't even know...or want to think about) I'm glad I was nowhere near my own clothes.
And the shower I took the next morning was the BEST shower of my life. Then I put on yoga pants and a soft robe (easy to nurse in) and felt like a whole new person.
@MissKittyDanger I do have a couple with fuller skirts that I think would be fine. A lot of mine just tend to be fitted around the butt, so I usually wear thongs with them...def not gonna work after birth.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Yes to chapstick, comfy socks with grippys, lotion, your own shampoo/conditioner etc. Bring snacks. I also brought my bathrobe (think soft cotton not fluffy) and wore it over my hospital gown because I got chilly and it made me feel more human.
Since we we are a bedsharing family/already have a kiddo, we have waterproof mattress protectors on all of the mattresses in the house. I like that it prevents diaper leaks or throw up from actually getting on the mattresses. Plus I feel it keeps the mattresses cleaner from like body sweat and such. And they are washable and get washed every time I do my sheets. And I have comfort knowing that if my water breaks in bed again, I won’t be ruining my mattress