TFAS w/o 3/26

CecilB93 · March 2018

Hope no one minds me starting this thread? Haven't seen one in a while!

*This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***

What number are you trying for?

Cycle/Month?

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

Rant/Rave/Brag:

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home?

CecilB93 · March 2018

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 2/1

WTO/TWW? TWW, hoping AF will start today or tomorrow though

Ages of other child(ren)? 2

Any thoughts about this cycle? Just waiting for AF, I'm on CD 43 and still showing BFNs, so of course this cycle being our first TTC is going to be on the longer side of normal for me

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave/Brag: DS ended daycare yesterday with a fever of 101.2, so we're home today and likely will be tomorrow as well. He's not wanting to eat, but is at least drinking! Getting some pedialyte later to get nutrients besides whatever White Grape Juice may have.

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home?
Definitely a nice kitchen!! I love to cook and bake, but I hate not having space! I definitely want an island or nice peninsula. Also a wet bar and wine cooler! I was a bartender for a few months before having to move and I miss it so much!! I got PG with DS before I could find a new bartending job and just never went back. So I'd love to have a space to experiment with mixed drinks! And DH and I just love wine, lol.

prpl11butterfly · March 2018

What number are you trying for? 3 but 2nd of our own (custody of niece)

Cycle/Month? 8/5 **tw loss earlier this month

WTO/TWW? IDFK.....

Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 2.5 Neice is 9 going in 19......

Any thoughts about this cycle? I don't even know when this "cycle" is going to end....

Any questions? nah

Rant/Rave/Brag: Rant: Niece has been rough. Whatever is going on at her mom's (everyother weekend) is seriously affecting her home life and schooling. Having conference with teach tomorrow and waiting lawyer to call me back about reeling in visitation since school is suffering. Rave/Brag: DS slept through the night in his own bed Sunday night (usually finds his way to ours around 3/4am. It was heavenly. And I have no effing clue how to replicate it

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home? Lots of things but I'll settle for a master bathroom. I'm tired if sharing with a 9yo girl. She touches (and wastes) my stuff. I have to keep my makeup under lock and key. And I constantly forget to bring my stuff into the shower. I want my own space!!!!

@CecilB93 it never ceases, AF is spot on when not TTC but as soon as we start thinking about it she goes all rouge. Hope the little guy feels better soon.

CecilB93 · March 2018

@prpl11butterfly thanks! He got an extra hour of sleep in and is in better spirits now at least. And yes, I've been able to predict AF the last few months even with my long/irregular cycles, and of course this month nothing. Yay for DS sleeping thru on Sunday! Maybe it's the start of a new beginning? Was he super active/worn out Sunday?

prpl11butterfly · March 2018

@CecilB93 he was on the up swing from croup but I don't think that had too much to do with it. We did some errands but nothing super exhausting. He's non stop at daycare so weekdays he should sleep better then weelends. He does this about once a month. I love every second of it since it's so rare.

rolliepollie335 · March 2018

@CecilB93 sorry about the long cycle and sick little one! Hope he’s back to his healthy self soon! It’s so hard that all we can do is help them be as comfortable as possible and just wait it out.

@prpl11butterfly Hats off to you for being a wonderful, stable guardian to your niece. I can’t begin to imagine how difficult it must be to do that with another adult in the picture who it sounds like has much different priorities. And hugs for the WTF of the current cycle. Fx it regulates soon!

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? Hanging out in WTO for now but actually more likely that AF will come instead of ovulating

Ages of other child(ren)? 1.5 DD

Any thoughts about this cycle? Just figuring things out, waiting to regulate. I think I have a 34 day cycle, or at least had that before Mirena and my last pregnancy.

Any questions? Not yet!

Rant/Rave/Brag: I know it’s totally normal coming off Mirena, but it would be nice to have some clue as to where I am in my cycle. I like knowing all the things all the time (type A personality shining through) and the uncertainty is oddly unnverving to me. I guess I need to kinda suck it up and get used to it TTC!

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home? I’m basically lost in reverie after reading about dream kitchens/bars and master bedrooms/bathrooms above ladies! We have a decent kitchen but not luxurious by any means and only have one bathroom upstairs. Not a big deal to share it with a toddler just yet, but both of those are on my list! I think master bed/bath eeks the win if I had to pick just one, but more for privacy from visiting parents (mine and DH’s)! Hard to hide all the pee sticks!

prpl11butterfly · March 2018

@LemonofBluebell the unknowing is frustrating. It took me a few months to adjust after my Nexplanon was removed last June. We didn't start TTC until Aug so I had time to figure it out. Tw** loss** Now I'm trying to figure out how things work after MMC and D&E. End tw**. No one ever visits us so I don't have to try too hard to hide the pee sticks lol

rolliepollie335 · March 2018

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PensiveCrayon · March 2018

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? TWW, 6 DPO

Ages of other child(ren)? 14 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm confuuuuused. I O'ed earlier than I normally do, I guess. Yesterday there was a huge temp drop but today it's up again. (I've also been getting over a cold for FOREVER.) Our timing wasn't the greatest either, so I'm really not too hopeful.

Any questions? Naw

Rant/Rave/Brag: My kid just figured out how to safely get himself off furniture/beds within the last several days. It's so cute to see him turn around and go legs first. My rant is that he's really into throwing everything; specifically, his 360 cup, a spoon after he's used it, and the shot glasses I serve him water in at mealtimes. It's almost not worth it to even try, but at the same time I don't want to give up, you know? I guess I'll just keep introducing the spoon and the shot glass every week until he starts not chucking them. I don't know.

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home? On board with the big kitchen plans, but specifically I want a walk-in pantry. I also would really like a fancy bathtub. We had one in our last place in Vegas but when I was shopping for houses here in AL I was seduced by the fancy shower and didn't even consider the fact that I've been a bath person all my life. The guest bath is just your standard ugly molded tub. Blah.

rolliepollie335 · March 2018

@PensiveCrayon just want to chime in that the legs first is such a smooth maneuver and so so cute! My 18 month old has perfected it and she’s so fast at it! Also ugh...the 360 cups can make such a mess if they make impact at the right angle, which DD has also mastered! Do you have a dog? We call ours our maid since she promptly cleans up all food messes.

PensiveCrayon · March 2018

@LemonofBluebell I wish we did have a dog, it would make cleanup easier!

Also as an update, the poor kid tried doing his smooth moves down the back porch (brick) stairs just now and sort of slipped onto his side. He was not happy, but luckily I was there to catch him before he rolled all the way down.

prpl11butterfly · March 2018

@PensiveCrayon I absolutely love when they learn that (1 it's cute, 2 life gets easier

). Keep it up with the cup and spoon. It will happen. My DS still throws things when he's "done".

wishiwaspreggo · March 2018

@PensiveCrayon - FWIW, that stage (of throwing things) passes relatively quickly, at least from my experience. My son was crazy from like, 15 months through 30 months. It was between right after he mastered walking and right before he learned how to talk. Lord, was he rough. He threw things constantly, tantrumed easily, got into EVERYTHING, put himself in danger constantly, and had a very intense attraction to our stove when I was cooking. Once he learned how to talk he cooled down a lot, and now he's jovial and sweet. Everyone said 3 is terrible but so far it's been an absolute dream. So hang in there, mama. All you can do is keep him safe and stay as calm as you can until it passes (which it will).

CecilB93 · March 2018

@wishiwaspreggo I'm glad to hear someone say 3 has been a good age! All I hear is how 3 is worse than 2, and I can believe it, but our son is already such a handful and he just turned 2 a month ago! He's been testing the boundaries for a couple months already, but it's starting to pick up even more. I keep hoping he'll get it all out of his system before we have another kid.

@PensiveCrayon my son also still throws things, but he's better about it at the table. Once he figures out how the spoon/fork works he'll be focused on using it! Just keep giving it to him, he'll get it!

@LemonofBluebell thanks! I made some lunch for myself and he actually wanted to eat some of it, so he's doing a little better already! I think I'm still going to keep him home at least tomorrow though. FX your cycle regulates soon!

prpl11butterfly · March 2018

I'm thinking it really is different between girls and boys. DS is so much different then niece was at this age. I'll know more in a few years

holly321 · March 2018

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 14/7

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? DD is 7, DS is 5.

Any thoughts about this cycle? Pretty sure I am out, low temps and BFN at cd13. But, with my last pregnancy I was BFN at 14 and BFP at 15. TW loss mentioned

That was a loss, so it gives me what I think is false hope.

Any questions? None

Rant/Rave/Brag:. Honestly, the last few weeks have been hard. DD is switching anxiety medication and has been so moody/angry/mean/aggressive. DS has been copying her behavior. I had a lot of soul searching to do about whether or not we were going to put TTC on hold until life calmed down, then this weekend, the new medication started to work. She is still rough in the early morning and evening, but I see where it is working. I feel fortunate we found a new psychiatrist and psychologist for her and things are going well with both. DS is actually behaving at school again, before he was absolutely refusing to do anything they told him too.

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home? A playroom.

@CecilB93, I hope you DS feels better. We plan to have a nice bar in our new house whenever we find one... I love experimenting with drinks, but without a nice set up, I am generally lazy and only make whiskey sours, lol.
@prpl11butterfly , I didn't say it the other day in TWW, because I was too self involved,but thanks for you support the other day. I think it is amazing what you are doing for your niece and I hope you both get the help you need. It is awful that visiting her mom makes things worse. I hope DS stays in his bed more often for you. We usually get night time visitors, and I think I finally figured out the issue, it is great to have the bed empty in the morning.

rosebud332 · March 2018

@prpl11butterfly I’m sorry your niece is having a hard time. You are amazing for being a stable and loving parent to her. You’re giving her exactly what she needs!
@PensiveCrayon I’m right there with you. I haven’t even tried utensils because I know they’d go right to the floor. I tried giving her morning milk in a sippy cup the other day. It didn’t go well,

@holly321 I’m sorry ds has been having a hard time, but that’s awesome news her medication is starting to work. It must be hard to just watch and wait to see what will happen when starting something new. Fx it continues to work for her!

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 2/2

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 1 yo

Any thoughts about this cycle? I’m honestly not even sure that I ovulated but I’m just going to act like I did and see what happens. These Opk’s are not always easy to decipher.

Any questions? Not really,

Rant/Rave/Brag: My child slept through the night last night for the first time in like 7 weeks. It was amazing. We had to sort of re-do sleep training because we ruined it by going to get her in the middle of the night so much l. So it was a couple of rough nights but now she’s sleeping so much better. Meanwhile, I’m arguing with a lady on fb because she just equated giving formula to giving “liquified McDonald’s” to your kid. Lol I just couldn’t let that one go.

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home?
I never thought I’d say this, but...storage space. Now having lived in a place with none, I am very passionate about closet space! Also, more countertops in the kitchen.

CecilB93 · March 2018

@rosebud332 omg I can't...liquified McDonald's?? REALLY?????

quidditchcapn1120 · March 2018

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? WTO (CD 11)

Ages of other child(ren)? 7 and 4 year old boys

Any thoughts about this cycle? I am not sure life is going to let us have good timing. My temps have dipped dramatically today and yesterday so I might O earlier than my previous charting months.

Any questions? Nah

Rant/Rave/Brag: Rant- tired of people at work making their lack of preparedness my emergency. I tend to stop being so nice when I'm pregnant so if that happens I think some of my reports at work aren't going to like me as much here soon.

Rave/brag- my husband is a saint. He stays at home with the kids, cooks every night, does all the laundry, etc. I'm so lucky to have him.

GTKY: What is something you'd absolutely have to have in your dream home? I want it to be craftsman style with a dedicated library with built in bookshelves and wood beams on the ceiling. ❤️

CecilB93 · March 2018

@quidditchcapn1120 pssssttt...not sure if you're mobile, but one of your tickers shows you as 257 weeks pregnant. May want to update that

quidditchcapn1120 · March 2018

CecilB93 said:
@quidditchcapn1120 pssssttt...not sure if you're mobile, but one of your tickers shows you as 257 weeks pregnant. May want to update that

Haha yes I'm on my phone. I will have to delete my tickers when I can get to a computer. Thanks for the heads up! And thank goodness pregnancy doesn't last that long!

rolliepollie335 · March 2018

Thanks for the support ladies! I’m mobile and the app is being a PITA shutting down repeatedly so I can’t tag everyone above individually, sorry, but it’s so nice to have a place to commiserate about toddler challenges and hear from mamas with older kiddos!

@quidditchcapn1120 yes times a million! Your emergency is not my emergency! Also I’m definitely not as patient when pregnant so with you on that one too.

quidditchcapn1120 · March 2018

wishiwaspreggo said:

@PensiveCrayon - FWIW, that stage (of throwing things) passes relatively quickly, at least from my experience. My son was crazy from like, 15 months through 30 months. It was between right after he mastered walking and right before he learned how to talk. Lord, was he rough. He threw things constantly, tantrumed easily, got into EVERYTHING, put himself in danger constantly, and had a very intense attraction to our stove when I was cooking. Once he learned how to talk he cooled down a lot, and now he's jovial and sweet. Everyone said 3 is terrible but so far it's been an absolute dream. So hang in there, mama. All you can do is keep him safe and stay as calm as you can until it passes (which it will).

I have to agree with this. The throwing thing (and the running around, not understanding why they can't mess with breakable/dangerous items) is a short but maddening time. I found that I took both DS1 and DS2 very few public places or friends' houses from 18-24 months because it was just kind of crazy. But once their language developed a little and we could reason a bit, it got better really quick.

wishiwaspreggo · March 2018

@CecilB93 - I think everyone who says 3 is a hard age had a relatively pleasant kid when they were younger and are suddenly developing an attitude/opinion. My boy has had an opinion since he turned 1 but he couldn't articulate said opinion because he couldn't talk. He was a late talker, too, so it just added to his frustration. He understood everything we said but couldn't say anything back. That made him even crankier. I've noticed my other friends didn't have that problem. Like their kids were mellow and would ask for things in baby language and parents would understand and help them out. My son would just point, whine, grunt, and stomp his feet and scream when I didn't understand. Thus the luxury of having a chatty 3 year old that can take a breath between sobs and tell me what he wants. It's sooooooooo much easier.

It's all relative. Some people say newborns are the worst but mine was a perpetually sleeping cherub the first 3 months because he was preemie. He slept so much I had to wake him for feedings. I thought the early toddler days were the worst, but many others disagree with me and said their bobbling 12-18 month olds were the sweetest and that was their best time. It's just funny because every kid is different! Hopefully 3 is as easy for you as it is for me

PensiveCrayon · March 2018

@rosebud332 Re: sleeping I went through a similar thing with A when he was a year old. He got all four molars shortly before his birthday, so I used teething as an excuse probably for too long. I finally got so sick of sleeping with him MOTN and decided to give Tylenol and let him work it out from there. Didn't take too long for him to figure things out (he's always taken well to sleep training though) and only recently he's started waking up again...for who knows why, argh! I'm thinking canines, or it could be the pre-walking sleep regression thing.

Also re: the spoon thing it kills me because I introduced nice dishware and spoons pretty much from the time I started A on solids. He was super good at self-feeding after I loaded the spoon for him. And then he discovered gravity, I guess, and how fun it is to splatter yogurt on the ground.

@quidditchcapn1120 YES YES YES to the craftsman with built-in bookshelves. That actually is H and I's dream home. Have you ever heard of the architect Sarah Susenka? She's a huge advocate for what she calls the "not-so-big" house.

rosebud332 · March 2018

@CecilB93 You should have seen my face when I read her comment. I laughed, and then I was like omg this bish is serious. Calling someone a bad parent for almost anything, but specifically for not breastfeeding and for sleep training are my two soapbox issues and sometimes I just can’t help myself! Lol
@PensiveCrayon The teeth are what got us too and we did the same exact thing. A few nights ago I realized there’s absolutely nothing she needs and no reason she can’t go back to sleep by herself, so it took a couple days but she’s back to self soothing which is so great. She took to sleep training really well too, so that helps.

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