DH is coming to my therapy session with me to hash out why he shouldn't be going to a wedding without me the first week of April (there's a number of reasons but the main one is financial). I'm expecting him to not see things my way.
My kids have music in my room today which means I don't really get a prep and while other prep teachers try to allow you the space to take care of what you need to, the music teacher does not. And the Superintendant is coming tomorrow. And bitch just stole my chair.
Overall, I'm in a bitchy mood. There's an old episode of 'Bridezillas' where this crazy woman said she wasn't feeling teary-eyed, she was feeling bitchy-eyed. That's how I feel.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@jsnakehole - how much longer do you have until you're free of your guests? And I LOVE that bridezillas quote!
Ditto the bitchy mood. The world is my MBF. The driver in front of me on my way to work was going too slow (2-lane road), DH fell asleep on the couch and didn't put the monitor on the base so when I went down to get my stuff together for work I found it powered off next to him, my hands / wrists / fingers are all achey today so my typing is crap and my autocorrect is having a seizure...
Yesterday, DH and our friend were moving our guest daybed from the soon-to-be nursery to the basement and instead of taking his time and dismantling it, tried to round it around the corner where it wasn't possible and broke the wood and therefore the bed. Granted, it was just a cheap IKEA daybed, but still!!! It could have been avoided.
The only reason I am ok with being at work today is my boss is gone for 2 weeks, another co-worker is out, and the other one won't be here until lunch time so I am essentially alone and in charge haha
Oh also apparently I completely gave all of DS's newborn - 12 month clothes to a friend 2 years ago to borrow for her baby boy and then she moved, and I forgot until yesterday when I went to hunt them down in the house. We've lost touch so I guess I am baby clothes shopping now.
My house looks like a tornado went through it. At least 75% of the mess belongs to DH. I have a ladder, a dolley, a work platform, various tools, metal duct pipe, cement board, ceramic tile, grout supplies, and drywall dust scattered throughout my house. Then there’s all the random crap that DH brought home from cub scouts to “look through” two weeks ago and hasn’t touched. I’m not working today, and I want to clean, but i don’t want to pick up & move all his crap. He has yet to understand, even after 12 years of marriage, that the most time-consuming part of cleaning this house is picking up after him. I know the mess will get worse this week when he really starts to remodel the laundry room, but it’s so depressing right now. Not one room in my house is clean & peaceful, and I hate that.
@melprop when that happens in our house, I will take the pile of crap of whatever it is of DH's (clothes, papers etc) and put it somewhere where it's super in his way. He 80% of the time gets the hint hahaha
@scottishlass1213 I’ve done that. He just moves it all and continues on with his day. His parents are moderate hoarders, and everything is always all over the place at their house. He has never lost the mentality that you just move things and continue on with your life. Nobody ever really taught him to pick things up & put them away in the proper place, and it's one of just two topics we argue about. He will vacuum, mop, do dishes & laundry, and do most other household chores. Whenever I ask him to pick up his stuff, he gets extremely defensive and starts an argument with me every time.
@melprop When DS does that, I tend to start leaving messes too as a hint. And then make him clean it all up. He's out of town this week for work so I can't wait until he gets home and sees how clean it is.
@jsnakehole I saw a few of your posts this weekend about the guests. I hope they are leaving soon. Sounds awful.
Hi ladies. I have largely been out of pocket while DS got over the flu. Back to routine today, which was a total shit show. DS is good for my husband but a dragon for me and I feel like a failure. He threw the biggest fit on the way to day care because he wanted his tablet (which I didn't give in to). I called DH (who is out of town for work) for backup and he goes, "Well, do you have your tablet?" FFS. I just yelled at him and hung up. DS screamed and held on to me for like 15 minutes at day care while uncontrollably sobbing. Why can other parents drop their kids off, no problem, and DS acts like this for me? It's so embarrassing. The older he gets, the more I realize he is probably what you'd call "high needs" or "spirited," because he doesn't do well with ANY kind of change and takes a while to warm up to nearly any situation. (Like, when we go out to dinner with family, my family gets all butt hurt like "waahh he doesn't want to hug us" because DS hides from everyone.)
Also, DH sent me a picture of him drinking a beer on an awesome patio last night and I am soooo irritated about it. He asked me what was wrong this morning after the shit show and I said, "I don't know, but it's not like I can sit around drinking beer with a bunch of my buddies away from all this and send you a picture of a beautiful sunset on the patio."
I’m exhausted. We had a busy weekend and DS1 is going through a nightmare spell, so I was up a lot last night consoling him (and up other times to pee).
I SAH, so today we’re going to watch a lot more than the recommended amount of TV. Sorry not sorry.
@firemanswife11 - I'm sorry. DS does the same thing to us with any little change. If his favorite teacher isn't there for drop off he just cries and cries. If he's been home sick for a few days it's awful trying to get him back in the routine. So solidarity on that one, we've all been there and he will take a few days to get back in the groove but he'll get there. Hugs
Oh - and on the subject of your DH patio pic, I'd be livid too! It's one thing to chill and enjoy a break but sending a pic of it to you when you're home with a sick kiddo? Hells no! DH went golfing last week while I worked as many OT hours as I could just to keep us afloat while he's out of work and I was a grumpy lady at him, but if he had sent me a pic?!? Shit would've gone down. Sorry hun.
@F47 - eff the recommended amount of TV, you've got to do what you've got to do. I hope this phase passes quickly!
@melprop honestly at this point I'd move that shit outside. He'll get the hint. But I'm pretty spiteful about things that I've said more than once so...
@Firemanswife11 If DH sent that to me I’d text him to wear a cup when he comes home. How old is your DS? I know my 7yo is always worse for me than anyone else, probably because I’m home with him the most. He’s been that way practically forever though.
@F47 Kid nightmares are awful! A few months ago we started letting our beagle sleep in DS’s room because he was waking up so much from nightmares. That seems to comfort him, and he’s not waking up nearly as much now. He still wakes up occasionally with zombie nightmares from that new Disney movie, but it’s nothing compared to the 2-3x a night it used to be.
Yes to DS being worse with me. At night, I am the one he wants. I literally rocked him Saturday night because he freaked out about me leaving him to go to sleep - he'll be 5 in 3 weeks. Daycare drop off is the same - he was super clingy this morning.
@Melprop we’ve actually talked about moving our dogs (beagle mixes!) in there. They sleep in crates in our room. Wondering if it would still help?
He ised to really suffer from night terrors. Not sure if you’re familiar, but they were HORRIBLE, but he didn’t remember them. These nightmares are less intense for us, but they linger and he’s scared to go to sleep at night. It sucks because I’ve had vivid nightmares my whole life. I know he gets them from me.
@melprop he is 3.5. DH told me that it's not fair that I got upset at him for the stupid patio photo ... "other wives aren't giving their husbands grief for that!" Oh, honey, they are. The husbands just aren't saying it...
@Firemanswife11 - oh girl, I'll be thinking of you! And the hand thing is totally new! I didn't get carpal tunnel or anything with DS, I had a bit of swelling around my ankles late in pregnancy that made my ankles sore but nothing like this.
@scottishlass1213 - Yup - I'm the one DS wants at night too. If I try to hand off to DH, DS will wake up sobbing. Good luck with the baby clothes shopping!
Spring Break was not long enough. Some of these kids are about the fail an elective simply because they can't turn in work. Ugh.
And I was so eager to have warm weather, but now allergies are kicking my butt. I took a benadryl last night, but it didn't do anything but make me sleepy.
@F47 Our beagle starts the night at the foot of DS’s bed. I might “test” our old video monitor soon and see what happens in there during the night. I assume the dog ends up sleeping beside DS, and DS just cuddles with him if he wakes up during the night. This particular beagle has had separation anxiety since we got him and won’t sleep in a crate, so the arrangement worked out well for us. Both dog and kid are happy, and both STTN without usually waking me up now.
@Firemanswife11 Your comment about your family getting butthurt about DS not wanting to hug them irritated me slightly, not because of you, but because of your family's reaction. I don't like hugging people either, and don't blame the kid for not wanting his personal space repeatedly invaded! Why do we expect that from kids? My SS was a hugger, and it was always difficult for me to relax when he and his bony kid limbs flailed at me in affection. I empathise with others who just aren't into spontaneous personal contact.
Edit to add mine: I'm tired and cranky this morning waiting for my AS. I've had some painful muscle cramping in both of my legs over the past two days that has been keeping me up at night and hurting throughout the day. I can't take anything to help. I'm tired of not being able to comfortably put on my skates around my pregnant belly, and I know it's just getting started. My phone's battery is draining really quickly, and I'm not sure why, but I suspect a new app I installed. I'm super crabby this morning.
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
@Firemanswife11 I love the "but, other wives..." bit! Oh they are. They always are.
I feel kinda yuck today. I might have over done it yesterday cleaning and now I am sore.
Also this is a really petty thing to complain about but oh well - I have to order lunch for a monthly meeting that our attorneys have.I email a menu the day before and ask them to pick what they want and let me know. Every month. Every. Month. I have to basically hunt people done and beg them to tell me what they want. If it were me you would not need to ask me twice what I want for free lunch. How hard is it to look at a menu and pick an effing sandwich?!?
@Brezzy1928 I’d get them just a turkey sandwich or something and when they make a comment, let them know it’s because they didn’t get back to you in time. Toooooo bad.
@Firemanswife11 Your comment about your family getting butthurt about DS not wanting to hug them irritated me slightly, not because of you, but because of your family's reaction. I don't like hugging people either, and don't blame the kid for not wanting his personal space repeatedly invaded! Why do we expect that from kids? My SS was a hugger, and it was always difficult for me to relax when he and his bony kid limbs flailed at me in affection. I empathise with others who just aren't into spontaneous personal contact.
I am actually not a touchy-feely person either and it's a running joke with pretty much everyone I know. DH says I give hugs to him like we're friends, LOL. But yeah, pretty much everyone expects DS to just explode with affection toward them. Which is ridiculous. I tell them he's not required to give anyone a hug, kiss, etc. He doesn't have to tell someone he loves them. He can decide for himself what he likes but my point was that it is just hard for him to warm up to anyone, really. Or anything. He likes to sit back and watch for a while before he's comfortable.
@Brezzy1928 I deal with this regularly in my role. I definitely just order something plain or even veggie for them and tell them it's because they didn't respond. Not worth your time to track someone down to find out if they want turkey or ham. That's crazy. The worst is when someone responds way after you've already placed your order and they tell you about some crazy dietary restriction they have that you now have to accommodate last minute. So rude.
Yep I agree - I absolutely HATE when my dad facetimes with DS and expects him to pay super attention all the time and then tries to lecture him. I won't make him if he doesn't want to and my dad can't seem to understand why DS doesn't want to facetime with him sometimes. My mom totally does and she's fine with it.
@Brezzy1928 Include a line in the menu email that says, “Anyone who does not respond by x date and time will automatically be ordered the turkey club with xyz toppings.” Or something like that. Then order that sandwich for everyone who doesn’t respond. If they bitch, refer them to the email you sent and find a nice way to say, “It’s your own fault, jackass.”
Yep I agree - I absolutely HATE when my dad facetimes with DS and expects him to pay super attention all the time and then tries to lecture him. I won't make him if he doesn't want to and my dad can't seem to understand why DS doesn't want to facetime with him sometimes. My mom totally does and she's fine with it.
I guess my MBF is that TB decided to delete my entire comment. I was agreeing with this; my in-laws always try and facetime the boys who are 3 and 5 and have ZERO interest in sitting on the phone chatting. I'm always stuck making small talk with people I can't stand trying to explain why my two small children don't want to sit down and have a conversation.
Another BF: We called MIL & FIL yesterday to see if I’m doing their taxes again this year. The first thing they said to DH was, “We had your brother’s kids yesterday, and they helped FIL put away the rest of the outdoor Christmas decorations. Since you’re too busy to help and all.” They also never bothered to ask how we were or how the pg is coming along. DH asked them how they felt about us having another boy, and MIL said “At least it’s another chance to pass on the family name.”
DH worked 5am-3:30pm on Saturday, then came home and started installing an exhaust fan in our laundry room/half bath. Yesterday he worked 5am-1pm, then met us at a Cub Scout function our pack was participating in. The Cub Scout pack that he runs. After that we got groceries, went home, and he finished installing the exhaust fan.
They tried to make us feel bad because DH works every other weekend, DS is in various activities, we have multiple remodeling projects to finish before the baby comes, and we have lives. We aren’t like BIL & his wife, whose lives consist of visiting MIL & FIL to get free dinner and babysitting. And since BIL works 35 hours/week and never does anything else, there’s no reason he can’t help them with their projects. But they never ask him. Apparently we’re only good for doing shit for them, since they don’t care enough to call us regularly to make sure we’re still alive.
I'm sorry @firemanswife11. I wouldn't normally be mad about a pic like that, but being pregnant and not able to drink would have put me over the edge.
@Breezy1928 Definitely just order them something plain. Don't waste your time on something they can't be bothered to tell you.
My MBF is that my building admin just announced that he is leaving us at the end of the year. He has wonderful reasons to move, but I now have to figure out how to work my new admin to get what I need done.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
I work in construction and can do most any general handyman work. One of our locks is broke on an exterior door and I had to buy a new one.
SO and his brother are actual union construction people. They are foreman and super now but spent years doing work. My dad is a farmer and truck driver. I asked my dad to come put it on. Because locksets are tedious and I just don’t feel like it.
Well. SO (who is still in Florida) called his brother to come do it. But, in return I have to drive an hour away to pick him up when he drops his farm truck off for repair. (Diesel transmission specialty shop) The whole point of me asking my dad was because I’m tired. Dealing with a UTI which is just draining.
SO is like well I was trying to save your dad a trip (they live 45 min away) but dad had already said no problem and now I have a 2 hour trip.
This has nothing to do with saving my dad a trip. It’s because they think they are better at carpentry than dad is.
I should just just put the f***ing lock on myself now but I know I’ll still be on the hook for this return favor.
Oh oh and I have to do this favor the evening before I leave for Florida when I should be packing up the car and sh*t.
@melprop Every week I cringe reading your family stuff. I used to think my family was the most awful I'd ever known, but yours would make me want to go full on no contact. Also, when my husband leaves his crap around the house after I've asked him to put it away more than once, I give a last warning before I start throwing it out. That usually does the trick.
@Firemanswife11 I sympathize with your child. I hated hugging and cuddling as a kid, and it was way worse after I was molested by our neighbor (I couldn't even hug my own dad anymore). My mom would try to force me to hug strangers and rarely seen family members and it was the absolute worst. It'd be nice if your family would respect his personal boundaries and be fine with it. To this day I still hate hugging and other affection related things.
AFM BF, my husband has spent more time, money, and sheer interest in the last week trying to find new wheels and tires for his car than he has spent trying to help me pick out baby stuff. I know he needs new tires and the stock wheels on his car (used when he bought it) were absolute shit, but seriously? He couldn't be arsed to help me pick out a car seat over a weekend, but he was late to work this morning because of online tire and wheel shopping.
Yes, let's impose a super strict budget on me after finding out I'm pregnant under the auspices of "saving money for moving" and I'm reduced to scrounging for change to buy the weekly groceries or dipping into my savings/emergency account for necessary baby purchases...and then he spends $800 on new wheels and tires and somehow still expects me to be excited for him.
@Firemanswife11 I love the "but, other wives..." bit! Oh they are. They always are.
I feel kinda yuck today. I might have over done it yesterday cleaning and now I am sore.
Also this is a really petty thing to complain about but oh well - I have to order lunch for a monthly meeting that our attorneys have.I email a menu the day before and ask them to pick what they want and let me know. Every month. Every. Month. I have to basically hunt people done and beg them to tell me what they want. If it were me you would not need to ask me twice what I want for free lunch. How hard is it to look at a menu and pick an effing sandwich?!?
Yeah from now on I would include a line in the e-mail that says "If I don't get a response from you by the end of the day you will be getting X sandwich." Easy peesy.
Another BF: We called MIL & FIL yesterday to see if I’m doing their taxes again this year. The first thing they said to DH was, “We had your brother’s kids yesterday, and they helped FIL put away the rest of the outdoor Christmas decorations. Since you’re too busy to help and all.” They also never bothered to ask how we were or how the pg is coming along. DH asked them how they felt about us having another boy, and MIL said “At least it’s another chance to pass on the family name.”
DH worked 5am-3:30pm on Saturday, then came home and started installing an exhaust fan in our laundry room/half bath. Yesterday he worked 5am-1pm, then met us at a Cub Scout function our pack was participating in. The Cub Scout pack that he runs. After that we got groceries, went home, and he finished installing the exhaust fan.
They tried to make us feel bad because DH works every other weekend, DS is in various activities, we have multiple remodeling projects to finish before the baby comes, and we have lives. We aren’t like BIL & his wife, whose lives consist of visiting MIL & FIL to get free dinner and babysitting. And since BIL works 35 hours/week and never does anything else, there’s no reason he can’t help them with their projects. But they never ask him. Apparently we’re only good for doing shit for them, since they don’t care enough to call us regularly to make sure we’re still alive.
I'm sorry to hear about the guilty trip - how awful of them!
@Brezzy1928 we had that situation when we taught in Israel. If you didn't order your lunches for the week you got shawarma. I hated the shawarma they would order so I would make sure I was one of the first to order my falafels and sabich. But people would complain about the shawarma without having signed the lunch forms. Don't complain! You knew this was going to happen!
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
UGH the people at work are making me ragey. Again because my job is SO niche if I gave too many indications of what I do you'd easily be able to find me. So I guess for this bitch fest's purpose we'll call them front of house and back of house.
The front of house people keep bitching about the back of house people. The back of house people keep bitching about the front of house people. I am a mom at home but I am NOT your mom here, figure your own shit out like grown adults. It's SO petty like "he took my spray bottle and didn't put it back" and "Why are they using OUR WD-40 and not the cans up front?" like seriously, I have an entire business to run here, I do NOT have time for your petty shit.
Re: Monday BF 3/19
DH is coming to my therapy session with me to hash out why he shouldn't be going to a wedding without me the first week of April (there's a number of reasons but the main one is financial). I'm expecting him to not see things my way.
My kids have music in my room today which means I don't really get a prep and while other prep teachers try to allow you the space to take care of what you need to, the music teacher does not. And the Superintendant is coming tomorrow. And bitch just stole my chair.
Overall, I'm in a bitchy mood. There's an old episode of 'Bridezillas' where this crazy woman said she wasn't feeling teary-eyed, she was feeling bitchy-eyed. That's how I feel.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Ditto the bitchy mood. The world is my MBF. The driver in front of me on my way to work was going too slow (2-lane road), DH fell asleep on the couch and didn't put the monitor on the base so when I went down to get my stuff together for work I found it powered off next to him, my hands / wrists / fingers are all achey today so my typing is crap and my autocorrect is having a seizure...
I already hate today.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
The only reason I am ok with being at work today is my boss is gone for 2 weeks, another co-worker is out, and the other one won't be here until lunch time so I am essentially alone and in charge haha
@jsnakehole I saw a few of your posts this weekend about the guests. I hope they are leaving soon. Sounds awful.
Hi ladies. I have largely been out of pocket while DS got over the flu. Back to routine today, which was a total shit show. DS is good for my husband but a dragon for me and I feel like a failure. He threw the biggest fit on the way to day care because he wanted his tablet (which I didn't give in to). I called DH (who is out of town for work) for backup and he goes, "Well, do you have your tablet?" FFS. I just yelled at him and hung up. DS screamed and held on to me for like 15 minutes at day care while uncontrollably sobbing. Why can other parents drop their kids off, no problem, and DS acts like this for me? It's so embarrassing. The older he gets, the more I realize he is probably what you'd call "high needs" or "spirited," because he doesn't do well with ANY kind of change and takes a while to warm up to nearly any situation. (Like, when we go out to dinner with family, my family gets all butt hurt like "waahh he doesn't want to hug us" because DS hides from everyone.)
Also, DH sent me a picture of him drinking a beer on an awesome patio last night and I am soooo irritated about it. He asked me what was wrong this morning after the shit show and I said, "I don't know, but it's not like I can sit around drinking beer with a bunch of my buddies away from all this and send you a picture of a beautiful sunset on the patio."
So. over. it.
I SAH, so today we’re going to watch a lot more than the recommended amount of TV. Sorry not sorry.
Oh - and on the subject of your DH patio pic, I'd be livid too! It's one thing to chill and enjoy a break but sending a pic of it to you when you're home with a sick kiddo? Hells no! DH went golfing last week while I worked as many OT hours as I could just to keep us afloat while he's out of work and I was a grumpy lady at him, but if he had sent me a pic?!? Shit would've gone down. Sorry hun.
@F47 - eff the recommended amount of TV, you've got to do what you've got to do. I hope this phase passes quickly!
@melprop honestly at this point I'd move that shit outside. He'll get the hint. But I'm pretty spiteful about things that I've said more than once so...
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Also, weird, my hand hurts this morning. It's not a usual thing for me. Is it for you?
@F47 Kid nightmares are awful! A few months ago we started letting our beagle sleep in DS’s room because he was waking up so much from nightmares. That seems to comfort him, and he’s not waking up nearly as much now. He still wakes up occasionally with zombie nightmares from that new Disney movie, but it’s nothing compared to the 2-3x a night it used to be.
He ised to really suffer from night terrors. Not sure if you’re familiar, but they were HORRIBLE, but he didn’t remember them. These nightmares are less intense for us, but they linger and he’s scared to go to sleep at night. It sucks because I’ve had vivid nightmares my whole life. I know he gets them from me.
@scottishlass1213 - Yup - I'm the one DS wants at night too. If I try to hand off to DH, DS will wake up sobbing. Good luck with the baby clothes shopping!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
And I was so eager to have warm weather, but now allergies are kicking my butt. I took a benadryl last night, but it didn't do anything but make me sleepy.
Your comment about your family getting butthurt about DS not wanting to hug them irritated me slightly, not because of you, but because of your family's reaction. I don't like hugging people either, and don't blame the kid for not wanting his personal space repeatedly invaded! Why do we expect that from kids? My SS was a hugger, and it was always difficult for me to relax when he and his bony kid limbs flailed at me in affection. I empathise with others who just aren't into spontaneous personal contact.
Edit to add mine:
I'm tired and cranky this morning waiting for my AS. I've had some painful muscle cramping in both of my legs over the past two days that has been keeping me up at night and hurting throughout the day. I can't take anything to help. I'm tired of not being able to comfortably put on my skates around my pregnant belly, and I know it's just getting started. My phone's battery is draining really quickly, and I'm not sure why, but I suspect a new app I installed. I'm super crabby this morning.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I feel kinda yuck today. I might have over done it yesterday cleaning and now I am sore.
Also this is a really petty thing to complain about but oh well - I have to order lunch for a monthly meeting that our attorneys have.I email a menu the day before and ask them to pick what they want and let me know. Every month. Every. Month. I have to basically hunt people done and beg them to tell me what they want. If it were me you would not need to ask me twice what I want for free lunch. How hard is it to look at a menu and pick an effing sandwich?!?
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
DH worked 5am-3:30pm on Saturday, then came home and started installing an exhaust fan in our laundry room/half bath. Yesterday he worked 5am-1pm, then met us at a Cub Scout function our pack was participating in. The Cub Scout pack that he runs. After that we got groceries, went home, and he finished installing the exhaust fan.
They tried to make us feel bad because DH works every other weekend, DS is in various activities, we have multiple remodeling projects to finish before the baby comes, and we have lives. We aren’t like BIL & his wife, whose lives consist of visiting MIL & FIL to get free dinner and babysitting. And since BIL works 35 hours/week and never does anything else, there’s no reason he can’t help them with their projects. But they never ask him. Apparently we’re only good for doing shit for them, since they don’t care enough to call us regularly to make sure we’re still alive.
@Breezy1928 Definitely just order them something plain. Don't waste your time on something they can't be bothered to tell you.
My MBF is that my building admin just announced that he is leaving us at the end of the year. He has wonderful reasons to move, but I now have to figure out how to work my new admin to get what I need done.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
I work in construction and can do most any general handyman work. One of our locks is broke on an exterior door and I had to buy a new one.
SO and his brother are actual union construction people. They are foreman and super now but spent years doing work. My dad is a farmer and truck driver. I asked my dad to come put it on. Because locksets are tedious and I just don’t feel like it.
Well. SO (who is still in Florida) called his brother to come do it. But, in return I have to drive an hour away to pick him up when he drops his farm truck off for repair. (Diesel transmission specialty shop) The whole point of me asking my dad was because I’m tired. Dealing with a UTI which is just draining.
SO is like well I was trying to save your dad a trip (they live 45 min away) but dad had already said no problem and now I have a 2 hour trip.
This has nothing to do with saving my dad a trip. It’s because they think they are better at carpentry than dad is.
I should just just put the f***ing lock on myself now but I know I’ll still be on the hook for this return favor.
Oh oh and I have to do this favor the evening before I leave for Florida when I should be packing up the car and sh*t.
My fault for being a lazy b.
@Firemanswife11 I sympathize with your child. I hated hugging and cuddling as a kid, and it was way worse after I was molested by our neighbor (I couldn't even hug my own dad anymore). My mom would try to force me to hug strangers and rarely seen family members and it was the absolute worst. It'd be nice if your family would respect his personal boundaries and be fine with it. To this day I still hate hugging and other affection related things.
AFM BF, my husband has spent more time, money, and sheer interest in the last week trying to find new wheels and tires for his car than he has spent trying to help me pick out baby stuff. I know he needs new tires and the stock wheels on his car (used when he bought it) were absolute shit, but seriously? He couldn't be arsed to help me pick out a car seat over a weekend, but he was late to work this morning because of online tire and wheel shopping.
Yes, let's impose a super strict budget on me after finding out I'm pregnant under the auspices of "saving money for moving" and I'm reduced to scrounging for change to buy the weekly groceries or dipping into my savings/emergency account for necessary baby purchases...and then he spends $800 on new wheels and tires and somehow still expects me to be excited for him.
Yeah from now on I would include a line in the e-mail that says "If I don't get a response from you by the end of the day you will be getting X sandwich." Easy peesy.
I'm sorry to hear about the guilty trip - how awful of them!
My bottle of Walgreens generic extra-strength, rapid release acetaminophen (500mg) says no more than 6 per day.
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The front of house people keep bitching about the back of house people. The back of house people keep bitching about the front of house people. I am a mom at home but I am NOT your mom here, figure your own shit out like grown adults. It's SO petty like "he took my spray bottle and didn't put it back" and "Why are they using OUR WD-40 and not the cans up front?" like seriously, I have an entire business to run here, I do NOT have time for your petty shit.
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