October 2018 Moms
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Who's got twins or more?
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I confirmed two heartbeats today, and I know there are others here expecting more than one. Who's got 'em? Let's talk! How are you feeling? How's your partner feeling? Anything you want to talk about?
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DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
Re: Who's got twins or more?
I'm mostly worrying about carrying to term with minimal complications. Two babies I'm sure we can handle, because many before me have, too, but what if I go from two to none? Or to one or more with serious developmental impacts from premature birth? That's what's going to keep me up at night.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
We will just have to see how it goes. DH is excited but also staying reserved about it. I am the worry wart. I am worried about how my daughter will react, shes a year and a half now. I am afraid instead of the close sibling relationship I want my kids to have she may see it as 2 against 1. If there are still healthy twins in there by 20-25 weeks I am going to need another vehicle too (just bought my CR-V). Ugh tears. And daycare is going to be astronomical, to the point we may need a second job or possibly one of us may have to take a break in our career and work opposite shifts at a grocery store or something instead. We make good money for the area (to the point we will never qualify for assistance, but barley which sucks because it leaves us stuck). There aren't a lot of job opportunities here. But I love them already and I am so excited, I am hoping for good outcomes all the way around. Besides that I have all the nausea.
ETA: I guess I should add I have also had some spotting. When I found out I had 2 sacs at 4w6d I went in for bright red spotting. I didn't have anything after that until these last few days I have had light pink spotting, no cramps. Talking to my Dr about it asap but from what I read online it may be somewhat normal?
+1 on the financial worries. We will also need at least one new car. We have the Rav-4, and it's literally impossible to fit three seats in one of them, which is a pretty obnoxious design flaw. I actually think the CR-V is better. Have you looked at this?
https://www.thecarcrashdetective.com/3-across-installations-crv/
It wouldn't surprise me if there are programs around to help with daycare costs when you have a lot of kids. That sort of thing varies by area, so you'd have to research. Maybe call your county Dept of Social Services when you get closer? We actually do the thing where we work alternate schedules already, so, if nothing changes, both of us get to look forward to a lot of single parenting with three kids. We have no family in the area, so....yikes.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
In other news, I just called and asked about the sexes transferred. There's always a slim possibility that one split into ID twins, and the other failed to implant, but barring that possibility, we're TEAM PURPLE!!!
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
I plan to definitely look into options! It breaks my heart to have to work while my littles are, well little but this area is pathetically small and I REALLY lucked into my position currently in my field. I don't want to screw anything up there either when I would like to be able to continue gaining experience there. Plus I can't afford to not work, no matter what which sucks so I want to make the most out of it. Daycare is a drag because of germs/sickness all the time but otherwise DD loves it! I am unsure if my area offers much as far as daycare help but I do plan to look!
I am so glad you posted that link! It gives me hope to keep my current vehicle. Only downside I see is the lack of bucket seat options.. which may mean waking them to move them every time. Plus maybe baby carrying one then figuring out something with the other plus a toddler? Stroller for newborns that don't use the car seat? No clue. Maybe I just won't leave the house again despite appointments and daycare. Oh darn, looks like I get to use amazon prime for what I need now more than ever.
Other groceries will have to wait on the weekend when there are two of us.
DH goes to college classes right now so I actually have LO alone in the evenings during the week, probably still less than what you guys do working opposite shifts! That's tough you guys are rocking it already.
Team purple is so exciting! I am weak. I plan to find out as soon as I can haha.
https://www.lucieslist.com/twins/
I'll definitely be looking into babywearing options for both, but man....I have no idea how anyone can leave the house outnumbered 3:1, especially once they're walking.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
As for the strict schedule, some swear by it and some weren’t super strict. We didn’t have a strict schedule, just when one ate, the other ate too and they napped at the same time. Whoever said “don’t wake a sleeping baby” never had multiples. That’s the thing every mom of multiples I’ve ever talked to says - when one wakes up at night to eat, wake the other one up too or you will never sleep.
Confirmed Thursday through ultrasound, both measuring right on track, but they look to be mono-mono twins, which puts us into the highest risk category. I’m still a little shell shocked, and we’re looking at having to do some significant home Reno’s to make it work...
@ninji15 - Last time around we announced in stages, and I imagine we'll do the same again. Social media didn't hear until 25 weeks, and that seems about right. Only a couple of close friends know right now. My father-in-law is a bit of a prankster, so I think we'll tell family on April Fool's Day (as I said on the announcements thread, I would never do that publicly, but I feel okay about our immediate families). No idea about everyone else in our life, though I'm worried about keeping it a secret as long as I'd like. With twins I expect to show a lot sooner.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
I also found Lucie's list the other day and I love it. I will definitely be referring to her site. Have you found any other helpful online resources.
This is my second pregnancy but my first pregnancy was a miscarriage. I am very excited about the twins but also terrified I will lose one or both of them.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
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DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
Mainly because *TW* I know 2 twin families that went into PTL at 20-23 weeks and lost their LOs. Its a huge part of the reason I am so anxious about this pregnancy, that and VTS is a possibility yet as well. I am trying to be as positive as possible but I have alllll the worries.
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
Twinspiration was good and I read through the whole thing, but never really referred back to it, so maybe something to get from the library instead of buying.
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Twins I found incredibly boring. I started it while pregnant and never finished it. It does have some good information though, especially the chapter about sleep by baby age. It is recommended by a lot of the mothers of multiples that I know and a lot of them love it. Some of them have said if you already have Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, that the twin version doesn’t have much added info and some of the more detailed info from the singleton version wasn’t in the twin version.
https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B007Q4P0N0/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...