How far along are you? 9 weeks ish How old is your child/are your children? 2 and a half Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? IYeah, mostly in a we can't jump on mommy's stomach anymore context. She's excited most of the time (ahe loves babies and toddlers) Current mommy challenges? None energy. I swear i live on the couch and Daniel Tiger & Dino Dana have taken over parenting duties
How old is your child/are your children? DD is 6 1/2 and DS is 4 1/2
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Not yet - waiting until ultrasound in 2 weeks. They'll be thrilled - they've been asking for a baby for at least a year.
Current mommy challenges? I'm so tired, so I find myself snapping at them and losing my patience more than usual, which I hate. It'll be easier once they know and I can tell them why I don't feel well, but I'm cranky now and that makes them edgy, too.
@stephpl We've been the same way with this pregnancy! This is my third pregnancy, but hopefully our second baby. We haven't even bothered keeping it a secret from people because I just don't care. I feel like I should be so eager to announce it and I'm just not at all. We've already announced two pregnancies to our families, so I'm just kind of done with it. I'm also way too nauseous to be excited about anything right now.
How far along are you? 7w How old is your child/are your children? 3.5 and 1.5 Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? We have talked about it and tried to explain to our oldest but he doesn't quite get it yet. Current mommy challenges? just being exhausted. It comes in waves just like my nausea and makes keeping two toddlers active and healthy a challenge. We are getting by but sometimes it's just barely!
How old is your child/are your children? 3 years Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Yep! Told her mommy has a baby in her tummy where she used to live and grow. We also did a Big Sister photo shoot last weekend. She is excited but we shall see. She flips when DH or I hold other kids lol
Current mommy challenges? Staying awake during our wind down time before bed lol We let her watch a 20 min show before going to her room for book and songs. For the last few weeks I have been falling asleep and she will watch 2-3 shows without waking me lol little turd
How old is your child/are your children? 14 months Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Not really. She is a little young to understand. Once I get bigger and we are closer to the due date we will talk it up more, buy her a doll to take care of, read sibling books, etc.
Current mommy challenges? Exhausted. Drained. Tired. And I am having a really hard time with poop diaper smells. Eck.
PSA to those still breastfeeding littles: I hadn’t even thought to mention it to my OB but it came up in conversation. She wants me on extra folic acid on top of my regular prenatals. Might be worth running it by your OB if you haven’t already.
@ninji15 we had a singleton and the twins, he never seems to feel left out. He buddies up with one or the other of his sibs depending on what they’re all doing and we’ve literally never had any resentment (but he’s a super easy going kid).
How far along are you? 9 weeks
How old is your child/are your children? DS1 will be 7 this week, DS2 and DD are 4
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? not yet. Probably around the end of first tri, after our next ultrasound - make sure there are stillness two babies before telling the kids.
Current mommy challenges? I’m exhausted all the time, and working night shift isn’t helping. Luckily DH is awesome and picking up all the slack.
How old is your child/are your children? 4 years old.. should I try and calculate that into months?! lol
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? We have mentioned another baby. He doesnt want one lol. Waiting till 12w when we are ready to announce to everyone. Then we will tell him more.
Current mommy challenges? Having energy and eating right.
How old is your child/are your children? DS will be 4 in just under a month, and DD will be 2 in a little over a month.
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Not really - we've talked about it a little in front of them but haven't officially sat DS down to tell him. He just knows that mommy is working in DD's big girl room.
Current mommy challenges? DD decided yesterday (right before a long road trip) that she wanted to start sitting on the potty. She's two for two on sitting on the potty, standing up and peeing on the floor. All I can do is laugh.
How far along are you? 8w How old is your child/are your children? soon-to-be 4 Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Yes, because she had to go to a doctor's appointment with me. She is quite with it, so the appointment itself caused the floodgate to open with questions I was unprepared to answer. Current mommy challenges? Nause and fatigue at work. I am on my feet all day (teacher) and have long nights of grading and planning. HELP!
How old is your child/are your children? DS is almost 4 and DD is almost 2
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Yes, we just told them a few weeks ago. It hasn't really sunk in yet. DS keeps saying he doesn't want a "baby", he wants a "big boy like him" which is cute.
Current mommy challenges? On a day-to-day basis, just keeping up with our usual routine (does laundry ever end???). On a big-picture scale, I'm a little stressed out about the bedroom situation and how the furniture is going to fit. I think I'm focusing on that so I don't have to think about the million other things I could be thinking about.
krzyriver I totally feel you. I had thought maybe I would want a 3rd someday, but after DD turned 1 and life got easier, DH and I decided it wasn't for us. We had a yard sale and sold all of our baby stuff. In January, when it was time to put DD in a bed, we gave the crib away and everything.
Then a month later we found out about this baby. I have had a REALLY hard time wrapping my head around it. For so many reasons... to name a few... Now I need to request another maternity leave from work... how will a 3rd baby work with our schedules... we don't have a very big house, we need a new car... I wanted to start traveling a little with the kids... I had worked so hard to lose baby weight after DD and now my body needs to go through all of this over again. I mean, I could keep going but I'm giving myself anxiety.
So, uhm, hope I am not oversharing but you're not alone.
Also, when DS was 1.5 and I was pregnant with DD, I was so exhausted ALL OF THE TIME. I remember coming home from work and putting DS in the PNP next to the couch and letting him watch an episode (or 2) of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse while I dozed off.
I'm not sure that I would have won any parenting of the year awards but whatever, sometimes it had to be about survival.
@lest12 Ugh, I feel you so much. We just had to upgrade my vehicle and we put an offer on a house yesterday. I'm like "How do people afford 3?!" and the baby isn't even hear yet. That totally sucks that you have to buy everything again! Since my 2 are going to be so close together, I had to buy some new stuff. FB marketplace has been awesome for cheap, lightly used gear! We got #3's crib for $100!
How old is your child/are your children? DS will be 4 at the end of April. DD just turned 2 at the end of February
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? We've talked about it in front of them, but probably won't "officially" tell them until after the first appointment. I don't really want them saying anything in front of family!
Current mommy challenges? Just being wiped out at the end of every day. It's been hard to make dinner every night. Luckily, my husband and I knocked out 8 freezer meals this weekend which should help.
@lest12 I feel like you could write my story except this is #2. Where is everything going to go??? Kinda hoping for a boy because then I don’t have to buy more clothes lol
I have two boys but all of our clothes and gear flooded with Harvey. Two SIL's have girls that are 1.5 and 3 months old....I'm hoping for a girl because I don't have one but also because then I can take a lot of hand me downs from them!
Good thing we are in the market for a new house anyway and can shop thinking we have 3 kids. I don't think we'll upgrade car (4Runner) but I need to figure out which car seats I can fit 3 across in my car and DH's. New car seats are much cheaper than new cars lol. I'm finally getting my little one out of daycare and into FREE pre-k this fall and soon enough I'll be picking up daycare costs for a newborn. $$$ just flying out of my pocketbook!
@lest12 I feel like you could write my story except this is #2. Where is everything going to go??? Kinda hoping for a boy because then I don’t have to buy more clothes lol
@cdepperschmidt - I am hoping for a girl for the same reason! We donated baby stuff but there are more girl things hanging around from DD for sure. Plus, 2 girls couls share a room more easily as they'd be closer in age (thinking a little longer term!)
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? We have! But I dont think she gets it. She does go around the house saying "baby." but I highly doubt she understands.
Current mommy challenges? Just exhausted all the time. My nausea picked up this weekend too. My toddler is also going through a phase where she's a little aggressive. For example- when shes done eating, she throws her food (and laughs). When she's done with a book, she'll slam it closed. Or if she doesnt like the one you picked (even when you give her a choice) she throws it. How do you teach a 16mo old to not be an a**hole? lol
I just want to say how awesome all you mamas with littles are! My twins are 5 and pretty self sufficient at this point. I was woken up this morning with “Mommy, I’m the pukey kind of sick.” All I could think is “yeah, well I’m the pregnant kind of tired.” I sent him to the bathroom while I dragged myself out of bed and found a bucket for him to take to the couch. Then I kept thinking “how do people with toddlers handle being pregnant?” I know the answer is that you just do & you don’t really have a choice, but I still think you’re all awesome!
@tropical1982 where do you live? My sisters area had a lot of Harvey damage. She and her H were lucky, but many of her students lost everything.
Last night DS who is 2 woke up right after I fell asleep screaming and crying. He refused to cuddle, wanted milk, but hated every cup and was so tired he would literally tantrum and fall asleep on and off for an hour. It was awful!!!
How old is your child/are your children? 13,11, 8, 6, 4, and 2.
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? I did. My 13 year old knew before DH. She looked at my tests with me. DS (8) figured it out after his teacher announced she was pregnant and explained her symptoms. He came home from school, sat me down and asked me straight to my face. It was hilariously ackward. The rest found out because no one can keep a secret around here. 2 has no clue what’s going on.
Current mommy challenges? I have a teen and a preteen. Enough said.
@cdepperschmidt ugh I’m sorry your son woke up like that! It’s the worst when nothing you do can console them, and they’re beyond reasoning with at this age. I feel your pain!
How old is your child/are your children? 7, 6, and 3
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Yes we did at 6 weeks. They were eating a bedtime snack and we decided to tell them. I've been feeling so rotten that I've been needing all the help I can get!
Current mommy challenges? Since I've been feeling so gross, I haven't been able to keep up with dishes, laundry or just meals in general. Mornings are tough, with packing the kiddos lunches and getting them ready for school on time has been a really big challenge.
@mesamyt it should STM+ Check in. I think STM is supposed to be an all encompassing been there done that. But also, holy shit. I don’t think I could be pregnant that many times. Love to have lots of kids, just not lots of pregnancies.
@KFrob Not all superheros wear capes. So far my experience has been that the tweens are the worst. She needs a label on her forehead that states “proceed with caution”. I love her and she does pretty well with me but can flip and be monsterlicious at any moment. I’m mostly out of the woods with my 13 year old. This last year we have had a lot of breakthroughs in our relationship which had helped her to open up and confide in me a lot more. I know I still have many hairy years ahead but I’m hoping that building our relationship now will help later on.
@cdepperschmidt Right?! I didn’t think I could or would either. Most of them weren’t planned so that helped a lot. And if you’re counting pregnancies then this actually makes pregnancy #9.
Something I’m barely starting to wrap my head around is that my oldest will be in college when this one starts kindergarten...
I saw a post from someone on Facebook today about how much they value one on one time with their firstborn now that they have a second kid, and it made me really emotional and sad thinking about how I won’t be able to give DS the same kind of attention that he gets from me now. I know this is all normal and it most likely won’t have any negative effects on him, but I’m feeling super guilty about it. He’s still so young, he doesn’t even really get the idea of a sibling yet!
@pumpkinpancake My son (the oldest) definitely needs the one on one time. Right after the baby is born, there's not a lot a person can do about it. After a while, I've tried making it a priority to do something with each child by themselves. Even just going for a 10 minute walk some evening, just to let em know you hear them and love them. It's not always easy to make the time tho, but worth trying for.
How old is your child/are your children? 5 months old
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Yes.. All the time but he will never know lol I always tell him to not sit on his brother or sister
Current mommy challenges? Holding him hes almost 18 pounds, feeding him cause I have to adjust to the uterus and making sure he doesnt sit on it, hes getting his helmet next week and getting the eye he can see out of patched next month gonna be big changes worried hope he'll adjust well
Re: STM Check In (March)
9 weeks ish
How old is your child/are your children?
2 and a half
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
IYeah, mostly in a we can't jump on mommy's stomach anymore context. She's excited most of the time (ahe loves babies and toddlers)
Current mommy challenges?
None energy. I swear i live on the couch and Daniel Tiger & Dino Dana have taken over parenting duties
How old is your child/are your children? DD is 6 1/2 and DS is 4 1/2
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Not yet - waiting until ultrasound in 2 weeks. They'll be thrilled - they've been asking for a baby for at least a year.
Current mommy challenges? I'm so tired, so I find myself snapping at them and losing my patience more than usual, which I hate. It'll be easier once they know and I can tell them why I don't feel well, but I'm cranky now and that makes them edgy, too.
7w
How old is your child/are your children?
3.5 and 1.5
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
We have talked about it and tried to explain to our oldest but he doesn't quite get it yet.
Current mommy challenges?
just being exhausted. It comes in waves just like my nausea and makes keeping two toddlers active and healthy a challenge. We are getting by but sometimes it's just barely!
10 w 2 d
How old is your child/are your children?
3 years
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
Yep! Told her mommy has a baby in her tummy where she used to live and grow. We also did a Big Sister photo shoot last weekend. She is excited but we shall see. She flips when DH or I hold other kids lol
Current mommy challenges?
Staying awake during our wind down time before bed lol We let her watch a 20 min show before going to her room for book and songs. For the last few weeks I have been falling asleep and she will watch 2-3 shows without waking me lol little turd
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1
Almost 10 weeks
How old is your child/are your children?
14 months
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
Not really. She is a little young to understand. Once I get bigger and we are closer to the due date we will talk it up more, buy her a doll to take care of, read sibling books, etc.
Current mommy challenges?
Exhausted. Drained. Tired. And I am having a really hard time with poop diaper smells. Eck.
How far along are you? 9 weeks
How old is your child/are your children? DS1 will be 7 this week, DS2 and DD are 4
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
not yet. Probably around the end of first tri, after our next ultrasound - make sure there are stillness two babies before telling the kids.
Current mommy challenges?
I’m exhausted all the time, and working night shift isn’t helping. Luckily DH is awesome and picking up all the slack.
*edited for formatting*
How old is your child/are your children? 4 years old.. should I try and calculate that into months?! lol
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? We have mentioned another baby. He doesnt want one lol. Waiting till 12w when we are ready to announce to everyone. Then we will tell him more.
Current mommy challenges? Having energy and eating right.
8+4
How old is your child/are your children?
DS will be 4 in just under a month, and DD will be 2 in a little over a month.
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
Not really - we've talked about it a little in front of them but haven't officially sat DS down to tell him. He just knows that mommy is working in DD's big girl room.
Current mommy challenges?
DD decided yesterday (right before a long road trip) that she wanted to start sitting on the potty. She's two for two on sitting on the potty, standing up and peeing on the floor. All I can do is laugh.
8w
How old is your child/are your children?
soon-to-be 4
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
Yes, because she had to go to a doctor's appointment with me. She is quite with it, so the appointment itself caused the floodgate to open with questions I was unprepared to answer.
Current mommy challenges?
Nause and fatigue at work. I am on my feet all day (teacher) and have long nights of grading and planning. HELP!
How old is your child/are your children? DS is almost 4 and DD is almost 2
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? Yes, we just told them a few weeks ago. It hasn't really sunk in yet. DS keeps saying he doesn't want a "baby", he wants a "big boy like him" which is cute.
Current mommy challenges? On a day-to-day basis, just keeping up with our usual routine (does laundry ever end???). On a big-picture scale, I'm a little stressed out about the bedroom situation and how the furniture is going to fit. I think I'm focusing on that so I don't have to think about the million other things I could be thinking about.
krzyriver I totally feel you. I had thought maybe I would want a 3rd someday, but after DD turned 1 and life got easier, DH and I decided it wasn't for us. We had a yard sale and sold all of our baby stuff. In January, when it was time to put DD in a bed, we gave the crib away and everything.
Then a month later we found out about this baby. I have had a REALLY hard time wrapping my head around it. For so many reasons... to name a few... Now I need to request another maternity leave from work... how will a 3rd baby work with our schedules... we don't have a very big house, we need a new car... I wanted to start traveling a little with the kids... I had worked so hard to lose baby weight after DD and now my body needs to go through all of this over again. I mean, I could keep going but I'm giving myself anxiety.
So, uhm, hope I am not oversharing but you're not alone.
Also, when DS was 1.5 and I was pregnant with DD, I was so exhausted ALL OF THE TIME. I remember coming home from work and putting DS in the PNP next to the couch and letting him watch an episode (or 2) of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse while I dozed off.
I'm not sure that I would have won any parenting of the year awards but whatever, sometimes it had to be about survival.
OK, done PW-ing now!
How far along are you? 7 weeks
How old is your child/are your children? DS will be 4 at the end of April. DD just turned 2 at the end of February
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
We've talked about it in front of them, but probably won't "officially" tell them until after the first appointment. I don't really want them saying anything in front of family!
Current mommy challenges?
Just being wiped out at the end of every day. It's been hard to make dinner every night. Luckily, my husband and I knocked out 8 freezer meals this weekend which should help.
Good thing we are in the market for a new house anyway and can shop thinking we have 3 kids. I don't think we'll upgrade car (4Runner) but I need to figure out which car seats I can fit 3 across in my car and DH's. New car seats are much cheaper than new cars lol. I'm finally getting my little one out of daycare and into FREE pre-k this fall and soon enough I'll be picking up daycare costs for a newborn. $$$ just flying out of my pocketbook!
@krzyriver I have no idea how people afford 3. It scares me!
But yes, I have been keeping my eyes on FB Marketplace too! I agree you can get great deals on there, I'm hoping we are able to score some good stuff.
How old is your child/are your children? 16mo
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? We have! But I dont think she gets it. She does go around the house saying "baby." but I highly doubt she understands.
Current mommy challenges? Just exhausted all the time. My nausea picked up this weekend too. My toddler is also going through a phase where she's a little aggressive. For example- when shes done eating, she throws her food (and laughs). When she's done with a book, she'll slam it closed. Or if she doesnt like the one you picked (even when you give her a choice) she throws it. How do you teach a 16mo old to not be an a**hole? lol
Last night DS who is 2 woke up right after I fell asleep screaming and crying. He refused to cuddle, wanted milk, but hated every cup and was so tired he would literally tantrum and fall asleep on and off for an hour. It was awful!!!
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
How far along are you? 9w2d
How old is your child/are your children? 13,11, 8, 6, 4, and 2.
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when? I did. My 13 year old knew before DH. She looked at my tests with me. DS (8) figured it out after his teacher announced she was pregnant and explained her symptoms. He came home from school, sat me down and asked me straight to my face. It was hilariously ackward. The rest found out because no one can keep a secret around here. 2 has no clue what’s going on.
Current mommy challenges? I have a teen and a preteen. Enough said.
7 almost 8 weeks
How old is your child/are your children?
7, 6, and 3
Have you shared the news with them? If so how? If not when?
Yes we did at 6 weeks. They were eating a bedtime snack and we decided to tell them. I've been feeling so rotten that I've been needing all the help I can get!
Current mommy challenges?
Since I've been feeling so gross, I haven't been able to keep up with dishes, laundry or just meals in general. Mornings are tough, with packing the kiddos lunches and getting them ready for school on time has been a really big challenge.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
@cdepperschmidt Right?! I didn’t think I could or would either. Most of them weren’t planned so that helped a lot. And if you’re counting pregnancies then this actually makes pregnancy #9.
Something I’m barely starting to wrap my head around is that my oldest will be in college when this one starts kindergarten...
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!