I was lurking on this thread a few hours ago and just coming back now and day-um you all got organized fast. Totally support the ticker and happy to step up if @knottieamusements Or wednesdays ever needs a pinch hitter/ticker. Just let me know!
I usually only bathe them twice a week, but have considered adding a third time because there’s weeks when they definitely smell. Fortunately last week wasn’t one of them.
However, seeing a title may help for more responses instead of just a general thread. Again, no preference from me
This was why when we originally talked about it, we discussed the questions thread as being for small questions, but still encouraging people to start new threads for big topics.
@theglitteredpterodactyl You are not alone. My FFFC is I'm having a rough time quitting too. I used to smoke a pack a day amd cut myself down to 5 shortly after finding out I'm pregnant. I'll go outside every few hrs and have about a quarter of a cig and put it out and repeat. I feel terrible and I really am trying but the s/o's family is driving me absolutely nuts. Everytime his dad walks through our door (like every other day) I can immediately feel my body get hot and I can feel my heart beat throughout my body and can even hear it because it's so loud. Needless to say the dude stresses me the f out and I have to smoke a full one. I hate it and I feel so guilty. I'm only 7 weeks. I feel if I can't handle a simple obstical such as quitting how am I going to be a good mom? My family tells me to try not to stress about it too much. Most of the women in my fam, mom included, smoked through all of their pregnancies and I'd say we're all pretty normal. None of us have asthma, weren't premies etc.. I know their hearts are in a good place but it doesn't make me feel better. I used to worm at a gas station and would hold backs scoffs whenever I had to sell a pregnant woman cigs.. Always thought "why can't you just think of what you're doing to your baby?" Now I realize there's a lot more to it than than that and I feel like the biggest hypocrite.. I really am trying so hard but all the stress I deal with is killing me and I'm scared if I just up and cold Turkey it, it will only get much much worse and harm the baby more. Maybe it's just the addiction telling me that. Idk. But I feel helpless at this point. Wish I never picked up the damn things.
I think we were talking about cat boxes in here. Last week I told my husband I'm not supposed to change the box. We just moved the car to our basement from our bungalow. I think I've commented before that my cat seems to refuse to poop in her box. Well she's still been doing it upstairs but peeing downstairs. I told my husband today he needs to clean it upstairs and he got all huffy that the cat is still doing it. I then asked if he's cleaned down stairs at all this week. Of course not because he said he didn't know he was supposed to.. he yelled at me when I did it last week so I assumed he had it.
I hate that I feel like me being pregnant and unable to keep up with the house is an inconvenience.
I’ve started delaying changing DS’s night time diaper until after we’ve eaten breakfast. I can’t stand the thought of facing the pee diaper smell on an empty stomach.
Can someone please explain to me what the heck a ticker is? I’ve read some explanations...something that changes daily, that rolls over weekly, but I still have no idea what y’all are talking about it. Lol.
@concreteayngel Look at my siggy. See the spoiler button? Push that. See the picture of the ring that says 'my baby is the size of a ________'? That is a ticker. It ticks down your pregnancy (notice it also says I am 9 weeks and ___ days pregnant or whatever it days).
@concreteayngel there is an example in my spoiler. Regardless of what type of ticker, or even if you don’t have one, there is a day a week when your new week or pregnancy begins. Mine will be Monday as of right now (first day of week 8 or 9.)
Ahhh I see. Ok thank you. I’m on the app right now, so I’ll have to check when I get on my laptop, but I totally know what you’re talking about. Thank you @kiwi2628 and @chopchop25!
@mytrueloves I didn't notice it until you mentioned it here, but omg so many loss postings from randos. I've always just been quick to give my condolences, and I still will, but now I'm like *in my best Seinfeld voice* "who are these people?"
For those of us posting ticker change threads, it might be helpful to post a quick explanation of what the ticker change before the check-in questions. There seems to be some confusion, and who knows if people are reading this thread- which also will be buried in a couple days...
@indias95 hang in there. Keep working on it and staying aware. That's what I'm doing. I've definitely been cutting back more and more and have been brainstorming what i can eat instead off smoking when i want to step outside ( so i can keep my five minute breaks from my toddler lol). I also reached out to a friend who smokes and has two kids and asked her to help hold me accoubtable and that's helped too.
@concreteayngel Obviously I feel bad for their loss but I don't know this person so I can't give anything more than a generic "sorry for your loss" post, you know? I feel like drive-by loss announcements accomplish nothing but increasing board anxiety.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@concreteayngel Obviously I feel bad for their loss but I don't know this person so I can't give anything more than a generic "sorry for your loss" post, you know? I feel like drive-by loss announcements accomplish nothing but increasing board anxiety.
100% agree. I'm sorry for anyone who experiences a loss because it SUCKS and it's heartbreaking, but when someone has never posted here before, and often times nowhere else either, it's like someone running into a room yelling their business then exiting again. I get that people want support in this time and just want someone who understands, but that's not fair to us either.
So, I get why people feel that way about lurkers posting their losses, but I’ve also been in their shoes. TW When I lost my first pregnancy I had been lurking my bmb HARD but too shy to really participate. We hadn’t told any of our family I was pregnant until we told them I was having surgery for an ectopic pregnancy, so I didn’t feel like I had anyone to talk to. None of my friends were even thinking about kids yet, so even the ones who knew I was pregnant didn’t really know what to say or so. I posted on my bmb and it helped. It really helped. Just to tell my story, and have people who understood hear me. I know they didn’t know me, but hearing condolences from a group of my peers helped. An early loss can be a very isolating. I think that’s one of the loveliest things about these groups. It’s a place to find community, especially when you need it most.
@DunkinDecaf Really appreciate you sharing that perspective. It does add some anxiety to the board, but also doesn’t take much out of our day to send condolences and be there when someone might otherwise be alone.
Re: FFFC 3/9
Or wednesdays ever needs a pinch hitter/ticker. Just let me know!
I usually only bathe them twice a week, but have considered adding a third time because there’s weeks when they definitely smell. Fortunately last week wasn’t one of them.
My FFFC is I'm having a rough time quitting too. I used to smoke a pack a day amd cut myself down to 5 shortly after finding out I'm pregnant. I'll go outside every few hrs and have about a quarter of a cig and put it out and repeat. I feel terrible and I really am trying but the s/o's family is driving me absolutely nuts. Everytime his dad walks through our door (like every other day) I can immediately feel my body get hot and I can feel my heart beat throughout my body and can even hear it because it's so loud. Needless to say the dude stresses me the f out and I have to smoke a full one. I hate it and I feel so guilty. I'm only 7 weeks. I feel if I can't handle a simple obstical such as quitting how am I going to be a good mom? My family tells me to try not to stress about it too much. Most of the women in my fam, mom included, smoked through all of their pregnancies and I'd say we're all pretty normal. None of us have asthma, weren't premies etc.. I know their hearts are in a good place but it doesn't make me feel better. I used to worm at a gas station and would hold backs scoffs whenever I had to sell a pregnant woman cigs.. Always thought "why can't you just think of what you're doing to your baby?" Now I realize there's a lot more to it than than that and I feel like the biggest hypocrite.. I really am trying so hard but all the stress I deal with is killing me and I'm scared if I just up and cold Turkey it, it will only get much much worse and harm the baby more. Maybe it's just the addiction telling me that. Idk. But I feel helpless at this point. Wish I never picked up the damn things.
I hate that I feel like me being pregnant and unable to keep up with the house is an inconvenience.
Sunday- mesamyt
Monday - Lisa3379 / chopchop25
Tuesday - dunkindecaf
Wednesday - knottieamusements / rc-cola
Thursday - mytrueloves
Friday - sammierose464
Saturday- cdepperschmidt
We can do it! These babies deserve it ❤
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
100% agree. I'm sorry for anyone who experiences a loss because it SUCKS and it's heartbreaking, but when someone has never posted here before, and often times nowhere else either, it's like someone running into a room yelling their business then exiting again. I get that people want support in this time and just want someone who understands, but that's not fair to us either.
TW
When I lost my first pregnancy I had been lurking my bmb HARD but too shy to really participate. We hadn’t told any of our family I was pregnant until we told them I was having surgery for an ectopic pregnancy, so I didn’t feel like I had anyone to talk to. None of my friends were even thinking about kids yet, so even the ones who knew I was pregnant didn’t really know what to say or so. I posted on my bmb and it helped. It really helped. Just to tell my story, and have people who understood hear me. I know they didn’t know me, but hearing condolences from a group of my peers helped. An early loss can be a very isolating. I think that’s one of the loveliest things about these groups. It’s a place to find community, especially when you need it most.