Separate rooms or sharing?

vinerie · March 2018

I am making this question its own thread as I think it could generate some significant discussion--I hope that is okay.

Anyhow, I am super torn between making a second nursery for the new baby or having both boys ultimately share a room. STMs: What are you planning and why? FTMs: Anyone share a room growing up? Thoughts on the experience?

If we share a room I will not make a second nursery. DS2 will sleep with us for ~5-6 months and then we'll set up a crib and chair in our current office and have him sleep in there until we get sleep under control and then move him into DS1's room (which will then be their room.) One advantage of this is saving space. We both work a lot outside the normal working hours and need an office in the house. We have a 4 bedroom house, so them sharing a room would give us a dedicated office and then an extra room that will be a combo playroom/guest bedroom. I have heard that sharing a room can enhance bonding and can even help them sleep better (i.e. if one wakes up and the other is sleeping, the awake kid will take a cue from the sibling and go back to bed. Nice, right!?)

If we do separate rooms, we'll move the office into the fourth bedroom, which will double as a guest bedroom when guests come (It's really called a "bonus room" and it's pretty big, so we can easily do 2 desks/computers/chairs plus a bed in there.) We won't have a playroom, and the play area would be as we have it now--a kind of area in our open-space downstairs. We keep it pretty tidy now, but with two kids, I could see a toy explosion happening in our living area and that might quickly get out of control. I have talked to several people who did separate rooms and they said their kids like having their "own space" to decompress, be alone and for quiet time, which also sounds smart. Both DH and I are on the introverted side and I know I value my alone time, so I suspect my own children might need their own space, too.

So....as you can see, pluses and minuses on each decision.

Thoughts? What are your plans and why?

meeks2020 · March 2018

We have a 4 bedroom home and new baby will have its own room. We will be losing our guest room, and will still have a separate play room . Our out of town guests will probably get an airbed in the office (the 4th bedroom)

vinerie · March 2018

meeks2020 said:

We have a 4 bedroom home and new baby will have its own room. We will be losing our guest room, and will still have a separate play room . Our out of town guests will probably get an airbed in the office (the 4th bedroom)

Curious your rationale--why the separate rooms vs. sharing?

calimom2524 · March 2018

When I was pregnant with DS2 we decided to move DS1 to our guest room and converted it to his "big boy room". We let him choose the paint colors, the general "design" and had him help with everything. We did it early enough that he didn't feel like he was being "kicked out" of his room for the new baby and he still talks about getting to paint his own room to this day. Now that my living situation has changed, the boys share a room together. I think for the first year at least it's important to have them in separate rooms, especially because if baby is actually sleeping in their room (which mine didn't for 2 years) their constant waking up at night would interrupt your other child's sleep. I can say that now that they share a room, if one wakes up, the other wakes up. There is no such thing in our house as a sibling taking a cue from the other sibling and going back to sleep, there is two awake kids.

We didn't have a separate playroom, we just allow play to happen in the living room and their own room and then clean up the toys/mess each night. I have friends who have had play rooms and with more than one kid they get AWAY from them and the playrooms were just giant messes. I'm in no way implying that's the norm, I've just seen some horror stories.

livinthesunnylife · March 2018

Both boys will have their own rooms. But once they aren't in the crib I will put bunk beds in one room and a queen bed in the other room. So they can sleep together if/when they feel like it but it isn't forced.

I've never done babies sleeping in our room (although I have spent plenty a night sleeping in their room with them). When I'm on maternity leave and DH has to work there's no point in us both being up all night. I got it.

I can't imagine putting the LO in with DS at 6m-ish because at 6m-ish the LO will still be waking up a few times a night and DS is a perfect little STTN kid. I will do anything in my power to make sure his sleep is not interrupted.

ETA: we have a separate visitor suite on the other side of the house and a separate playroom. So we aren't losing anything. This room is just kinda hanging out waiting for the baby since we bought the house.

meeks2020 · March 2018

vinerie said:

meeks2020 said:

We have a 4 bedroom home and new baby will have its own room. We will be losing our guest room, and will still have a separate play room . Our out of town guests will probably get an airbed in the office (the 4th bedroom)

Curious your rationale--why the separate rooms vs. sharing?

We have the bedroom and our guest room is used maybe a couple of times a year, so we'll give it to the baby. Most likely baby will be in a pnp bassinet in our room for a while to start, but once we're comfortable he will move to his own room. Also ds for not do well with change and I fear the baby coming will be a big enough change for him and it "invading" his room like it will every other area will be too much. I want to give him that personal space

lalala2004 · March 2018

We are making a separate nursery. we
have 4 bedrooms, but they are very small. It would be difficult to have DS’s
twin bed, a crib, and both kids dressers in one room. The other room is an office. Most of the toys are in the main living area, and it does get messy, but we keep some toys out of reach and we
make him put his toys away before getting another, so it doesn’t get too out of control. That said, I don’t expect DS2
to be in his own room for a while.

But I’m thinking MOTN diaper changes, interrupted sleep for both kids.... I would think if you want to do this, keep the new baby in your room for a while before having them share a room.

neeraja_k · March 2018

As FTP's we're kind of conflicted on where to set up a nursery. For one, I'm not entirely sure we'll even still be in this house by the time the baby is born, but for this conversation's sake I'm going to assume we're staying.

Our home is like 2.5br, 2ba and it has the absolute shittiest layout ever. We love the location, but if the house burned down tomorrow I don't think we'd shed a tear. Plus being oriented east-west, and situated in the forest, we get almost no direct sunlight in any room but the one southern window in the master bedroom.

- The master bedroom is huge, it's easily more square footage than our kitchen and living room combined. There is more than enough room in there along the opposite wall of our king size bed for a crib and dresser/changing station and a rocker in the corner without having to change any of the normal layout.

- The normal size spare bedroom at the other end of the house gets quite a bit of use from my best friend who is often visiting a few times a month, or probably his mom or sister if they fly in after it's born, so I am loathe to turn it into a complete nursery right away.

- The smaller "bedroom" that could technically be a bedroom is really too small for even a full size bed, dresser, night stand, etc so I've turned it into my office with my desk, gaming PC, 75gal aquarium, craft cabinet for my yarns, etc...but it's right off the living room/front entry and has glass double doors. A crib, dresser/changing station, and rocker would go well in there, and it's already painted a lovely shade of light grey that I like for a nursery...but it has one east facing window and is always dark in there. I'm not sure how much of a natural light cycle babies need or require, and I'm not sure how noise-free a nursery needs to be, if at all.

We've toyed with putting the nursery in our bedroom just for the room it's already got going to waste and for simplicity's sake. But we're both introverts who value our quiet, private space, and we have no intention on co-sleeping or wanting to encourage that kind of dependence (if that's a thing). So I think from Day 1 the baby needs it's own room. Plus, I'm not sure what kind of paternity leave my husband's employer offers, and he's a ridiculously light sleeper already, that I think me having to get up umpteen times a night to feed/change/soothe etc the baby would cut into his sleep for work. On the other hand, he would just rather cram everything into our bedroom because that's his visual mental calculator of what'll fit into the largest Uhaul truck.

So, we're still largely undecided. =/

livinthesunnylife · March 2018

@neeraja_k The tiny bedroom sounds like the best idea for you. A lot of people put black out curtains in baby's rooms so I wouldn't worry about not having natural light. And a white noise machine will help with any background noise.

ssthomps · March 2018

We are doing separate rooms because we are having a boy and a girl. Also my daughter will be close to five years older when this LO is born. This is a big age gap to be sharing rooms when thinking of bed times, interest, etc. I think if they are close in age then it makes sense to share a room, at least in the beginning. Branching off to separate rooms when they are older is always an option as well.

alinafed · March 2018

I struggled with this but not with the baby girl on the way, but with the older two boys. DS2 has to move out of the nursery, so do I move him into the guest bedroom (therefore we have no guest bedroom) or into DS1's very large room to share. Ultimately we decided to give him his own room for now, for a few reasons. DS1 is old enough that he stays up with the lights on reading/playing a bit after we leave, whereas DS2 sleeps in the dark right after we leave (one is 4, the other is 2). We didn't want to disrupt their routines by forcing DS1 to sleep in darkness or keeping DS2 up late. I know they would adjust, and there are PLENTY of people on my other BMB who have had kids share with no issues, even 3 kids sharing a room in some cases. Kids will adapt. For us it just wasn't important enough to have the guest room to deal with the potential sleep disruption issues to get there.

It sounds like you don't really have to decide right away, since baby will be sleeping with you for a while and then in the office until his/her sleep is sorted out. Could you set up that office as baby's room for now and then decide next year how you feel? You could always give them separate rooms to start and then transition them in together when they are older so that it's a special treat to have a big kid room together. I dunno, just brainstorming - it sounds like both your options could work very well!

livinthesunnylife · March 2018

@calimom2524 Your comment made me laugh. The playroom isn't a mess, it's played in. He likes it that way. If we clean it up he goes over to the toy bins and pulls everything out. A play room is not supposed to be empty looking

calimom2524 · March 2018

livinthesunnylife said:

@calimom2524 Your comment made me laugh. The playroom isn't a mess, it's played in. He likes it that way. If we clean it up he goes over to the toy bins and pulls everything out. A play room is not supposed to be empty looking

My best friend sent me a picture of hers once. She has 3 kids and let them play in there without supervising them for about 2 hours. It seriously looked like a scene out of hoarders! I laughed so hard. At least if the mess is in the living room I can keep an eye on it lol

elsieisamoocow · March 2018

This stresses me out beyond belief! So our living situation: 2 bed 2 bath 1100sq ft townhouse. Our master is a decent size, but our king size bed, 2 dressers, 2 night stands, and a bookshelf fill it up. There's room for the bassinest next to the bed since it swivels but this baby will be in our room for the beginning, as much as I didn't really want to do that again. It made it easier on me though with DS.

DS's room is a decent size for one kid, but partly because we have an insane amount of books (some from my childhood, some from DH's childhood, and DS's own combined, last I checked we had over 300 for him), there's no open wall except for where DS's crib is. We'll get him a big boy bed, but unless we do a toddler size one, there's no way in hell we'd fit a twin bed and a crib in that room, along with the dresser and bookshelves. Also, DS is a great sleeper now, and I'm not ruining that by sticking a baby in the room who wakes up in the middle of the night. DS didn't sleep through the night until 14 months, so it's just not sounding like a good idea to me. DH, on the other hand, sees nothing wrong with it, but I don't think he realizes how much of an issue it could be.

We really need to move by the end of the year, and I need DH to come to that realization soon, because I'd rather move while pregnant than wait until I have 2 kids to watch!

juliebird6 · March 2018

We have a 4 bedroom house with a dedicated office space on the first floor. The plan is for the new baby to be in our room until about 6 months, and then will move into the nursery. DD will move into her "big girl room" and we'll still have a guest room.

I definitely will not have DD sharing a room with the baby because I don't want the baby to interrupt her sleep. If they choose to share a room when they are old enough to ask (which is actually what my brother and I did when we were little), they can, but I'm not going to start that way because we don't have the need.

ETA: RE playroom. We converted our sun room into a playroom (RIP adult sun room space), so we have a dedicated space for this on the first floor, but I can supervise and make sure it's not too much of a disaster.

livinthesunnylife · March 2018

@elsieisamoocow I have a friend who lives in a 1bedroom and still has their 15m old in their room. It's not easy, but it is possible. DS STTN at 11m really consistently so I would have moved him at that point. But 11m of a baby in your bedroom sounds like a really long time. Maybe that will motivate your husband to want to look?

dirtanddiamonds · March 2018

We have a four bedroom house and four kids soooo yeah. Lol. Baby and 13 yo get their own and 4 and 8 year old are together.

But my my kids don’t mind. While doing the construction in the basement, all three were in the same room for almost 9 months. They did fine.

I wouldnt put a NB in a room with an older child if I didn’t have to. Babies are on their own schedule and it would just disrupt the other kiddo.

dirtanddiamonds · March 2018

Also. Our bedrooms are huge. It would be a lot harder if they weren’t. There’s about 12’ of space between the two twin beds in the shared room.

And all all the kids have a downstairs media/playroom which just gives more space for their crap.

elsieisamoocow · March 2018

@livinthesunnylife Yeah I think it will once he realizes that that's the alternative. I think he's just worried we won't get approved for another house here because it's insanely expensive. I'm wondering if it would be possible to meet with a lender and go over everything and see exactly what we could qualify for so we have that in mind.

dirtanddiamonds · March 2018

elsieisamoocow said:

@livinthesunnylife Yeah I think it will once he realizes that that's the alternative. I think he's just worried we won't get approved for another house here because it's insanely expensive. I'm wondering if it would be possible to meet with a lender and go over everything and see exactly what we could qualify for so we have that in mind.

You can totally get Pre-Approved and go shopping with a bank letter stating so. It would provide your max purchase price.

elsieisamoocow · March 2018

@dirtanddiamonds Good to know. I'm going to bring that up to him. At least then we would know if it's even feasible.

dirtanddiamonds · March 2018

@elsieisamoocow FYI - housing rates are at a 4 year high and are expected to see a bit more of a rise before it breaks the housing market. Sales are down 5% +/- from last year this time because people aren’t buying with the 4.5% interest rates being offered.

So so if you can wait. I would.

elsieisamoocow · March 2018

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

dirtanddiamonds · March 2018

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

calimom2524 · March 2018

dirtanddiamonds said:

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

I read an article recently that in the SF Bay Area where I live the housing market isn't expected to go down until 2021. I don't know the truth to that, but I could definitely see that being the case.

dirtanddiamonds · March 2018

calimom2524 said:

dirtanddiamonds said:

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

I read an article recently that in the SF Bay Area where I live the housing market isn't expected to go down until 2021. I don't know the truth to that, but I could definitely see that being the case.

SF is it’s own little world regarding housing lol. I don’t ever see that housing market coming to anything remotely resembling a “normal” market lol.

calimom2524 · March 2018

dirtanddiamonds said:

calimom2524 said:

dirtanddiamonds said:

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

I read an article recently that in the SF Bay Area where I live the housing market isn't expected to go down until 2021. I don't know the truth to that, but I could definitely see that being the case.

SF is it’s own little world regarding housing lol. I don’t ever see that housing market coming to anything remotely resembling a “normal” market lol.

Lucky me, lol. I love living here but man it is expensive.

scottishlass1213 · March 2018

For us each kid had their own room. There’s going to be a 5 year difference so I wouldn’t see sharing as a good option.

We only have 3 bedrooms so the guest room now moves to the basement but really the only guests we have are the ILs and most of the time they have their RV with them.

The playroom for us is is in the family room, which may be interesting with 2 kids but I think a lot of DSs stuff will move up to his room at some point so the baby doesn’t get it.

ecwk · March 2018

We have three bedrooms, all decent size, two upstairs and one downstairs. Currently DH and I have the big room upstairs and DS is across from us.
I think baby will be with us for a year at least and so we won’t be making any real changes. I had no intention of cosleeping before I had DS, in fact I was quite against it but now I know better! So I imagine that will happen too.
Then after that, perhaps DS and baby will move into our big room and we will move to the smaller one. Or maybe they’ll both stay in the smaller one. Not sure yet but as we will be a long time with baby I’m not stressing yet. Also we plan to move in about 4 years so it’s not worth getting stressed about just yet!

elsieisamoocow · March 2018

calimom2524 said:

dirtanddiamonds said:

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

I read an article recently that in the SF Bay Area where I live the housing market isn't expected to go down until 2021. I don't know the truth to that, but I could definitely see that being the case.

I have a feeling the area I'm in (north of LA) is the same way. They're building 20,000 new houses just in our valley in the next couple of years, and the starting price is at least 600k, most are more like 750-800 now. And yet they're selling out whenever they release more. It kills me.

riverbed · March 2018

My older SS share a room now. DS has his own room, mainly because 3 in a room is a bit much and also the age differences.SD has her own room, only girl, and baby has no room in this current house. Which is why I am crossueverything for a quick sale and finding a new house with 5 bedrooms.then baby will have his own nursery. I think the age difference is too much to have him share with DS who is the youngest now at 6.
we have a family room that is where DS has his toys (all legos) & where all the boys keep their nerf guns. The new house will have something similar, 2 living areas is a must have for me. Our family, blended with teens and little ones just function smoother with some room for everyone to spread out and do their own thing.

mrslittlemac · March 2018

Our house is quite small as it is, and I have no idea how it will work long-term, but for now the plan is to have the new baby in our room for the first 4-6 months, move out to the living room until STTN, and then eventually into DD's room to share. DD is still in a crib in the living room because she doesn't yet STTN and it's just so much easier to tend to her when I only have to walk 10 feet and have the couch as an option if it's a bad night.

Her bedroom (which until now has been used for storage since we have no garage/shed/basement/attic) still needs a new subfloor and paint. I also want to mount wire shelving in the closet so we can ditch the dresser in there which makes me nervous even though it's anchored. The room is also tiny so any large things we can keep out of there will be awesome. So, the tentative plan is for H to do the subfloor this spring, we'll either replace or deep clean the carpet, and then I get to mount my shelves and paint. We'll probably take her along to "pick" colors but she's still really young to understand. They will eventually end up in bunk beds until we can move out of here!

calimom2524 · March 2018

elsieisamoocow said:

calimom2524 said:

dirtanddiamonds said:

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

I read an article recently that in the SF Bay Area where I live the housing market isn't expected to go down until 2021. I don't know the truth to that, but I could definitely see that being the case.

I have a feeling the area I'm in (north of LA) is the same way. They're building 20,000 new houses just in our valley in the next couple of years, and the starting price is at least 600k, most are more like 750-800 now. And yet they're selling out whenever they release more. It kills me.

I just read a news article like 5 minutes ago that to buy a house in San Jose the average salary needed is $235k and the average home price is $1.2 million making it the most expensive place to buy homes in the country and all of the top cities on the list are in California. That is INSANE.

redheadbride15 · March 2018

I’m trying not to overthink this problem, which we will certainly be struggling with. We’ll probably just play it by ear. We have a 3br house with one TINY bedroom that DS1 (21 mo) currently uses. It is big enough for a twin bed, dresser, desk or bookshelf, but not much else. It’s definitely not big enough to share. Our spare room, which is larger, doubles as a guest space and an office and we will miss it terribly if we have to give it up. In theory we could have the boys share that room but then we’d still be without a guest room because the tiny bedroom will work as an office but won’t fit a full or queen sized bed.

Our house also has an unfinished walk-up attic and basement, both of which could be renovated to add one or two more bedrooms, but these are very expensive projects and realistically won’t be in our budget until the kids are both out of daycare. So room-sharing when they’re young and then giving them their own space when they’re school-aged may be an option. I room shared with my sister until we were 10 & 13 but we got our own rooms by the time the teenage angst arrived, so I think it worked out well.

Our master bedroom is large and has plenty of space for DS2 for the short term (we’ll keep him with us for the first 4-6mo at least) so I’ve decided I’m not going to worry about it until we have to. And by then we’ll have a sense of what their temperaments and sleep patterns are so maybe the decision will be obvious. I’m not one to “set up” a nursery anyway so I feel no pressure to hurry the decision. With DS1 we just stuck a pack’n’play in the corner and called it good enough.

ssthomps · March 2018

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

History has shown that the housing market fluctuates every 8 years or so. Based on the stock market it doesn’t appear that the interest rates will go back to what they were during the recession any time soon. Right now 4 or 4.5 % Intrest isn’t bad and it is going to continue to rise. The good thing is if you buy and the interest rates do go down you can always refinance for a lower rate. The issue that we are finding being in the market of buying is that it is a sellers market, so the seller has the upper hand. The houses in the mid range are not flying off the shelves, so it gave us some wiggle room to negotiate a lower price. Even given that, the sellers still have the upper hand.

In 2009 when we bought our first home we paid little out of pocket, the seller paid majority of the cost because it was a buyers market. This time around houses are more expensive, there is less inventory and we have to pay closing cost. The way we see it is, that we are buying a home that is in our budget and if the market crashes we have enough put away to be protected. There will never be a perfect time to buy. You just have to make the decision on if you are ok with making the purchase and if your finances are in order to do so. You also have to do what is best for your family which may not be what is best for someone else’s family. It is a stressful process though. FYI. Good Luck.

lolog531 · March 2018

In regards to homebuying - I’m not expert, but we just purchased our first home last June, when it was definitely a seller’s market. We knew this, but were tired of renting and needed more space. We found the mid-range priced homes like ours we had some leverage. We also found a home where the sellers were relocating for a new job and were very motivated. We were able to negotiate price and get some closing costs covered, so we were very fortunate. Our interest rate was right at 4%, which seemed high to me, but we know if they drop we can refinance. Plus that’s still much lower than they were 10-12ish years ago during the big boom. I have so many friends that purchased houses back then that are struggling to sell and make any money on.

lolog531 · March 2018

Sleeping arrangements - we have 4br all upstairs. We have the largest (though not by much, just has the best closet!), 2 are similar and the other is very small. DS and this LO will have separate rooms. We plan on having bunk beds in DS room at some point with his full mattress on bottom, single on top. If they choose to share down the road, Great, if not they’ll stay separate. Our guest room now will become the baby’s room. We will move our queen bed and dresser into The small room for the guest room. Not much space for anything else, but it’ll work for guests! Our family room is our designated play space. We have built in storage benches, so the toys stay semi confined. We have a front living room that will be a more ‘formal’ one, but with 2 boys I know toys will just be all over no matter what we do!

ssthomps · March 2018

lolog531 said:

In regards to homebuying - I’m not expert, but we just purchased our first home last June, when it was definitely a seller’s market. We knew this, but were tired of renting and needed more space. We found the mid-range priced homes like ours we had some leverage. We also found a home where the sellers were relocating for a new job and were very motivated. We were able to negotiate price and get some closing costs covered, so we were very fortunate. Our interest rate was right at 4%, which seemed high to me, but we know if they drop we can refinance. Plus that’s still much lower than they were 10-12ish years ago during the big boom. I have so many friends that purchased houses back then that are struggling to sell and make any money on.

Awesome, they paid some closing cost. We are looking at 4.5 because we are not willing to buy down the rate. It isn’t worth the 20 or so dollar difference.

elsieisamoocow · March 2018

calimom2524 said:

elsieisamoocow said:

calimom2524 said:

dirtanddiamonds said:

elsieisamoocow said:

@dirtanddiamonds Ugh. Of course. I wish someone would be able to tell me when they'll go back down.

Financial advisors are saying 6-9 months, we HAVE to see a break or we risk another housing collapse. Let’s see if banks learned their lesson last time.

So, hopefully this fall.

I read an article recently that in the SF Bay Area where I live the housing market isn't expected to go down until 2021. I don't know the truth to that, but I could definitely see that being the case.

I have a feeling the area I'm in (north of LA) is the same way. They're building 20,000 new houses just in our valley in the next couple of years, and the starting price is at least 600k, most are more like 750-800 now. And yet they're selling out whenever they release more. It kills me.

I just read a news article like 5 minutes ago that to buy a house in San Jose the average salary needed is $235k and the average home price is $1.2 million making it the most expensive place to buy homes in the country and all of the top cities on the list are in California. That is INSANE.

I saw that! So terrible.

homequiltingmama · March 2018

Growing up my sister and I shared a room until I was a preteen, then my parents converted the playroom to a bedroom and I moved in. It was nice having my own space at this point and lots of fun sharing before that. Part of me wishes we had stayed in the same room bc we really grew a part in our teen years but it might have just been our personalities. I dunno...

Anyway, we had DD1 and DD2 in separate rooms until DD2 turned 2ish and then we moved her into DD1's room into her own big girl bed. They pretty much only sleep in there and hang out around the house. We don't have a playroom, just little "pockets" of places where they have toys/art supplies/etc. Maybe like stations? Haha. When baby 3 arrives, he or she will get the empty room. Part of me thinks if the 3rd is a girl we might do a 'bunk room' where they all sleep in the same room eventually. We might do that even if it's a boy - at least for a few years. Could be fun or a terrible experiment

We won't ever be able to give all 3 their own room at the same time, so there will be sharing for the foreseeable future.

melprop · March 2018

We have a 3BR house. Both kids will have separate bedrooms. If we have guests, my kids will either bunk together, or the guests will sleep on air mattresses downstairs.

This is for several reasons. DS is 7yo and has always been a great sleeper. I don’t want to mess with that. The baby will likely be in a nursery from the start because DH gets up for work at 4am. I don’t want DH’s alarm to wake up the baby. Also, both bedrooms are too small to fit a twin bed, crib, large dresser, and DS’s toys.

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