@KFrob how do you do it??? By the time I get home from work, there’s barely an hour and a half before his bedtime, and by the time we’re done with dinner, that’s practically it. We always say we’re going to bathe him more, but then we run out of time and energy and it’s bedtime already.
That's similar to our schedule, we get home about 5:45, cook dinner, eat, then straight into the bath and pjs. We have about 30 mins to play or watch a show. We shoot for a 7:30 bed time, but it's probably more like 7:45 once we brush teeth, read a book, and complete the toddler shenanigans. It probably helps that she loves bath time.
+1 for still waiting for the catfish and trolls...I really love this BMB!!!! But sometimes it’s funny to sit back and watch...However, I agree with @knottieamusements there just haven’t been that many STUPID questions.
I will say the whole tagging people thing was new to me when I joined TTGP and I actually found it obnoxious to follow the conversations with 50 million tags because there was so much going on. In N15 tagging was rare, I dunno if it was just that board or what. That being said I usually tag, but I’m an intelligent person so i can usually follow convo with or without tags.
I’m gonna be honest for a second. I think it’s gross that you guys don’t consistently bathe your kids. DS gets a bath EOD, rarely we go three days. Also, as a teacher, kids smell...
AFM my FFC. I dropped my phone in the toilet today...
@kiwi2628 thanks for starting this one today. I definitely just woke up.
Definitely confused on how anyone can be on / enjoy Baby Center. Agreed w/ @mesamyt that I feel like I lost some brain cells when checking it out. That said, I also didn't love the days on the Knot where people would be snarky just because it was fun and easy to do behind a computer screen. But, I'm a huge fan of 'snark' in terms of blunt, open, honest responses because sometimes we need that much more than a hug (and especially more than a fake hug with an eye roll behind it.)
I'm stuck on the 'waiting for the board to get snarky' comments. If you saw something that you felt deserved a more direct response, wouldn't you have responded accordingly? The comment makes me think we're waiting for a ringleader or opening ceremonies, and that doesn't sit right. I just think we haven't had a lot of troll or drive-by postings yet.
And for one added FFFC, I still can't spell the word 'definitely' without autocorrect. Never could, probably never will.
DS gets a bath every other day, otherwise he starts looking super greasy. Plus, the fact that he’s still in diapers, and seeing that carnage on a daily basis almost makes me consider going daily. Plus he loves it and it’s 15-20 minutes of him being happy and contained. Win win.
I actually don’t love-it because I mostly use the Iphone app. I don’t get notifications about the loves, and when I am reading the comments they just show up as grey blobs, so I don’t really realize they are there.
It has nothing to do with whether I like the comments. Knowing that other people are looking for them, then yup, I’ll start trying to remember to use them.
@chopchop25 Definitely not on BC for the BMB. The other boards can be pretty entertaining though. Bargain Hunters and All In the Family are my go-tos. Plus I enjoy drama that I don't have to engage in.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
Totally forgot I wanted to come in on the baby center thing. I can’t believe that Baby center is allowed to exist in the fashion that does. I looked on there before this board opened and I couldn’t believe how many women were like ...hoping this will be my board… Does this look like a pregnancy test… I’m kind of glad that the bump has a rules against things like that, no one wants to see things you pee on.
I kind of agree with @knottieamusements - I don't get notifications when someone "loves" a post, I only know if I go back to look at my previous posts, and I don't have time to check on old posts to see if they were liked. I'm on another forum that gives you notifications when someone likes (there's also options for confused, sad, haha, and thanks) a post. So I use it sparingly, when I really, really like or agree with a post.
For the record, I never said anything about snark... I just said that the rainbow and butterflies attitude going on is not necessarily supportive.
As to the tags, @cdepperschmidt, I agree that prior experience definitely plays a role in whether you like them. I don't think that liking them, or not, has any bearing on anyone's intelligence one way or another. It's certainly possible to follow some conversations without them. That said, it makes carrying on conversations in large threads significantly easier.
Their primary purpose is in threads like the check-ins or questions where someone is replying directly to someone else. I guess that's more my point, this is perhaps one of the few times I've seen a real conversation going on, and just checking-in and ignoring everyone else sort of defeats the purpose of a check-in thread and feels like everyone just walked into a room and shouted at once, then walked right back out without really interacting.
ETA: My point regarding the tone of the board was less about there needing to be "more snark" and more about the fact that as soon as someone says anything to someone else that doesn't reek of sweetness, a third someone (disclaimer: I am not speaking about any one specific person here) has to come in and be the "play nice" police.
+1 on waiting on the snark. My last BMB was intense sometimes but we were a super close group of ladies.
I do give DD a bath every night because daycare. She gets plenty of immune system building time there it doesn't need to be all over my house too.
My FFFC is from a FB post I saw today. I HATE when people post shit about daycare horror stories and then you see 500+ people like "This is why my kid will NEVER go to daycare!" or "Why have kids if you aren't going to raise them?!". I have a freaking amazing daycare for my daughter and she LOVES it. Do I miss the crap out of her and would I rather be home spending time with her? For the majority yes of course! But I literally have to work or we will be homeless so stfu with that nonsense. Some people just love their careers, and no one puts their child in a situation like that for something to happen! I can't believe people are insinuating that. I feel like I make the absolute most of my time with her when she is with me because of it and she is loved by so many other people because she goes to daycare. *end rant*
I totally agree with @zwink1 . Snark is only needed if someone claims autism is causes by ultrasounds or something else so stupid that it makes my eyes want to bleed, but I have already seen some people come in and white knight for comments that weren't even mean
So I suppose “snark” seems to mean being shitty to people? Is that why we don’t like snark? Idk. I’ve never thought of it that way. To me being snarky is being funny, honest, and real. You can do that without being shitty. In fact often it’s nothing to do with other people specifically, or it’s self-depricating. To me it’s just real talk, like how people are after they’ve gotten through the “hi, this is who I am, please don’t think I’m a bitch” phase. That was what I meant by my being snark-starved.
Also, I don’t remember the last time I bathed my children. DH bathes then every night but I’m sure if it weren’t for the fact that they eat PB for snack every day and we can’t send DD1 to school without a bath after that they’d be greasy little filthmongers.
I agree with your definition of snark @DunkinDecaf. I just avoid using the word because it seems to have developed a negative connotation off of the TTGP board.
So I suppose “snark” seems to mean being shitty to people? Is that why we don’t like snark? Idk.
I think sometimes people claim to be snarky or sarcastic when they are really just being mean. Also, tone doesn’t always come across well in this medium, so it can be really easy to misread comments.
To me being snarky is being funny, honest, and real. You can do that without being shitty... To me it’s just real talk, like how people are after they’ve gotten through the “hi, this is who I am, please don’t think I’m a bitch” phase.
I actually kind of feel like we are still in the “hi, this is who I am, please don’t think I’m a bitch” phase. At some point, we’ll figure out what works for the group and move on. I’m actually pretty impressed that people are able to make logical, level-headed rebuttals to the (rare) white knight- and honestly, I’m not even sure that the white knights we have (pretty sure I might qualify in one of the discussions) are that obnoxious relative to other forums I’ve been on.
For myself, I prefer to not set the tone of a group that I am unfamiliar with because I know what my freak flag looks like. I know there are a few other people on this forum who might stuff the same hanky in their pocket that I do, but until I know it’s okay to run that flag up, I’ll keep pushing gently around the edges.
I agree with your definition of snark @DunkinDecaf. I just avoid using the word because it seems to have developed a negative connotation off of the TTGP board.
What she said.
I've seen it evolve into something negative across other boards, but down for simply keeping it real.
For myself, I prefer to not set the tone of a group that I am unfamiliar with because I know what my freak flag looks like. I know there are a few other people on this forum who might stuff the same hanky in their pocket that I do, but until I know it’s okay to run that flag up, I’ll keep pushing gently around the edges.
The questions thread is stupid. We used to just ask questions and if someone asked it again we'd be like umm use the search function... maybe this is more of an UO?
I want to try suspension. I love the restraint of rope work, so Im mostly interested in my hubby learning to do it to me. Maybe I'll teach myself to tie my legs.
Lol, @knottieamusements, I am happy to learn that your UN isn't a play on the knottie56789r48gocfkr93 default UNs, because I'll be honest, that's where my head went!
Wait wait when did the restraint conversation start and why am I late to the party?!
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
Lol, @knottieamusements, I am happy to learn that your UN isn't a play on the knottie56789r48gocfkr93 default UNs, because I'll be honest, that's where my head went!
It totally is a play on those- I didn’t realize that the default started with “knottie” and thought the monkies writing Shakespeare were having a joke at my expense.
That said, if it weren’t for my hobby, I would have tried to go with some variation of Little Owl, which is what I have used for years on different forums.
@ninji15 I feel the same way about people who insist on daycare centers being the only option. My child’s in home daycare is amazing and I would never choose a center over it. Centers are fine, but I hate when people talk down about in home daycare.
@knottieamusements, well at least I wasn't completely off base, and I'm glad there's a double entendre there. I confess to not having read the UN GTKY until just now... oops.
Duuude I missed a play party which is one of my favorite things because i felt all blumpy and not in the mood. It was aweek ago and I'm still pouting. I swear being pregnant my sex drive just turns off and I'm so disappointed
FFFC: I feel like the progrestone suppositories I'm on are what's making penetrative sex uncomfortable (even with lots of lube), so I told MH no more sex until week 12 when I stop the progrestone. We're still doing other things, but the poor guy needs to get laid.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@cdepperschmidtDD actually goes to an in home daycare as well! No one ever asks me to clarify, as soon as I mention I work and she goes to daycare I get looks of pity. *eyeroll* Its usually opinionated strangers. My friends and family know better!
ETA The stupid app is doing weird things with tagging for me right now. I gave TB 2 years to get their shit together on this app and the actually made it worse. Its 2018 TB get with it!
@stithof My sex drive is massive now but I don't have the energy for anything. Somehow I ended up with a DF that's exactly the same.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
Ugh sex. My drive is crazy right now I want to so bad! I have actually been put on pelvic rest ALREADY due to the spotting I have been having. Tears. As long as these beans are doing good thats all that I can hope for I guess. This is going to be a long pregnancy though.
I’m jealous of all of you with sex drives now! I’m so constantly nauseous lately I just can’t get in the mood. We tried about a week ago but I had to stop because I didn’t want to throw up on him.
Re: FFFC 3/9
I will say the whole tagging people thing was new to me when I joined TTGP and I actually found it obnoxious to follow the conversations with 50 million tags because there was so much going on. In N15 tagging was rare, I dunno if it was just that board or what. That being said I usually tag, but I’m an intelligent person so i can usually follow convo with or without tags.
I’m gonna be honest for a second. I think it’s gross that you guys don’t consistently bathe your kids. DS gets a bath EOD, rarely we go three days. Also, as a teacher, kids smell...
AFM my FFC. I dropped my phone in the toilet today...
Definitely confused on how anyone can be on / enjoy Baby Center. Agreed w/ @mesamyt that I feel like I lost some brain cells when checking it out. That said, I also didn't love the days on the Knot where people would be snarky just because it was fun and easy to do behind a computer screen. But, I'm a huge fan of 'snark' in terms of blunt, open, honest responses because sometimes we need that much more than a hug (and especially more than a fake hug with an eye roll behind it.)
I'm stuck on the 'waiting for the board to get snarky' comments. If you saw something that you felt deserved a more direct response, wouldn't you have responded accordingly? The comment makes me think we're waiting for a ringleader or opening ceremonies, and that doesn't sit right. I just think we haven't had a lot of troll or drive-by postings yet.
And for one added FFFC, I still can't spell the word 'definitely' without autocorrect. Never could, probably never will.
BFP #2: due 6/30/2017, MMC found 12/7/2016
BFP #3: due 10/21/2018
It has nothing to do with whether I like the comments. Knowing that other people are looking for them, then yup, I’ll start trying to remember to use them.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12725739/gtky-never-have-i-ever#latest
As to the tags, @cdepperschmidt, I agree that prior experience definitely plays a role in whether you like them. I don't think that liking them, or not, has any bearing on anyone's intelligence one way or another. It's certainly possible to follow some conversations without them. That said, it makes carrying on conversations in large threads significantly easier.
Their primary purpose is in threads like the check-ins or questions where someone is replying directly to someone else. I guess that's more my point, this is perhaps one of the few times I've seen a real conversation going on, and just checking-in and ignoring everyone else sort of defeats the purpose of a check-in thread and feels like everyone just walked into a room and shouted at once, then walked right back out without really interacting.
ETA: My point regarding the tone of the board was less about there needing to be "more snark" and more about the fact that as soon as someone says anything to someone else that doesn't reek of sweetness, a third someone (disclaimer: I am not speaking about any one specific person here) has to come in and be the "play nice" police.
I do give DD a bath every night because daycare. She gets plenty of immune system building time there it doesn't need to be all over my house too.
My FFFC is from a FB post I saw today. I HATE when people post shit about daycare horror stories and then you see 500+ people like "This is why my kid will NEVER go to daycare!" or "Why have kids if you aren't going to raise them?!".
I have a freaking amazing daycare for my daughter and she LOVES it. Do I miss the crap out of her and would I rather be home spending time with her? For the majority yes of course! But I literally have to work or we will be homeless so stfu with that nonsense. Some people just love their careers, and no one puts their child in a situation like that for something to happen! I can't believe people are insinuating that. I feel like I make the absolute most of my time with her when she is with me because of it and she is loved by so many other people because she goes to daycare. *end rant*
Also, I don’t remember the last time I bathed my children. DH bathes then every night but I’m sure if it weren’t for the fact that they eat PB for snack every day and we can’t send DD1 to school without a bath after that they’d be greasy little filthmongers.
I actually kind of feel like we are still in the “hi, this is who I am, please don’t think I’m a bitch” phase. At some point, we’ll figure out what works for the group and move on. I’m actually pretty impressed that people are able to make logical, level-headed rebuttals to the (rare) white knight- and honestly, I’m not even sure that the white knights we have (pretty sure I might qualify in one of the discussions) are that obnoxious relative to other forums I’ve been on.
For myself, I prefer to not set the tone of a group that I am unfamiliar with because I know what my freak flag looks like. I know there are a few other people on this forum who might stuff the same hanky in their pocket that I do, but until I know it’s okay to run that flag up, I’ll keep pushing gently around the edges.
I've seen it evolve into something negative across other boards, but down for simply keeping it real.
Nahhhh....
@zwink1 - the not tagging thing is bugging me....
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
(This is also my “what I miss”... I’m not comfortable suspending myself right now because I don’t know the risk profile when pregnant...)
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
That said, if it weren’t for my hobby, I would have tried to go with some variation of Little Owl, which is what I have used for years on different forums.
Kinky sex is one thing I miss because I just haven't felt like doing anything...
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
ETA The stupid app is doing weird things with tagging for me right now. I gave TB 2 years to get their shit together on this app and the actually made it worse. Its 2018 TB get with it!
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023