FFFC 3/9

kiwi2628 · March 2018

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Let's hear them ladies, confess!

*Not guaranteed to be flame free

kiwi2628 · March 2018

I have 2:

First, it took me a solid 5 minutes for me to make sure today was Friday. I am still not 100%

Second, I am waiting to see if we have some catfish/trolls on here...

chyvie · March 2018

We are building a house and they are 4 months behind (typical). I told my contractor today I'm pregnant and he MUST not delay any further as I don't want to move when I'm past 7 months. So he has until June 1st to get us in that house!

theglitteredpterodactyl · March 2018

I know I'll get flamed for this big time but... I'm having a rally hard time quitting smoking for this pregnancy. I started when my ppd/a was really severe from my last pregnancy and it's definitely more of an emotional dependence even than the physical addiction. I've cut waaaaay back and I'm still worrying on it but fffffff it's hard. I feel so guilty and awful and at my ob appt my midwife didn't even care, it was weird. Like... I would've welcomed more guilting and encouraging to stop.

I dunno. Flame away.

knottieamusements · March 2018

@chyvie - I totally understand. I’m trying to remodel my only bathroom, and I want it done before baby! I have a contractor selected, but it is taking forever to get the next steps done. I know from his references that once he gets started, he gets it done, but getting him started takes a bit!

mama2boffour · March 2018

kiwi2628 said:

I have 2:

First, it took me a solid 5 minutes for me to make sure today was Friday. I am still not 100%

Second, I am waiting to see if we have some catfish/trolls on here...

I second your second! This is a pretty tame board.

knottieamusements · March 2018

@theglitteredpterodactyl - my nurse was the same about me going to Cancun when I was 7wks. “Don’t do it, if you do, wear bug spray, moving on.” She was way more concerned about me cleaning my own litter box.

sammierose464 · March 2018

@theglitteredpterodactyl - I think the fact that you care and you're trying to cut back is good. Yeah, it's not the best for baby, but you're not the first and wont be the last to smoke while pregnant. Continue to be conscious of it and try and stop.

I'm working from home today and I've already taken one nap and ready for a 2nd... I've got a headache and just feel like crap.. I feel bad that my work is slacking.

Lisa3379 · March 2018

theglitteredpterodactyl said:

I know I'll get flamed for this big time but... I'm having a rally hard time quitting smoking for this pregnancy. I started when my ppd/a was really severe from my last pregnancy and it's definitely more of an emotional dependence even than the physical addiction. I've cut waaaaay back and I'm still worrying on it but fffffff it's hard. I feel so guilty and awful and at my ob appt my midwife didn't even care, it was weird. Like... I would've welcomed more guilting and encouraging to stop.

I dunno. Flame away.

Not going to flame you. I’m sure it’s hard to quit. Just try the absolute best you can - that’s all you can do.

bel194 · March 2018

MIL sent me a Facebook message this morning asking if we have any plans on Sunday and I fully intend on acting like I never got the message while trying to hurry up and make other plans.

knottieamusements · March 2018

@bel194 I found out my inlaws were moving to my neighborhood and decided to leave the state.

Okay, so it was a bit more complicated than that, and I’m sure my ex is happy to have his mother living around the corner from him...

purplegoldfish2 · March 2018

I forgot to bathe my kids for the whole week last week.

nayyohme · March 2018

@bel194 that's would be me!!! At this point we don't even bother making plans unless it's for birthdays or holidays. Speaking of which.

I have to go to MHs neice's birthday on Saturday. I still need an excuse to not stay long. I'm debating whether to even get her a present. She's 1.

theglitteredpterodactyl · March 2018

@purplegoldfish2 my toddler decided she hates bath time and I'm like meh that's fine. Some days my partner can talk get into it but for the most part... She doesn't smell. It's fine right?

purplegoldfish2 · March 2018

@theglitteredpterodactyl Totally fine! Although mine did start to smell. Not sure if it’s my extra sensitive nose or if anybody else could smell them too, but I’m pretending it was just me!

zwink1 · March 2018

@kiwi2628, me too...

Along those lines, I actually find this board too tame. Sorry, I don't agree that I am here for the sole purpose of supporting every single other person on this board, and I think that sometimes telling people that their question is stupid is supportive. IMO, support doesn't necessarily mean spouting rainbows and butterflies off at people, sometimes it means taking a less gentle line.

I fully expect people to tell me when (not if) I ask a stupid question. Who else is going to
talk me off the ledge of crazy?

kiwi2628 · March 2018

@zwink1

kiwi2628 · March 2018

I definitely already have a post-it or two...

quiltandknit · March 2018

@kiwi2628 and @zwink1 I’m with you guys. I expected there to be some more trolling going on. Or maybe I’m just used to the level of snark on TTGP!

Please tell me me if I ask something stupid. I want to know!

pumpkinpancake · March 2018

@purplegoldfish2 we often go a week between baths for DS

If he gets particularly dirty or smells we make sure to bathe him then, but otherwise he doesn’t smell or seem dirty. Do people actually have time and energy to bathe a 2 year old daily??

muchwanted · March 2018

I really hope the tone of this board doesn't change much. The IF and loss boards tend to be minimally snarky and supportive, and that's what I'm used to. Stupid questions don't need mollycoddling, but I'll be out if this board manifests the junior high school bitchiness to which I've seen other boards devolve.

@theglitteredpterodactyl - When I quit smoking it helped to replace it with something. During the day I would take a five minute walk. At night I would have drink. Obviously, that's not a great option, but pretty much anything that's not alc/drugs is better than smoking (I'm giving you the tough talk you wanted!). Have a soda. Have candy. Scarf down a donut. But know that you can do this! I smoked for 15 years and never thought I'd be able to quit, but it's been over a decade and I don't miss it at all. It's better on this side, I promise.

zwink1 · March 2018

@muchwanted, I don't think any of us want Jr. High, but I also don't think any of us want Baby Center either...otherwise we'd just go there...

For example, you just supportively told @theglitteredpterodactyl that she really should probably find an alternative outlet for her smoking. Sure, that wasn't a question and she's already fully acknowledged that it's unhealthy, but you catch my drift.

I'll be honest, this board is leaning too much toward BC for me.

zwink1 · March 2018

Lol, @kiwi2628, me too!!

sammierose464 · March 2018

knottieamusements said:

@bel194 I found out my inlaws were moving to my neighborhood and decided to leave the state.

Okay, so it was a bit more complicated than that, and I’m sure my ex is happy to have his mother living around the corner from him...

My husband's ex wife lives next door to her mom. Like, they carved out 5 acres of their 60 acre farm for a house. I love my mom but I could NEVER do that. And she's such a witch. Let's just say he's glad he's done with them!

theglitteredpterodactyl · March 2018

@muchwanted thanks! I keep telling myself next time we're at the store to get lollipops or something and sit outside and eat it when i want to smoke or something because honestly it's mostly just the five minute breaks from my toddler that i crave... I welcome all suggestions for quiting! Like i definitely don't want to keep smoking. Its just really f'ing hard

KFrob · March 2018

I bathe my two year old daily! I feel like her little finger nails don't come clean unless she has a daily bath.

knottieamusements · March 2018

Regarding the snark & dumb questions- (unless that comment about asking dumb questions was directed at me, in which case bring it) - really the only stupid question I have seen is the one about sonograms causing autism, and that one was just DUMB, and I thought handled well by everyone.

For me, personally, I don’t mind the tone. Sometimes we are bitchy, a lot of us are opinionated, most of us seem to be able to hold our own when conversations might otherwise go sideways. (See this morning’s randoms discussion about food and cat boxes.)

I don’t mind snarky, but I don’t like hostile. Sometimes, I can’t tell the difference, and I don’t stick around for that sh.

DunkinDecaf · March 2018

@theglitteredpterodactyl addictions are hard. It’s ok to struggle, as long as you’re doing your best for yourself and your kids. Do better today than you did yesterday. Come vent here when you want to smoke, and I promise to be appropriately finger-waggy. You can do it!

And yeah, this board is one “guess my nub” post away from babycenter. There are clearly a lot of us that think that though, so I’m hopeful that it will improve.

knottieamusements · March 2018

Here’s my flame-

Last week there was all this kerfluffle about starting the weekly due-date check-ins on Mondays. I started my week’s on Tueday because it hadn’t been started yet. None of the other weeks’ check-ins happened this week.

I honestly don’t care about when they get started, but if people are going to whine about it, then step up and help out when the person who normally does it forgets/ is busy/ etc.

mytrueloves · March 2018

I wrote two of DF's school papers this week.
Flame away, I got $40 and laid

Also, idk why people keep using Babycenter as an example of a tame board. I'm on BC and they get pretty snarky over there. And the questions are much more stupid

I guess I have another FFC because being on BC has made me think that some of the people posting on there should not be reproducing tbh

DunkinDecaf · March 2018

Oh and I had a Ben & Jerry’s pint slice at 10am today. It kinda felt like the pregnant version of having a mimosa with brunch, and it was awesome.

DunkinDecaf · March 2018

Oh one more. I fucking hate that the NRA & co has ruined “thoughts and prayers”. I feel like I have to contort my words and come up with a creative way to support people when they go through losses or hard times now when really what I mean is, you’re in my thoughts and prayers.

Lisa3379 · March 2018

To those of you that want snark, go ahead and be snarky and see if that’s more fun for you. *shrugs* Be the change you want in the world, people.

DunkinDecaf · March 2018

Lisa3379 said:

To those of you that want snark, go ahead and be snarky and see if that’s more fun for you. *shrugs* Be the change you want in the world, people.

zwink1 · March 2018

Not directed at you @knottieamusements.

Also, while I'm busy making friends with my confessions about this board. I find it odd how few people tag each other or "love it" on this board. People were all about the tags and love-tits on TTGP, so it's sort of freaking me out. It makes me feel more like I'm talking AT a room of people rather than engaging in a conversation. I'm assuming that will naturally change as we chat more.

sammierose464 · March 2018

I'm waiting for the never have I ever game to get raunchy. *Shrug*

SawyerRichardson · March 2018

@zwink1 I agree with the love-tits. I usually love tit everything, but it was kind of freaking me out that no one else was doing it so I felt awkward and stopped!

pumpkinpancake · March 2018

@KFrob how do you do it??? By the time I get home from work, there’s barely an hour and a half before his bedtime, and by the time we’re done with dinner, that’s practically it. We always say we’re going to bathe him more, but then we run out of time and energy and it’s bedtime already.

sammierose464 · March 2018

I don't even know how often my 6yo gets bathed. We do at least once on our weekends with him. However on our week nights we have from 5-7pm with him when you take out travel time. And the kid eats like a turtle.

mesamyt · March 2018

I sincerely hope this board doesn’t turn Baby Center. I spent 30 minutes over there when I didn’t want to come to terms this week. I’m pretty sure I lost brain cells.

mytrueloves · March 2018

I'm fully willing to admit I bathe my 4 year old once a week, maybe. Obviously when it gets warmer and she's outside in the dirt and mud all day working up a sweat this will change. But right now I don't see the need. She's clean, she doesn't smell, she gets her clothes and underwear changed every day so *shrug*

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