I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Yes, yes you can. I am not even sure why it's worth mentioning though. Anyone can be a part of the community at this stage. Pregnancy can be pretty boring even when you are going through it though so like, really, THIS is the best thing you can think to do with your time? Yikes.
Says another person who chooses to spend their time on a message forum. I have no more or less free time than any of you but I guess I manage it better than most? Especially those of you that SAH. Geez, talk about free time with the frequency that you post.
*yawn* this is getting stale. So it's a bit different for pregnant women who are due within a few weeks of each other to seek the support/companionship of each other. There exists a reasonable chance of friendships forming here that can last years, even decades.
But the thing is, the charade of pretending to be pregnant isn't going to hold up long-term. Also, what motivation do you possibly have? Do you *really* want to hear about sciatica and food cravings and all the other minutiae of our lives when you have no other reason to invest your time?
It just makes no sense, especially since we're all aware of lurkers and trolls. I'm just curious, apart from "because you can," what your motivation is.
I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Yes, yes you can. I am not even sure why it's worth mentioning though. Anyone can be a part of the community at this stage. Pregnancy can be pretty boring even when you are going through it though so like, really, THIS is the best thing you can think to do with your time? Yikes.
Says another person who chooses to spend their time on a message forum. I have no more or less free time than any of you but I guess I manage it better than most? Especially those of you that SAH. Geez, talk about free time with the frequency that you post.
lol yeah but I am pregnant so kind of makes sense to spend my time posting on a pregnancy board
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone that listened to me and replied. It has been a very emotional time and to be honest I fully expected to get hate messages for my post. Everyone was so kind and supportive and I just want to say how much that really truly means to me.
Im still having problems processing things and still crying on a frequent basis. To those that say I’m scared - you’re right. I didn’t know what word to identify with but that did click after hearing it - so thank you for helping me figure out what I’m feeling. I keep talking to my husband about it since he knows about my past and he’s been very kind and patient about everything. My older son (who has always asked for a sister) has asked me every day how his sister is and rubs my belly goodnight and good morning. I feel like I’m the only one not excited for this baby at this point. And I was excited until I found out the gender.
I’m going to find a therapist to work out these issues and hopefully I’ll be in a much better place by the time this baby comes. I know that these kind of things won’t be solved in months - but I’ll be further along then if I didn’t start at all.
Thank you again for all your support and letting me get it out. I am very grateful for those that responded helped me feel like I wasn’t the worst person in existence.
@marshmallowfarts - all the hugs. It sounds like you have a good plan in place and a great support system! I'm so thankful you are able to talk about your feelings so honestly and I truly hope that the therapy along with talking to your DH helps. We're here for you
@marshmallowfarts I just had a chance to catch up and that totally sucks about the charting at your work! Definitely makes sense why you’d hesitate going there. I would investigate some mental health services through your county board of health or do some calling around to see if anyone offers a sliding scale for payment. Some places will work with you on what you can pay. That way you could keep it separate from work. Something to consider. Hang in there and so many hugs!
@marshmallowfarts some therapists will charge less for cash payment because it’s so much easier than dealing with insurance. Hopefully you’ll be able to find someone to work with.
Re: FFFC 3/2
So it's a bit different for pregnant women who are due within a few weeks of each other to seek the support/companionship of each other. There exists a reasonable chance of friendships forming here that can last years, even decades.
But the thing is, the charade of pretending to be pregnant isn't going to hold up long-term. Also, what motivation do you possibly have? Do you *really* want to hear about sciatica and food cravings and all the other minutiae of our lives when you have no other reason to invest your time?
It just makes no sense, especially since we're all aware of lurkers and trolls. I'm just curious, apart from "because you can," what your motivation is.
lol yeah but I am pregnant so kind of makes sense to spend my time posting on a pregnancy board
Im still having problems processing things and still crying on a frequent basis. To those that say I’m scared - you’re right. I didn’t know what word to identify with but that did click after hearing it - so thank you for helping me figure out what I’m feeling. I keep talking to my husband about it since he knows about my past and he’s been very kind and patient about everything. My older son (who has always asked for a sister) has asked me every day how his sister is and rubs my belly goodnight and good morning. I feel like I’m the only one not excited for this baby at this point. And I was excited until I found out the gender.
I’m going to find a therapist to work out these issues and hopefully I’ll be in a much better place by the time this baby comes. I know that these kind of things won’t be solved in months - but I’ll be further along then if I didn’t start at all.
Thank you again for all your support and letting me get it out. I am very grateful for those that responded helped me feel like I wasn’t the worst person in existence.
Baby #2 - March 2017
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019