@melbel0824 definitely wins! I’m in the boat of is probably punch the girl seeing her with DH! Ha! We’ve always had a prettt good sex life, and we do things to spice it up, but a threesome has never been discussed!
i also have gotten the comments ‘Are you sad you’ll never have a girl?’ (We are done after this) ’ ‘Ohhhh 2 boys? Good luck’ ‘Are you sure you won’t try for a girl?’ Umm let me be, I just hit 2nd tri and found out it’s a boy. Geez, mind your business people!
FFFC: I’ve been tired and cranky from work all week, so ST had just not happened for DH and I. This morning I had the urge, but I hit snooze and I had to be at work early = no time. While DH was in the shower I just took care of myself. I needed the stress relief and it was way quicker than actual ST. No shame.
I don’t live with SO so this is me almost every night. It helps me sleep. No shame.
You win! I don’t think I could do it, I’d be too jealous. Maybe if it was a guy instead, so that I could be center of attention. But I wouldn’t care to see him and DH and DH would NEVER go for that. Or maybe if I was the “other woman” for another couple. But yeah, I have no intention of causing either of those situations to ever happen!!
AFM, I have this weird “issue” where every time I use the bathroom at work (single bathroom, toilet and sink in one room) and I leave and someone else is waiting to use it, I panic as I walk away that I forgot to flush! And I try remember whether or not I did and I can’t remember clearly and convince myself I didn’t flush it!! It’s so annoying!!
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
You'd never know, the way I blend in with the rest of you. It’s amazingly easy.
Of course it’s easy. Did you think that was some enormous revelation? Literally all you have to do is scroll, click and read. But congratulations, by this admission, you may have taken the freak trophy right out of Lee’s hands. Unless you are Lee, in which case, back to your dungeon you troll!
You'd never know, the way I blend in with the rest of you. It’s amazingly easy.
Okey dokey. Well, good for you I guess? I can’t imagine it would be that difficult to blend in, we talk about currrnt events, bitch and rave about our SOs and chat about what we have growing in our uteruses. Basically if you’re not a total ass we’re pretty easy to get along with. Why you would want to spend the time faking a pregnancy... that’s what’s got me scratching my head....
You'd never know, the way I blend in with the rest of you. It’s amazingly easy.
A "regular" where though? I don't recognize your name from this board, so I wouldn't consider you a regular poster here. And there are thousands of women who aren't currently pregnant who are regular posters on TB, in TTGP or the name board or the parenting boards...lots of places. So I don't see why this is surprising?
I mean lots of people lurk and read these boards so this comment shouldn't be surprising to anyone. If you think the only people who open and read this board are pregnant ladies who are due in august, you don't understand the internet.
@delujm0 I interpreted it as though they’re one of the regular posters who is using this account we’ve never seen to write that. Because no, that sn definitely is not a regular on our board.
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Troll account, yawn. Never really understood it myself but it’s pretty common (and easy) on the bump/knot/nest boards to have an ae. Usually ppl use the ae to stir up shit.
Seems like a huge waste of time. What exactly are you hoping to gain? If you are indeed a regular poster under a different alias, it will still come out eventually, you'll be ostracized and pitied and life will go on for everyone here. Why invest the time into a community when you know it's not sustainable?
It looks like he/she posts all over different BMBs and the Baby Name, Baby Shower threads. Doubt it's an AE since it is an active account. Somewhat regular, but surely not on our BMB. Be gone with you troll!
I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Seriously, if you have time to do this you could have a much more interesting hobby. I envy you for your free time but do really pity you for how you choose to spend it. But if this is your thing then enjoy, I guess? I'm not going to get my panties all in a twist because someone with way too much time on their hands and/or a weird fetish wants to read about my pregnancy symptoms or questions. Shrug.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Why, as in, why a pregnancy board? There are a million message boards for any interest you have, but you choose to post on one that doesn’t apply to you. What do you get out of that? We aren’t that exciting.
Ok. After post #2, I vote it’s not one of us. It’s not an AE. If anything, it’s someone whose been ostracized previously and was just looking for a fresh opportunity to pounce and play games.
Good job, bread man. I wish I was cool like you. But I’ll be taking notes on how to get bump revenge because you are clearly going about this the best way.
I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Seriously, if you have time to do this you could have a much more interesting hobby. I envy you for your free time but do really pity you for how you choose to spend it. But if this is your thing then enjoy, I guess? I'm not going to get my panties all in a twist because someone with way too much time on their hands and/or a weird fetish wants to read about my pregnancy symptoms or questions. Shrug.
I, for one, love to discuss other people hemorrhoids in my free time. Lol.
I agree with not getting upset about it. It’s not a very smart AE. They already broke half the rules of a good troll.
Funny enough. Babygirl is back to doing cartwheels right now - prolly because I’m laughing - but she’s entertained, too. Keep it coming, bread.
I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Yes, yes you can. I am not even sure why it's worth mentioning though. Anyone can be a part of the community at this stage. Pregnancy can be pretty boring even when you are going through it though so like, really, THIS is the best thing you can think to do with your time? Yikes.
I know I should wait until the Friday thread to post this but I just can’t hold this any longer.
We found out we’re having a girl. We already have two boys.
I should be thrilled but to to be honest I’m heartbroken. I have LOVED being a boy mom. I make little mommas boys and they are all so affectionate with me. I love their little rough and tough personalities.
Im terrified to bring a girl into this world. My childhood was not very pleasant (lots of abuse, my mom openly told me many times she wanted a boy, I was bullied and attempted suicide multiple times because I wasn’t safe at home and I wasn’t safe at school and the only person I felt safe around was my grandfather who died an awful death when I was 8). I’ve had to work twice as hard at anything work related to get the same acknowledgement as my male counterparts, I’ve been judged for my looks, what I wear, my makeup, etc. I’m so scared to bring another female into the world. Especially since I don’t even know how to identify as female myself.
I feel awful about it. My husband and I have had SO MANY MISCARRIAGES and I should just be thrilled to be pregnant and have a baby. But now I feel depressed and not excited at all. I want to hide this pregnancy and not celebrate it.
I feel like such an awful person thinking these things. And I know I’ll love this baby too. I’m just so disappointed and I don’t know how to get over it. I’ve been crying a lot since finding out. Especially since this is our last baby I’m just so heartbroken.
@marshmallowfarts so many hugs!!! I don’t really know what else to say except do you have anyone you can talk to about how you feel? A therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings? I’m also scared of bringing a girl into this world. I don’t know what we are having yet but I understand your fear.
@marshmallowfarts I am sorry you are struggling with this. I have a daughter and it is heartbreaking to know she will have it tough in life just because she is a woman. I work through this by being the best rolemodel and support for her. Given you had little of this growing up it may take effort to find your groove with how to be the best supportive and loving mother for your daughter. You definitely have the potential to be that because you describe being that with your sons. Good Lick and I would urge you to seek out a therapist so that you can have someone to process your thoughts with.
@marshmallowfarts Honestly, you don't sound disappointed to me, you sound scared. And after the childhood you had and the challenges you've faced as a woman, that's totally understandable. It is a scary world to be female in, and I can see that you're terrified of repeating the cycle and treating your daughter the way you were treated. But you already know that you are an amazing mom to your sons, which means you will be an amazing mom to your daughter, too. And you will give her a wonderful childhood in a safe and loving home, which will make her stronger when she has to face the world. Also, I know that we are living in a strange time right now, but I do think that things are getting better, and our daughters will live in a safer world than we do.
I agree that it would probably help to talk to someone about this. But don't be too hard on yourself, the fact that you are worried about it means that you do care about this baby. And you know that you will love that girl when she's here, not just because she's yours, but because of all the special and unique things that make her who she is, regardless of whether she's a boy or girl.
@marshmallowfarts Hugs, mama. I’ve been there. Sex disappointment is so common but a lot of people don’t like to admit it. I had a VERY rough time after finding out DS1 was a boy, because we had just lost a baby girl. We lost another baby girl last year, and I was hopeful this one would finally be the girl I get to raise and have a great mother/daughter relationship with, but it’s a boy, and though it was an easier adjustment this time, I still get pangs of sadness whenever I see a cute girl outfit or a photo of a little girl twirling in a dress.
All of the things that have happened to you in the past for sure will make it hard to adjust your mindset. I would find a counselor or therapist to talk you through some of it. Just because bad things happened to you doesn’t mean you will automatically continue the cycle. Yes, women have it harder in the world, but you get the job of teaching this little girl that she can be strong and smart and a badass who doesn’t give up when she is told no.
You’ll come around by the time she arrives, I promise. Decorating a nursery, finding cute outfits, and picking out a name were a few things that helped me bond with DS and get more excited about it. Look up photos on Pinterest of two older brothers with a baby sister, too. Looking at brother photos helped me this time.
Sorry this is so long, we’re here for you!
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
@ladygali I had a therapist I used years ago that I liked (after trying several) but my insurance switched and stopped covering him. The job I have now unfortunately requires me to go through the hospital system I work at. The problem with that is the mental health part of a patients chart and the medical chart are merged into one and anyone in my medical chart can see therapy logs/notes. I’ve had a lot of inpatient medical stays in the hospital because I have a pancreas that doesn’t work well and working in the ER I would be terrified of my coworkers seeing my mental health chart. My upbringing was very very poor. My mom had personality disorders (borderline and narcissism) that made me live in a constant hell. Between the mental, physical, and sexual abuse I just never felt ok being me. I’m so scared I’m gokng to screw up and make my daughter as messed up as me.
@marshmallowfarts just the fact that you feel that way means you are going to be the best mom you possibly can. My dad struggled with having a son because his father died when he was very young, so he felt like he had no example. He didn’t feel that way when he had a daughter, though (I’m the oldest). You are already a great mom to your boys, so you will be a great mom go your little girl, too. They really aren’t so different. Sure, the world may treat them different, and that sucks, but they’ll have you to know that none of that matters, because you’ll love them unconditionally. That’s what parents are for, and that’s what good parents do. That’s all you need to do, and the rest will get figured out when the time comes!
@ladygali I had a therapist I used years ago that I liked (after trying several) but my insurance switched and stopped covering him. The job I have now unfortunately requires me to go through the hospital system I work at. The problem with that is the mental health part of a patients chart and the medical chart are merged into one and anyone in my medical chart can see therapy logs/notes. I’ve had a lot of inpatient medical stays in the hospital because I have a pancreas that doesn’t work well and working in the ER I would be terrified of my coworkers seeing my mental health chart. My upbringing was very very poor. My mom had personality disorders (borderline and narcissism) that made me live in a constant hell. Between the mental, physical, and sexual abuse I just never felt ok being me. I’m so scared I’m gokng to screw up and make my daughter as messed up as me.
Thinking of you, girl. With all that you have been through how you feel makes sense - I felt sex disappointment with my second boy and I didn't even have all those reasons to that you do. If it helps at all, I think each child is unique so there is no guarantee another boy would be the same as your two, nor does having a girl mean that she will be all THAT different from your boys. From being around my friends' daughters, they are remarkably the same, especially at the beginning, so I think you will be surprised how similar she might be to your boys in many ways. I really think it's important to talk to someone - I had to talk to a psychologist about my sex disappointment and it was very helpful for me. I understand the concern about the charts, which seems like such bad practice to me to merge them... is there any way you could go outside the hospital system using other resources? I don't know, as a Canadian, how all the insurance stuff works down there but I hope you find a way to talk to someone without it showing up in your medical chart.
@marshmallowfarts Sorry that you are having such a hard time with this. I don't have a ton to add to what has already been said, but just know that when your daughter is old enough to experience injustice or struggles, she's got a bad ass example in you of how to deal with it head on. You can teach that little girl to be the fiercest feminist around. Look out RBG!
I took it to mean the same person posts on our board under another name?
This is accurate. I post here under another name very regularly. I’m very much a part of this community.
Why? Because I can.
Yes, yes you can. I am not even sure why it's worth mentioning though. Anyone can be a part of the community at this stage. Pregnancy can be pretty boring even when you are going through it though so like, really, THIS is the best thing you can think to do with your time? Yikes.
Says another person who chooses to spend their time on a message forum. I have no more or less free time than any of you but I guess I manage it better than most? Especially those of you that SAH. Geez, talk about free time with the frequency that you post.
Re: FFFC 3/2
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
You win! I don’t think I could do it, I’d be too jealous. Maybe if it was a guy instead, so that I could be center of attention. But I wouldn’t care to see him and DH and DH would NEVER go for that. Or maybe if I was the “other woman” for another couple. But yeah, I have no intention of causing either of those situations to ever happen!!
AFM, I have this weird “issue” where every time I use the bathroom at work (single bathroom, toilet and sink in one room) and I leave and someone else is waiting to use it, I panic as I walk away that I forgot to flush! And I try remember whether or not I did and I can’t remember clearly and convince myself I didn’t flush it!! It’s so annoying!!
You'd never know, the way I blend in with the rest of you. It’s amazingly easy.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Sure, but... why? That's a weird hobby.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I mean lots of people lurk and read these boards so this comment shouldn't be surprising to anyone. If you think the only people who open and read this board are pregnant ladies who are due in august, you don't understand the internet.
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
Why? Because I can.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Seriously, if you have time to do this you could have a much more interesting hobby. I envy you for your free time but do really pity you for how you choose to spend it. But if this is your thing then enjoy, I guess? I'm not going to get my panties all in a twist because someone with way too much time on their hands and/or a weird fetish wants to read about my pregnancy symptoms or questions. Shrug.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Good job, bread man. I wish I was cool like you. But I’ll be taking notes on how to get bump revenge because you are clearly going about this the best way.
I, for one, love to discuss other people hemorrhoids in my free time. Lol.
I agree with not getting upset about it. It’s not a very smart AE. They already broke half the rules of a good troll.
Funny enough. Babygirl is back to doing cartwheels right now - prolly because I’m laughing - but she’s entertained, too. Keep it coming, bread.
Yes, yes you can. I am not even sure why it's worth mentioning though. Anyone can be a part of the community at this stage. Pregnancy can be pretty boring even when you are going through it though so like, really, THIS is the best thing you can think to do with your time? Yikes.
We found out we’re having a girl. We already have two boys.
I should be thrilled but to to be honest I’m heartbroken. I have LOVED being a boy mom. I make little mommas boys and they are all so affectionate with me. I love their little rough and tough personalities.
Im terrified to bring a girl into this world. My childhood was not very pleasant (lots of abuse, my mom openly told me many times she wanted a boy, I was bullied and attempted suicide multiple times because I wasn’t safe at home and I wasn’t safe at school and the only person I felt safe around was my grandfather who died an awful death when I was 8). I’ve had to work twice as hard at anything work related to get the same acknowledgement as my male counterparts, I’ve been judged for my looks, what I wear, my makeup, etc. I’m so scared to bring another female into the world. Especially since I don’t even know how to identify as female myself.
I feel awful about it. My husband and I have had SO MANY MISCARRIAGES and I should just be thrilled to be pregnant and have a baby. But now I feel depressed and not excited at all. I want to hide this pregnancy and not celebrate it.
I feel like such an awful person thinking these things. And I know I’ll love this baby too. I’m just so disappointed and I don’t know how to get over it. I’ve been crying a lot since finding out. Especially since this is our last baby I’m just so heartbroken.
Baby #2 - March 2017
I agree that it would probably help to talk to someone about this. But don't be too hard on yourself, the fact that you are worried about it means that you do care about this baby. And you know that you will love that girl when she's here, not just because she's yours, but because of all the special and unique things that make her who she is, regardless of whether she's a boy or girl.
All of the things that have happened to you in the past for sure will make it hard to adjust your mindset. I would find a counselor or therapist to talk you through some of it. Just because bad things happened to you doesn’t mean you will automatically continue the cycle. Yes, women have it harder in the world, but you get the job of teaching this little girl that she can be strong and smart and a badass who doesn’t give up when she is told no.
You’ll come around by the time she arrives, I promise. Decorating a nursery, finding cute outfits, and picking out a name were a few things that helped me bond with DS and get more excited about it. Look up photos on Pinterest of two older brothers with a baby sister, too. Looking at brother photos helped me this time.
Sorry this is so long, we’re here for you!
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Baby #2 - March 2017