1) This is probably more of a UO but I really like roundabouts. In so many cases they just work better than a four way stop and sometimes even a traffic light.
2) I use retail therapy as a coping mechanism. I mean, I don't go nuts and buy designer bags every time I'm upset but I've definitely been known to go shopping as a way to cheer myself up.
ETA: Today's retail therapy brought me a new PIKO shirt. Can't wait to wear it!
Confession (that I'm pretty sure won't be flame free)- It bugs me seeing so many posts about people being jealous of the people that get extra testing. Needing extra testing in your pregnancy isn't something to be jealous of. I do kind of understand wanting another ultrasound or 2 cause it is really neat to see baby, but I'd way rather have a pregnancy that was low risk/routine. I'd love to hear "you and your pregnancy are so stunningly normal that we don't need to do any of these tests and I don't need to see you or talk to you for another month, bye!"
I love reading up and researching medical stuff. It's not quite a hobby. So like, even birth and pregnancy stuff I feel like I must look up all of the really rare complications and know about all of it. I feel like even the more bad/scary things I read, the more prepared and confident I feel. So I read like all the things-birth stories and articles and books.
I know that reading about potential issues is scary for some people, and I get that and understand, but I'm weird and it helps me. Not that I relish or want anything bad to happen to anyone at all, ever.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Confession (that I'm pretty sure won't be flame free)- It bugs me seeing so many posts about people being jealous of the people that get extra testing. Needing extra testing in your pregnancy isn't something to be jealous of. I do kind of understand wanting another ultrasound or 2 cause it is really neat to see baby, but I'd way rather have a pregnancy that was low risk/routine. I'd love to hear "you and your pregnancy are so stunningly normal that we don't need to do any of these tests and I don't need to see you or talk to you for another month, bye!"
I’d considered trying to gently let people know that multiple ultrasounds early on is generally not something to be envied whenever that came up. But I also get wanting to know everything is fine and it’s hard for soon-to-be moms to separate the two if they’ve never been on the other side of it.
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me: 27 | husband: 35 IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16 baby #1born 2.19.16
Also @stothi I'm totally with you. I am grateful to not need those things. I am glad that I got (an unnecessary honestly) dating ultrasound at 10 weeks, just because that way I knew for sure that there was only one and it was developing. But two weeks later I would have been able to hear heart beat on Doppler anyway, so not having it would have been fine.
But especially the rest of the testing and such I am so happy to not need, but so glad that it is a available to those with more risks.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
My FFFC: -I regularly lie to my boss when she asks about my weekends, even if we did do something fun or exciting, because I can’t stand small talk. She’s kind of robotic when she goes around to all of her employees to strike up conversations (i.e., it just seems like something on her checklist and not genuine interest which is totally fine, but doesn’t really make me want to share anything ever). And I also generally like to keep my personal life private at work.
-I’m tracking my weight gain (or, currently, loss-FU nausea) for my pregnancy in a spreadsheet along with a graph. I love data.
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me: 27 | husband: 35 IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16 baby #1born 2.19.16
@stothi - I don't find that flame worthy, but I agree. Being further out from my loss I'm doing fine this time around, but it really bothered me when I was pregnant with DS to read complaints about not getting early u/s. The only reason I had a 7 week scan with DS was because I was PGAL and I would have gladly traded experiencing a loss for not getting an early u/s.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I told my stylist to take off the terrible ends of hair knowing it would be more than an inch. It was more than I was prepared for and all I can think is that this will never stay in a greasy pony or bun like my lazy ass does 9/10 days. Ugh. To clarify- It looks great and he did exactly what we discussed but I’m not looking for are to the effort of doing it myself. Ever. This is why I only get it cut three times a year.
@SkilledSailor I'm guilty of using retail therapy as well! I don't buy much for myself too often, but I guess when I do I make it count haha.
Also, it doesn't bother me at all to not have to have any extra testing because I'm low risk for complications. There aren't great standards set in general regarding pregnancy monitoring, so sometimes it's just frustrating that my low-risk pregnancy doesn't get the same treatment as another low-risk pregnancy.
@Patience7150@SkilledSailor me either! Why are you showing people stuff when you don’t even contribute to the group regularly?!
My fffc will most likely not be flame free. I am so very thankful to be pregnant. I know there are a lot of people out there who are going to the ends of the earth to be where I am. Heck, it took us more than a year to conceive and it was a very stressful time. I was prepared to do anything to get here, but now that I am I do not like being pregnant. I am looking forward to the baby at the end of this, but so far pregnancy has been really rough and not enjoyable. I am hoping when second trimester rolls around I will be feeling so much better and will start to enjoy it. I also feel like because it too a while to get pregnant I learned so many risks of mc and other issues that I am constantly trying to balance my fear of an issue with living in the moment and knowing I am only able to control so much about this pregnancy.
@klj0228 dude, I feel you so much!!! I HATE being pregnant but I love babies so you do what you gotta do. Last pregnancy I was ready to start knocking people out if one more person told me to be grateful/thankful/whatever. Bitch! I AM grateful. I'm also sick as shit and more physically miserable than I ever dreamed possible. News flash- it's possible to feel more than one thing at once! Like I can be insanely grateful to be pregnant cause babies are the best thing ever AND be totally fucking miserable at the same time. It's possible. It really is. Same thing when my newborn would cry for a MINIMUM of 8 hours a night but not sleep longer than 40 minutes at a time. Guess what? Still incredibly grateful and thankful and all the things to have him AND completely and utterly physically miserable.
I do get bent out of shape (sorry, not even a little sorry) when I hear women say that they have no real physical symptoms and their pregnancy is really easy blah blah blah, but they hate it cause they gained like 10 pounds. GTFO with that shit! You get knocked up easy, no morning sickness, no pain, easy labor and delivery but you are so upset cause you gained a few pounds!? No. No. That I don't want to hear. At all.
@stothi I trust the kids to those moms will be brats in a few years because sometimes the only thing that gets me through a moment without slapping someone is hoping karma does its thing.
FFFC: DD is staying with my parents tonight and DH and I are going out for a date night. He is hoping to get some tonight...but was a total bed hog last night and as a result, I slept terribly and am annoyed and exhausted. He's not getting ANY until I get a good night's sleep and then I MAY consider it tomorrow before DD comes home.
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Not sure if this is quite a confession but I hate when I tell someone I’m pregnant and they respond with I KNEW you were. Ok great. If I hadn’t wanted you to know earlier I would have told you.
@klj0228 so random story, I love babies, like loooooooove babies, right? Before I got pregnant the first time I actually had fantasies about being a surrogate before/after I had my babies cause I loved seeing pregnant ladies with their bellies and I was so in love with the dream of being pregnant and having babies left and right. Then I got pregnant. Like a week in I wanted to die. Actual death die. I feel like my son is the best thing that ever happened to me and that pregnancy was the worst. I may or may not have some legit ptsd from the whole thing. Anyhoo, it's so crazy now, knowing how bad my body is at pregnancy to think back about my dreams of being a surrogate! No. No. No. Clearly I had NO idea about what my reality would be. I'm 100% open to adopting more babies in the future, but after this little one is born the baby making factory is closed. Sterilizations all around! Hubby's definitely getting the snip and I'm strongly considering doubling up and also getting my tubes tied.
It’s raining terribly and very windy today. I went to work to check on a property (commercial real estate) and forgot to check the basement for flooding. I realized this before I even left the property while getting into my car. Instead of going back out in the pouring rain, I shut the car door and came home to get into bed. No shame. This is my first time in bed all pregnancy during the day.
@stothi I love that story because I had considered being. Surrogate for my brother and sil before we wanted to started our own family. I am so glad I did not because I don’t think I would have ever gone on to have my own. My sister is 30 and just had tubal ligation right after her second was born. It’s nice to know I am not the only person who hates it though! I’m hoping this one goes better for you than DS.
@stothi I’m already begging H to let us adopt #2. I’m happy, and a lot jealous, of those that have relatively easy pregnancies but that doesn’t seem to be the case for me.
I get excited every time someone posts on the sex reveal thread that they’re having a boy because I feel like my odds of having another girl go up. We will be happy either way but if we could choose, we’d choose girl. Also I know it’s such a small sample size but it’s still in our favor.
Also I am pissed off at several coworkers right now so instead of doing the tons of work I have to do, I closed the door to my office to bump. When I’m annoyed or pissed off my work productivity takes a major nosedive.
@yosemite2018 Sorry to burst your bubble, but you know they're independent events, right? It's like everyone tossed their own coin and the probability of a heads or tails is 50% for each. Even if we all tossed the same coin, the probability of a "heads" on the next turn, for example, is still 50%. Sorry to geek out on you!
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
@yosemite2018 Sorry to burst your bubble, but you know they're independent events, right? It's like everyone tossed their own coin and the probability of a heads or tails is 50% for each. Even if we all tossed the same coin, the probability of a "heads" on the next turn, for example, is still 50%. Sorry to geek out on you!
Actually I disagree. I think there are different factors that go into it and it’s not really 50/50 for everyone. I’ve actually done some research (during my last pregnancy) about the statistics of babies sex in different areas and depending on when the baby is conceived during the cycle. With a group the size of ours it is very unlikely to have a huge percentage of one sex and a low percentage of another. Possible? Yes. Probable? No.
That being said, it’s all in good fun and my baby’s sex has already been determined so I guess we’ll find out soon enough. No bubble was burst here...
@yosemite2018 That's true that there are probably specific factors that make the probability of couples having babies of one sex higher. I don't know if there's any scientific evidence about timing or how people talk about fast vs slow speed. Feel free to educate me.
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
@starla what I’ve read (and honestly haven’t gone into too much depth on where the sources came from) is that female sperm live longer, so if you have sex 2-4 days before ovulation you can be more likely to have a girl. Also if you don’t orgasm, don’t have as deep of penetration you can be more likely to have a female since the male sperm have less chance of making it. Other factors go into play like climate and country (I think warmer climates have more females? It was such a long time ago that I don’t remember). We weren’t trying specifically for a male or female so we didn’t follow these “rules”, just stuff I found interesting when I looked into it. I am a statistic geek so this was fun reading for me.
@yosemite2018 I’m interested to see what happens in my case. I know pretty factually that we only had sex two days before O, and no other times in the FW, so by that theory I have more of a chance of being KU with a girl. I’m Team green though, so we will have a while to see if that theory pans out!
@yosemite2018 I've read all that too so I'm really interested to see if my baby's a girl this time cause I have a lot of factors that line up with it being a girl according to all that. When we had sex in relation to ovulation is a big one that had me thinking it could be a girl. Time will tell!
I wish I knew our timing! I just remember where (on vacation) and that MIL was taking DD for a walk and we saw an opportunity! I O’d at the end of our trip so it could have been 4 days before or 1. Oh well...
I'm in the same boat as @BusinessWife. What would physiologically allow an XX sperm o live longer or swim faster (I slower, I forget)? I haven't read any plausible scientific explanations for these theories. I think it's just spurious and random correlations.
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
I’m seeing articles lately that say doctors and researchers now think that the egg might be actively selecting its preferred sperm. It was previously thought that the egg only had a passive role in conception, but that may not be true. So I think that could possibly further refute Shettles method?
I do think its fascinating because for example, my one cousin’s mother is 1 of 9 girls- only girls. No male siblings. Crazy!
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me: 27 | husband: 35 IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16 baby #1born 2.19.16
So I’m pretty sure above that I mentioned that I hadn’t done research into how reputable the research was... you may not think it’s fun, I personally do (all the statistics in general, not just the Shettles Method). Maybe that’s my FFFC (since we are in that thread). I am not judging anyone for believing in it or not.
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2) I use retail therapy as a coping mechanism. I mean, I don't go nuts and buy designer bags every time I'm upset but I've definitely been known to go shopping as a way to cheer myself up.
ETA: Today's retail therapy brought me a new PIKO shirt. Can't wait to wear it!
It bugs me seeing so many posts about people being jealous of the people that get extra testing. Needing extra testing in your pregnancy isn't something to be jealous of. I do kind of understand wanting another ultrasound or 2 cause it is really neat to see baby, but I'd way rather have a pregnancy that was low risk/routine. I'd love to hear "you and your pregnancy are so stunningly normal that we don't need to do any of these tests and I don't need to see you or talk to you for another month, bye!"
I know that reading about potential issues is scary for some people, and I get that and understand, but I'm weird and it helps me. Not that I relish or want anything bad to happen to anyone at all, ever.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
But especially the rest of the testing and such I am so happy to not need, but so glad that it is a available to those with more risks.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
-I regularly lie to my boss when she asks about my weekends, even if we did do something fun or exciting, because I can’t stand small talk. She’s kind of robotic when she goes around to all of her employees to strike up conversations (i.e., it just seems like something on her checklist and not genuine interest which is totally fine, but doesn’t really make me want to share anything ever). And I also generally like to keep my personal life private at work.
-I’m tracking my weight gain (or, currently, loss-FU nausea) for my pregnancy in a spreadsheet along with a graph. I love data.
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Also, it doesn't bother me at all to not have to have any extra testing because I'm low risk for complications. There aren't great standards set in general regarding pregnancy monitoring, so sometimes it's just frustrating that my low-risk pregnancy doesn't get the same treatment as another low-risk pregnancy.
My fffc will most likely not be flame free. I am so very thankful to be pregnant. I know there are a lot of people out there who are going to the ends of the earth to be where I am. Heck, it took us more than a year to conceive and it was a very stressful time. I was prepared to do anything to get here, but now that I am I do not like being pregnant. I am looking forward to the baby at the end of this, but so far pregnancy has been really rough and not enjoyable. I am hoping when second trimester rolls around I will be feeling so much better and will start to enjoy it. I also feel like because it too a while to get pregnant I learned so many risks of mc and other issues that I am constantly trying to balance my fear of an issue with living in the moment and knowing I am only able to control so much about this pregnancy.
I do get bent out of shape (sorry, not even a little sorry) when I hear women say that they have no real physical symptoms and their pregnancy is really easy blah blah blah, but they hate it cause they gained like 10 pounds. GTFO with that shit! You get knocked up easy, no morning sickness, no pain, easy labor and delivery but you are so upset cause you gained a few pounds!? No. No. That I don't want to hear. At all.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
I'm 100% open to adopting more babies in the future, but after this little one is born the baby making factory is closed. Sterilizations all around! Hubby's definitely getting the snip and I'm strongly considering doubling up and also getting my tubes tied.
I told my employees that I had a million things to catch up on and conference calls all day today. Really.. I just need to sit in here alone and fart.
Also I am pissed off at several coworkers right now so instead of doing the tons of work I have to do, I closed the door to my office to bump. When I’m annoyed or pissed off my work productivity takes a major nosedive.
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
That being said, it’s all in good fun and my baby’s sex has already been determined so I guess we’ll find out soon enough. No bubble was burst here...
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
Well, if babycenter says it's true, then it must be!
https://community.babycenter.com/post/a10861155/shettles_method_rant_shettles_proven_false
Oh, wait....
<div class=" Quote"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/rf/0qd65yvd06b8.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/rf/0qd65yvd06b8.jpg"></div>https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shettles_method
So if we mean it's, "fun," like Ramsey Theory is "fun," then sure! But not personally my cup of tea.
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
I do think its fascinating because for example, my one cousin’s mother is 1 of 9 girls- only girls. No male siblings. Crazy!
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart