This is our first, but we'll probably keep trying for a girl. We agree that we'd feel complete with all girls, but not with all boys (still thrilled about our first little boy). Time will tell how that pans out- we're not going to turn into the Duggars for a daughter.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
I think you’ll be fine at being a MIL as long as you don’t go batshit crazy and accept that your son is no longer your little baby. That is my MIL’s biggest problem, she still treats DH like he lives there and is obligated to do everything for them. DS & I aren’t as important as herself and FIL in her eyes.
Slight background... I have three autoimmune issues (Crohns, liver disease, and arthritis). I openly talk about them at work, as i work in the health care field. I've had numerous idiots ask whether getting pregnant was a good idea with my health, and was told yesterday that people with health issues shouldn't reproduce. Sorry random coworkers, my body, my uterus, my decision. Yesterday I caved and went to HR about the most recent comment, and frankly I feel a little bit better.
@nll0803 - Holy shitballs you didn't punch them in the throat?!? Good call going to HR - that is absolutely unacceptable and honestly none of their effing business.
WOW! @nll0803 Those jerks have a lot of nerve! That is is just plain rude and like you said not their business in anyway! Good for you for going to HR. No one should have to put up with that! I am sorry some people suck!
I have a really good relationship with my MIL. I would say some of it is because she definitely does not baby DH at all. In fact, I wouldn't say she babys my BIL but he gets away with more crap and definitely is held to a different standard and he is the oldest. I feel bad for his GF. lol. Honestly though I am blessed with great in-laws. I hear horror stories and feel super lucky.
I’m also nervous to be a MIL. We don’t know the sex of this baby yet, but I’ve always said I want 3. DS is very sensitive and a handful, so I’m not quite sure about that anymore—I think it will depend on the sex of this baby. No matter what it is, I think I’ll have slight disappointment that it isn’t the other. I’d love a girl, but I’d love for DS to have a brother. So either is a win/win
This may be a FFFC - I am leaving the decision to have another baby up to the sex of this one. If we have another boy I will try for a third (girl), but if we have a girl we will be done.
Done no matter what at three though!!
With my second I wanted another girl so badly, turns out he was a boy. I always knew I wanted two kids but a third was kinda up in the air. A few months after he was born we decided to try for one more, and I don’t think we would have if he had been a girl. I would’ve been content with my two girls. In hindsight he was just what I needed and I guess we were just meant to be a family of 5. We are having another girl this time so it’s all come full circle.
My confession is I really wanted another girl and when I found out on Tuesday it was a boy I cried, just for a moment because I knew it was crazy. Everyone has been congratulating me that now my family is complete but i don’t want to hear that. The more it sinks in the more I’m becoming excited but it’s just so unknown and I will have to sell all of the girl clothes that currently take up my whole garage.
@melissaf22 I felt the same way when we found out that is is girl number 2 for us. This will be the last for us and was really hoping for a boy this time. I gave myself a minute to be "sad" and now we are all really excited and can't wait for August to meet her.
My confession is I really wanted another girl and when I found out on Tuesday it was a boy I cried, just for a moment because I knew it was crazy. Everyone has been congratulating me that now my family is complete but i don’t want to hear that. The more it sinks in the more I’m becoming excited but it’s just so unknown and I will have to sell all of the girl clothes that currently take up my whole garage.
This is completely normal. When I found out DS2 was a second boy I cried. I wanted a girl so bad and knew I was done having kids so I needed a little time to mourn what would never be. However I obviously love him very much and I love being a boy mom too. I had no idea I'd ever have a third kid but now I'm very very very happy it's a girl and I don't know how I would have reacted if I found out number 3 was a third boy.
H and I have always talked about having a threesome. On vacation last week, we got very deep into the conversation and since then we’ve been going at it like we just started dating. Turns out we don’t even have to have one for it to spice up our sex life.
I’m not sad about not having a girl, but I do find myself getting annoyed when I see ads on Facebook for mommy/daughter outfits, hair bows, etc. I just don’t want to see stuff that I know will never apply to me.
The idea of gender disappointment makes me feel weird because we are one and done. I'm going to have one and not the other regardless, and I have no idea what I would prefer. I'm also not very feminine, and my husband is not very masculine, so I tend to not put much stock into sex mattering too much.
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I’m team green and thrilled no matter what. Couldn’t care less, can think of amazing things about having a boy and amazing things about having a girl. I’m just thankful to have gotten pregnant fairly easily after having been told it would be very difficult and that we’d need to do IVF. All I want is a healthy baby.
@ecwk I'm in the same boat as you, being told I would have severe difficulties conceiving naturally. I am so incredibly happy just to be able to be pregnant and hopefully have a healthy baby, regardless of sex. Nothing against those who wish for a certain sex, and I completely understand the concept of disappointment.
Talking about threesome was amazing for our sex life, and then having one (well more than one) was beyond awesome and really brought us closer together.
So I failed an assignment for my Masters class today and I am so embarrassed. I’ve never done that, I never get lower than an A generally. I totally missed a huge chunk of the assignment and all I can think is it must’ve been pregnancy brain or something.
Its not not a huge part of my overall grade and they are being so lenient and letting me adjust and turn in again Sunday but it’s so embarrassing. I cried on the couch when I saw what I did. So stupid.
We always said we'd like to have a threesome one day, but I'm not sure if he'd still consider it. I'd love to, to redo the terrible one I had in college (that lasted all of 3 minutes lol). I actually have a friend who said she'd be totally into it, and she's a lesbian so there'd be no fear from me of DH falling in love with her over me hahaha
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
We had a lesbian customer yesterday and I thought she was super duper hot. I told SO last night I wanted to be her friend cuz she had an amazing personality and she was gorgeous and he was like "you should have gotten her number!"
Made me think...if I wasn't pregnant I probably would have. It's something I've always wanted to try! I'm totally waiting on details over here.
Haha guess that was my FFFC. When DH and I were dating the topic of a threesome came up. I had always wanted to try one and obviously DH was into the idea too. We met on okcupid, so we thought we would try that first. I made a profile and had pictures of both of us and I was very upfront about what we were looking for. I was only looking for girls interested in girls because I thought they might be the ones most willing to go for it. I would send really nice and no pressure messages. We ended up meeting up with several girls over a couple of years. Our first one was right after we got engaged. Lol. We talked a lot before they happened and after to make sure we were both comfortable with everything and it made our sex life after amazing.
I have no interest in a threesome. DH and I are super vanilla (and huge fans of lazy sex), and we like it. Also, aside from Chris Pratt for me and Natalie Portman for him, we don't really want anyone else (and funnily enough those are the celebrities we both resemble).
Speaking of, we had sex for the first time since I've been pregnant tonight. Second trimester sex drive boost hit me hard. Of course now I'm paranoid about bleeding (which I'm not at all, but will be paranoid about for at least the next 24 hours despite my doctor saying that if it were to happen it's totally normal).
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
@calimom2524 I don't like the term squish but it doesn't annoy me that much. I just wouldn't personally use it. I DO get that 'nails on a chalkboard' feeling when I hear the word panties - I just hate that word so damn much. It makes me want to throw up in my mouth and I have no idea why.
We said one and done - I'm almost 40, and it took us 3 years to get here. If we could get pregnant right away after this one, I might go for it.. but H has been firmly only one for a while now.
@melbel0824 definitely wins! I’m in the boat of is probably punch the girl seeing her with DH! Ha! We’ve always had a prettt good sex life, and we do things to spice it up, but a threesome has never been discussed!
i also have gotten the comments ‘Are you sad you’ll never have a girl?’ (We are done after this) ’ ‘Ohhhh 2 boys? Good luck’ ‘Are you sure you won’t try for a girl?’ Umm let me be, I just hit 2nd tri and found out it’s a boy. Geez, mind your business people!
FFFC: I’ve been tired and cranky from work all week, so ST had just not happened for DH and I. This morning I had the urge, but I hit snooze and I had to be at work early = no time. While DH was in the shower I just took care of myself. I needed the stress relief and it was way quicker than actual ST. No shame.
This may be a FFFC - I am leaving the decision to have another baby up to the sex of this one. If we have another boy I will try for a third (girl), but if we have a girl we will be done.
Done no matter what at three though!!
I know SO MANY women who have 3 sons but very few who have 3 daughters. So I don't think you're alone. Most people I know that have one of each stop at 2. I think for a lot of couples who have 2 girls, the mom isn't pushing for a third and the dad is afraid of having a third girl and doesn't want to chance it haha. I wanted a third kid just in general, DH was on the fence, and this one was not planned. So we will have 2 girls and then a boy. I wouldn't have been mad about a third girl though.
It SUPER annoys me that all of the people that asked me if we'd still try for a boy after they heard that DD2 was a girl will feel like those comments were justified now. We weren't "trying" for anything people! I would have loved a third girl. Lay off.
This may be a FFFC - I am leaving the decision to have another baby up to the sex of this one. If we have another boy I will try for a third (girl), but if we have a girl we will be done.
Done no matter what at three though!!
If my 3rd was a girl we’d have been done. My heart would have wished for another still.., but snipping would have happened. So clearly no judgment here!
I was really glad to be able to find out before we announced publicly - the ppl who knew before that know me well and know I wanted a girl and knew my loss history so they weren’t making comments, and I was so glad to just announce and say the sex too. I didn’t want to hear ANYTHING. I knowbeith my 3rd even the ppl commenting on how wonderful it would be if it was a boy irked me, as well as the ‘hope it’s a girl’ comments.
And the funny thing is I truly wanted my second to be a boy because they were so close in age and I thought the brother bond would be special (it is!). I just assumed my girl would come next lol.
I woyld have been fine with all girls too though I find myself well suited to being a boy mom. I’m one of 3 girls with a youngest brother - mirror of my family!
Im kinda sad this girl won’t have a sister though... but I hope she and I are close. And I really hope my sister (due 8/1) is having a girl bc then they can kinda be sister-cousins lol.
Re: FFFC 3/2
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Really he only wants DH to play golf hah
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I have a really good relationship with my MIL. I would say some of it is because she definitely does not baby DH at all. In fact, I wouldn't say she babys my BIL but he gets away with more crap and definitely is held to a different standard and he is the oldest. I feel bad for his GF. lol. Honestly though I am blessed with great in-laws. I hear horror stories and feel super lucky.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
Talking about threesome was amazing for our sex life, and then having one (well more than one) was beyond awesome and really brought us closer together.
Its not not a huge part of my overall grade and they are being so lenient and letting me adjust and turn in again Sunday but it’s so embarrassing. I cried on the couch when I saw what I did. So stupid.
@scottishlass1213 aw love don’t beat yourself up! These things happen and looks like it won’t have any impact at all in the long run!!!
We always said we'd like to have a threesome one day, but I'm not sure if he'd still consider it. I'd love to, to redo the terrible one I had in college (that lasted all of 3 minutes lol). I actually have a friend who said she'd be totally into it, and she's a lesbian so there'd be no fear from me of DH falling in love with her over me hahaha
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Made me think...if I wasn't pregnant I probably would have. It's something I've always wanted to try! I'm totally waiting on details over here.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Speaking of, we had sex for the first time since I've been pregnant tonight. Second trimester sex drive boost hit me hard. Of course now I'm paranoid about bleeding (which I'm not at all, but will be paranoid about for at least the next 24 hours despite my doctor saying that if it were to happen it's totally normal).
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
I DO get that 'nails on a chalkboard' feeling when I hear the word panties - I just hate that word so damn much. It makes me want to throw up in my mouth and I have no idea why.
We said one and done - I'm almost 40, and it took us 3 years to get here. If we could get pregnant right away after this one, I might go for it.. but H has been firmly only one for a while now.
@melbel0824 wins today.
i also have gotten the comments ‘Are you sad you’ll never have a girl?’ (We are done after this) ’ ‘Ohhhh 2 boys? Good luck’ ‘Are you sure you won’t try for a girl?’ Umm let me be, I just hit 2nd tri and found out it’s a boy. Geez, mind your business people!
FFFC: I’ve been tired and cranky from work all week, so ST had just not happened for DH and I. This morning I had the urge, but I hit snooze and I had to be at work early = no time. While DH was in the shower I just took care of myself. I needed the stress relief and it was way quicker than actual ST. No shame.
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
It SUPER annoys me that all of the people that asked me if we'd still try for a boy after they heard that DD2 was a girl will feel like those comments were justified now. We weren't "trying" for anything people! I would have loved a third girl. Lay off.
And my sister and I together have had 9 girls. No boys. My brother and his wife have no children.
My sis and I are always saying a boy would just be out of place at this point. Lol.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
And the funny thing is I truly wanted my second to be a boy because they were so close in age and I thought the brother bond would be special (it is!). I just assumed my girl would come next lol.
I woyld have been fine with all girls too though I find myself well suited to being a boy mom. I’m one of 3 girls with a youngest brother - mirror of my family!
Im kinda sad this girl won’t have a sister though... but I hope she and I are close. And I really hope my sister (due 8/1) is having a girl bc then they can kinda be sister-cousins lol.
and I’m totally vanilla.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w