I was going to play semi-hooky today and ask for a telework day because I didn’t want to go in. But then woke up at 3:30 with an awful sore throat and stuffy head, so probably karma.
Now my work has a delayed Noon opening for high winds so I’m like ughhh should I go in for 4 hours? Because now if I ask to work from home will it even be believed hahaha
My FFC involves some background. So my husband is on a work trip this week and unfortunately his grandma, who was a wonderful lady passed away. She lived about 12 hours away from DH his whole life so they weren't very close and he was thinking about not going to the funeral until his mom called and basically problem dumped on him and now he's going to support his mom.
(I know problem dump sounds horrible but that's how she tends to handle anything. She has a horrible relationship with her husband so DH is always handling her problems)
I want to be sympathic, I know losing a parent is horrible but damn it I want DH home. This is the longest he's been away already since DS has been born and we both miss him like crazy, and this is adding another 3 days of him being gone.
It would be so much easier not to feel bitchy about this situation if he actually wanted to go, and it doesn't help that MIL and I don't really get along.
Also logistically and financially there's no way we can swing going to the funeral as well. Plus his mom just found out she has the flu so I would be nervous about that.
I should say I am being supportive to my husband when we talk and I have not talked to any of my in-laws. This is more internal bitching and grumpiness than external.
I just encouraged every student I saw to pray to whatever God they worship that it keeps snowing, so I can go home and take a nap.
It is snowing bad in our area, to the point we shouldn't be at school, but everyone has 4x4 so we all made it. . . barely. Busses are sliding through 4-way stops. BUT our Superintendent is an idiot, so it probably won't happen.
@laufisch I'm sorry. Can you express the Financial concerns and convince him its better to come home? He picked you to be his life partner, and he made DS. His mom he is supposed to leave to take care of his 'chosen' (IDK what else to call it) family.
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laufisch That is a tough one. Sometimes family guilting is the worst. I say if it doesn't work for you guys and he can get away with no going then he shouldn't go. But, if it really will cause major problem with his mom then maybe it is better in the long run for him to go. I'm sorry I don'y have better advice. I hope it all works out for you.
@hardlyhannah No flames from me! I would kill for a Dr. Pepper right now. I haven't had any since BFP and have only had a few 1/2 Caf cups of coffee but, I do not flame anyone who has caffeine.
@calimom2524 I have never heard that used. That is an awful word. It is grossing me out actually.
@laufisch, I understand missing your husband, mine is gone a lot. In the grand scheme of things three days for the loss of life, I would keep the thoughts internal and dump them here with us! I'm sorry about the loss and that he'll be gone a few more days.
I still have a very large coffee every day - but I consider it a win because I used to have 2 very large coffees a day. Goals.
@laufisch - I'm sorry, that is a tough situation. I think it is really admirable that you are being supportive of him even though it is making you life harder. We're here to listen if you need to talk.
@princesslockness - please be careful when they eventually do let you go home! But I hope you get an early release!
FFFC: this is probably insane but I was 100% positive this would be our last baby. Buuuuuut DH told me this story about this little boy at DS's day care that ADORES DH and gets super excited to see him when he does pick up or drop off. Hearing his stories about him and this little boy hanging out at the teeny tiny table (DS is like peace out dad, they're serving breakfast!) makes me think that I might want one more. Geriatric uterus, diabetes and all.
This may be a FFFC - I am leaving the decision to have another baby up to the sex of this one. If we have another boy I will try for a third (girl), but if we have a girl we will be done.
Done no matter what at three though!!
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@hardlyhannah I'm sort of the same way, if this pregnancy goes well. Due to my past history, it's iffy. But because this one is a boy, DH did say that he'd be open to trying again (which was surprising because he was always adamant that he wanted 2 and no more, when I've always wanted 2 or 3) depending on if I'm able to carry full term this time. With PGAL brain I'm not sure if I could mentally handle another pregnancy, so I think I may actually want to adopt a baby girl in a couple of years if we could figure out the finances for that. One baby at a time though.
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29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Yay my boss told me just to stay home because the wind is getting worse but they never changed our opening status. Soooo I’m working in my jammies on my couch under a blanket.
@elsieisamoocow yes, definitely one baby at a time. I don't have a history of loss but do have infertility struggles so who knows if we'll even be able to conceive. And I had pre-e last time so if that comes around again, I may just not be up for another pregnancy. BUUUUUT I do really want a daughter to bond with like I have with my mom. Though I love my boy bond too. Even though DS is a daddy's boy. We'll just have to wait approximately 6 more months to see what happens!
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@hardlyhannah Exactly. I want that bond so badly. DS is usually still a mama's boy, though now when DH is home he wants nothing to do with me
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About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
My older cat prefers my husband, and we've always called him a Daddy's Boy after the episode of 'Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt' where she dates a Daddy's Boy.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Thanks for the support everyone. I tired talking to my mom and she made me feel like a horrible person.
We did talk a little bit and he's going to leave early so he can make it back Monday night instead of Tuesday afternoon and he'll just fly directly there tomorrow instead of staying in California an extra day.
If this is a boy I know DH will want to try once more for a girl but I'm not really sure I'd want to. This pregnancy has been much easier than my first, so it's not the hard no I thought it would be but I'm not sure how we would handle three kids financially. I definitely understand the temptation though.
DS wants me for bedtime, diaper changes, and to brush his teeth. He wants DH for play. If DH isn’t here then he’ll play with me but otherwise it’s, “hoop with Daddy, mommy leave.” It would make me sadder if I wasn’t pregnant and exhausted by the time DH gets home. Now I’m like, sure I’ll go sit and watch TV, since he just wants to play with you, babe.
Omg you guys are scaring me! I want to be the favorite forever. Mine. DH isn't carrying around baby weight still and didn't get ripped open for you. You will love me most, forever.
We had two girls first and now I’m pregnant with a boy. When people make comments like “yay finally got your boy” or the like it makes me so mad. I would have been just as happy to have a trio of girls. In some ways it would have been easier but people still would have made dumb comments. I’m not very tolerant of dumb comments.
@baby&thesea two of my good friends only have boys and people ask them all the time if they’re going to try for a girl. They feel like their life is complete with boys but other people always have their own opinions.
Yup, I saw an article about this on Scary Mommy yesterday but now I can't find it. Every time someone hears I'm pregnant they assume I want a girl this time. I'm really happy for my son that he will have a little brother. And I think being so close in age they will probably get along a little better being the same gender. People need to learn when to stfu.
I wish I had a dollar for every time some One said, “maybe the next one will be a girl,” or “are you going to try for a girl?” I’m still pregnant with this one and fully plan on enjoying him. And no, i think there’s no way I can convince my husband to have 3 kids, and I’m okay with that too. I don’t know why people feel they need to say anything other than, “congratulations!”
This may be a FFFC - I am leaving the decision to have another baby up to the sex of this one. If we have another boy I will try for a third (girl), but if we have a girl we will be done.
Done no matter what at three though!!
I originally thought we may consider a third if this was another boy. Well, it is a boy, but I’m 99.99% sure I’m done with pregnancy forever.
And I like being the favorite, but I also wouldn’t mind this baby preferring Dad. I feel like I have a leach, sometimes. An adorable leach, but still....
That's the thing - I want a girl for me, but I will be so happy with another little boy too for that exact reason - DS and baby boy 2 will be best buds! DH is really close with his brothers (family of three boys), and I think it would be so much fun watching my boys grow up together like that too. Either way I am excited for him to have a sibling, no matter who they end up being.
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Agree that people need to stfu! I've gotten plenty of 'aw, one of each' bs. We would have been thrilled with a boy. We are thrilled with a girl. Just be happy for us and keep the rest to yourself.
@livinthesunnylife YES being the MIL! I dread that, but I have a good relationship with mine so hopefully I can be normal enough, and DS will find a solid partner that isn't nuts so there's no butting heads.
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Re: FFFC 3/2
Now my work has a delayed Noon opening for high winds so I’m like ughhh should I go in for 4 hours? Because now if I ask to work from home will it even be believed hahaha
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
(I know problem dump sounds horrible but that's how she tends to handle anything. She has a horrible relationship with her husband so DH is always handling her problems)
I want to be sympathic, I know losing a parent is horrible but damn it I want DH home. This is the longest he's been away already since DS has been born and we both miss him like crazy, and this is adding another 3 days of him being gone.
It would be so much easier not to feel bitchy about this situation if he actually wanted to go, and it doesn't help that MIL and I don't really get along.
Also logistically and financially there's no way we can swing going to the funeral as well. Plus his mom just found out she has the flu so I would be nervous about that.
I should say I am being supportive to my husband when we talk and I have not talked to any of my in-laws. This is more internal bitching and grumpiness than external.
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
It is snowing bad in our area, to the point we shouldn't be at school, but everyone has 4x4 so we all made it. . . barely. Busses are sliding through 4-way stops. BUT our Superintendent is an idiot, so it probably won't happen.
@laufisch I'm sorry. Can you express the Financial concerns and convince him its better to come home? He picked you to be his life partner, and he made DS. His mom he is supposed to leave to take care of his 'chosen' (IDK what else to call it) family.
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Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
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@hardlyhannah No flames from me! I would kill for a Dr. Pepper right now. I haven't had any since BFP and have only had a few 1/2 Caf cups of coffee but, I do not flame anyone who has caffeine.
@calimom2524 I have never heard that used. That is an awful word. It is grossing me out actually.
@calimom2524 I loveeeee squishies! Gimme all the babies. Gimme 'em
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I still have a very large coffee every day - but I consider it a win because I used to have 2 very large coffees a day. Goals.
@laufisch - I'm sorry, that is a tough situation. I think it is really admirable that you are being supportive of him even though it is making you life harder. We're here to listen if you need to talk.
@princesslockness - please be careful when they eventually do let you go home! But I hope you get an early release!
FFFC: this is probably insane but I was 100% positive this would be our last baby. Buuuuuut DH told me this story about this little boy at DS's day care that ADORES DH and gets super excited to see him when he does pick up or drop off. Hearing his stories about him and this little boy hanging out at the teeny tiny table (DS is like peace out dad, they're serving breakfast!) makes me think that I might want one more. Geriatric uterus, diabetes and all.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
This may be a FFFC - I am leaving the decision to have another baby up to the sex of this one. If we have another boy I will try for a third (girl), but if we have a girl we will be done.
Done no matter what at three though!!
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
We did talk a little bit and he's going to leave early so he can make it back Monday night instead of Tuesday afternoon and he'll just fly directly there tomorrow instead of staying in California an extra day.
If this is a boy I know DH will want to try once more for a girl but I'm not really sure I'd want to. This pregnancy has been much easier than my first, so it's not the hard no I thought it would be but I'm not sure how we would handle three kids financially. I definitely understand the temptation though.
RIGHT!?! It makes me so sad. I literally sustained you for the first 16 months of your life (in womb and then EBF). WTH!!!
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
BFP#1 11-23-2011 EDD 08-01-12 -- early miscarriage 11-27-2011 @ 4W4D
DX hashimoto's hypothyroidism Jan2012
BFP#2 5-14-2012 EDD 01-21-13 -- early miscarriage 05-17-2012 @ 4W3D
BFP#3 7-15-2012 EDD 03-29-13
And I like being the favorite, but I also wouldn’t mind this baby preferring Dad. I feel like I have a leach, sometimes. An adorable leach, but still....
That's the thing - I want a girl for me, but I will be so happy with another little boy too for that exact reason - DS and baby boy 2 will be best buds! DH is really close with his brothers (family of three boys), and I think it would be so much fun watching my boys grow up together like that too. Either way I am excited for him to have a sibling, no matter who they end up being.
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB