@buffalove1211 I'm normally that way but I got all hot and bothered by this particular appointment because the OB brought it up like "just FYI you gained 8 lbs this month, try to keep it to 1 lb a week") and I got all defensive about how I was wearing rain boots and I'm weighing myself at home etc.
Then that evening at home I weighed myself naked and I was like 6 lbs heavier than what I'd been the night before on the same scale so it got into my head a bit. I don't know which number is accurate.
My OB office always weighs me with my boots on and once my coat. I just keep an eye on my weight at home. It does fluctuate a bit depending on last poop and salt intake, haha.
My question is: how heavy is post partum bleeding? Some sources say 4-6 weeks and lead one to believe it's terribly heavy, that you'll need gigantic pads, etc. Other sources say 3-10 days of bleeding, then a few weeks of pinkish discharge. Then I'll read "like a heavy period that lasts a week"...so my take away is that it varies quite a bit, just like periods? Because mine are heavy and last about a week or so....it sure is nice not having one in so long!
@bearmoons I bled for close to 12 weeks. I’d say 4 weeks was heavy. I was wearing the monster pads from the hospital for a good 2 weeks I think. Then overnight pads for another 2. Then I switched to regular pads for a few weeks before using liners. I think it varies from person to person and I was on the far end of the spectrum (I wasn’t cleared for anything until 12 weeks by my OB after a third degree tear).
@bearmoons I’m just hopeful that this time will be better. The worst thing though is that my doctor told me clots were normal - including golf ball size clots. She said to call for GRAPEFRUIT sized ones.
@bearmoons I was on the shorter/lighter end of the spectrum. Less than a week of bleeding for both previous pregnancies if I recall correctly. Very small clots/clumps.
My friend who worked in a mother and baby unit said many moms had huge clots and heavy bleeding so yeah I guess it varies.
@bearmoons I bled heavier and longer after the VBAC - close to 7 weeks. With the c-section, I bled heavy for maybe two weeks, then light spotting for about two more weeks.
I bled for 8 weeks post c section and went in to get checked out and oh yeah it was bc I still had placenta in me. So I got a lovely D and C as well . I hope they don’t screw that up this time.
I want to say maybe a week of heavier bleeding, equal to the first day or two of period and then a couple of weeks of light bleeding. The first few days are the worst.
I think it must really vary. I don’t remember specifically how long I bled after my c-section, but I think it was under two weeks. I was cleared for sex and any other activity at four weeks. I had the easiest, quickest recovery. Idk why it was so easy and over so quickly but I wasn’t complaining.
@Austenista I was cleared for driving really quickly after my c-sections. My midwife told me as long as I wasn't on heavy meds, and could turn normally, I could drive. I drove 10 days after.
Also, I think opinions of how bad the bleeding is vary based on how bad your period is. If you have a light period that only lasts a few days, this is going to seem awful. If you have a heavier period, this won't be bad at all.
I will throw out there how serious my postpartum periods were at first when they returned. I felt personally victimized by how intense they were. Eventually they normalized and stopped being so crazy, but for awhile it was just on another level.
My period is typically 7 days, changing a heavy tampon every hour or bleeding through my pants. Lots of blood clots. Hoping pp bleeding doesn’t require more frequent pad changing than every hour. I honestly won’t mind bleeding as long as I don’t have to spend every waking moment changing my pads.
@marcus7676 I'm officially terrified lol grapefruits?! The app says the BABY is the size of a grapefruit this week. Holy moly. The thought of that even being possible, albeit not normal is frightening.
Did anyone notice that breast feeding or not impacted the bleeding? If you did with one baby and not the other, was there a difference?
@amys614 Not really what you are asking but I EBF both kids and I had moderate bleeding for 6 weeks with my first and heavy bleeding until 12 weeks with my second. Both births were vaginal, sunny side up with second degree tears. Idk what made me bleed more and for longer with my second but it sucked.
I am the worst when it comes to blood although my moderate/heavy periods never bothered me too much. But all this talk of grapefruit (even golfball) sized clots, and now I am officially terrified...
@doxiemoxie212 same. and near golf ball sized clots are kind of my norm with my period. It's awesome. Also chills and puking and horrible PMS. So maybe this PP bleeding won't seem so bad. Yippeeeee!
Has anyone else started to put things together that will go in your hospital baby bag? I get all into organization when nesting lol. So far just a matching swaddle and robe but I’m starting to think about what I would have liked to bring last time.
@katie121209 def thinking about it but my motivation is minimal since we live 2 blocks from the hospital, and I can just send my mom to get anything we forget lol.
Who are you guys inviting to your baby showers? Are you inviting people from out of state? I can't decide how I feel about it. On the one hand, I want them to know that I would love to see them if they were able to be here? But I also don't want them to feel obligated to travel nor give us a gift...? (Not family)
@doxiemoxie212 I think it depends. We had two showers - one for our friends in our state that was just a backyard BBQ. The second my sister hosted in CT (where I'm from and some of H's family is from). Out of state guests were invited to that (mainly family, some close friends). Part of it was we knew they wouldn't come but we wanted to include them in the celebration so they wouldn't feel left out.
@doxiemoxie212 I'm having one shower in my hometown which is out of state for me. In general I kept he invites to aunts, adult cousins and friends. If they were family from out of state I invited them but mostly as a formality. Friends from out of state I did not invite. I did invite some friends that live about 2 hours away from the shower but again not expecting them to come. I made a google doc for the hostesses with all the guests, addresses, relation (ie my side, MH's side or friends) and a likelihood of attendance (low, medium, high) so the hostesses could see who I was inviting just out of courtesy and who I thought would actually come so they could plan accordingly.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@marcus7676@krashke this shower is going to be co-ed, mostly DH's friends (which are obviously now my friends too, but you know), and the only family will be my mom and DH's parents; I doubt his brothers will come. I'm not planning on inviting any other family. We have some friends in DC that we're really close with, but for some reason I just feel weird about inviting them? IDK why. I'm worried they'll feel pressure about it.
@doxiemoxie212 - I invited a good college friend that was out of state (4 hour drive). She came and loved using it as an excuse to visit (we only see each other every 3 to 4 years). Her husband came to town as well (not the shower) and they stayed overnight before heading back home. So I think it depends on how good the friend is. I've also traveled 3 hours to a shower and used it as an excuse to visit for the weekend. I only have 2 or 3 friends in that situation, but I've made it to their showers/weddings and they've done the same for me.
Out of state family I only sent a courtesy invite to my grandparents (14 hours away). Otherwise it was for in town family.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@mytinc I think I mostly feel weird about it because hotels here are so expensive? And we're 4 hours from DC which pretty much certainly means an overnight situation. And we can't offer up our guest room or couch because my mom and BFF are using those! Sigh.
@doxiemoxie212 Are there decently priced AirBNBs nearby or bed and breakfasts or other options? Really, it would be up to the person coming on whether or not they could swing it, but for me, if it's a really good friend I'd give them the option and let them know you completely understand if they can't make it. That way they know they aren't being snubbed.
First Son - born 2013
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@mytinc depends what your idea of reasonable is. Manhattan is $$, and I don't think airbnbs are significantly less expensive... I don't believe there are bed & breakfasts here lol.
Second Son - born 2014 - Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome (HLHS) and Double Outlet Right Ventricle (DORV). First open heart surgery at 5 days old. He's had 3 open heart surgeries and several other procedures and is currently doing amazing. Third Son - due June 9, 2018
@doxiemoxie212 I'd probably invite them, just so they don't feel left out. But, I'd personally send them a message saying that they shouldn't feel obligated to come, just didn't want to leave them out of the celebration, etc.
@doxiemoxie212 I had the same discussion with my MIL about inviting her nieces that live further away and she basically just said that they are adults and they know how to make their own choices if they want to come they will make it work if not NBD.
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Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@katie121209 I have not started thinking about my hospital bag. However, I know I really want a set of pajamas with shorts and a button down long sleeve top. I haven't found any I like....
@doxiemoxie212 I think you should invite whoever you want and let them decide if they want to pay for hotel, etc. You'll be surprised (I know I was with people who wanted to come to our wedding.) Some people may see it as too expensive and skip it, but there are those that will use it as a mini vacay to visit the city.
@doxiemoxie212 I would send the invite. and maybe just tell them you understand about the distance etc, but didn't want them to feel left out. you never know, they might want to make a weekend away out of it.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@doxiemoxie212 I invited everyone to my 1st shower, regardless of where they lived. A surprising amount of people came from out of state, and I took them to some fun spots around town before the shower. I say invite everyone and they'll decide.
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Then that evening at home I weighed myself naked and I was like 6 lbs heavier than what I'd been the night before on the same scale so it got into my head a bit. I don't know which number is accurate.
My question is: how heavy is post partum bleeding? Some sources say 4-6 weeks and lead one to believe it's terribly heavy, that you'll need gigantic pads, etc. Other sources say 3-10 days of bleeding, then a few weeks of pinkish discharge. Then I'll read "like a heavy period that lasts a week"...so my take away is that it varies quite a bit, just like periods? Because mine are heavy and last about a week or so....it sure is nice not having one in so long!
My friend who worked in a mother and baby unit said many moms had huge clots and heavy bleeding so yeah I guess it varies.
Also, I think opinions of how bad the bleeding is vary based on how bad your period is. If you have a light period that only lasts a few days, this is going to seem awful. If you have a heavier period, this won't be bad at all.
I will throw out there how serious my postpartum periods were at first when they returned. I felt personally victimized by how intense they were. Eventually they normalized and stopped being so crazy, but for awhile it was just on another level.
Did anyone notice that breast feeding or not impacted the bleeding? If you did with one baby and not the other, was there a difference?
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I think I'm overthinking this.
Out of state family I only sent a courtesy invite to my grandparents (14 hours away). Otherwise it was for in town family.
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@katie121209 I have not started thinking about my hospital bag. However, I know I really want a set of pajamas with shorts and a button down long sleeve top. I haven't found any I like....
@doxiemoxie212 I think you should invite whoever you want and let them decide if they want to pay for hotel, etc. You'll be surprised (I know I was with people who wanted to come to our wedding.) Some people may see it as too expensive and skip it, but there are those that will use it as a mini vacay to visit the city.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby