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July 2018 Moms
cseley321
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Pregnant After Infertility Check In
cseley321
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I've only posted this check in one other time. I guess we should see how the IF ladies are doing 
1. How far along are you now?
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant?
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest!
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to?
1. How far along are you now?
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant?
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest!
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to?
Re: Pregnant After Infertility Check In
1. How far along are you now?
17 weeks and 3 days
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant?
FET. The embryo that settled in was from the same batch as my first baby, so in my own mind I can't help but think of this as my DD's twin who got put on ice
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest!
I feel like we are doing nothing to prepare for the new baby. We haven't even decided if she will share a room or have her own. I know July is months away, but I am a planner
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends?
Most of my fiends and family already knew. I made a few posts about it after my first was born. I was thinking of doing something like the announcement with the IVF needles on display for this one, but I backed out.
treatments? I didn’t use any. We can’t afford fertility treatments so had already accepted we would only have our one girl (we tried for 5-7 years). I joke that it just took a Cat 4 hurricane because I got pregnant about 8 weeks after Harvey blew into our lives.
Concerns? Like you, I’m worried we aren’t preparing enough. And I have a friend that has already started insisting I can’t do things with her/our group like normal. That’s hurtful. But I’ve noticed I can get pretty rage-y with this pregnancy so I try to be chill. Lol.
We announced right away that we are expecting and everyone has been supportive. Most at work already knew we tried for years. The new girl didn’t but she says things that frequently leave me scratching my head. Like that she is more excited for my pregnancy than I am...so I don’t tend to share a lot about the pregnancy at work because it just gets awkward.
18+5
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant?
FET. Got pregnant immediately the first 2 times, but second ended in loss and I wasn't able to get pregnant again for 2.5 years after 2 rounds of IVF.
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest!
Nothing really, excited to get past my loss milestone... we found out at 19+1. Baby probably died around 15 weeks, but still good to know she's still alive! She's moving a ton and I have a doppler which I use probably too much...
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to?
My family and close friends know. Not sure if I plan to mention it to the world. I'm pretty open about it if you talk to me, but I haven't posted on facebook or anything.
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant? Metformin 2000mg, Letrozole 7.5mg, Novarel trigger, TI
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest! I have to be careful ranting about this here, because I know my SIL was a lurker on TB during her pregnancy. But I have a SIL who recently gave birth and who is making a big deal about her baby being the "first grandchild." And she is very self-congratulatory about having "produced the first grandchild." She doesn't know we had trouble conceiving, because I don't want her to look back and be upset once she realizes that was the reason I missed her gender reveal party and baby shower. But....I also think she'd probably make those comments anyways even if she knew we had infertility issues. It just grates on me. The only redeeming thing about it is that almost everyone else in the immediate family except her and her husband knows that MH and I had to go through fertility treatments. So I know everyone else cringes internally when she says that garbage.
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to? My group of close friends already knew about my IF treatments because I needed their support going through it. And my parents and MH's parents have known about our IF since the get-go (again, for moral support). MH is a very private person, so he (unfortunately) isn't comfortable with me doing anything like a pregnancy announcement acknowledging the struggle we had.
ETA: @cseley321 Thanks for starting this!!!
@cseley321 Wow yeah that's super insensitive! And agreed about no abortion debates, but I would've probably lost it about that tbh...
I mean yeah, I get being a little disappointed if you always imagined yourself having a child of a certain sex. But it's nothing to cry hysterically over. I feel like people being THAT upset about it is a product of taking for granted that they are able to easily have babies and taking for granted that their babies will be healthy. My not finding out this baby's sex is kind of a "statement" about that haha. I just found out today that my baby looks healthy and had a normal first part of the combined genetic screening, and I'm ecstatic. I keep telling people who ask if I peeked and found out the baby's sex "no, but I found out that my baby looks healthy, and I am thrilled about it. Those are the best 4 heart chambers I've ever seen"
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant? IVF and FET
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest!
Not related to IF but drove 40 mins each way today to see a doctor only to be told that they don’t see pregnant patients. I was referred to this doctor and my clinic said they told them I was pregnant.
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to?
My immediate family and close friends know. I’m not ready to tell the rest of the world yet though. My DH just announced on his Facebook and a few people commented saying things like ‘finally!’ and ‘it’s about time’ which makes me want to post about our struggles just to make them feel bad.
@safire3 Ugh, people just do NOT THINK. I've had a few people make comments like that, and even though we only had trouble TTC for 9 months and just hadn't been ready for kids before that for various reasons, it annoys me. I feel like comments like that are just ways of slyly trying to pry into your business. Like...we don't owe you an explanation for why we took so long to have kids. Nunya business, people.
Edited because autocorrect hates me
1. How far along are you now?
18 w
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant?
We couldn't afford to see a fertility specialist. But in the 18 mos we were TTC, I got dx with Hashimotos disease and Insulin Resistant PCOS. So taking levothyroxine by itself didn't help getting pregnant at first, but once I added the metformin I got pregnant within 4 months.
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest!
Just people asking when you are going to have a baby incessantly. Like.. just don't.
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to?
Our family and close friends know we were trying for awhile, but we haven't really told anyone the details. And no one outside our close circle knows we tried for a year and a half.
ETA, Also one if my go-to things to do at work to make people uncomfortable when I was childless and people asked when I was having kids, I would start listing the miscarriages I had. No one bugged me about it after that.
And can I just +1647 the fact that people say some really stupid crap. From the beginning I had decided I wanted to be very vocal about what we were going through just so people could see that is does happen and its not easy. I was very big on the idea that if someone is going to ask a question or make a comment that made me feel uncomfortable I was going to give a response right back that would make them feel uncomfortable.
1. How far along are you now? 19+2
2. What treatment helped you to get pregnant? Letrozole + IUI
3. Any question or concerns? Rants or raves? Or just get something off your chest! We have our anatomy scan next week, and the closer we get the more anxious I become. We had originally hoped that after our NT scan we would be able to finally relax a little bit knowing things were ok, but then we ended up having some issues so now I am just convinced that there is always going to be something wrong. People keep telling me that I just need to stay positive, but how can I stay positive when there was so much negative getting to this point?
4. GTKY: Now that most people have announced or are visibly pregnant, have you shared your IF story with any family and/or friends? If not, do you plan to? As I said earlier, I was always pretty vocal about what we were going through. Most of my family had also dealt with some type of fertility issue so they were easy enough to talk to, but we definitely still had our fair share of stupid comments. We weren't originally planning on doing any type of social media announcement (since I knew how much they sucked to see after a while), but after our newsfeeds were taking over by Christmas announcements we decided to post something describing our journey and providing the message to be mindful of the things you say since you never know what someone else may be going through. It went over way better than we had expected, and I was surprised by the amount of people who reached out afterwards to thank us for saying the things the wish they could have said.
Married 9/2015
TTC #1 6/2016
Dx Unexplained IF 6/2017
Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI 7/2017 - Cancelled (overstimulated)
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #1 - BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #2 -BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI#3 - BFP! EDD July 15 2018
Baby Girl H - July 22 2018
People just say the stupidest things and I always try and make a point to turn it on them as well. "So when are you having kids?" "Why don't you just adopt?" "Oh, well just take mine for a weekend and you won't want kids anymore!" "Just relax and pray!" "It will happen when you stop trying" I literally used to come up with canned responses to the stupid questions and comments I got so that I wouldn't be hurt and caught off guard.
Married 9/2015
TTC #1 6/2016
Dx Unexplained IF 6/2017
Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI 7/2017 - Cancelled (overstimulated)
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #1 - BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #2 -BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI#3 - BFP! EDD July 15 2018
Baby Girl H - July 22 2018