I literally almost cried on the exam table today. And in her office. And almost on the phone with DH after. I held it together though.
after 15 yrs, i have to get a new OB she wasn't able to deliver DS. And after this 2 yr battle, with repeat losses, for a sibling, all I wanted was for her to deliver this baby. But she asked if i heard she wouldn't be there. I was floored. The practice Is moving her to a clinic and taking pts off her starting with May due dates she first said to make it very well known that I wannnnttt herrrr at the delivery, so maybe they'll let her. And that I'd be seeing someone else starting soon. .... then on the walk from exam room to her office, the nurse stopped her. And I guess they're letting her keep me through the pregnancy! I still want to cry that I'm losing her after. But i told her i will travel to any office for these check ups. And she put me in for a csection fri 5/25. Theeeeen she tells me 'we'll still talk. You'll call me. Like a friend' (She's a little foreign lady with broken sentences) then pulls out her phone for a selfie waaaaahh
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Ugh! I made reservations at this restaurant DH and I have been to once before and loved. We never do anything for Valentine's Day, but I was like meh, whatever, let's do something for the last one before the baby is here. DH almost wasn't able to go, but he ended up being able to leave work. He walked like 15 blocks. I had to take two trains because of "signal delays" (huge eye roll), which was a cluster.
.............and then we get there and they're only doing a pre fixe menu with no vegetarian options! So we had to just get in a cab and come home. Now we're waiting for delivery. Siiiiiiigh.
My dd was a friggen nightmare all last week. She slept bad, had an attitude, bawled a lot about who knows what, and was SO difficult with food and eating. Thats pretty much why i was not around here at all last week. She had a good weekend and has been better this week so far.
@doxiemoxie212 sorry about your dinner plans. I can't believe they wouldn't have a veg option!
One of my biggest pet peeves- when someone pulls up to the secure access gate at the parking lot and doesn’t have their badge ready. Then there’s like 6 cars backed up onto the street waiting for them to find their badge. We’re all just trying to find a parking spot and get into work on time people!
@doxiemoxie212 Thats so frustrating! You would think they would've told you it was a fixed menu when you called and made the reservation. @catlady1215 I'm sorry lady. That sucks. FX everything works out and she can be there!
AFM: DDs sickness since November, besides the NORMAL cough and cold, and teething: 1. Strep Throat 2. Stomach Bug 3. Adnode Virus 4. Hands Foot Mouth and now... 5. PINK EYE in both eyes.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@sunshineandwhiskey Bless her poor little heart. Yours, too. Hopefully the pink eye will be the last of it for a while and she'll keep it to herself. Mine had it right before Thanksgiving and I went through two cans of Lysol. FX that she is well soon!
@kfren thank you for the kind words! I am so frustrated. I know daycare is a big factor, and she also does swim lessons at a public YMCA. But i feel horrible as a mom, that I can't keep her healthy.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@sunshineandwhiskey It is absolutely no reflection on you. Ish happens. Look at it this way, daycare is building her immune system. Once she starts school, hopefully she'll get sick less as a result of going through this crap now.
I am in awe of all of you STMs who are handling pregnancy (and will soon be handling a newborn) with a toddler already underfoot. You're doing amazingly! Even when it feels like a losing battle.
@2589 Cannot handle the unprepared. Have your access badge ready at the garage, your driver's license ready at the airport, and your credit card ready at the grocery store. We are strangers, but you still have to be respectful of my time and everyone else's!
@doxiemoxie212 What a disappointment. Valentine's Day is hard but, regardless of the outcome, I'm really proud of you and YH for making the effort. Especially post-kiddo, there will be so many times your plans are blown up (though I'll admit this particular one seems really unnecessary and infuriating), and the important thing is that you keep making the effort and showing up for each other, even when it would be so much easier not to.
No rants from me. I'm having one of my "think positively" resolution days. Don't worry, it'll burn off by lunch.
Just got a call from my insurance company; the guy that hit me Tuesday did not have insurance. Fantastic! Two days later and his car is still sitting in front of my work. I think the damage to my car is only cosmetic, but it's the principle*.
*edited to change the spelling of principal because pregnancy brain.
@sunshineandwhiskey the year my daughter went to daycare she got all of that plus some. And then I got all of it (hfm sucks when you're an adult!) Now she's in preschool and gets sick far less often than other kids who didn't go to daycare, so that's an upside, I guess. How miserable for you and her though- I hope she starts feeling better soon!
@kfren car insurance makes me livid. DH and I were hit by a woman about a year ago (she sped through a yellow light that turned red, and our light turned green, etc.) who was driving a Mercedes and seemed visibly sedated. It was hard to tell how old she was because of all the plastic surgery, but probably in her 70s? Anyway, she told her insurance that it was our fault. We told our insurance it was her fault and we had a witness on the record, but they took her word for it instead of ours. Maddening! Will your insurance still cover all the cosmetic costs?
@doxiemoxie212 That is infuriating! An elderly lady turned left into DH (who was going straight) a few years back and when he went to see if she was okay, she said "Did you see that guy hit me? He was going so fast!" I think that people should periodically have to be retested in order to maintain their licenses. We filed a police report and he admitted to the officer that it was his fault. We have liability only, so our insurance isn't paying for anything.
@kfren yes, completely agree that people need to be retested. My paternal grandfather clearly had dementia but refused to get tested, and he died in a car accident like 20 years ago after the DMV took his license away and then he talked them into giving it back to him. Now my 71-year-old dad, who has Parkinson's, not only drives and gets in crashes all the time, drives for Uber X in his spare effing time. Infuriating. Worrisome. Absurd. (Also a reason I do not take Uber Xs...)
@doxiemoxie212 Gah! That is unfreakingbelieveable!!! They gave it back?!?!?! And what exactly are the qualifications for driving an Uber? Doesn't sound like they're too stringent. My great-grandmother drove until she was in her early 90s, but she had never been in an accident, and drove her behemoth '77 Cadillac Coupe de Ville only around her neighborhood.
@May14th2011 Thank And thats good to know! Silver lining I hope. Yeah, i get all the crud too. HFM sucked! They originally thought i had the flu until the lovely blisters showed up.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@kfren I have a 94-year-old aunt who is in perfect health and still drives all over, and I have no problem with it. Uber is super sketchy - there really isn't any requirement, and it's pretty easy to login to the system and switch photos, so someone else could go through the minimal "vetting" process, and then just swap in my photo, and I could drive instead. I actually think the DMV took my dad's license away a while ago because his neurologist reported him, but he convinced them to give it back to him too. It's crazy. My dad does not take his Parkinson's medication regularly (even though he's had it for 20 years so it's fairly advanced), smokes a ton of weed and then speeds around town. He's really lucky he hasn't killed anyone (including himself) yet.
@doxiemoxie212@kfren MN is a no fault state when it comes to insurance and accidents which is both good and bad. Both parties insurances have to cover the costs in an accident so there is no arguing about what was who's fault but when something was clearly someone else's fault you will still end up paying some of the cost.
Also there was a news story here recently about a 99 year old man who had killed a young woman because he had gotten on the highway the wrong way. He had just passed a follow up test with the DMV.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke I'd never heard of no fault insurance rules! Are there any protections against them raising your premiums if they have to pay out because of an accident caused by someone else? That's the piece I worry about, otherwise it makes a lot of sense to me at first blush.
@kfren@doxiemoxie212 Right there with you. My grandfather has trouble lifting his legs at times (an issue, perhaps, when you need to do something like move from the gas pedal to your brakes?) and reversed into a friend's house a couple years ago. Thankfully no one was in the kids' bedroom his car ended up in. All of his doctors, financial advisors, etc. are still in a city 7 hours away, so he goes on long road trips solo all the time. It's a difficult situation because he's still mentally so sharp, but his body and reaction times have slowed down to a point where driving is just not safe. All to say... sorry you're dealing with this mess @kfren, and I hope it's sorted out soon.
@emiliadkay TX is a no fault state too (or was when I lived there). I think it's dumb, because your insurance goes up no matter who was at fault. I was in a pretty major car accident several years ago, where a car hit me and caused me to hit two other cars. The first car fled the scene. Even with 4 witnesses attesting to the events, the police still said it was my fault. And then, to make things worse, the officer wrote the wrong court date on my paperwork so for a day I had a bench warrant out for me. Luckily, I had paper proof of that, and I got it cleared up quick, but ugh! 7 years later it still rankles lol
@emiliadkay Thanks. So glad nobody was hurt in your grandfather's accident. I can't imagine how hard it must be to have your body and your mind out of sync. Especially in terms of pride and dignity. @May14th2011 Sorry you had to deal with someone else's mess. Stuff like that helps reinforce my desire for karma.
Argh. Remember how I said I didn't want a sprinkle? SIL texts DH about them planning to do a sprinkle and what did we need. DH texts her back with our small list, emphasizing we don't need any clothes because we have three large rubbermaid containers full from DS (Seriously, I had so many clothes I put him in a new outfit every single day just to use them all. And read that literally. Every day whether I went anywhere or not he was fully dressed in a new outfit). She texts back that she can't control peoples' desire to buy cute baby clothes. Ok, whatever, thanks them for wanting to do anything at all. "Well don't expect much of anything," she replied. "Think of it as just a party."
So the conversation went: "What do you need?" "We need just x and y, none of z." "Oh, well people will probably want to buy you z." "Well, okay, thanks for wanting to do this." "Well, you probably won't get much of anything."
Why are people so weird? I didn't want a sprinkle in the first place and wasn't expecting anything from anyone. Somehow she's still made us feel awkward and grabby. Le sigh. Maybe they'll just decide not to do it.
Can I just say that I'm done with some of the things being shared related to gun control on Facebook? I can see each side and I actually love reading some of the arguments and points, because I love learning new things and if there's something that will make me think a different way - why not? I may not change my point of view, but I can at least learn where others are coming from.
But with that being said, there's a quote going around from Stephen King saying that there are only two reasons/types of people who would ever own a semi-automatic weapon. Rednecks who go to the shooting range and get over-excited over the smell/sound of gunfire, and people who want to kill other people.
.. I'm sorry, but no. The rifles you're going to buy in the store to go hunting with? That's a semi-automatic. Owning that rifle for hunting does not make someone a crazy stereotypical "redneck", nor does it mean they want to kill other people. That's just so highly inaccurate and ignorant. That's the type of thing that you don't just click "share" on.
ETA: Or when people share that an AR-15 shoots like 40 rounds a minute. It doesn't. It's a semi-automatic rifle. It can only go as fast as your finger can go, and the casings can be ejected from the barrel. And AR =/= Assault Rifle. AR = ArmaLite Rifle.
Re: Rant on! (week of 2/12)
after 15 yrs, i have to get a new OB
.... then on the walk from exam room to her office, the nurse stopped her. And I guess they're letting her keep me through the pregnancy! I still want to cry that I'm losing her after. But i told her i will travel to any office for these check ups. And she put me in for a csection fri 5/25. Theeeeen she tells me 'we'll still talk. You'll call me. Like a friend' (She's a little foreign lady with broken sentences) then pulls out her phone for a selfie
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
.............and then we get there and they're only doing a pre fixe menu with no vegetarian options! So we had to just get in a cab and come home. Now we're waiting for delivery. Siiiiiiigh.
My dd was a friggen nightmare all last week. She slept bad, had an attitude, bawled a lot about who knows what, and was SO difficult with food and eating. Thats pretty much why i was not around here at all last week. She had a good weekend and has been better this week so far.
@doxiemoxie212 sorry about your dinner plans. I can't believe they wouldn't have a veg option!
@catlady1215 I'm sorry lady. That sucks. FX everything works out and she can be there!
AFM:
DDs sickness since November, besides the NORMAL cough and cold, and teething:
1. Strep Throat
2. Stomach Bug
3. Adnode Virus
4. Hands Foot Mouth
and now...
5. PINK EYE in both eyes.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
@2589 Cannot handle the unprepared. Have your access badge ready at the garage, your driver's license ready at the airport, and your credit card ready at the grocery store. We are strangers, but you still have to be respectful of my time and everyone else's!
@doxiemoxie212 What a disappointment. Valentine's Day is hard but, regardless of the outcome, I'm really proud of you and YH for making the effort. Especially post-kiddo, there will be so many times your plans are blown up (though I'll admit this particular one seems really unnecessary and infuriating), and the important thing is that you keep making the effort and showing up for each other, even when it would be so much easier not to.
No rants from me. I'm having one of my "think positively" resolution days. Don't worry, it'll burn off by lunch.
*edited to change the spelling of principal because pregnancy brain.
We filed a police report and he admitted to the officer that it was his fault. We have liability only, so our insurance isn't paying for anything.
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
My great-grandmother drove until she was in her early 90s, but she had never been in an accident, and drove her behemoth '77 Cadillac Coupe de Ville only around her neighborhood.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
Also there was a news story here recently about a 99 year old man who had killed a young woman because he had gotten on the highway the wrong way. He had just passed a follow up test with the DMV.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke I'd never heard of no fault insurance rules! Are there any protections against them raising your premiums if they have to pay out because of an accident caused by someone else? That's the piece I worry about, otherwise it makes a lot of sense to me at first blush.
@kfren @doxiemoxie212 Right there with you. My grandfather has trouble lifting his legs at times (an issue, perhaps, when you need to do something like move from the gas pedal to your brakes?) and reversed into a friend's house a couple years ago. Thankfully no one was in the kids' bedroom his car ended up in. All of his doctors, financial advisors, etc. are still in a city 7 hours away, so he goes on long road trips solo all the time. It's a difficult situation because he's still mentally so sharp, but his body and reaction times have slowed down to a point where driving is just not safe. All to say... sorry you're dealing with this mess @kfren, and I hope it's sorted out soon.
I was in a pretty major car accident several years ago, where a car hit me and caused me to hit two other cars. The first car fled the scene. Even with 4 witnesses attesting to the events, the police still said it was my fault. And then, to make things worse, the officer wrote the wrong court date on my paperwork so for a day I had a bench warrant out for me. Luckily, I had paper proof of that, and I got it cleared up quick, but ugh!
7 years later it still rankles lol
@May14th2011 Sorry you had to deal with someone else's mess. Stuff like that helps reinforce my desire for karma.
So the conversation went:
"What do you need?"
"We need just x and y, none of z."
"Oh, well people will probably want to buy you z."
"Well, okay, thanks for wanting to do this."
"Well, you probably won't get much of anything."
Why are people so weird? I didn't want a sprinkle in the first place and wasn't expecting anything from anyone. Somehow she's still made us feel awkward and grabby. Le sigh. Maybe they'll just decide not to do it.
I can see each side and I actually love reading some of the arguments and points, because I love learning new things and if there's something that will make me think a different way - why not? I may not change my point of view, but I can at least learn where others are coming from.
But with that being said, there's a quote going around from Stephen King saying that there are only two reasons/types of people who would ever own a semi-automatic weapon. Rednecks who go to the shooting range and get over-excited over the smell/sound of gunfire, and people who want to kill other people.
.. I'm sorry, but no. The rifles you're going to buy in the store to go hunting with? That's a semi-automatic. Owning that rifle for hunting does not make someone a crazy stereotypical "redneck", nor does it mean they want to kill other people.
That's just so highly inaccurate and ignorant. That's the type of thing that you don't just click "share" on.
ETA:
Or when people share that an AR-15 shoots like 40 rounds a minute. It doesn't. It's a semi-automatic rifle. It can only go as fast as your finger can go, and the casings can be ejected from the barrel.
And AR =/= Assault Rifle. AR = ArmaLite Rifle.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023