Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday 2/15

kburg15 · February 2018

Thank you!

lalala2004 · February 2018

lakesideknitter said:

@kburg15 @lalala2004 posted a really great article above (I think it was in this thread) about that very topic.

It was actually the WTF thread, so thanks @ecwk for reposting!

@kburg15 I only know of one mass shooting that was by a woman. So it has happened. Pretty rare, though. And it was a long time ago (before most of us were born, probably) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cleveland_Elementary_School_shooting_(San_Diego)

juliebird6 · February 2018

I just want to say thank you to @mrsbubbles-2 for sharing the link to find your representative. I've never contacted a rep before, but you bet your ass I did this time. Thank you for making it easy.

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

On the topic of a private group, I'm in when it happens. My original BMB with my 1st pregnancy split from TB at the end of the first tri, and we're still going strong at 80 members in a private facebook group 4 years later. My BMB with DS split when the GBCB chaos happened, which was I think around the beginning/middle of second tri too. That group has been a bit dramatic a handful of times and has split twice, but we still have a good 70+ members in there. Some of these ladies are my very close friends, and many of us have met up with at least one other in real life.

I understand privacy concerns, but it's also nice to see that these new friends are real people and learn more (in a non creepy way) about them via facebook. I'm fine with waiting until later in the second tri if that's the consensus, but it's so much easier to communicate on fb when on mobile.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

Wow ya'll, I missed a lot yesterday when I took the day off.

Personally, I would love to see us go to a private group, but I don't feel like we are ready for FB yet. There's still an awful lot of internal tension to start breaking out real names and contact info. Once we went to FB we had issues like members contacting other members spouses and screenshoting things that were said privately in the group. People know where people work. The trust needs to be established before FB.

pghctwife · February 2018

elsieisamoocow said:

On the topic of a private group, I'm in when it happens. My original BMB with my 1st pregnancy split from TB at the end of the first tri, and we're still going strong at 80 members in a private facebook group 4 years later. My BMB with DS split when the GBCB chaos happened, which was I think around the beginning/middle of second tri too. That group has been a bit dramatic a handful of times and has split twice, but we still have a good 70+ members in there. Some of these ladies are my very close friends, and many of us have met up with at least one other in real life.

I understand privacy concerns, but it's also nice to see that these new friends are real people and learn more (in a non creepy way) about them via facebook. I'm fine with waiting until later in the second tri if that's the consensus, but it's so much easier to communicate on fb when on mobile.

This allllllll 100%. I like the bump bc it’s familiar for me, I started on the knot 13 years ago (gulp!) but frankly, I don’t love the format anymore.

Im in 2 fb spin off groups for my jan 13 and June 15. Both are around 100 and so supportive. Esp my June group. I guess, I don’t know. My fb is locked down pretty tight. I’m in tons of fb groups and I just... don’t see the worry. I feel you can really talk more easily there and actually make friendships and connections that are harder here.

both groups formed before the 1/2way point, and around where are are now. I don’t feel it’s tpo early as we are moving out of the loss high risk time.

im
much more comfortable sharing on a secret fb group than a public board anyhow. Has nothing to do with one off posters.

As as someone who is mobile 100% of the time... yeah. Thebump sucks. If I use the website it crashed constantly. The app just sucks, drains my battery, autocorrects so awkwardly...

I’m not here to make it a thing, but once a few more ppl are ready imall in.

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

I don't think I'm ready for FB yet but I'm rarely on there anyway

Plus at work it's much more obvious if I'm on FB as opposed to the bump lol! I like the idea of a private group on here too but I also worry like others pointed out that we might miss out on some awesome new folks joining in 2nd tri.

My biggest thing is that if the trolls are going to keep popping up things can go south quickly and I don't want to see any of our members banned. I think we have an awesome group and it's sad that some people are apparently so bored in their lives that they troll pregnancy boards to stir up drama. Why????

And I doubt we've seen the last of Lee / Bree.

If the trolls weren't popping up on such a regular basis I'd be content to stay here.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

I see the private group as a happy medium. A lot of us continued to participate in the public group too and we would invite cool new people in to the private group. But personally, I don't share much private info in a public forum cause there are too many random weirdos out there.

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

Is there a private option on TB or is it on a different forum that's more mobile friendly?

@livinthesunnylife wow that's really creepy and unnecessary that people did that! I keep my public fb pretty locked down but luckily we haven't had any crazies like that in my groups.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@elsieisamoocow Yes, TB has private groups. Super easy to set it up if we want to start one. We could always do it and have chatter here and in there I guess?

calimom2524 · February 2018

Not that my opinion super matters here but I don't see the point in a private TB group. What does that acheive? Our identities are still just our TB sn's and our profile pictures so I don't really see the benefit of this "stepping stone"? Is there really a rush to go private at this point? It's a pretty select group that participates in the randoms so I kinda feel like that's sufficient for now. Maybe this is a UO?

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@calimom2524 The private group just means that you have to be part of the group to read the messages where any random troll or creepy dude that likes looking at pregnant women can check out the threads here.

juliebird6 · February 2018

Honestly, the thought of having to check in in a private group on TB PLUS here too stresses me out. I don't think I could be active in that many places.

lalala2004 · February 2018

I could see having a private group if
there were serious issues, but our one and only troll is pretty tame!

pghctwife · February 2018

Yeah I don’t see this group as having troll issues really... it’s tame really!

for me it’s the bump platform first off (so I’d rather not bother with a bump private group) and just... I dint even know how to explain it but there’s an intimacy that can develop more in the fb groups imo.

carrotsandpeas3 · February 2018

I understand the desire for a private group. There is a lot I won't share about myself until this is private. However, I can't see me being active in two separate groups on TB. If people aren't ready for the FB jump, then I think we should just hold off a bit. It does make me a little nervous for people to know who I am, where I work, etc at this point. As much as I love all of you, the horror story someone told earlier about their BMB FB group scared me off a bit.

pghctwife · February 2018

See my fb is locked down and I don’t have my employer listed. You can have a fb group without being friends - I think the mod usually friends ppl tp add them then unfriends.

And then as uoi you feel comfortable with ppl over time you friend them.

But it I spent hours this fall locking down my fb for family reasons so it means I have less worry about sharing in some of the groups I’m in

melissaf22 · February 2018

I would be all for a secret fb group because it would be a lot easier to use because I’m on the bump through mobile and it stinks!

hezzer78 · February 2018

I'm actually fine with TB for now. It's easier (and less obvious) for me to Bump at work from the website than it is for me to be on FB. I'm all for a FB group when we get a little further, but I'd like to get to know people here a little better first.

A private bump group is fine with me - but seems a bit unnecessary right now I think. I don't think our trolls are terrible and we may get a few new people still...

carrotsandpeas3 · February 2018

@pghctwife good point! I didn't think about the fact that we wouldn't have to actually all be friends on facebook. Given my full name though, I am very Google-able. So unless I was fake name as well, still feel very vulnerable? And having a fake name just brings me back to where we started! Probably being paranoid. I like to think all the girls that would join the group would only have good intentions.

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

I agree that it's unnecessary to do a private group if it's still on TB. I do think fb groups are easier, especially for the mobile bumpers, but obviously many of the regs are not ready for that switch yet, so coming back to this and hopping to fb when we're nearing the end of the second tri and know each other better is probably a good compromise.

lolog531 · February 2018

I’m all for a FB group once we reach that level, but for now I’m not sure I’m comfortable with it. My old bmb went to FB mid 2nd tri because of TB mass exodus at the time. I thought it was early, but it did thankfully work out. I’m just not sure I’m there yet at this point. I am a late Edd, so maybe that’s why I feel like we still have time where people could join, peace out, and we are still gaining trust here. I’m not sure I’m read to divulge my name, workplace, pictures of DS. I’m sure I’ll get there eventually though.

I also agree that I’m not sure a private TB group is necessary. It’s hard enough for me to pop on here everyday, and if I have to be in 2 places I don’t feel like I would be able to participate as much as I’d like. I also don’t want to feel like I’m missing anything if I only contribute one place over the other.

i know it was said in UO maybe to squash the discussion for now, I just wanted to give my two cents

Want a personalized experience?

Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday 2/15

Re: Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday 2/15

Choose Another Board

Search Boards