Ugh I hate seeing these school shootings. I can’t imagine how terrifying that is for children and how devastating it is for parents. It hurts my heart.
About MIL and overnights—I completely agree. If we would plan something and ask her to watch him, that would be one thing. But they live 15 minutes away and mostly only see him if we need a sitter and she mentions him spending the night somewhat frequently. He’s only 18 months so it’s not like he’s really old—she hasn’t had her 4 yr old twin grandchildren spend the night ever. He also doesn’t sleep through the night and I just picture him being inconsolable wanting me or DH. I used to spend the night at my grandparents’ all the time, but not that young just for “fun.”
I've been so angry this afternoon. I had to step away from facebook for a while because I could feel my blood pressure skyrocketing from all of the news. Seeing the videos kids took while hearing the shots makes my heart sink. Why is this our reality? Why didn't things change as soon as Columbine happened? When zero changed after Sandy Hook, I really lost hope. Now it's something that happens a few times a week and we're supposed to act like it's normal. I don't get it.
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It’s a somber time here. My friend wasn’t even able to pick up her child from daycare until hours later because of the shooting. The daycare was in to close proximity of the school. The children had to sit, there even though the person was in custody. So sad. This will impact our community for a while, not to mention it feels like we just had the airport shooting in Ft. Lauderdale. This is such a shitty feeling.
I remember one time we had an active shooter at Scott AFB and when I got home at 5, I couldn’t get my daughter from CDC. I just had the one. I couldn’t pick her up until 9pm. I took the rest of The week off just to mentally reset. Nothing worse then not being able to get to your child. And protect them.
Side note, CDC was in housing and the shooter had held up his whole family. Fortunately the family escaped and he only took his own life. Horrible day.
@dirtanddiamonds I remember that. So sad. It’s always so sad hey just had the incident at Ft. Meade today where NSA is too. Someone trying to get through the barricade. That’s 15 min away and my dad works there and we routinely go on base.
@Firemanswife11 I’m with you on the Valentines and crafts. I kind of felt bad DS’s were generic and store bought and he got a bunch of cute handmade ones, but to each their own! @calimom2524 I’m more just envious of the crafty moms because I just don’t have a crafty gene in me!
I just can’t even with these shootings. It makes me so sick. One of my best friends (one that I was just with In Cali) was at the concert in LV and a friend she was with was shot. Once that happened and hit so close to home, I just became even more disgusted. I also am just becoming more desensitized to it all at the same time.
@ssthomps I’m so sorry. It’s terrifying and sad and I’m also so angry these shootings keep happening and I feel so helpless. Ugh.
@calimom2524 I often feel so much pressure from Pinterest to do more and be more but I just can’t. We did store bought valentines but then I made DS write his name and decorate some foam hearts and we glued the store bought ones to the foam hearts. So, a little of both. I’m not very crafty but I did like watching ds draw. Messes make me crazy, though.
I wanted to share this article I read a while back, because it was really shocking to me when I read it. Because I’m all for gun control, but we can’t deny that their are some serious issues in our culture with the way men and boys are raised. So if you feel like you can’t do anything about this, as moms, particularly if you’re a boy mom, I think we can make an effort to raise our boys in such a way that they don’t fall victim to toxic masculinity. There are so many articles out there saying how to raise boys that aren’t rapist assholes, but few things address the way typical boy behavior is often stifled to the point of being detrimental to their mental state. Anyway, food for thought.
@lalala2004 ^^^ THIS. Please don't tell your boys to 'toughen up' or minimize their feelings. We need to teach our boys (and girls) how to understand and cope with their emotions without making them feel guilty for having them. I also believe that the 'toughen up, take it like a man' attitude directly contributes to rape culture.
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I am trying to play catch up here because after watching the news and balling my eyes out I just tuned everything out and read a book. I usually watch the news and want to learn what is going on but this was too much for me. I was a junior when Columbine happened and this reminded me so much of that. Hugs to everyone today. Be safe out there.
I always find myself extra keyed-up at work the day after things like this happen. I couldn't help thinking about where I'd hide my students when I sat in my classroom this morning. I was working in a nursery when Sandy Hook happened and the days following were horrible- it was so scary to revise the safety procedures to protect those little ones.
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@jsnakehole I am sure it is extra tough as a teacher. I worked in a daycare and always thought about what I would do. Hugs to you and all of the teachers! My husband and I have been talking about taking EMT classes so that we can at least have some knowledge of how to help if we ever have to.
These hormones and everything that has been going on with our country lately have me balling like a baby right now. Thank goodness I am working from home!
Shootings make my heart hurt. DH and I were talking last night that it's ridiculous that we'll likely need to talk to our baby what to do if there is a shooting when he goes to kindergarden.
Both my husband and I teach self defense, so at least we're slightly better informed of what to do if something happens but just needing to be informed is horrible.
Shootings make my heart hurt. DH and I were talking last night that it's ridiculous that we'll likely need to talk to our baby what to do if there is a shooting when he goes to kindergarden.
Both my husband and I teach self defense, so at least we're slightly better informed of what to do if something happens but just needing to be informed is horrible.
Such a difficult conversation to have with a kindergartener. How do you go about this? My daughter is four and she loves to go to school. I feel like I have to tell her there are bad people out there and she may need to protect herself from them. So sad. I couldn’t stop staring at her yesterday in awe of how innocent she is. She has no clue how cruel the world is and I am sadden for the day she figures that out.
I had the news on so my almost 5 year old has an understanding of what happened yesterday - I mean the basics and I just try to tell him there aren't good people in this world and sometimes people do thinks that aren't right. He just knows that it's "mean". It's so sad we have to have these even most basic talks with kids this young
We still have several years but for me it's more of making sure both him and his teacher are informed of what to do.
These guidelines may have changed but my understanding is that if you are in a place that can be secured against entry do that. If not you need to run. Hiding can be ineffective and hitting a moving target is difficult, especially if you're untrained.
My plan is to focus less on people and treat it more like what to do if there is a fire, tornado, etc.
I also went to a training for the workplace that said it's better to run towards and to the side of a shooter if you're in a big open space because it's harder for them to shoot if people are running to them, as opposed to away from them.
@lalala2004 thanks for that article. I remember reading it last fall and agreeing with it. Somewhat related: I was listening to my local npr station the other night and heard a snippet of a program about how we talk to kids about consent/sex/etc and the line that stood out to me was this: by age 9, girls lose their voice and boys lose their heart. That sentence absolutely broke my heart and I am 10000% committed to making sure my son isn’t made to feel shame for his feelings and emotions.
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About MIL and overnights—I completely agree. If we would plan something and ask her to watch him, that would be one thing. But they live 15 minutes away and mostly only see him if we need a sitter and she mentions him spending the night somewhat frequently. He’s only 18 months so it’s not like he’s really old—she hasn’t had her 4 yr old twin grandchildren spend the night ever. He also doesn’t sleep through the night and I just picture him being inconsolable wanting me or DH. I used to spend the night at my grandparents’ all the time, but not that young just for “fun.”
Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
I've been so angry this afternoon. I had to step away from facebook for a while because I could feel my blood pressure skyrocketing from all of the news. Seeing the videos kids took while hearing the shots makes my heart sink. Why is this our reality? Why didn't things change as soon as Columbine happened? When zero changed after Sandy Hook, I really lost hope. Now it's something that happens a few times a week and we're supposed to act like it's normal. I don't get it.
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Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Side note, CDC was in housing and the shooter had held up his whole family. Fortunately the family escaped and he only took his own life. Horrible day.
I just can’t even with these shootings. It makes me so sick. One of my best friends (one that I was just with In Cali) was at the concert in LV and a friend she was with was shot. Once that happened and hit so close to home, I just became even more disgusted. I also am just becoming more desensitized to it all at the same time.
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DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
@calimom2524 I often feel so much pressure from Pinterest to do more and be more but I just can’t. We did store bought valentines but then I made DS write his name and decorate some foam hearts and we glued the store bought ones to the foam hearts. So, a little of both. I’m not very crafty but I did like watching ds draw. Messes make me crazy, though.
things address the way typical boy behavior is often stifled to the point of being detrimental to their mental state. Anyway, food for thought.
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Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
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TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
My husband and I have been talking about taking EMT classes so that we can at least have some knowledge of how to help if we ever have to.
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Both my husband and I teach self defense, so at least we're slightly better informed of what to do if something happens but just needing to be informed is horrible.
These guidelines may have changed but my understanding is that if you are in a place that can be secured against entry do that. If not you need to run. Hiding can be ineffective and hitting a moving target is difficult, especially if you're untrained.
My plan is to focus less on people and treat it more like what to do if there is a fire, tornado, etc.