I'm always fascinated by everyone's story in regards to this question. We all got to where we are today in so many different ways.
How long did you and your SO wait before deciding to have children? What made you come to your decision?
**This is a judgement free zone! Whether or not you were married/dated for years or had a bit of an "oopsy", we are all in this together! So, let's show love and support.
Re: GTKY: How long did you wait until you decided to have a child?
We call our first child, our "seven year itch" as he was born right before our anniversary. This baby will be born before our tenth anniversary!
And then I'm done haha. No more.
Also fun fact on my side of the family between my cousins and siblings I'm the only one who didn't get pregnant or have a baby by their first wedding anniversary.
The real kick in the pants is we decided this past summer we were like 95% sure we were done having kids. We loved our family of 4 and felt like we were done...and then a month later we were pregnant with our current. We are still in shock that we have an "oops" baby but we couldn't be happier. This little guy will complete our family. I'll be 35 a few months after he arrives.
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I not only only graduated from college on time, but I graduated with honors with a bachelors degree in elementary education.
I got a teaching job as a kindergarten teacher right out of college, and one of my colleagues introduced me to my DH. We hit it off right away and we were married a little over a year after we met in September when I was 24. DH wasted no time and filed the adoption papers of my daughter, and he is the only father she’s ever known! (They met when she was 18 months old)
We got pregnant right after the wedding and, unfortunately we lost that baby. Having a D&C less than three months after you got married is not exactly the “honeymoon period” we were expecting.
We waited a little bit and ended up pregnant right when we first tried. Our beautiful son (now 8) was born in September of 2009.
I’m not the best at growing babies, so we thought our family of four was great.
In 2017, I had the IUD put in in March. I bled HEAVILY (heavy flow every.single.day) for two months and had them take out he Mirena after I passed out at the vet’s office in June with my two kids and a new kitten in tow. I was SO low on iron and my BP was very low due to all of the bleeding.
So the OB told me to start on the pill the day I got the IUD taken out since I hadn’t gotten my period yet. So I did. September 1st, I realized I hadn’t had a period yet (not unusual for my messed up body) so for peace of mind, I took a test.
Obviously it came up pregnant (right away, I might add!!) and it turns out that I was 8 weeks pregnant when I went in! I seriously couldn’t believe it!!
So we are SUPER excited but we were SUPER surprised. We still can’t believe that we will have three kids sometimes LOL
whew... long story. Props if you made it through all of that!
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Since it took us time to get pregnant with DS and he ended up being born a year later than I planned, we started TTC DD1 when DS was 10 months. For some reason my body decided to get pregnant on that first shot... cue shock. When DD1 was 10 months old, DH was ready to try again and I, fearing immediate pregnancy again, asked for two more months lol. I got my period back when DD1 was 12 months, we decided to TTC that cycle and well, here we are...
I have no plans to get pregnant when DD2 is 10-12 months. None at all. I have no leave left at work (I will have exhausted 10 years worth of stored leave through 3 maternity leaves at that point). And I'm pretty sure my body is wrecked. I desperately want to be able to take a night/weekend away with my husband without having to worry about breastfeeding/pumping or being pregnant... It's been nearly four years since we could do this. Saying all that....... part of me still feels like we might want another. /sigh. What if I don't feel done?!?!?!?!?!
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
my husband and I new each other for 8 years before we started dating then we were together for over a year when we got engaged. I wanted to start soon after but he wanted to wait. after about 9 months of being married we decided to pull the goalie and see what happened. after about 14 months of trying we started going to the Drs. we were getting ready to start our first round of Clomid when I still hadn't received my period so after a week of being late I took a rest and found out I was pregnant. I was over the moon excited and so happy to be starting our little family.
Mama to Rowan Sebastian and baby boy coming in April!
I was 33 and DH was 45, we knew we wanted two kids, and DH said no newborns after he turned 50, so that kinda made us realize it was go time. It took us a few cycles before I got pregnant. We got married in October 2014 and DS was born in September 2015.
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
When she was born and going through ohs in 2015, I had sworn off having anymore. I was unsure if my heart could handle anymore issues. We ended up with a surprise pregnancy in 2016 ( we had dtd once and it was the only time we hadn't used protection since ttc dd )I had bought big sister shirts and everything but
Tw it ended in a miscarriage right before thanksgiving end tw. I immediately went back on b.c. once my levels were 0. I didn't want another pregnancy and needed some time to emotionally heal.
In June I had talked my husband into trying again (realizing it was probably best for our family to try and give her a sibling that she can learn from and she can teach) and went off birth control at the end of June, had one period off of it, got pregnant the first week in August. This will be our last child as I can't handle being high risk from the beginning of a pregnancy and haven't exactly loved how some of the obs and genetic counselors have treated me.
my SO and I met April of 2016 and life just went by so quick, we bought a house in June of 2017 and I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant in September. Not a planned baby as we had just started traveling and bought the house we wanted to be married and settled more before having babies. But at the same time if it were up to my SO and we planned we would never had had a baby. We are so so excited to meet this little boy and have him be apart of our lives earlier than we had planned
After our son turned 1, we stopped using birth control again. We had been married 6 years at this point. Our coming daughter is due shortly after our 7 year anniversary.