Monday Bitch Fest 2/5

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

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What's got you all fired up this morning?

jsnakehole · February 2018

Music is being covered in my classroom this morning and I feel like I never get anything done when my preps are in my room. I can't even get my homework written on my board because the music teacher is using my board.

melprop · February 2018

The litter box, which we keep in the upstairs bathroom. I have been begging DH to clean it out for the last 3 weeks. He hasn’t. This morning I threw up from the smell. No shower for me today. When he finally cleans it out, I’m tempted to show DS how to scoop it out every day. Or just do it myself, wait for him to get mad at me, and remind him that he’s been letting the pregnant, puking girl do the majority of the housework because he’s “tired.”

laurad75 · February 2018

@melprop Ugh, that's so gross. I had an old roommate who was really lazy about cleaning the litter box for her cats and to this day I hold a grudge. I wish I had some advice about motivating him to get it done.

windywoman · February 2018

@melprop DH is on litter duty and he isn't too bad at cleaning it but, he acts so dramatic about it. I am surprised he doesn't wear a face mask and gloves. Wait until he has to change diapers! Also, he doesn't scoop it he dumps the whole pan in a bag. That defeats the whole purpose of buying scoopable litter.

I am super grumpy today. Everything is getting on my nerves and ticking me off. For example - There is a cleaning/maintenance man in my building and he is seriously the nicest guy in the whole world. He has beautiful voice and sings while he cleans. He was just outside of my office signing his head off and I just wanted to scream SHUT UP!!!!
I am over myself today!

hardlyhannah · February 2018

Idiot neglectful parents.

TW

Did anyone see the story about the 2yo that was found frozen on her porch? How can you not know where your kid is long enough that they freeze to death? I’m in tears over it and I just can’t believe parents like that even exist.

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

We had a small ice delay this morning but I wish I could've just stayed at home. Plus DS's daycare sent out that they got their first official flu confirmation over the weekend. I found out it was in the 2's room, which DS isn't in, but if I hear about it in the 3's or 4's (they share a giant space), I am not taking him to school!

I'm also starting to get grumpy because DH leaves Wednesday for 2 weeks, bleh.

ecwk · February 2018

we are going to owe about $4000 in taxes so yeah, that's my BF today.

Also @jsnakehole I hate not having my room during my prep - it's so annoying!

windywoman · February 2018

@hardlyhannah I read about it. It is heartbreaking! I don't understand how it could happen.
I have honestly been trying to avoid the news in general because it just makes me upset.

hardlyhannah · February 2018

@Brezzy1928 it was the second random sad story that made me cry today. I just need to avoid the internet i think

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

@Brezzy1928 totally feel you on the annoying voice thing. My co-worker whose office is beside mine has been on the phone for over an hour and she's loud and her voice is annoying and I really want to shut my door, but I can't. So I am trying to tune her out with my headphones on haha

calimom2524 · February 2018

I'm with @Brezzy1928 I am SO grumpy today. I have zero motivation to do anything and I have to interview two people for open positions today. I don't know how I'm going to remove RBF for these interviews.

delujm0 · February 2018

Let me tell you a tale about my Super Bowl Sunday.

DH is a life long Eagles fan, so he was amped up for two weeks about it. We invited some friends over to watch the game.

So Saturday night, DD2 woke up at 2am (I think teething?) and was fully awake until 4am, and then again at 6am, and 7am, and basically I was up at 2am and didn't really go back to sleep, between her waking up and DH snoring, etc. So I then spent half the day making food for our party. And then the party started, and of course DH had to watch the game, so I had to get both girls to sleep by myself, which took until halftime. And then at halftime I got to go downstairs and eat the (now cold) food that I had spent half the day making, and I started cleaning the kitchen. I cleaned up the perishable stuff but then I was like "fuck it" and told DH the rest of it was his problem, I was signing off. I watched the second half of the game and then went to bed around 10:30.

DD2 started crying at 11. At that point I had been awake for almost 24 hours, and I was done. I went out to tell DH to deal with her, only to see that he and his buddies were standing at the kitchen counter drinking, just STARING AT THE DISHES THAT HE COULD HAVE BEEN CLEANING. Whatever. So I assume he is going to take DD2, change her diaper, give her some Tylenol or maybe a bottle, and rock her back to sleep. instead, at almost midnight, he TAKES HER OUT OF HER ROOM AND INTO THE LIVING ROOM TO PLAY so he can keep drinking. Are you kidding. You never remove the baby from her room in the middle of the night. Then at 1 when he decided to come to bed, leaving every light in the house on, he just dumped her back in her crib, where she started crying full force again. I was like "ok what's the deal with DD2" and he was like "what, she's sleeping" so then I had to go deal with her for an hour to get her back to sleep. And then he started barfing. And of course when we got up this morning, I couldn't go to work, because he couldn't deal with the kids by himself like he usually does, and also my kitchen is still a disaster area. And I'm still tired. I am going to murder him.

Granted, this NEVER happens and he is usually extremely helpful and involved with the kids, but I don't care. We are 35 years old, he made a CHOICE to get drunk, knowing that his choice would make my life more difficult, and he didn't really care about it. I'm working from home today now and I think I'm going to just let the kitchen sit filthy and he can deal with it when he gets home. He dragged himself to the office today, I think because he knew if he stayed home I would have killed him. I hope none of his teams ever win anything ever again.

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

oh no @delujm0 I would've killed DH LOL He better come home with some flowers or something to make up for it. You definitely deserve to get out for a few hours ALONE.

princesslockness · February 2018

My MBF is at these roofers. It has been 9 business days of them working on a roof that is literally 30 ft x 120 ft. THEY STILL AREN'T DONE. WTF is taking so long? and Why do you have to have mariachi band blaring over my 'classroom' voice?!?!

calimom2524 · February 2018

oh hell no @delujm0 I'd be soooooo pissed. SO is still paying for the dinner we had last Friday (not 3 days ago but the one before) because I told him I wanted a date night that didn't revolve around alcohol and he proceeded to get hammered at dinner. So much rage for you.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@hardlyhannah oh no! I did not see that story, but now of course I have to google it....

princesslockness · February 2018

@delujm0 I'm sorry. He had better figure out that he F'ed up and how to fix it real quick.

ecwk · February 2018

@delujm0
Oh hell no. He had better apologise to you, and quickly!!

neeraja_k · February 2018

Yay, I can finally get it all out, I needed this! I've been in such a foul mood all weekend, and I don't really know what the deal is, I'm usually a pretty even-keeled person normally. I was on the warpath all Sunday it seemed like, and the only way to not rage scream was to take a nap. There were a lot of "naps" yesterday afternoon.

First bitch, I'd ordered some replacement headlights for my truck as my old ones were getting clouded over like they do and I was tired of having to do the kit to clear them up every month. DH got the new ones installed last weekend but never bothered to aim them, no biggie as we really don't go anywhere after dark these days anyway. He finally got around to it this weekend, but instead of using the little tool they included to do the aiming with, he used a socket wrench instead. So it's no wonder he over tightened the mechanism and it basically chewed through the plastic in the back and is now just hanging inside the headlight. Then he comes in to say I need to return the headlights, they're defective because they used a softer plastic than the OEM ones, blah blah blah. Thanks hun, glad I wasted $90 of Amazon gift cards there. Fuck you, too.

Second bitch, I am SO over my immediate family. SO OVER. My 93 yo grandmother has macular degeneration, she can't see for shit, and despite we had to get her driver's license yanked 4 years ago, she's still in denial she's blind as a bat. She's had joints replaced and didn't do the PT, so they don't work right and she doesn't have full range of motion in either arm or one knee. Other than her #1 and #2 incontinence, her increasing senility, and her growing aversion to bathing and personal care, she's quite healthy. So, she insists on living at home alone. But yet wants everyone to do all the things for her all the time. So she has 3 house keepers that come in every week, while she bitches about paying hundreds of dollars for it, and none of them ever do what she wants.

My mom (her daughter) is a narcissist and refuses to do anything with her or for her, short of paying her bills....despite all of us living in the same town. That's the extent of her contact or help that she provides. Meanwhile everything else falls on my shoulders and I'm getting increasingly emotionally wore out from it all. I take her to every appointment, and there's a lot when you're dealing with a senile hypochondriac doctor shopper. I do all of her grocery shopping and I make sure she's fed. I manage her schedule and her house keepers. My husband manages her medications, since we've had to lock them up in a lock box, so he fills up her daily pill sorter a couple of times a week. And occasionally I have to call to threaten her that there will be no hair appointments if she smells, so she needs to shower whether she does anything or not. Because that's a thing now.

No one knows we're wanting to move. No one knows I'm pregnant (I'm sure that's going to be a whole boatload of drama I don't want to experience atm). No one knows I'm going to doctor appointments every week it feels like. We've been softly pushing grandma to go to the local assisted living/nursing home, because she won't get taken care if mom has to do it on her own. They have a senior daycare option that's really inexpensive, like $12/hr and you can do anywhere from 2 hours to a full day if you want. I've offered to drive her. And I figured it'd be a segue into moving there, to get a feel for it and the staff, plus it gets her out of the house a couple of days a week to interact with other people. Right now she's at home 24/7, miserable, lonely, watching Faux News all day...so a miserable experience. But it's a really, really nice place and I think she'd enjoy it because there's daily activities, they go out for lunch a couple of times a week, they get bussed to go shopping, you name it, they do it. But I can't get mom to help on that push, I guess it's easier if you just let grandma die at home or something.

Oh and some scammer called grandma last Friday morning and she gave them her social security number. So I spent almost 3 hours calling every bank she has an account with, her credit card companies, her investment company, and credit bureaus to get her credit frozen and everything else with a watch in case of fraudulent charges. FFS

neeraja_k · February 2018

@delujm0 Ugh. I hope he makes it up to you! If it were me, I'd make it very clear that such a night would not be happening again.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@neeraja_k Yikes. I read all that. And you have every reason to be exhausted from it. I have a good friend who's grandma is that age and she just fell and broke a hip. Had she not been in a home, who knows how long she would have been on the ground until help comes. I hope you can convince her to move into a community where they can give her the help she needs.

Side note, I never understand why elderly folks resist these communities. If DH goes before me, I'm packing my bags and going to live with the other widow ladies so we can knit and do puzzles all day.

carrotsandpeas3 · February 2018

@delujm0 im sorry you had such a crummy weekend! Hoping your DH greatly makes things up to you this week.

@neeraja_k that sounds like a really tough situation. Maybe once you bring up the move, your family might kick it into a higher gear to get things set up for when you aren't there? Sounds like wishful thinking though. I hope you are able to relax a little this week.

My BF involves my DH like many of you guys. Two weeks ago, he asked me to cancel our dog walker for this week as he would be home early each day so we wouldn't need her to come by. Yesterday afternoon, he informed me that he was working late today. I am also working late (which he knew), so our dog will be left for ~14 hrs solo. I was able to call and last minute schedule the dog walker, but it really pissed me off. He couldn't understand why I was so upset, but I told him that this was something that couldn't happen next year when one of us needs to be able to pickup our kid from daycare by 6:30. I need to know every detail of his schedule. We already have a shared Google calendar, but he often "forgets to add things" until the last minute. I think I got through to him, but it just stressed me out more than necessary.

rocknrrollmom · February 2018

@delujm0 I have sympathy rage for you right now. Hope you can some rest and he makes up for it big time!!

neeraja_k · February 2018

@livinthesunnylife Thanks, I feel awful resenting everyone like I do. But you're right, it is exhausting. My husband and I have already said that it's going to take something drastic to get her out of that house, like a serious fall and a hip break. She's fallen about 9x in the last year alone, fortunately just bumps and bruises. Her house is a tri-level and it's all stairs, so give it time I guess. Given her past history of lackluster physical therapy, I'm afraid a hip break would be a death sentence. I'd rather she go now, and enjoy what she's got left with other people, than live in misery at home alone. But it's not my decision to make. =/

Firemanswife11 · February 2018

@delujm0 Dang, I would have been super upset about all that as well. Hope he makes up for it!

@neeraja_k Ughhhh. DH's grandma really refused going to a retirement community for a loooong time. It was awful. We'd (or her son, or daughter, my MIL, whoever) would go over there to do any number of things she needed done, and she'd have the stove on "for warmth" with mail sitting millimeters from it. She wouldn't take her own meds or anything. Anyway, my FIL finally convinced her to move last year and we ended up buying her house and reno-ing it. It's been quite a crazy year.

Anyway, hopefully when you mention moving, that'll kick your fam into gear. It really sucks when family gets old and literally takes advantage of everyone (whether they see it that way or not) but won't do the one thing that could help them the most. I feel for you.

calimom2524 · February 2018

@neeraja_k I'm sorry you're dealing with that. My grandma has dementia and she demanded she lived alone and wouldn't let anyone put her in a home. One night she left a pan on the stove and forgot she was cooking, thank GOD my uncle was going to her house that evening to check on her because we hate to think what would have happened if he hadn't. It was that night they made her sign over her medical care rights to my uncle and they placed her in a very nice home in her area. My dad battles depression very badly and told his brothers he can have nothing to do with any of the decisions for his own sake. It was a huge step for him as he's the oldest and that usually falls on the oldest, but he knew he couldn't handle it. For my big strong role model of a dad to relinquish something like that, it speaks volumes to what you are dealing with. That has to be so hard.

melbel0824 · February 2018

@delujm0 Oh no. That is absolutely horrible. I would be furious.

I was also annoyed last night during the super bowl, but luckily it was nothing to that extent. We have another couple living with us until April because they needed a place to stay and get on their feet. That's a whole other Bitchfest. Anyway, the guy is a huge Eagles fan, so as we're watching the game last night he's getting excited and loud and shouting, which I totally understand. Except my 90 pound German Shepherd doesn't like it when anybody yells so he was shaking and anxious the whole time. Like come on dude, you can see you're upsetting the dog so take it down a notch.

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

@livinthesunnylife I'd move in one of those places right now if not for the pesky age restrictions!
@neeraja_k The above isn't meant to make light of your situation - that is a lot that you've got going on. I'm so sorry. I hope the day care solution will help ease the transition because you've got a lot that you're carrying. I'm sorry.
@delujm0 I would be absolutely livid! I'm so sorry, it sounds like a rough weekend all together.
@princesslockness - can you talk to the Principal and let him/her know that the roofers are distracting your students? Maybe he/she could talk to the foreman on the job and at least have them knock it off with the music.

mbrowling · February 2018

@delujm0 I woke up this morning to an apology note taped to the cabinet due to my dh immaturity at the super bowl party/ unwillingness to leave after it was over even though our 2 yr old was still awake and we had a 40 min drive home

lalala2004 · February 2018

My bitchfest is Dodge trying to use MLK Jr to sell trucks. Wtf? No.

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

@neeraja_k I sympathize. I don't know what it is about the older generation and their lack of admitting they need help. Or maybe they were like us once and said they would take it but something switches off when they get to the point where they really need it.

My grandfather just passed away from dementia in Scotland, so it's just my grandmother over there now. When we were there, we tried to get her squared away health wise and get her to put my mom on a power of attorney. She wouldn't. We asked her to get a hearing aid because she's deaf and almost got ran over when we were there because she didn't hear a car...oh and she's driving too. She wouldn't. I don't get it!

princesslockness · February 2018

@neeraja_k Could you force her to sign over power of attorney or medical power? If she is blind, can't legally drive, and everything else You could potentially have a doctor say that she isn't competent enough to handle all her ish. Then you could do what needs to be done.

princesslockness · February 2018

Double post, it posted too soon.
@mrsbubbles-2 He didn't know they were here until last Friday. After I complained about the varnish smell, propane leak/smell, and the pounding he finally asked what was causing all of this. I explained that we had roofers and it was a serious disruption to listen to them and smell the cigarettes they were smoking/leaving on the ground every time I left/came into the building; he called our district office and from what he relayed was basically told to suck it up as it needed done and we could deal with it.

livinthesunnylife · February 2018

@princesslockness smoking on school grounds isn't illegal? I thought it was illegal everywhere?

dirtanddiamonds · February 2018

I am being lazy so no tagging. But...

the DH partying and leaving the crying kiddo to play. Yeah. I’d be livid. Probably would’ve kicked everyone out.

Sick grandparents, we just lost my grandma this past fall. About a month before BFP. And, her last 6-8 weeks was in a home. She was so sad. But she was in such bad shape. She stopped eating. She refused all meds. Which is probably why she went very quickly but it was hard to watch. I wanted to take her home with me every day. I know how painful it is to make the decision of a home or not. Sadly, she was my last living grandparent, so we won’t have to do anything again anytime soon. Hopefully my older sister will be the gatekeeper when we have to make decisions for my folks.

My BF is solely the snow. School is in session today but many are closed. But I couldn’t get my car out of my driveway (mile long gravel driveway in country)... it’s a challenger, so it’s not made for slick snowy icy roads. I let the girls sleep in and skip the bus because we were up late but then we couldn’t go anywhere. So everyone is home today. Oh well...
and another winter storm coming tomorrow. Biggest in 3-4 years. No. No. No. Go away winter. I’m over it. I hate it.

neeraja_k · February 2018

@scottishlass1213 Ugh! How terrible for her to be over there alone now, and still so stubborn. =(

@princesslockness My mom has power of attorney for financials, I'm not sure if it extends to medical type stuff. I would assume so. But you can see with my mom having it, nothing gets done for the better, just more status quo. Anything else is too much work and would require her actually having to leave the house and be an adult. Ever since my dad died she refuses to leave the house, except to go buy cigarettes and shit off of infomercials.

Grandma has enough money squirreled away in investments and monthly pensions coming in that she could live comfortably in any assisted living facility of her choice to the end of her life. For a woman who loved spending money, and still does when it comes to $8000 reading machines she refuses to use, but when it comes to maintaining her care at a facility? Nope, can't spend that. It just beggars belief.

Her own 96 yo sister passed away last year and the last year of her life, also in her own home, was depressing to find out about. Living alone and blind in Indianapolis, no friends or family to check in on her, no one to take care of her, incontinent and didn't want to admit it or use products for it, so she sat around in her own filth day after day, and too poor to get help (in her opinion). A neighbor hadn't seen her get her mail in a few days and broke in and found her unconscious on the floor. Her intestines had apparently ruptured from a cancerous tumor she never got seen to and she laid there for two or three days before he found her. She was amazingly still alive, but only lived for a couple of weeks in agony in hospice. And grandma is terrified, literally terrified, that she's going to go the same way. But yet, I can't get her to change anything with her life to keep that from happening. We did insist she have one of those "Help I've fallen and can't get up" necklaces, and she finally relented thankfully but it's a minor thing.

I've looked at the local assisted living facility's schedule of activities for February and it looks pretty fun, I think, I mean c'mon, SkipBo Marathon! So I think I'm just going to schedule her for a couple of hours a couple days a week, pay for it out of my own pocket, and take her there. Because she's never going to agree to it willingly, and something needs to change for the better. =/

Thanks for listening to me vent guys, it's overwhelming my mind these days and I feel like I can't enjoy my pregnancy so far and think of all of the fun things associated with that as a first time mom, for having my mind cluttered with "What about grandma?" or "What'll mom think?".

elsieisamoocow · February 2018

So many hugs to all of you ladies!

@delujm0 Oh hell no. He deserves to be in the doghouse for a while for that. I would be pissed.

Re: sick grandparents - That's so difficult. Both of my grandfathers have passed, and I thankfully still have both grandmothers still, but my Oma is in rough shape. She has some health issues, like COPD from her many years of smoking, and she had a stroke last year. She really went downhill after her husband died in 2015 right after DS was born. We're pretty shocked that she's still with us, honestly, as she's been on and off of hospice for the past year and a half. She was living in VA and my parents are in CO, but my aunt and her family are in NC, so they were trying to decide if she should go to CO and live in a home, or NC and live with my aunt or in a home. My aunt was adamant that she wanted her at her house, but they fight like cats and dogs all the time, and I still really think she would be better off in the nice home they found her that was brand new, but my aunt said no to that. I'm just not looking forward to dealing with all of this when my parents are old. I'm an only child, so it'll all be up to me, and that's so stressful! I think my mom would accept the help and be willing, as long as I found her a place where the people are lively and like to play games and do fun things, but I'm not so sure my dad would if he was the one having to go. Ugh I'm glad that's still hopefully 20-30 years away.

My bitchfest is DS. He's going through some sort of phase right now where he is just being a monster. He seems to have some separation anxiety from me, which makes sense because I'm a SAHM and we're very close, but it's only at his dance class that it happens. I can drop him at a friend's house no problem and he'll be fine for hours, but his dance class, which he LOVES, the past couple of weeks he has just flat out refused to let me leave. I'm going to have to start dropping him and leaving immediately again, which is what I had to do when we first started. I'm just glad I didn't spend the whole class crying again due to these hormones!

windywoman · February 2018

neeraja_k That is a tough situation. I actually just watched a show about caregivers and how hard it is for them. How basically it becomes a second job or in some cases a full time job to take care of someone who is sick,elderly etc. I feel for you and I hope you can find some solution that works for you.

@dirtanddiamonds I am so over winter! We haven't had too much snow but I am just sick of the cold and everything being dirty. I feel like winter is so gross.

Ladies I wish I could send everyone some brownies or something. Hopefully the day gets better for everyone. I can't wait to go home and sleep and start over tomorrow.

mrsbubbles-2 · February 2018

Team grumpy and hating all the people today. One of my office-mates has a laugh like Krusty the Clown and something is highly amusing to her today.

scottishlass1213 · February 2018

@mrsbubbles-2 i'm cracking up over here picturing that hahahaha

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