@pourmeamocktail Yes to the pink and ruffles! So glad we didn't know for that reason too. DD ended up getting so many cute dinosaur outfits that I know we wouldn't have gotten if people had known it was a girl.
@Spylon@pourmeamocktail@chillmama1518 Irritating people is one of the biggest (and best) perks of not finding out. Working in Radiology I am going to try my best to have my friend scan me just to watch baby grow over the next few months. I will probably end up doing the same thing and have someone buy a going home outfit for me.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
It’s gonna be an interesting transition, dd had cystic fibrosis, which involves almos an hour of therapy am & pm, + meds with meals. It sounds harder than it is because this is or norm. I’m hoping to get DD a little more independent with some steps before this one arrives.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
DD has been asking for a brother or sister lately, all on her own. I’m super excited to be able to give her a sibling. DH and I have been in agreement that our family just wasn’t complete yet, and finally agreed it was time to change it!
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
A lot will depend on if this lo has cf or not. DD was easy in spite of her special health needs, I didn’t mind the baby phase, I’m hoping it all comes back just as naturally. So I guess keep things the same mostly. Only stock pile some freezer meals this time around!
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
*I didn't see a more recent thread for STM+ check in, so I'm going here...*
How far along are you? 5 + 4... I think. I really don't know because I didn't have regular periods.
How old are your other kids? 3 yo boy (D14) and 15m girl (O16)
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm just really nervous about being outnumbered! Trying to figure out how we'll get into a routine, which I know will be hard with a newborn, but he/she will just have to go with the flow. Praying I get a relatively easy baby -- my first two were super mellow. We also moved to a new state in 2017, away from all of my family. So I'm really nervous about not having the support system I had when both of my kids were newborns.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM+ : I absolutely LOVE being a mom, being pregnant, the whole bit. I cannot wait to have another newborn. I'm crazy, I can survive on little sleep. I just love it all. I'm super excited, nervous of course and shocked since this was sooner than we expected.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same? I'll be going for a 2nd VBAC -- my first was a CS because he was breech, my second was a successful unmedicated (and FAST) VBAC. But they were born in California. We moved to Texas and I'm going to have an entirely different midwife team, which makes me nervous. I'm still hoping for unmedicated, and I still plan on skin to skin and EBF right away. But I'm also going to listen to my body and to my baby and not stress out if things don't go according to plan. I learned that from my DS with his birth, and my DD with her breastfeeding journey.
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16) DS born 12.13.14 DD born 10.15.16 BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18 BFP 4.25.19, EDD 12.31.19
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I am worried the kids will grow up to nearly hate each other.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I'm currently happy about the idea that DD will have a sibling. I don't know, it doesn't seem too real yet so I haven't had time to really think too hard yet.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
My biggest goal is for DH to be able to be there while I'm in labor. He had to be nearly across the country for a class last time.
@knitknitread I have the same concern w dd and baby getting along. Dd just turned 4 and will be almost 5 when this one arrives, and I know she’ll be a great helper, but I’m not sure they are gonna love the age gap...
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@jhjocelyn DD will have turned 5 a few months before. She's really excited and she'll be great at helping. I'm not so much worried about how she reacts right away.
I'm more worried about when they're teenagers and adults. I've got a really crappy relationship with my own brother and I hope my kids don't end up like this
@Spylon@pourmeamocktail@chillmama1518 Irritating people is one of the biggest (and best) perks of not finding out. Working in Radiology I am going to try my best to have my friend scan me just to watch baby grow over the next few months. I will probably end up doing the same thing and have someone buy a going home outfit for me.
I don’t work in radiology, but we have a FAST ultrasound in our department that we play with when someone is pregnant when it’s not busy on nights. I am team green and haven’t had an ultrasound OR an appointment yet which is killing me (almost 10 weeks!). I work nights tomorrow night so you can guess what I’ll be playing with to occupy some time!
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
This pregnancy is really rough compared to my first, the MS is way worse and borderline unbearable. I am worried I won't be able to keep up my mommying on top of running a care home (I run a carehome in my home) plus adding another one to the mix so quickly. I am excited for 2 yet scared of how I will do it all!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
We struggled with conceiving DS so I am so excited that it happened for us so fast this time and that we get to have a sibling for DS. We always hoped to have more children but weren't sure if it would happen for us.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
Hopefully a smoother labour... I hope to be more willing to ask for help if I need it. I had PPA last time around and I tried to tough it out and I wish I would have reached out more for emotional support and help.
@jhjocelyn DD will have turned 5 a few months before. She's really excited and she'll be great at helping. I'm not so much worried about how she reacts right away.
I'm more worried about when they're teenagers and adults. I've got a really crappy relationship with my own brother and I hope my kids don't end up like this
I worry about the same occasionally. I have a few brothers and all but 1 of us all get along. The 2 that fight the most have a 2 year age gap, which is what my kids will be, so once in a while I find some worries in my head. I just try to focus on my BFF and her sister - they are 2 years apart and are best friends. It helps to stick to thinking about the good relationships I see IRL.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
@knitknitread@jhjocelyn@DanyTargaryen I guess my situation fits both. My sister is a year and half younger than me (so close-ish to 2) and my brother is 5 years younger than me. We had our fair share of spats (mostly my sister and I) but now that we're older and my parents are on the other side of the world, we've become really close. My sister is actually pregnant right now and we skype several times a week. So it's possible to have a good outcome. I personally give the credit to my parents. Especially my mom always emphasized that we were the closest friends we could have, being related and all, so it was important to love each other. But I'm sure there were weeks and months when she was afraid we'd grow up to hate each other too.
Thanks for the encoraging comments! Sorry I was mia, I lost my phone over the weekend... found it in the snow thankfully undamaged! Phew!
My brothers are 4 & 5 yes older than me, ir wasn’t until adulthood my oldest brother and I got along. My bff had a sister 5 years younger than also had a rougher childhood but bwtyer as adults. So I’m cautiously optimistic that maybe just the tween/teen transitional years will be rough...?
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
Sorry if this is a repeat question and I missed it, but are there any former team greeners who are planning on finding out this go around? Or reverse, anyone who found out last time, but plans to be team green this time?
We’ve considered not finding out since we have one of each but it would make naming harder, and I want the least amount of stress possible.
How old are your other kids? One DS who is 20 months old.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I have no energy. Of course, drinking minimal caffeine does not help. My little boy has a ton of energy, so I feel guilty not being quite as active as with him. I try to find more sitting down activities. I sure hope this feeling passes.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: My husband and I planned ttc around this time, as we wanted this particular age gap between children. My hopes are my son will love having a sibling.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same? I would like to not be so hard on myself, and ignore the unsolicited parenting advice. I want to continue to grow confidence in my ability to parent. Also, set aside my pride and ask for help when needed.
Re: STM+ Discussion w/o 1/10
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
Irritating people is one of the biggest (and best) perks of not finding out. Working in Radiology I am going to try my best to have my friend scan me just to watch baby grow over the next few months. I will probably end up doing the same thing and have someone buy a going home outfit for me.
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018
How old are your other kids? DD just turned 4.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
It’s gonna be an interesting transition, dd had cystic fibrosis, which involves almos an hour of therapy am & pm, + meds with meals. It sounds harder than it is because this is or norm. I’m hoping to get DD a little more independent with some steps before this one arrives.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
DD has been asking for a brother or sister lately, all on her own. I’m super excited to be able to give her a sibling. DH and I have been in agreement that our family just wasn’t complete yet, and finally agreed it was time to change it!
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
A lot will depend on if this lo has cf or not. DD was easy in spite of her special health needs, I didn’t mind the baby phase, I’m hoping it all comes back just as naturally. So I guess keep things the same mostly. Only stock pile some freezer meals this time around!
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
How far along are you? 5 + 4... I think. I really don't know because I didn't have regular periods.
How old are your other kids? 3 yo boy (D14) and 15m girl (O16)
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm just really nervous about being outnumbered! Trying to figure out how we'll get into a routine, which I know will be hard with a newborn, but he/she will just have to go with the flow. Praying I get a relatively easy baby -- my first two were super mellow. We also moved to a new state in 2017, away from all of my family. So I'm really nervous about not having the support system I had when both of my kids were newborns.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM+ : I absolutely LOVE being a mom, being pregnant, the whole bit. I cannot wait to have another newborn. I'm crazy, I can survive on little sleep. I just love it all. I'm super excited, nervous of course and shocked since this was sooner than we expected.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same? I'll be going for a 2nd VBAC -- my first was a CS because he was breech, my second was a successful unmedicated (and FAST) VBAC. But they were born in California. We moved to Texas and I'm going to have an entirely different midwife team, which makes me nervous. I'm still hoping for unmedicated, and I still plan on skin to skin and EBF right away. But I'm also going to listen to my body and to my baby and not stress out if things don't go according to plan. I learned that from my DS with his birth, and my DD with her breastfeeding journey.
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18
Ummm...somewhere in the later end of 5 weeks?
How old are your other kids?
DD is 4 y/o
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I am worried the kids will grow up to nearly hate each other.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I'm currently happy about the idea that DD will have a sibling. I don't know, it doesn't seem too real yet so I haven't had time to really think too hard yet.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
My biggest goal is for DH to be able to be there while I'm in labor. He had to be nearly across the country for a class last time.
I have the same concern w dd and baby getting along. Dd just turned 4 and will be almost 5 when this one arrives, and I know she’ll be a great helper, but I’m not sure they are gonna love the age gap...
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
I'm more worried about when they're teenagers and adults. I've got a really crappy relationship with my own brother and I hope my kids don't end up like this
8 weeks with my new DD of Sept 9
How old are your other kids?
DS just turned 1 this month
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
This pregnancy is really rough compared to my first, the MS is way worse and borderline unbearable. I am worried I won't be able to keep up my mommying on top of running a care home (I run a carehome in my home) plus adding another one to the mix so quickly. I am excited for 2 yet scared of how I will do it all!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
We struggled with conceiving DS so I am so excited that it happened for us so fast this time and that we get to have a sibling for DS. We always hoped to have more children but weren't sure if it would happen for us.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
Hopefully a smoother labour... I hope to be more willing to ask for help if I need it. I had PPA last time around and I tried to tough it out and I wish I would have reached out more for emotional support and help.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
My brothers are 4 & 5 yes older than me, ir wasn’t until adulthood my oldest brother and I got along. My bff had a sister 5 years younger than also had a rougher childhood but bwtyer as adults. So I’m cautiously optimistic that maybe just the tween/teen transitional years will be rough...?
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
How old are your other kids? One DS who is 20 months old.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I have no energy. Of course, drinking minimal caffeine does not help. My little boy has a ton of energy, so I feel guilty not being quite as active as with him. I try to find more sitting down activities. I sure hope this feeling passes.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
My husband and I planned ttc around this time, as we wanted this particular age gap between children. My hopes are my son will love having a sibling.
GTKY: What do you hope or plan to do differently this time around? The same?
I would like to not be so hard on myself, and ignore the unsolicited parenting advice. I want to continue to grow confidence in my ability to parent. Also, set aside my pride and ask for help when needed.
Great discussion post!