I’m having trouble deciding who I want in the delivery room since the father and I aren’t together. (LONG STORY). Please help.
I guess I'm not sure how to help because this is a pretty personal decision. For example, some people have to have their moms in the room, while I would never want my mom there. I don't really know your family's dynamics or who you have for support as far as friends go.
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I think it comes down to who you're the most comfortable with. Labor is the most vulnerable you will ever be in life and you don't need anyone that will prey on that vulnerability. I know that's a very general and obvious answer, but that's the most I got. Good luck to you.
People to think about are close friends and family members. You want one, two people tops. (That's all that's allowed at my hospital anyway.) Keep in mind that you will want this person to attend birth class(es) with you and be informed about the birthing process. You'll want time to talk to them about your birth preferences. Most importantly, this has to be someone you trust to understand and help communicate your choices when (possibly) pressured by medical staff. Someone who won't panic in stressful situations so that you can focus on yourself and your baby. Good luck and good health!
Don't know your situation but I would choose a sister, best friend, or mom. Someone you're close with that you don't mind seeing you at your absolute worst.
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Also, please feel free to post in our introductions thread and participate in other threads so we can get to know you. It's a lot easier for us to help and give advice if we feel like you're actually a part of our community and not just a stranger.
Keep in mind that you will want this person to attend birth class(es) with you and be informed about the birthing process. You'll want time to talk to them about your birth preferences.
Most importantly, this has to be someone you trust to understand and help communicate your choices when (possibly) pressured by medical staff. Someone who won't panic in stressful situations so that you can focus on yourself and your baby.
Good luck and good health!
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