BFP #1 October 2008 | m/c Thanksgiving weekend | November 2008 | 7 weeks 2 days BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
Testing on mom and dad for possible reasons all came back normal.
BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks
BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
Testing results all returned normal and baby was a GIRL.
More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results. BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap & tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap & tell them about me?" All are welcome!
We are going to announce shortly on Social media, as I finally let work know. It is not a HUGE secret, as we have been sharing in person with folks.
On the naming front, my Mom and Dad were teachers and so have some definite opinions on names. And as we were one of the last ones to have kids in their circles I heard all the play by play of all the other kids names so... we keep em close to the vest. When we named DD we had a short list, middles decided. Named her when we met her. We are going to go the same way with DS....
Mama to a wonderful DD - Sep 2015, Wife to my DH since 2011, 2 dogs, a cat, and hoping to add No. 2 in May/June 2018. Canadian. 5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD. 3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice.
My UO is the use and abuse of "emotional support animals" that are not service animals. I feel like there is so much gray area in policies that people take advantage.
Somewhat related, people who state they have a food allergy that they don't actually have while dining out. It means the restaurants go through a lot of unnecessary accommodations and it could mean people who have actual allergies don't get taken as seriously.
I think the deal with grandparents is that it depends on the people filling those roles. My dad and sister and my grandparents are fantastic people and I am comfortable with sharing with them and with whatever reactions they'll have. My mother on the other hand, as I've discussed here before, is another story. She's already at arm's length and she's over the top with the pomp and circumstance when it comes to my life and my children. She's caused problems for every happy event in my life thus far, and I expect no different in the future. So I keep my appointments, due date, baby gender, and names all to myself. I've also removed her from most of my social media, everything except FB. I still haven't posted an announcement on there. At this point it's entirely possible that I might not do so at all. I'm actually thinking about just using my fb for my bump groups and ceasing it for personal posts.
About names...we honestly won't have the name until we have the baby. We have 3 days after birth to do the birth certificate, so whatevs. With my son, we had 3 names on our shortlist and picked the 2 that fit him best. He was named a few hours after he was born.
I'm starting to awkwardly announce at work and spreading the word to friends. I don't post much personal stuff on FB. I have way too many FB friends to feel comfortable actually sharing much real stuff there anymore. I should probably do a drastic friend pruning but meh.
I don't really mind the grandparents posting pics or baby news, as long as I get a heads up. I had an uncomfortable confrontation with my dad after my LO was born because he posted ALL the pics we sent, including ones in which I was smeared in blood from the baby and scantily clad minutes after birth. It was way invasive, but I think he is of a generation that just doesn't get that somehow. He felt terrible about it and I think we have an understanding now.
-I think it's every parent's right not to want other people sharing their child's photo/updates on social media. We don't post pictures of DSS. I expect others not to post pictures of DSS. My mother has hundreds of friends that she knows purely from the internet ("religious" friends, and people that contact her to scam her but she keeps them on her page anyway...), so if she were to start sharing pictures of DSS or this LO, I'd be flipping isht.
-While I have no issue sharing LO's name before birth, I don't think anyone should be pressured to do so. Most of the reasons I've heard are kind of ridiculous ("I don't want people to not like it" -- and they suddenly will once baby is born?), but that's their prerogative.
-No one should be made to feel bad for not posting everything about their life on Facebook or other social media sites. Just because someone's pregnant doesn't mean they have to share every update they have online. Nor do they have to share the news about the pregnancy online at all.
Apparently these are all actually unpopular, from what I've read.
My UO is I'm not anti insurance companies.... I'm more get global health costs under control. Maybe I'm biased working for a top 3 health insurance company, but I'm so irritated when insurance companies get the wrath for coverage, high premiums etc...I work in commercial sales and have a lot of exposure to claims, risk, trend, general underwriting and it's insane what insurance is billed! It's like hey look, insurance is paying what they are billed from providers. You know that $2500 ultrasound I had last week... Yeah insurance had to pony up the contracted rates with the provider. I really wish healthcare cost from the pharmaceutical, and GE's of the world just cost less so insurance didn't have to recoup so much per test! Understandably, pharmaceuticals and advancement of technology help with progression of cures, treatment ect just annoyed that insurance company's are always the first to take blame.
@stephcat421 - I've looked at how my insurance company drops the prices on things because of their agreements with places, and it's insane how the difference can be between what the hospital will charge and what their agreement is with insurance.
I remember reading about how much the cost of healthcare is in other countries versus the U.S., and it's definitely an issue with the health care system, not the insurance company. Why does one procedure cost $40,000 in our country, but $10,000 in another (with similar rates for infections, errors, etc.)?
The episode of Adam Ruin Everything on healthcare is actually really informative on the relationship between providers and insurance and the cost of healthcare in America.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@izza2 amen! Don't get me wrong, insurance companies are still for profit so they def aren't innocent but, our system as a whole really needs to be the basis for reform. @krashke I'm going to look into that, thanks!
I guess this isn't that unpopular based off the discussion, but I don't like it when anyone states their affection via social media, whether to their child or spouse or whoever. Like, I'll post pics of MH and I sometimes, but I never go on about how much I love him or anything. It seems weird to me, like you need other people to know who you love.
Omg yes. Like, go into the next room and tell them you love them.
Re: UO Thursday 1/18
BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks
BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
All are welcome!
On the naming front, my Mom and Dad were teachers and so have some definite opinions on names. And as we were one of the last ones to have kids in their circles I heard all the play by play of all the other kids names so... we keep em close to the vest. When we named DD we had a short list, middles decided. Named her when we met her. We are going to go the same way with DS....
5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD.
3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice.
Somewhat related, people who state they have a food allergy that they don't actually have while dining out. It means the restaurants go through a lot of unnecessary accommodations and it could mean people who have actual allergies don't get taken as seriously.
I'm starting to awkwardly announce at work and spreading the word to friends. I don't post much personal stuff on FB. I have way too many FB friends to feel comfortable actually sharing much real stuff there anymore. I should probably do a drastic friend pruning but meh.
I don't really mind the grandparents posting pics or baby news, as long as I get a heads up. I had an uncomfortable confrontation with my dad after my LO was born because he posted ALL the pics we sent, including ones in which I was smeared in blood from the baby and scantily clad minutes after birth. It was way invasive, but I think he is of a generation that just doesn't get that somehow. He felt terrible about it and I think we have an understanding now.
Chicago is a stupid name for a baby
DS born 9/24/2020
-While I have no issue sharing LO's name before birth, I don't think anyone should be pressured to do so. Most of the reasons I've heard are kind of ridiculous ("I don't want people to not like it" -- and they suddenly will once baby is born?), but that's their prerogative.
-No one should be made to feel bad for not posting everything about their life on Facebook or other social media sites. Just because someone's pregnant doesn't mean they have to share every update they have online. Nor do they have to share the news about the pregnancy online at all.
Apparently these are all actually unpopular, from what I've read.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
I remember reading about how much the cost of healthcare is in other countries versus the U.S., and it's definitely an issue with the health care system, not the insurance company. Why does one procedure cost $40,000 in our country, but $10,000 in another (with similar rates for infections, errors, etc.)?
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18