@calimom2524 I 100% agree! I feel like we are doing all the work and at the end they still get to claim this beautiful baby that we birth! All the nausea, soarness, weight gain, being poked and prodded, and not to mention child birth itself! Totally worth it, but please clean the house without me having to ask!
Is it an UO to want to be a SAHM? It’s what I reaaallly want to happen after #2. I plan to take the first half of the year off and go back from feb-jun and then just stay home. I don’t love my job that much and I find juggling everything so hard. I stayed home for 5.5 months after I had DS and it was so much easier and far more enjoyable for me than going back to work. I know that toddlers are different and 2 will be harder than 1 but I get so envious of my SAHM friends and their play dates and all that. I love to hang out with DS at home, that would make me truly happy. Which I sort of feel guilty for because my parents worked really hard to get me a very good education and I wouldn’t really be using it if I was staying at home. Sorry for rambling!
@ecwk I just see it as temporary, so you would go back to work eventually. I’m able to work part time, and it’s really nice to have a little of both worlds.
@lalala2004 I don’t think I would...I also need the flexibility of being able to go to Ireland at the drop of a hat and I can’t really do that if I am working...it’s something on my mind a lot as my parents get older...and I get very homesick, I just want to be able to go home whenever and it’s kind of a deal breaker. But I would definitely consider maybe doing subbing or online tutoring where I don’t have to stick to regular hours!
@ecwk not to me! I love staying home and won’t go back to work full time unless I have to. I do plan on taking yoga teacher training the Spring after I have this little one and teaching some yoga classes and possibly working some hours at my yoga studio that I go to now, but that would probably be less than part time.
ETA:I could see myself going back once both kids are in school full time but that seems SO far away!
@ecwk not an UO at all and anyone ballsy enough to come in here and challenge how any family handles child care can take several seats. As long as kiddos are properly cared for in a way that works for the family, that’s all that matters.
My UO is that if you are on a sidewalk, walkway or path and just come to a dead stop without moving to the side I will likely rudely bump into you accidentally on purpose. Then you get the stink eye.
I don’t think the SAHM or working mom preferences are anything flame worthy. Everyone is so different. Me personally, my kid (soon to be plural) would definitely get sick of me. My head space and patience is not cut out to be a SAHM and I’m much healthier when I am working. Besides, DS loves his teachers, his friends and learns things daily from his school setting. Then there’s people like my BFF who stays home with 3 kids and she was made for it. To each their own. I say do what makes you happy!
And my DH pulls his weight around the house and with DS as he should. I’ve heard many friends and coworkers talk about the lack of help or how their husbands ‘probably don’t even know how to use the washing machine’ and it is mind boggling to me.
I would love to be a SAHM, but NYC living doesn't allow for that. I do worry that if I can get my kid into an academic preschool, they're not going to get the foundation they need for kindergarten (so many of my students came in so behind and unprepared when I taught kindergarten), and if I'm working I won't have time to work with them at home. I also feel like as an educator, their teachers will judge me big time if it seems like I didn't do enough to prepare them for school.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
I became a SAHM to DS1 (4) and DS2 (15 months) in January of this year. I, like you @amac12999, felt like I had so much explaining to do. I worried my boss (who had become a great friend over 7 years) and my coworkers would look down on me, I worried my family would think it was a mistake. I struggled with how to even tell everyone. Luckily, most were supportive. I did get a few passive aggressive comments from a coworker.
I just felt like I’d worked so hard to climb the ladder in my industry and I was “throwing it all away” in the eyes of others. But, obviously, I went ahead with what was right for me.
@hezzer78 I don’t care for This Is Us either! I wanted to love it because I adore Mandy Moore, but it seems overacted.
I have my masters. I always take a year or so off after each kiddo. In the US. So yes I quit. But I love nursing that year and that’s just me. I’ve been called lazy before. Idc.
@derbysquirrel we’re super excited for the olympics too! DS already knows what curling is and apparently watched it intently at grandma and grandpas the other day
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
One of my roller derby acquaintances is competing on the US speed skating team this year! She's only been on ice for 5 months, and she is amazing! Her name is Erin Jackson, so keep an eye out I've had to skate against her, and I know how fast she is!
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I love the summer olympics!!! Especially gymnastics.
O/T but my heart has broke listening to the testimony of so many gymnasts come forward with the case heard around the world right now. As a mom of 3 girls. I want to murder that jerk.
Winter Olympics are just more fun all around. I think there's more teamwork between countries and some of the events are irreverent, like snowboarding, and not as stuffy and elitist like marathons or some shit.
I like seeing the more uncommon sports. I can watch basketball, gymnastics, track and field, and hockey any time anywhere, but luge, curling, biathlon, and bobsled are all events I really only get to see every 4 years.
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
@lalala2004 I totally agree about the a-hole horror stories. My husband does deserve praise. I guess I can see how the "why my SO is awesome" thread is lame to some, but we as pregnant women DO tend to complain a lot about relatively minor things our SOs do/don't do during pregnancy, so I think it's nice to remind ourselves that they really are totally awesome, wonderful people. I don't see it so much as a brag thread but as a reminder, written out, that we are thankful and blessed with the support systems we have, even if they "accidentally" ate the rest of the ice cream or whatever lol.
I don't even bother to watch the winter olympics. So boring.
My UO: I HATE 80s music. Actually, I don't really like music in general, and could completely live without it, but 80s music is just awful.
WHAT?! Who hates music?! Music is my life. Honestly it's one of the biggest things SO and I have in common and our relationship wouldn't be what it was without music. That's so crazy to me!!! Though I do agree on 80s music. I don't hate it, but there's very few songs I like and I don't get the hype for most.
^ yeah, nope. I don't listen to music at all unless my DD wants to, which is rare. I can't concentrate when it's on. I mostly listen to podcasts in the car or when I shower.
@7425cait I don't really appreciate what most people consider "80s music" i.e. butt rock, metal, devo, and Michael Jackson, but I love both Billy Joel and Bruce Springsteen, who are 80s artists.
Me:32 DH:45 DSD: 20 DSS: 18 Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I don't even bother to watch the winter olympics. So boring.
My UO: I HATE 80s music. Actually, I don't really like music in general, and could completely live without it, but 80s music is just awful.
Oh wow, I've never met anyone who didn't care much for music. I'm the total opposite, I love music and a ton of different genres but I can't listen to audio books and I've never even bothered with trying a podcast because I wouldn't be able to pay attention. I will agree with you ladies about JC though, by far my favorite. Nsync was also my first real concert and my mom took me when I was about 12 lol.
@rocknrrollmom my sister in law too! She opens Diet Coke and then Puts it in the fridge. I thought she was the only person in the world who could possibly like that
I’ll take her place. I can do warm, and prefer flat sodas. To the point I will open and shake it until it doesn’t ‘sizzle’ anymore if I want the pop now.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
My UO is when the word hipster is thrown around do flippantly. People who read buzzfeed, have moutaches, say “epic”, wear shirts with popular catch phrases in helvetica, listen to folk rock, love new neon signs, marble with brass, Edison lightbulbs etc, whatever else gets people called a “hipster” are not actually hip they are mainstream. All of those things are super popular and not fringe. Hipster used to mean a person who was hip, knew about things no one else did, set trends, was ahead of their time. If all the Instagram wannabes are supposedly “hip” then wtf is their nothing cool in this world anymore?
also I hate social media, and wish the internet wasn’t invented.
My UO is when the word hipster is thrown around do flippantly. People who read buzzfeed, have moutaches, say “epic”, wear shirts with popular catch phrases in helvetica, listen to folk rock, love new neon signs, marble with brass, Edison lightbulbs etc, whatever else gets people called a “hipster” are not actually hip they are mainstream. All of those things are super popular and not fringe. Hipster used to mean a person who was hip, knew about things no one else did, set trends, was ahead of their time. If all the Instagram wannabes are supposedly “hip” then wtf is their nothing cool in this world anymore?
also I hate social media, and wish the internet wasn’t invented.
damn, I can feel the flames.
I’m gonna be the one, I’m always the one.
if you hate social media and the internet...why are you here?
My UO is when the word hipster is thrown around do flippantly. People who read buzzfeed, have moutaches, say “epic”, wear shirts with popular catch phrases in helvetica, listen to folk rock, love new neon signs, marble with brass, Edison lightbulbs etc, whatever else gets people called a “hipster” are not actually hip they are mainstream. All of those things are super popular and not fringe. Hipster used to mean a person who was hip, knew about things no one else did, set trends, was ahead of their time. If all the Instagram wannabes are supposedly “hip” then wtf is their nothing cool in this world anymore?
also I hate social media, and wish the internet wasn’t invented.
damn, I can feel the flames.
I’m gonna be the one, I’m always the one.
if you hate social media and the internet...why are you here?
Re: Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday!
ETA:I could see myself going back once both kids are in school full time but that seems SO far away!
My UO is that if you are on a sidewalk, walkway or path and just come to a dead stop without moving to the side I will likely rudely bump into you accidentally on purpose. Then you get the stink eye.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
And my DH pulls his weight around the house and with DS as he should. I’ve heard many friends and coworkers talk about the lack of help or how their husbands ‘probably don’t even know how to use the washing machine’ and it is mind boggling to me.
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
I just felt like I’d worked so hard to climb the ladder in my industry and I was “throwing it all away” in the eyes of others. But, obviously, I went ahead with what was right for me.
@hezzer78 I don’t care for This Is Us either! I wanted to love it because I adore Mandy Moore, but it seems overacted.
My random UO: JC was the best member of NSYNC.
It works for us. The haters can suck it.
obviously JT 4 LYFE
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
O/T but my heart has broke listening to the testimony of so many gymnasts come forward with the case heard around the world right now. As a mom of 3 girls. I want to murder that jerk.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
I don't even bother to watch the winter olympics. So boring.
My UO: I HATE 80s music. Actually, I don't really like music in general, and could completely live without it, but 80s music is just awful.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
I don't really appreciate what most people consider "80s music" i.e. butt rock, metal, devo, and Michael Jackson, but I love both Billy Joel and Bruce Springsteen, who are 80s artists.
DH:45
DSD: 20
DSS: 18
Team green baby due: Aug 6th, 2018
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Hello from Detroit!
Hello from Detroit!
ETA: puts in fridge so it will go flat
@dirtanddiamonds I'm totally fine with it warm too. I'll choose water over anything but I don't mind flat, warm soda
Hello from Detroit!
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
also I hate social media, and wish the internet wasn’t invented.
damn, I can feel the flames.
if you hate social media and the internet...why are you here?
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers