@JJMNO1616 - glad the shower was good! Sorry your dad and SM are stressing you out. It sounds like you know what you want to have (not) happen, but communicating that is definitely tough!
@JJMNO1616 ugh... that sounds rough. Because you’re right: that’s a terrible time for visitors who you are not 100% comfortable with, but I can also see your stepmom turning it into a huge drama. Any reasonable person should be able to understand why it’s not a good time to visit if they’ve been through it or can even think rationally about it. Hopefully your dad will at least be able to understand where you’re coming from and suggest an alternate time to visit.
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@JJMNO1616 glad the shower went well! I think I remember you being worried about the weather and the fact that your close family had a long drive (hopefully I’m not making that up haha) so I hope that whole situation ended up working out!
That is super tough about your dad/SM and I’d be right there with you on the anxiety train. Would it be at all feasible for them to stay in a hotel and plan to come as late in the month as possible? Could be a good compromise so they aren’t in your house and visits are somewhat limited. Either way you need to do what is best for you and not apologize for it - you are well within your rights to set boundaries and protect your family/sanity however that may be. I applaud those who are having people visit and stay at their houses in the first few weeks after birth, I don’t think I could handle it!
@JJMNO1616 ugh... that sounds rough. Because you’re right: that’s a terrible time for visitors who you are not 100% comfortable with, but I can also see your stepmom turning it into a huge drama. Any reasonable person should be able to understand why it’s not a good time to visit if they’ve been through it or can even think rationally about it. Hopefully your dad will at least be able to understand where you’re coming from and suggest an alternate time to visit.
@JJMNO1616 So much this... I made the mistake of offering to have my MIL and FIL, whom I love, stay with us after DS was born... Let's just say post-partum baby blues/irrational anxiety/everything upsets me reared its ugly head and I was just not comfortable with them visiting us. I wanted to feel comfortable skipping bras and wearing nursing tanks only. I wanted to feel comfortable for crying because DS didn't latch/my boobs hurt/my C/S scar hurt/I missed my husband (lol, post-partum hormones are weird) and I just didn't feel like I could completely let me hair down with them there. It resulted in this awkward situation with ME having to be the one to console MIL (she sat in the guest room crying because DH asked FIL and MIL to go home...45 minutes away...). Anyway.... moral of the story, DON'T DO IT!!!! lol.
I second what @frenchiekinplusone said... if you don't want to tell them not to come, suggest they get a hotel? That would be far more manageable! And easily justifiable I think. "We're new parents and will have a newborn who might cry and cry and cry and we wouldn't want to keep you guys up all hours of the day/night. Not to mention the bodily fluids that will be leaking from both mine and the baby's bodies... Might be a good idea for you guys to book a hotel room for your stay... for YOUR comfort and convenience." lololol
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@JJMNO1616 ugh... that sounds rough. Because you’re right: that’s a terrible time for visitors who you are not 100% comfortable with, but I can also see your stepmom turning it into a huge drama. Any reasonable person should be able to understand why it’s not a good time to visit if they’ve been through it or can even think rationally about it. Hopefully your dad will at least be able to understand where you’re coming from and suggest an alternate time to visit.
Yeh the other part I didn't mention is that my Dad and SM have a big trip planned for September that I know my Dad will be using a lot of his vacation for. So it's going to be really inconvenient for him to use vacation to come out and see the baby in his next fiscal year (which apparently begins in May). It is what it is though I guess!
@frenchiekinplusone Snow held off enough for everyone to attend which was such a relief! Michigan still didn't disappoint with the temperature in the teens though. So cold!
@frenchiekinplusone@ladythrice I think suggesting a hotel would definitely be my next approach if they really throw a stink about coming before the end of April.
@jjmno1616 I feel terrible you have to deal with the situation with your stepmom and dad. When my parents were thinking about moving away my mom made the comment that she would just stay with me in April after the baby comes. I have a great relationship with my mom and told her I'd rather she stay in a hotel or with my sister. I would be too stressed "hosting" with a new baby. Maybe you could tell them they would have to stay in a hotel? Or if they came later they could stay with you?
My dad sent me this interesting article about eggs being great for brain development in a baby's first 1000 days. It talks about how eating eggs in third trimester really helps set a foundation, blah blah. The article is from an egg research so it has a bias to eggs, but thought it was a good read: https://bit.ly/2BaT49Y
@JJMNO1616 So much this... I made the mistake of offering to have my MIL and FIL, whom I love, stay with us after DS was born... Let's just say post-partum baby blues/irrational anxiety/everything upsets me reared its ugly head and I was just not comfortable with them visiting us. I wanted to feel comfortable skipping bras and wearing nursing tanks only. I wanted to feel comfortable for crying because DS didn't latch/my boobs hurt/my C/S scar hurt/I missed my husband (lol, post-partum hormones are weird) and I just didn't feel like I could completely let me hair down with them there. It resulted in this awkward situation with ME having to be the one to console MIL (she sat in the guest room crying because DH asked FIL and MIL to go home...45 minutes away...). Anyway.... moral of the story, DON'T DO IT!!!! lol.
@JJMNO1616 I agree with what @ladythrice said above. Not everyone has the same experience but the first two weeks after birth were really hard for me. We had so many visitors and I would spend most of the time in the nursery with the door closed crying and trying to nurse the baby. So much anxiety, postpartum hormones, trying to recover from giving birth and sleep deprivation was a lot to deal with on top of having visitors over constantly. I told DH this time around, as greedy as it sounds I don't want anyone coming over to visit until I can get over the initial 'hump' of things. But honestly you do you. Your family of 3 needs need to come first before you worry about anyone else. I know easier said than done, I've been in your shoes. If anything I would recommend a hotel and maybe set a time table up as well because both mom and dad might want to go to bed early and no one wants to stay up and entertain guests when exhausted. But you also might be easy breezy when you bring baby home. Not everyone has the same initial hurdles but thought I would share my experience.
Guys I am kinda freaking out. I called the doctor's office to check on my amnio results. The nurse came back on and said that the doctor does have some information for me, but doesn't want to feel rushed talking to me. So will call after 4....
@sparklingdiamond sending positive vibes your way - hope that just means results are good and the doc wanted to talk through them with you personally and leave time for your questions!
It's mosiacism of trisomy 15. So some of the cells have a third copy but some are normal. We are still waiting on the percentage of abnormal vs normal but that still won't tell us anything really. It's a rare condition so not a lot is known and outcomes are hard to predict. Even with the percentage of cells, it won't tell us which organs may be affected because different organs can be affected in different percentages.
My MFM suggests we meet with a geneticist who can possibly give us more information but probably not a ton since it's so rare. She also called and spoke with Dr Kays and said that he said he might be more inclined to not do the surgery since the outcome could be affected by this but that we obviously are still welcome to go there. I think his concern is just that this will somehow complicate things in a way we can't predict and then we won't be around family if something goes wrong.
I don't really know how to process this or what to do.
I'm so sorry @sparklingdiamond. Take this one step at a time. There is a wide range of possibility with mosaicism, so there is always hope. It sounds like you have a good plan to talk to the genetic counselor next and see what information you can gather. You are already a great mom and I know you'll do everything you can for your little one.
@sparklingdiamond I had to Google that. I am sorry for your news. If its so rare would there be any doctor's in your area that deals with mosiacism of trisomy 15?
I’m so sorry to hear this @sparklingdiamond I hope you can get more information and I hope that you get good guidance from your doctors. I’m sending lots of positive thoughts your way.
@fancybelmont I ask at my appointment today about TDAP. It was a nurse practitioner and she wasn't sure so she looked it up on the CDC and they recommend every 10 years. She also said that pregnant women get it every pregnancy because it is for the baby to help their immune system against it when they are born.
@sparklingdiamond I’m so sorry, I’ve been rooting so hard for you to hear some good news and this seems like yet another roadblock to overcome. I’m glad there seems to be room for much hope, and I’ll be sending you all the positive vibes be got in the meantime
So sorry for the news @sparklingdiamond - really hoping the genetic counselor has more info for you that will hopefully bring some comfort and next steps. You are incredibly strong and we are all rooting for you, H and baby girl.
@sparklingdiamond I am so sorry to hear about your news. I hope they are able to connect you with the right people with some helpful information for you. We are all thinking of you and are here for you
Oh gosh @sparklingdiamond I’m so sorry that you didn’t get the best news today and are once again in limbo. I hope the genetic counselor is able to answer some more of your questions then the MFM could. You and Jazmine are both such fighters and we are all here rooting for you so hard.
@sparklingdiamond I am so sorry you got this news and for all the uncertainty it is sure to bring. I hope a genetic counselor can bring you more clarity in what the situation is, exactly, and what the best course of action would be for your sweet baby girl. We are all rooting for you and Jasmine; please lean on us in any way you need during this difficult time.
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@sparklingdiamond i am so very sorry for the news. Did the doctor say anything about a timeline for the percentages of normal/abnormal cells? Besides generic counseling did he/she have any other insights or advice to share? I know there isn't a lot of information available on mosiacism of trisomy 15 so perhaps not. I do agree w @fancybelmont - from what i did read there are varying degrees so i wouldn't give up all hope. So many prayers and love for you right now!
@sparklingdiamond I know that wasn't the news you were hoping for. You have really shown such strength these past few weeks. I really hope someone, whether it be your MFM or a genetic counselor, can provide you with enough answers to come up with some next steps and a game plan that will give you and your family some peace.
@sparklingdiamond I've had you both in my thoughts and prayers and Im so sorry youve have another challenge in yalls path today. I hope the meeting with the geneticist is able to give you more information and clarity. Rooting for you guys so hard.
@sparklingdiamond I've been wondering when you would get an update from your doctor. I've been thinking about you often. I am so sorry Praying for your baby girl right now.
I’m so sorry for the bad news, @sparklingdiamond. I hope the genetic counselor can give you more answers. Still sending prayers to you, baby Jasmine, and family for the best possible outcome.
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That is super tough about your dad/SM and I’d be right there with you on the anxiety train. Would it be at all feasible for them to stay in a hotel and plan to come as late in the month as possible? Could be a good compromise so they aren’t in your house and visits are somewhat limited. Either way you need to do what is best for you and not apologize for it - you are well within your rights to set boundaries and protect your family/sanity however that may be. I applaud those who are having people visit and stay at their houses in the first few weeks after birth, I don’t think I could handle it!
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
I second what @frenchiekinplusone said... if you don't want to tell them not to come, suggest they get a hotel? That would be far more manageable! And easily justifiable I think. "We're new parents and will have a newborn who might cry and cry and cry and we wouldn't want to keep you guys up all hours of the day/night. Not to mention the bodily fluids that will be leaking from both mine and the baby's bodies... Might be a good idea for you guys to book a hotel room for your stay... for YOUR comfort and convenience." lololol
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
@frenchiekinplusone Snow held off enough for everyone to attend which was such a relief! Michigan still didn't disappoint with the temperature in the teens though. So cold!
@frenchiekinplusone @ladythrice I think suggesting a hotel would definitely be my next approach if they really throw a stink about coming before the end of April.
My dad sent me this interesting article about eggs being great for brain development in a baby's first 1000 days. It talks about how eating eggs in third trimester really helps set a foundation, blah blah. The article is from an egg research so it has a bias to eggs, but thought it was a good read: https://bit.ly/2BaT49Y
But you also might be easy breezy when you bring baby home. Not everyone has the same initial hurdles but thought I would share my experience.
Please keep us posted if you can.
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