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Introducing myself (loss mentioned)
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My therapist suggested I join a TTC support group. A little about me, I am 31 years old I tried a cycle of IVF in October, I had to cancel that cycle before my embryo transfer because my progesterone spiked early. I was able to get two embryos. I just had a FET this December and found out today that my beta was negative. I'm starting round two of my FET in January.
Right now only my parents, in-laws, sister, brother and a very few close friends know I'm doing this. It has been really hard to talk about this to other family members and other friends. The reason being is that I'm actually widowed and the sperm I'm using is from my late SO and not everyone has been supportive of my decision. I've been called a lot of things and told that I'm making a huge mistake, without them knowing all the facts. So for awhile I just kind of shut most people out, but with this recent negative I've been needing more support than the few people who know can give. They are very supportive and amazing but it is hard because they aren't going through the process. I am trying to stay hopefully that this next FET cycle will be successful.
If anyone has any advice on how to have a more successful FET cycle I would love to hear it.
Right now only my parents, in-laws, sister, brother and a very few close friends know I'm doing this. It has been really hard to talk about this to other family members and other friends. The reason being is that I'm actually widowed and the sperm I'm using is from my late SO and not everyone has been supportive of my decision. I've been called a lot of things and told that I'm making a huge mistake, without them knowing all the facts. So for awhile I just kind of shut most people out, but with this recent negative I've been needing more support than the few people who know can give. They are very supportive and amazing but it is hard because they aren't going through the process. I am trying to stay hopefully that this next FET cycle will be successful.
If anyone has any advice on how to have a more successful FET cycle I would love to hear it.
Re: Introducing myself (loss mentioned)
Many people don’t know how to respond to IVF normally and we all receive insensitive comments, unwanted useless advice (like just relax...) and find people who think it’s in-natural. But in the end it’s your decision - and I hope at least the close people you shared with support you.
On this board you will find monthly groups for most topics - so feel free to jump into the January or February FET boards. There you will find lots of ladies going through things at the same time to ask questions and support each other.
You will find other ladies who are not on their first FET, also if you look in the monthly IVF groups you will find some good transfer tips too.
If its your last embryo, maybe you might want to ask your RE for an ERA first before your next transfer? (Maybe depending if you have more frozen sperm left or not)
Married 12/2016
TTC #1 since 04/2015
AMA, DOR (AMH 0.65, AFC 2-4) and autoimmune issues (RA, APS), low TSH, adenomyosis
7 retrievals, 3 transfers
Nov17 IVF2 - 1ER, 0F
Jan18 IVF3 - 3ER, 1F, 1ET, BFN
Feb18 - second opinion and additional testing
Apr18 IVF4 - cancelled (E2 too high)
May/Jun18 IVF4 - 4ER, 0M, 1F, 1 frozen day 3 (not best quality)
Jun/Jul18 IVF5 - 5 ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen day 3 (not best quality)
Jul/Aug18 IVF6 - 4ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen day 3 (good quality)
Aug/Sep18 IVF7 - cancelled (cyst)
Sep/Oct18 IVF7 - 3ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen Day 3 (excellent quality)
Oct18 IVF8 - Cancelled (cyst and too low TSH)
Oct18-Jan19 bringing TSH under control
Feb19 ERA and hysteroscopy
Mar19 Investigation for fibroid and adenomyosis
Apr19 adenomyosis confirmed, polyps removed
Jun19 FET after 2 months Lupron, autoimmune protocol, transferred two day 3 frozen embryos
Nov17 IVF2 - Pergoveris 2-14 Nov, Orgalutran 5-14 Nov, Ovitrelle 15 Nov, ER 17 Nov for 3 follies, 1 mature egg, did not fertilize
Jan18 IVF3 - Pergoveris 30 Dec - 8 Jan, Orgalutran 5-8 Jan, Ovitrelle 9 Jan, ER 11 Jan 3 eggs, 2 mature, 1 fertilized, ET 1x 4d 12-cell embryo 15/01, 24/01 BFN
May/Jun18 IVF4 - Rekovelle 25-29 May, Menogon 30May - 2Jun, Zomacton 25 27 29 31 May and 2Jun, Cetrotide 30May - 3Jun, Gonasi 3Jun, ER 5Jun 4 eggs, none mature, two matured overnight, 1 fertilized with ICSI, Frozen day 3 but not good quality
Jun/Jul18 IVF5 - Rekovelle 21-24 June, Menogon 25Jun-3Jul, Puregon 4-5Jul, Zomacton 21 23 25 27 29 Jun, Cetrotide 25Jun-5Jul, Gonasi 6Jul, ER 8Jul 5 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized with ICSI, 2 frozen day 3 but not good quality
Jul/Aug18 IVF6 - Rekovelle 26-29 Jul, Menogon 30Jul-7Aug, Buserelin 26Jul-7Aug, Zomacton 26 28 30 Jul 1 3 Aug, Gonasi 7Aug, ER 9Aug 4 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized (normal IVF), 2 frozen day 3 good quality
Sep/Oct18 IVF7 - Menogon 19-30Sep, Buserelin 19-30Sep, Zomacton 19 21 23 25 27 Sep, Ovitrelle 1 Oct, ER 3 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized with ICSI, 2 frozen day 3 excellent quality
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@BusinessWife I hope your test comes back positive! I understand not telling family... it is amazing how insensitive people are about this whole type of situation.