Still haven't finished Christmas shopping, just one couple left to buy for.... Oh, and all of the presents I have bought are still in their original Amazon shipping boxes, in my closet, not even opened yet. It's going to be a long night.
I’m spending Xmas with my snarky inlaws, who show up unannounced at our place with no departure date & make themselves comfortable (they’ve ruined nice furniture & rugs), yet refused to let us stay at their house bc our sweet crippled 15 lb dog “isn’t welcome”. They live in the Midwest and call me ‘princess’ bc we live in NYC - despite me being the only female who works (more than) full time. I have 2” roots (thank you 1st trimester), can’t drink to self medicate, and they’re super religious and will insist on many godly displays of holiness... and they don’t know I’m KU and will likely endlessly needle me over getting old and having no kids yet. First time I’ve REALLY missed drinking!!
Still haven't finished Christmas shopping, just one couple left to buy for.... Oh, and all of the presents I have bought are still in their original Amazon shipping boxes, in my closet, not even opened yet. It's going to be a long night.
@pretzellover that really sucks. You’re going to have to find new levels of inner strength this weekend, sounds like. We have my husbands father staying with us too this weekend. And while he’s nowhere what like you’re going to deal with, it’s still just not the same comfort level when you have in laws staying. I just want our family and peace. We’ve never spent even one Christmas morning with just our family. It’s always been with an in-law or grandparent.
@4deep Good luck with your FIL this holiday! I totally envy that with your brood you’ll be able to create your own amazing holiday traditions that are uniquely yours as the kids age. Thats one thing I’m looking forward to most about finally starting my fam.
@lindsayleigh1989 I fully expect you to call me out if I start that kind of crap.
@acunamatada none of my kids' gifts are wrapped yet. Ugh.
I'm hoping my daughter decides not to go to gymnastics private lessons tonight. I feel bad for her instructor because that's $$ she's counting on, but I have way too much shit to do.
I haven't cleaned my windows since...since...since we moved in 2 years ago??? I don't know if it's early nesting or what, I'm freaking out about my place being a mess . DH let me splurge on a deep cleaning. They are currently here cleaning the house and it feels so good. I had them clean the oven which I told myself I would have cleaned before Christmas.... Re: windows, we have screens so it's not like I can clean them all anyways...ok, weird confession over!
@pretzellover I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. I'm so sorry.
Also, I can't speak for Lindsay, but I'm betting she means people who ONLY post on the ultrasound thread, preg announcement thread, and HDBD threads. You know, the AW threads. So not you.
@kissableviv I don't think I've ever cleaned windows. Nope, I know I haven't. And good for you! I read this study recently about how people are happiest when they spend money on things that save them time, like lawn service or house cleaning. You go with your deep clean happiness.
My FFFC: I sipped a glass of champagne this week. A whole 6 ounces. It was one of the worst weeks of my life, and I was like, screw it. Sip it slowly and the kid won't mind. I have no regrets.
Oh! One more. I don't know if this qualifies as confession, but I know it's weird. I know he sex of my baby and I'm not bursting to tell people. We're waiting to do a tiny reveal for my daughter, and I told my sisters and bff, but otherwise I'm just not itching to tell. Maybe because I'm still wrapping my head around it, because I was SO SURE I was having the other, but I thought I'd want to shout it from the rooftops. Nope. This poor kid; just isn't getting the best of my elation and excitement this pregnancy.
@lindsayleigh1989 this might be me too? I try to participate on everything but once the threads get really long I lose track of who I want to reply to. I try to love tit tho!
@christycalifornia@lindseyleigh1989 I think it’s worth noting that many FTMs can’t really contribute to threads on gear, respond with advice or anecdotes on past pregnancies, prob can’t relate yet to raising toddlers while KU, and so on - so it does limit thoughtful participation across boards. Also, many ladies have said they’re so busy they can barely follow the quick moving back & forth threads, which is another chunk of discourse.
I think everyone should be free to decide where & how they participate in this community so long going as they’re not being disruptive or disrespectful.
Hey hey hey! @pretzellover I don't care where people participate or how often, I'll like their bump pics and US's regardless! I was just saying based on a comment I'd seen Lindsay make in the past that I don't think you or @hillbillywife fit what she's talking about. But again I can't speak for her, so sorry I butted in.
I just fed my boys leftover pizza from dinner last night for lunch. Straight out of the box. I did not reheat it. I did not plate it. I said sit. And put said box on the table. It went over quite well. I should make a mental note to be careless more often.
Ok that would make sense @christycalifornia there def are a lot of drive by people we’ve never seen before that show up just to post something random.
Yeah, I can't keep track of where people post, and I don't care enough to try. I figure if I recognize someone's name/avatar they're a reg because I don't remember things easily, and if they're not I'll "love it" their pics on the AW posts because why not spread the joy? I def know you and @pretzellover, and pretzel, girl, I didn't mean to ruffle your feathers. You're not a random was all I was trying to say. You're on this post, for heaven's sake, and this is not a AW post.
@christycalifornia I don’t think it’s weird at all to keep whatever details you want as sacred! its your body and your and DH’s pregnancy; hoard info as you desire!
Still haven't finished Christmas shopping, just one couple left to buy for.... Oh, and all of the presents I have bought are still in their original Amazon shipping boxes, in my closet, not even opened yet. It's going to be a long night.
Good luck. This was me Wednesday night and now I can't find a gift for my ten year old. WHERE DID I HIDE IT?
Eta: also, @christycalifornia I don't find it weird. We didn't find out #2s sex (by choice) until 30 weeks. Even after we knew it took us about a week to let others know. I liked keeping it to myself and I was ready to share that with everyone. For some it can be extremely private and personal. Prob a my why were were team green with #3 and this one.
Regarding posting in look at me posts and not others- keep in mind some previous loss mommas avoid the loss threads so therefore don’t comment on them.
...I'm just not itching to tell. Maybe because I'm still wrapping my head around it, because I was SO SURE I was having the other, but I thought I'd want to shout it from the rooftops. Nope. This poor kid; just isn't getting the best of my elation and excitement this pregnancy.
I feel you. I might have cried over this. More than once. And I feel like such an asshole. So, I guess my FFFC is I’m not sad I’m having another boy, I’m just sad I’m not having a girl. I always saw myself with one of each and it’s a real possibility that that might not happen and this might be our last baby.
FFFC: I ran out of prenatals a week ago and just got around to getting more yesterday. Surely a week won’t hurt baby...right?
My doctor told me to stop taking mine because I was throwing up within a half hour of taking them every day. She said I can try again in second tri, so you’re probably fine.
(For concerned parties, she did prescribe me folic acid to take in its place since she said that’s most important.)
I haven't cleaned my windows since...since...since we moved in 2 years ago??? I don't know if it's early nesting or what, I'm freaking out about my place being a mess . DH let me splurge on a deep cleaning. They are currently here cleaning the house and it feels so good. I had them clean the oven which I told myself I would have cleaned before Christmas.... Re: windows, we have screens so it's not like I can clean them all anyways...ok, weird confession over!
LOL I've lived in my apartment 3 years, I realized last summer I've never cleaned the windows, so I did. Between sticky toddler fingers and wet dog nose they were dirty again the next day. Haven't touched them since. We have curtains, it's not worth it lol.
@pretzellover ugh girl good luck, it sounds like you have your work cut out for you. Hoping for a little Christmas miracle to turn their attitude around.
Re: Randoms on AW posts, I think it's a little weird when people post an u/s but no intro or other contribution to speak of. I'll love tit it all the same, because like @christycalifornia said, spread the love. But it's weird in a "give me head pats for a picture of my uterus" sort of way.
I have no interest in doing a gender reveal or any fanfare whatsoever when we find out the sex. I didn't even do it with my 1st. But my sister has latched onto the idea of planning one so I'm just going along for the ride.
lol Im not talking about anyone here. you will come to find as we go one there will be people who just post in Hdbd and their us's and than their birth announcements but literally nothing else. If you comment on any other thread other than those this is not directed at you. literally the people who just want to show off their bellg and baby to strangers they havent gotten to know. I still like to see those pictures I just find it odd
I'm using the pregnancy as an excuse to eat frozen waffles multiple times per week. They don't give me heartburn like seemingly everything else does and somehow I just feel too tired to try to eat healthily. My doctor asked me about my diet and I said, um, mostly carbs?
I'm 34 and hubby and I both have great careers, however I have no issue having my parents buy me stuff and give me money. We're super close and I'd never take advantage of them but I feel zero guilt about them buying stuff for me, my family or taking us out to nice dinners. (they are happy to do it I don't force anything I'm not a jerk)
@tarheelgirl8 my dr said that prenatal are important while TTC and after about week 16, but that it’s not as important during the beginning of pregnancy. I still take mine every day because they’ve never made me nauseous, but I’m sure at this point that missing a few days will be okay
@christycalifornia I cannot judge you or blame you for the glass of wine. I haven’t given in yet during this pregnancy, but I had a glass of wine on 3-4 separate occasions during my first pregnancy when I still lived on the wine trail in Illinois.
FFFC: I changed my profile picture because I like to complain about my husband’s work, and my original photo was a picture of me and my husband together. I hope you all still remember who I am lol
A second FFFC for me: I will listen and dance to just about any song if it has a good beat. Seriously if you heard the music in my car you’d think I was the worst feminist ever. I hate that I like it but damn it’s good to dance to.
I bought my 11 year old 5 pound dog a box of 40 "beef sticks" for Christmas. She's so small that I have to cut them in half. So my dog now has 80 beef sticks. I'll ration them out of course, but I feel super indulgent.
@runsomewhere we have a similar situation, and we are both! only children. My in laws are pretty well off, but they are very simple (in a good way) folks. They just love gifting and doing things for us, it makes them happy and we don't mind. My parents often do the same. We never take advantage and we try to do stuff for them when we can, and we know we will be there for them when they need us. I'm so giddy about finally telling them about the baby, they are going to lose it!
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Oh, and all of the presents I have bought are still in their original Amazon shipping boxes, in my closet, not even opened yet. It's going to be a long night.
Thats one thing I’m looking forward to most about finally starting my fam.
@acunamatada none of my kids' gifts are wrapped yet. Ugh.
I'm hoping my daughter decides not to go to gymnastics private lessons tonight. I feel bad for her instructor because that's $$ she's counting on, but I have way too much shit to do.
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
Re: windows, we have screens so it's not like I can clean them all anyways...ok, weird confession over!
Also, I can't speak for Lindsay, but I'm betting she means people who ONLY post on the ultrasound thread, preg announcement thread, and HDBD threads. You know, the AW threads.
@kissableviv I don't think I've ever cleaned windows. Nope, I know I haven't. And good for you! I read this study recently about how people are happiest when they spend money on things that save them time, like lawn service or house cleaning. You go with your deep clean happiness.
@kissableviv I was just looking at the dog/kid smears all over my living room windows and thinking I need to clean them ASAP lol
I think it’s worth noting that many FTMs can’t really contribute to threads on gear, respond with advice or anecdotes on past pregnancies, prob can’t relate yet to raising toddlers while KU, and so on - so it does limit thoughtful participation across boards. Also, many ladies have said they’re so busy they can barely follow the quick moving back & forth threads, which is another chunk of discourse.
I think everyone should be free to decide where & how they participate in this community so long going as they’re not being disruptive or disrespectful.
its your body and your and DH’s pregnancy; hoard info as you desire!
Eta: also, @christycalifornia I don't find it weird. We didn't find out #2s sex (by choice) until 30 weeks. Even after we knew it took us about a week to let others know. I liked keeping it to myself and I was ready to share that with everyone. For some it can be extremely private and personal. Prob a my why were were team green with #3 and this one.
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So, I guess my FFFC is I’m not sad I’m having another boy, I’m just sad I’m not having a girl. I always saw myself with one of each and it’s a real possibility that that might not happen and this might be our last baby.
(For concerned parties, she did prescribe me folic acid to take in its place since she said that’s most important.)
@pretzellover ugh girl good luck, it sounds like you have your work cut out for you. Hoping for a little Christmas miracle to turn their attitude around.
Re: Randoms on AW posts, I think it's a little weird when people post an u/s but no intro or other contribution to speak of. I'll love tit it all the same, because like @christycalifornia said, spread the love. But it's weird in a "give me head pats for a picture of my uterus" sort of way.
I'm waiting until my husband gets home to get #3 milk. So he can do it.
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@christycalifornia I cannot judge you or blame you for the glass of wine. I haven’t given in yet during this pregnancy, but I had a glass of wine on 3-4 separate occasions during my first pregnancy when I still lived on the wine trail in Illinois.